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writes:This may sound silly but here goes. Im 24 years old, 25 in June, and I still live at home with my parents. I am single but that's through choice as I havn't met anyone I like yet. I have a good job and earn good money. I have lots of friends and a good social life. But in the back of mind I have this nagging thought that I'm getting too old to live like this and should find someone to settle down with. At the moment, marriage and kids scares me!!! My mum also keeps telling me i need 2 settle down. All I want to do is go out with friends and have fun, is that wrong at 24? And what if I leave it too late and then find that by the time i want to settle down nobody will want me?? I've always wanted to get married and have kids but not yet. How should I be living at 24? I feel like im getting older but want to stay younger!! It's weird and it's driving me crazy. Please help.
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reader, 19agegap  +, writes (5 April 2008):
i'm 26 and still living with parents. dun think anything wrong
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reader, carebear +, writes (5 April 2008):
 Bobbyjo
I am anon poster agree with you about heidijoe although I think her answers stems from the last bit of you post wanting to settle down have kids, but again i disagree with that.You have another 10yrs on you before you worry about all of that lol.
You are just having a good time like your suppose to do,and its good that your thinking this way, as you cando all the things you want before you settle and have kids. Wish there was more like you. As for the debts we all have debts you have to become resposable and plan not just cross fingers and hope for the best although there are folk much older than you in a worse state, so i wouldn't worry too much.
Have fun enjoy yourself hopefully you will know when you meet the one!
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (4 April 2008):
Bobbyjo is verified as being by the original poster of the question I would like to thank you all for your answers but I also want to make clear to you, something that I didnt mention in my question, I have actually moved out before and lived with friends for 3 years.I moved home cos Im over my head in debt. But that wasnt the problem I wrote about. Wot I was trying to ask was - is it normal at 24 to still want to live freely and party all the time rather than settle down? If you read my question again you will see that Im actually worried about the way I live my life, not the fact that I still live at home. The title for my question was obviously badly edited. And heidijo and anonymous I have no idea what your answers mean and whether they were anything 2 do with my question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Bobbyjo
At 24 some are married tied down wishing they were like you, you think your missing out cause your not like them, be yourself, you will know when the times comes and no have you left it too late.
heidijo
Do you actually beleive that staement you have just posted?
I have never heard the likes of it and more so now when there are more woman waiting till their older to have their children.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (29 March 2008):
 my aunty is still at my nans house and she is 34 this year if thats any reassurance =) trust me life is worth living..so live the way you want to
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): If i was you i would stay at home for as long as i could. I got married too soon at the age of 18 and now i wished i could turn the clock back. Dont be pressurised into leaving home until you are ready. Save up, get a place of your own, but dont move out to get married or move in with a bloke. Have some space, independence and time on your own before you share with a bloke. Life will take on a new meaning when you get your own place, but for now enjoy all you have and stop whittling about what others are thinking.
take care
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (29 March 2008):
 If you think it is too weird to still be living with your parents at the age of 24, then move in with a friend or find your own flat. Don't wait until you find a fella, be independant and self sufficient.
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reader, playboybunny95 +, writes (29 March 2008):
No that is not normal. I'm a woman who moved out at 18 you make good money go buy a condo or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): I am your age and still at home.
I'm not proud and it affects my ability to find a relationship.
Other than that I;m relatively happy. I'm only at home because rent and housing prices have risen to level far beyond my price-range even for small shitty places.
All my friends have already moved out with other friends so I really don't have much option there.
That and every effing job I tend to get always turns out as temp and no one tells me until its too late.
Flynn 24
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 My own opinion is that there is something wrong with a person who never lived on their own. If you go straight from your parents to your husbands house you will in effect never have taken care of yourselve.
It is part of growing up to move out of the nest and find your own place. Be your own person, not just your parents daughter.
As for settling down, if you ain't ready, then you ain't ready. Mothers always want their kids to settle down, it must be something hormonal.
Your only 24, hardly an old maid yet. Offcourse the clock is ticking and it would be best if you accept that you ain't going to be young forever, but there still is easily a decade before you really are going to have to make a choice between freedom or marriage.
It basically sounds like you are happy with your life, but society (well mum) is pressuring you into thinking you should change. Well don't. I would recommend moving out at some stage (and before you start thinking of marriage).
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (29 March 2008):
My own opinion is that there is something wrong with a person who never lived on their own. If you go straight from your parents to your husbands house you will in effect never have taken care of yourselve.
It is part of growing up to move out of the nest and find your own place. Be your own person, not just your parents daughter.
As for settling down, if you ain't ready, then you ain't ready. Mothers always want their kids to settle down, it must be something hormonal.
Your only 24, hardly an old maid yet. Offcourse the clock is ticking and it would be best if you accept that you ain't going to be young forever, but there still is easily a decade before you really are going to have to make a choice between freedom or marriage.
It basically sounds like you are happy with your life, but society (well mum) is pressuring you into thinking you should change. Well don't. I would recommend moving out at some stage (and before you start thinking of marriage).
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Hi Hunny
If your happy at home and your parents are ok then fine, my boys are still at home 26 18 we have fun :} it will all take shape one day hunny dont worry so much, You dont need to rush out and get a fella and get married if you choose not to sweetheart, Save some money and when the time is right you will no and you will have a little nest egg to fall back on to go and get yourself a flat. You have lots of friends so you will never be alone YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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