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anonymous
writes:I've only been with my boyfriend a month, and at first he couldn't wait to have sex. We had sex twice and it wasn't all that good.I was more than willing to give it another chance for his sake. Now all he wants me to do is give him oral sex. Now i'm wanting sex from him, and when i ask him why he wont have sex with me - he says maybe he has a low sex drive. What should i do?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (29 March 2008):
Lol what a lie saying he has a low sex drive!!! Somoene who has a low sex drive means they have low sexual desires/needs which includes sex and oral sex..anything sexual really. Put that to him and see what excuse he comes up with.
Maybe he feels embarrased that he wasnt that good at sexual intercorse with you? So maybe thats why he would rather just have oral sex where he isnt trying to pelasey ou at all- that way he cant 'fail', although in a way he is failing for not trying.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 If he has a low sex-drive why would he want a blowjob?
Seems more like he is a lazy or even selfish lover.
It is one of the reasons it is best to wait with sex until you know a person. He is likely not that attentive in other areas as well.
What the first poster says goes, you are old enough to take charge and simply tell him what he needs to do or else no blowjob.
As for the sex itself not being good, again, take charge. Surely by now you know what you need to enjoy it so tell him.
If he ain't willing to put in the effort, well then that should be a clear signal he just ain't that intrested.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (29 March 2008):
 Tell him if he wants you to give him oral, then he has to give you oral first. Fair's fair right? Don't give into him and let him step all over you. Seems like this is a onesided relationship where you're doing the giving and he's doing the taking. Low sex drive my ass!
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