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36-40,
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writes:hi everyone,just recently one of my best friends found a boyfriend. She had been in a relationship a few months ago and the guy didnt treat her with any respect. I comforted her after this and became very emotionally attached to the girl. I never had the guts to ask her out. It may be that i wanted to give her a break from a relationship after her last experience but i now fear that I have lost my only chance to be with the girl:(I feel kind of down now maybe because i dont want this guy to treat her the same way as her ex did.Is there anything i can do? I just dont want one of my best friends getting hurt again.any help much appreciated.
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reader, CharmmyKitty  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 She has to live and learn, so you really can't prevent her from getting hurt. All you can do is be there for her again if you want to be a good friend. But like LazyGuy said, if you treat her like just a friend would, that's all she's going to see you as!
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Hello there,
I agree with LazyGuy. I would be there as a friend, but you need to set your heart free. I would not be too sure if going out with her may be a good idea and sometimes that may ruin a friendship, so best bet, stay good friends with her. You are already being a good friend by being there for her when the relationship is going bad. Keep doing that because it shows that someone cares and is looking out for her. And the guy she is with, I don't think seems like a good guy if he keeps treating her like that. In a way, you have to let her know also that she is better than that, and she shouldn't be treated the way her boyfriend has been treating her.
Keep going at what you are doing. A true friend is there for someone whenever he/she is in trouble. Good luck and hope everything works out for her!!!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Not really, love is blind. If you are a friend, well be there for her when it goes bad, but stand aside until then. If people could be warned out of bad relations, we wouldn't need so many shelters for battered wives.
Oh and don't think you are ever going to get together with this girl. You are the "friend", the nice guy and you will finish last.
Be there as a friend, but set your heart free.
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