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writes:So I met this girl through a friend of mine and i want to ask her on a date. ive only seen her once and we didnt talk a whole bunch since that time she was with her friend and i was with mine. The thing is my friend gave me her number and i want to call her and ask if i can get to know her a little better. I dont have any way of bumping into her randomly so if i want to ask her out i have to either text her or call her. I figured id call her and if she doesnt answer then id send her a text. Im not exactly shy but i know if the shoe was on the other foot and it was her asking me out after meeting her only once and not talking a whole bunch that time that i would think it was strange that a girl was asking me on a date without knowing me. I would ask her to have lunch with me or dinner but what i need a little help with is knowing what to say so i dont sound weird randomly calling her and asking her out. My friend told her that i wanted to get to know her better a few days ago and my friend said that when she told her that that the girl just giggled. I dont know if thats a bad thing also? i dont know if she thought "what a wierdo" or simply just blushed?well any tips on what to say so i can get her to go to lunch with me would be appreciated. thanks in advanced
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Just jump in Buddy, sink or swim. If she giggled after being told you are interested, I'd say the water's fine.
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reader, rain-drop-kisses +, writes (16 February 2011):
You don't want to be to forceful as you and this girl don't know each other that well but you still want to try and go for it. As a girl I know what I find weird when guys try and ask me out.
You want to be friendly when you call her act as if you have no idea what your doing is strange or out of norm.
Just be like. -You seemed like a really chill person when we met the other day. Life has got a little crazy for my so I was wondering if we could hangout sometime. Maybe get food. I thought it would cool to talk to someone who I'm not very familiar with.-
Just let her know your looking for a friend. This way you will make her feel needed and comfortable. Then be extra friendly on the date. Even if she is shy and quite don't let there be an awkward long silence.
Just keep everything light and fun. Don't put any pressure on anything. IF you do this thank you wont come off as just some creeper.
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reader, N91  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 I'm in the exact situation at the minute bud, A girl I don't know too well and would like to get to know better.
Like you, I have no way of bumping into her in daily life, so I ended up sending her a message on facebook, I thought she would think "What the heck, this is random" so I just put that in the message, like "I know this is out of the blue, but I think you're a nice girl and a good laugh and I'd like to get to know you better"
It turns out, 3 days later, she hasn't replied, so it's not looking promising for me. I know a few of her friends and they just told me to go for it originally, saying it's "cute" - But at the end of the day dude, if you don't give it a shot, you'll be sat wondering what could have been. One of her friends is going to talk to her about it and tell me how she took it - So who knows, maybe something will come from it.
I took a shot and she didn't reply, at least she knows how I feel now and I'm proud of myself for doing it in the first place because I'm quite a shy person - I'd say go for it dude, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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