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anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We had a long distance relationship and dated for about 2 months, but we've been friends for almost 2 years. The break up was weird and about a week ago we had a huge fight (I broke the no contact rule... Oops). The real point of this post is that his birthday is next week. Should I say happy birthday? Personally, I'd feel bad not saying it because even though we may not like each other at the moment, we were friends at one point. But then again, I don't want to ruin his day or seem like I want him back. I have fully accepted that will never happen and I would never want to get back together. I just don't know what to do about this birthday issue!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): no don't do it, otherwise that will be TWICE that you (not him) have broken the no-contact rule. makes you seem needy and like you can't move on. it's just a birthday, not a big deal, everyone has a birthday every year.
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 April 2012):
 Was the no contact order issued by the police or by a court? If so, it'd be breaking it by wishing him happy birthday as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2012): I think you should let it go.
He is an ex, you had a recent fight, you had the no contact and broke it, so he probably didn't want the contact to begin with.
So let him go!
You will make other friends, and you will find love again.
Put him in the past, and just keep the memories you treasure, the rest, be at peace about it. Let his new friends and girlfriends wish him a Happy Birthday.
Leave an ex, in the PAST.
The End.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 April 2012):
 It's just a birthday no big deal. I'd forget about it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 I'd skip it. It may very possibly give him the wrong impression, and ,if you have to move on, you have to be more thorough in putting him out of your mind.
An ex of a two months relationship does not really qualify anyway for birthday wishes. As for the previous 2 years friendship- ah but you are not friends anymore atm , you even fought badly last week. Maybe the friendship part can be resumed in future, when you'll be totally free of lingering emotional attachments. But for the moment, the best thing is pretending he does not exist.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 April 2012):
 In a situation like this, I would say that the smartest thing you can do is MAIL a Happy Birthday card to him....
P.S. That means "mail by the postal service.... a PAPER card... NOT an e-mail card...or a text message"
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 I don't see anything wrong with just wishing someone a happy birthday!
I do it every year with my ex because as you said OP, we were close once, just not anymore. He does the same for me aswell. It's just nice to wish someone a happy birthday.
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