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Should I choose a different Doctor? When I met the new Doctor I realised that I've slept with him and his wife. He was professional when I saw him recently.

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Question - (26 October 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 27 October 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, *ovemeright11 writes:

Okay this is an odd thing that happened to me, I went to the doctors because I have been having some bad neck pains so I just randomly picked a doctor and when I finally meet the doctor I actually know him and have slept with him and his wife when I was a single woman I liked playing with this couple. We both had a moment of oh shit when we saw each other. My question is should I keep him as my doctor or should I change? He remained professional the whole time.

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A female reader, Lovemeright11 United States +, writes (27 October 2012):

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Lovemeright11 agony auntYeah I am not sure how he feels and I don't see how I could ever really ask him. He is one of the best in his field. I don't plan on trying anything cause I am at a different part in my life now and that sexual fun with him and his wife was 5 years ago. They are good people. I admit I felt awkward at the moment of seeing him, I feel okay now, but I was just not sure what the best choice was. Thanks all.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (27 October 2012):

Honeypie agony auntI would change doctors, it's that simple - unless he is the best in his field or something like that.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (26 October 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou were professional as was he.

did you pick him because of his qualifications?

if so, do you have a different doctor in mind that is as qualified?

are you bothered by it or are you more worried that he is?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2012):

I think changing doctors is the best thing you can do. It avoids any awkward situations.

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (26 October 2012):

I think you should change doctors.

It's not an automatic deal breaker, and it even sounds like he could continue with a proper, arm's-length, physician/patient relationship - but the fact that it bothers you indicates a different doctor would be in order. To maintain the continuity of your diagnosis and treatment you might ask for somebody else in the same practice group.

And when you switch, it would speak very highly of your integrity if you offered a brief, non-detailed explanation for your decision. Just a simple note such as, "Based on our prior friendship I'd feel more forthcoming with another physician.".

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A male reader, Iwuoha Nigeria +, writes (26 October 2012):

Iwuoha agony auntThe fact is seeing him will bring that thought back,and with that, the closeness could be reignited, besides he's a married man and you know there are a whole lot of better doctors like him out there.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2012):

oldbag agony auntHi

Change doctors, its a compramising situation for both of you and would be wrong on alot of levels.

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