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writes:i have this problem... my sister just recently started seeing a new guy. i later find out that he wants to be with me in a sexual way. i do have feelings for him and not sure what to do. part of me is saying its wrong but another part is saying she has done it to me many times... she has at least tries to hook up with all my exs when she was 14! im 4 years older than her but i cant help to feel like i should do this even if just one time. there is no way i would get pregnant or anything im already a mother of 3 so i know all about that.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 I agree with everyone! If you would like revenge this way, you are not any better than your sister.
It doesn't matter how she felt during those times she betrayed you, what's important now YOU, how you think. This is the time to prove to her that you are a better person than her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 April 2012):
 When I see that you've included this in your submittal - "...part of me is saying its wrong...." I KNOW that YOU KNOW "the answer."
You'll never have to regret having taken the "high road".....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Resentment, Anger, Hurt, Selfishness are not states of being to make healthy, loving, wise choices that will allow for LASTING HAPPINESS while not harming another.
You did not enjoy or appreciate your Sister doing this to you; then how do you attempt to rationalize it is a good thing to do like wise?
You know better. Now LIVE better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Listen to the part of you that says this is wrong OP. Do you really want to cheat on your sister with her boyfriend? Is that really the type of role model you want to be to your kids? A woman who can fuck over her own sister and doesn't care about the consequences because of things that sister did as a teenager?
OP your kids will life how you live yours, if you show them it's okay screw over their siblings then you're just setting them up to feel fine with fucking each over and you will have kids who don't trust each other, who screw each other and maybe even you, for their own selfish needs.
Best to teach them to do right by their family by doing right by yours regardless of what has happened in the past.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2012):
 No two wrongs don't make a right.
Grow some morals and get over the ridiculous stunts your sister pulled when she was 14!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): How can you even contemplate this?! This is your sister's boyfriend! I know she has done tried to be with your ex boyfriend's, but has she actually done it?
You have to be the bigger person in this situation otherwise it's going to be continuous, you trying to sleep with her boyfriends, her trying to sleep with yours. And if this guy is with your sister, and he wants you also, then you both need to get rid of him. Never let a man get between you and your family!
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reader, Accarysin  +, writes (8 April 2012):
If you feel like your sister is betraying you or hurting you because of the way she acts..is acting the same way a mature thing to do? If you had sex with her boyfriend..whom I presume is her age anyway, that would make you just as bad as her. Be the bigger person and walk away, also you should tell your sister that this boyfriend isn't very loyal. I hope you do the right thing.. Good luck. xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): I wouldnt do it, two wrongs dont make a right, take the high road on this one. You have to encounter her eventually through family events, it would just make things awkward cause guys talk and it will get around. Dont lower yourself to her level cause if they did cheat on you for her, they were no good anyway. They are in grade twelve or graduated going after a grade niner. They were just using the little clueless girl then went back to you, her older sister, and lied. That still doesnt make what your sister did okay, very wrong on her part and not very smart to do while in the same household. Have to ask do you to get along or have you forgiven her? And lastly, seeing you have three kids, i hope your not taking interest of doing your sisters boyfriend while your with the father or have a boyfriend.
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