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writes:hey therei just recently asked this guy in my class at my birhtday who had a girlfriend if anything would ever happen if he was single and he said yes probably and now he has broken up with his girlfriend and ever since then he's still been the same with me being just friends and i had some hope maybe we would get together but nothing still has happened, i can't decide weather he likes me or not and the worst thing is i promised myself i wouldn't fall for him cuz i know i'm just going to get heartbroken but i have i just want to move on but i don't cuz i don't want give up all hopes of me and him and i would feel really pushy if i asked him out again i don't want to seem desperatewhat should i do? please help!thanks x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Well, some guys just ain't to clever on the whole subtle hints thing. He might not have picked up on it at all or forgotten all about it.
Never underestimate a man's capacity to not notice the bloody obvious.
I agree with others, wait a bit, but no to long and try again. What have you got to loose?
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reader, g247  +, writes (29 March 2008):
Agree wholly with rhythmandblues2.
You've pretty much asked him out once already. He knows you're interested, there's no need to labour the point.
Keep in contact and be his mate for a while.
Then a couple of months down the line perhaps get a little flirty. Let him know that you're interested but don't actually say so unless the situation demands.
If he's going to ask you out, it won't take long for him after that. Generally us lads, if interested, will go for the here and now approach. If not, so be it and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): If he just broke up with a girlfriend he will be on the rebound if he starts dating you right away, meaning that he is jumping right into the frying pan without taking some time to get over his past relationship and you will be the one getting burned.
I would stay friends, when he is ready to ask you out you will know, and you then can decide if you want to accept a date with him. I would not ask him out, that does seem pushy and possibly desperate, especially if you are falling all over him with attention. Take things slowly and stay in contact and be friends, even if you see him ask another girl out instead of you, don't panic, he won't be with that one for long, remember he is on the rebound....just bide your time and see what develops....but stay in his orbit.
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