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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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I felt nothing when we had sex...what should I do??
Q. hey my bf is 22 and i am 17 we have had sex and i felt nothing what should i do he is 8.5inches long and 3 inches thick what should i do since i felt nothing?...
A. 24 June 2008: I would see a doctor about this.
To be sure, we are talking about not feeling ANYTHING, no pain, no pleasure, no rubbing, no pressure NOTHING right?
That sounds worrying. If you touch yourself there do you then feel it?
Again, BIG difference... (read in full...)
This thread is Rated "Arrhhh"
Q. As of late i find my posts.. vanishing or not even being posted. Apparently some of the mods/admins around here thinks its ok for a man to want to sleep with his sister. Instead of telling people what they need to hear, it seems as if they would...
A. 22 June 2008: The truth?
Is that you god?
Oh no it isn't, then how can you claim to hold the truth?
Part of giving advice is to put yourself in their shoes, not to just say what you think they should do but try and help them with their problem from their... (read in full...)
Is erectile disfunction a growing problem?
Q. Until fairly recently, you did not hear as much about men with erectile dysfunction. Can it be that it was just kept quiet? Today it is a common complaint. You often did hear men complaining that they did not have satisfactory sexual relationships, ...
A. 22 June 2008: It is hardly new, maybe you never paid attention to it before?
One thing I do notice is that pre-mature ejaculation isn't often raised as a problem anymore or maybe this site just attracts an older crowd.
Maybe you have heard more about the p... (read in full...)
Can a really straight guy be in love with me? I am a very discrete gay guy...
Q. Can a str8 friend be really in love with his gay friend through their deep friendship? He say's he love me but I doubt it to be true. We have one of the greatest fight last night because we are arguing why I can't believe him saying that he loves ...
A. 22 June 2008: Not really no, lots of homo-phobes I suspect of having gay fantasies, else why obsess so much about it, but for him to be in love with you in a romantic sense he can't be 100% straight as you claim.
Few people are of course 100% straight, humans a... (read in full...)
Lack of sexual desire the only criteria to be asexual? Many questions inside.
Q. Given that I can't agree(sometimes even argue) with most asexuals, I wanted to ask some questions. It doesn't seem that asexuals differ much from hetero/bi/homosexuals. Some of them do remain virgins, but others are sexually active and may even have ...
A. 22 June 2008: I am getting the impression that you like to put labels on everything. That something either is or isn't, no greys, just black and whites in your world.
This is not how humans work. NOBODY is either 100% heterosexual or 100% homosexual. What we ... (read in full...)
Why won't he let me do this one thing?
Q. My boyfriend and I are very comfortable with each other. We've been together for 4 years. We have a healthy sex life. I have one question though, he's seen every part of me, we've experimented with different things and positions... and yet he still ...
A. 22 June 2008: We all got our own limits, things we just don't want to do or be done.
It doesn't have to make sense surely there are things you wouldn't do? Google "two girls and a cup" for instance.
Not all people are into anal-rimming. If you want to do i... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be having a bit of variety (watching porn) as to not become bored with me? Should I encourage him to fantasize about other girls...?
Q. Is this too "good" to be true? I feel like something's wrong with it! Either my bf is a liar or seriously commited. The other day we were talking about sex and stuff. I asked him if he ever wanted to go to a strip club. He said he didn't, that it ...
A. 21 June 2008: There is no pleasing you women is there?
Tell me, have you ever heard of an inferiority complex or did you feel you did no deserve one?
"Well, I'm not much of a looker and I do masturbate to him. But then again I'm a girl."
Beauty is in th... (read in full...)
I kinda feel envious of him for having a social life, when I don't. Can you help?
Q. Ok, how do I stop resenting my b/f? I've not been completely trustworthy (I haven't cheated but I lied). That, and the fact that he's quite a jealous guy, had him put some rules for me. Firstly, not going out alone with other guys (even if there a...
A. 21 June 2008: Eh... why are you dating your dad?
You are not. Then how come he gets to dictate what you do but you don't get to dictate what he does?
Most important of all, am I being really old in thinking that a BF/GF should be going out TOGETHER?
Som... (read in full...)
Does anyone know what being a prostitute is really like? And is it dangerous?
Q. I'm 20 and i have a house, which i'm renting, but i recently lost my job and i owe rent. I also owe money for other things. Someone i know has said they can get me a job as a prostitute, i don't know if i can do it, or if i'm that desparate. Does ...
A. 21 June 2008: I do technical maintenance of servers for several charities, an umbrella organisation and a couple have to do with the illegal trade in humans (forced prostitution) and the recovery of women who have been in the trade.
Of course, all you hear is ... (read in full...)
I'm just curious about the 'Friends with Benefits' thing while in relationships,
Q. A guy asked me if i wanted to be friends with benefits with him, and i never done it before, the only thing that worries me is that one of us could end up feeling more than just friend with one or other and we are both in a relationship, he's not...
A. 21 June 2008: It is called cheating by having an affair.
If you are not happy in your relationship, end it or fix it but do you really think having an affair is going to improve things?
And people, women especially, tend to have difficulty keep emotions ou... (read in full...)
Do I have any rights with regard to her selling the ring before divorce?
Q. My wife has sold her engagement ring and has left the state, she even had a change of address 3 weeks ago, then, this week I filed for divorce. Do I have any rights with regard to her selling the ring before divorce? ...
A. 21 June 2008: The law says that a wedding ring is a conditional gift. It is given to the woman on the condition that she marry you and that the marriage is consummated.
If that happened, the ring is her private possession. The courts are very clear on this.
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Why do they ejaculate on my belly? Is this normal?
Q. I am on the pill and recently started having sex. Even though I am supposed to be safe, the boys I've been with still pull out and ejaculate on my belly. My friend tells me all guys like to do this. Is this normal? Is it necessary at all?...
A. 20 June 2008: Right... about the not getting pregnant thing.
If a guy wanted to make sure he doesn't get you pregnant HE WOULD BE WEARING A CONDOM!
Geez god. The pull out method SUCKS for birth control.
No, this is a porn thing. In porn it is done to sh... (read in full...)
I feel as I am running out of solutions and am considering prostitution...
Q. i want to be a prostitute i am struggling with money at the moment and i need some to help me life and enjoy myself i live in england does anyone no of how i can do it or of any agencies to call ? ...
A. 20 June 2008: You live in the UK which as far as I know does have a reasonable level of social welfare, try and find out what is available. There is no shame in asking help from the state, that is why we all pay taxes when we are doing well, as a safety net for ... (read in full...)
I felt nothing when we had sex...what should I do??
Q. hey my bf is 22 and i am 17 we have had sex and i felt nothing what should i do he is 8.5inches long and 3 inches thick what should i do since i felt nothing?...
A. 20 June 2008: Right. That is 7.62 centimeters in diameter and 21.59 centimeters in length for those of us in civilized parts of the world.
With all that you felt nothing? Not even OUCH?
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Why is the gas bill being sent to me?? Our divorced will be finalised by august...
Q. havent seen my abusive ex in 7 months, since he damaged my property and was fined by the police for criminal damage. the cop involved also told him to stay away from me, not an injunction or anything just a verbal warning. then i filed for divorce ...
A. 20 June 2008: What are the gas bills for? For your house or for his?
If they are for your house then you need to pay them, why should he pay them after all?
And if they are for his house then contact the gas company because they need to know what is happenin... (read in full...)
Fallen for my bed buddy....what should I do???
Q. I started seeing a bed buddy about 2 months ago, we're both single and we started meeting up for sex. The sex is fantasic the problem is ive developed feelings for him! Ive been hurt in the past and have stayed single for 2 years coz i didnt wa...
A. 20 June 2008: Oxytocin, the cuddle hormone but also the gullible idiot hormone. Women, you got it.
It is produced by for the various activities around sex and childbirth/child caring.
It causes people to bond and to be less analytical in their thinking. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can turn to be very abussive and I feel it might be me with the problem... is it?
Q. Hi I really don't know what to do and my BF tells me it is me who has the problem - so i thought i would ask some advice. We have been together 4 years but it has never been an easy ride. He has had major depression episodes and lacks self con...
A. 20 June 2008: Well you got an "issue" and they were in bed and probably heard the scene.
Your kids, they are seeing this relationship and using the it to learn how they should behave when they are adults. Is this the example you want to set?
If you were j... (read in full...)
How can I make an honest effort in saving my long-term relationship without telling him the fact that I was seeing someone else behind his back?
Q. I need advice on how to deal with the fact that I had an affair and whether to fess up to my man or not. I was a total slut; I was seeing another guy for 8 months so no, it wasn´t a brief fling or one drunken mistake, I was completely sober and ...
A. 20 June 2008: Well, two things.
First, you need to figure out what you want. Cause from your post I get the idea that you have no idea about that. Stick with the regular, the foreigner OR be single?
Why did you not work harder at your relationship? Lo... (read in full...)
How do you sleep when your partner isn't there?
Q. Not really a problem, just curious. This spring my girlfriend took a trip to see her family and she had been preparing her luggage and I noticed she had put in some t-shirts of mine. She frequently wears them as night shirts but there were from ...
A. 20 June 2008: Well I do miss her but I am used to have to travel. In my younger years I was away so much I didn't even own a house, just went to a hotel when for some reason I was "at home". So sleeping away is the norm for me.
But yeah I did figure out that... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date your sister's boyfriend's sister?
Q. Is it okay to date your sisters boyfriends sister...
A. 20 June 2008: Why not? Can get a bit messy if either of you breaks the relationship off but love is messy.... (read in full...)
26 years old and never had a boyfriend...
Q. I am a 26 year old female who has never had a boyfriend. I think I'm a pretty interesting and unique person overall. I'm reasonably attractive (have modelled professionally- 5'8/125), have an career primarily as a musician and occasional indie ...
A. 20 June 2008: Hard to say what is wrong.
You don't sound conceited, seem fairly together, don't make insane demands.
One impression I get is that perhaps you are one of those people who is actually rather happy on their own. You certainly seem busy enough... (read in full...)
Most guys do like cuddling or is it just a girl thing?
Q. Do guys like cuddling? I'm seeing this guy but since he lives 2hrs away from me it's been a little difficult. We usually end up watching tv or a movie at his place for part of the time that we're together when I go to see him and when that happen...
A. 20 June 2008: I like it that she cuddles if that makes sense.... (read in full...)
Is a blow job for a groom a tradition?
Q. Hey sisters and brothers Just a funny one Just spoke to some friends ... bullshitting .. question was DO you think its a tradition for a GROOM to get blown at a bachelore party??? 95%guys said YES! So, how do you guys feel over here? J...
A. 20 June 2008: Wait a minute, I could have had one?!? DO OVER!
No, don't think so. I think the tradition is to drink to much, talk to much and make up tall tales about it.
... (read in full...)
Blonde, skinny, and beautiful--so why can't I find a great guy?
Q. im young, blonde, skinny, and beautiful.(i'm not trying to be conceited) but i cant seem to find good a guy...im not sure if this is my fault or i just have bad luck?...
A. 20 June 2008: What is a great guy to you?
Pretend to be a fisher, if you want to catch a certain type of fish you would need to learn about that type of fish. Is it a fresh-water fish does it only life in the ocean. Is it active at night or during the day. Wha... (read in full...)
She's 21 and wants to party alone before the ring...
Q. Ok, I was 21 she was 17, everything was happy. Fast foward 4 years and some and now I'm 25 and she's 21 we've been living together for 2 years and she's just perfect for me. I tell her I want to get engaged just a week or two after her 21st bi...
A. 20 June 2008: Lets switch sexes and see how the women responding would react then.
"Hi, I am getting married to this guy next year but he says he wants to spend that year sleeping around with other women and having fun just so he can see what it is like, sh... (read in full...)
Was wondering if anybody has ever straightened their pubic hair before?
Q. This question may sound really stupid and weird, but I was wondering if anybody has ever straightened their pubic hair before? I am 22 and my boyfriend and I are doing a post- april fools sort of sex surprise thing, we are meeting up together...
A. 20 June 2008: Don't you use a hot iron to straighten hair. A hot piece of metal near your genitals. Oh boy!
Mind you, the next question would be, do asian women ever use curlers down there?
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My wife has recently told me about her fantasies with another woman what do I do?
Q. I am married, my wife has recently told me about her fantasies with another woman, and she has been sexually active with her. We have a very honest marriage and I appreciate this. I said I don’t mind and still don’t the, hole thing turns me on and ...
A. 20 June 2008: To the anonymous, christmas, new-year and your birthday all in one.
But of course, in reality it will probably get somebody hurt. We are selfish creatures and whatever else mostly what we think of our partner is "MINE".
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Why did she change her mind? Does she like me or not?
Q. i recently went on a school trip and everyone was in the living room. Slowly one by one everyone went to bed and me and this girl were left. We were lying next to each other on the sofa just talkin in the dark. She put her head on my chest and ...
A. 20 June 2008: Your ruined it, she was hot for whatever reason and you ruined it. You might at least have tried to put a move on her.
Go kick yourself.
1. Girl starts to seduce you and gets half-naked and invites foreplay.
2. You go to the toilet.
3. She ... (read in full...)
We're always fighting but I don't want to leave.
Q. Hey Guys... ok me an my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now an i do love him very much, but he is always fighting with me over nothin im constantly cryin an am so over it! it always over stupid things like today i was doing his washin an ...
A. 20 June 2008: The devil is in the details.
WHY were you not supposed to use the dryer? (for that matter why are you doing his laundry but that is a female thing so I won't bother to try to understand)
If the dryer was broken and in danger of catching fire I ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend after she's lied to me?
Q. Ok, I want to ask for outside opinions of whether I should trust my girlfriend. Sorry for the length, but it's necessary to explain. We've been together for 2'ish years now, although we do not live together. One night, we were both at our resp...
A. 20 June 2008: That is the problem with lying. Where does it stop? Once someone has been shown to lie EVERYTHING that they ever said becomes suspect.
If I tell you that the sky is green and that I am male can you then believe that I am male?
I am, but can... (read in full...)
Is it weird that he has so many different fetishes?
Q. I have an ex boyfriend who I see every now and again. He and I are very comfortable with each other, especially in a sexual sense, and have discussed the possibility getting back together in the future. Recently he's confessed that he wants to try ...
A. 20 June 2008: Strictly speaking ANYTHING sexual that is NOT for the purpose of reproduction is a fetish.
Breast play? Not needed, fetish. Kissing? Not needed, fetish. Female orgasm? Not needed, fetish.
Wam bam, thank you ma'am, that is proper sex. Anyt... (read in full...)
How can I show him I'm trustworthy?
Q. so i was in a marriage of 12 years to a man in the USA. it was really rough. constant physical and mental abuse and i was pretty much trapped in a hole with this man as i basically needed him around just to survive. i was not allowed any friends or ...
A. 20 June 2008: Oh dear. Do you know the expression out of the frying pan into the fire? You are not going to want to read the rest but I suggest you do.
You just got out of an abusive relationship, now do something extremely difficult, sit yourself down, lo... (read in full...)
He's apologized - So why do I still feel funny?
Q. Hey everyone, I wrote to you guys yesterday after thinking that I had been date raped. (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-think-i-was-raped-by-the-man.html) I spoke to my bf about it today and he says that he really didn't realize that he was r...
A. 20 June 2008: Because you had been raped? An apology really just isn't enough, not sure what is.
I think I am not alone in thinking this relationship isn't that healthy, bordering or already crossed-over into an abusive relationship.
In that case, him apolog... (read in full...)
She gave me a blowjob and I didn't feel it - it something wrong?
Q. I got a blow job recently. The problem is that i didn't feel it when my girlfriend was sucking on it. IS something wrong!?...
A. 20 June 2008: Wait a minute, you didn't feel ANYTHING? Yeah then there is something seriously wrong.
If you mean you didn't feel anything sexually, that is a different matter. Try to be specific.
If nothing else the penis is just a part of your body covere... (read in full...)
Why did I dream about sex with a girl? I'm straight!
Q. Okay so basically, I'm a straight 16-year-old girl. But last night, I had this dream where I was me trapped in a guy's body. Then this really beautiful girl walked over and made me lie on my back. Then she started touching all over my back. And then ...
A. 20 June 2008: A question that comes up now and then is one sex asking the other what it feels like. How does a vagina feel, how does a penis feel. What is it like to fuck a woman etc etc.
Is your dream not simply a thought experiment of what is like to be the g... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a girl to get wet without really feeling horny at all?
Q. Is it possible for a girl to get wet without really feeling horny at all?...
A. 20 June 2008: Yes, just like sometimes you got lots of saliva without thinking of food. Or for that matter have a dry mouth when you are eating.
Your body just does things on its own, the brain is just along for the ride.... (read in full...)
I met a great guy but he's not my type... can I change that?
Q. About a month and a half ago I met this really great guy. I mean, he's nice, sweet, funny and great to hang out with. The only problem is...I'm not really too attracted to him physically. He's not ugly by any means but I suppose he's just not my...
A. 20 June 2008: Well, you diagnosed yourself pretty well, now you need to do something about it.
I really suggest you seek professional help to deal with the events from your childhood and how they are affecting you now.
Take it slow with this guy, don't force... (read in full...)
If a guy lasts about thirty minutes, doesn't he get... bored?
Q. This isn't a question about me particularly, I'm just really curious... Guys always say they need to 'take' ages before they come and they longer they take the better it is for the girl. But, as a girl, I would get so bored if I didn't come ever...
A. 19 June 2008: Eh... guys can't do multiple orgasms, well most can't anyway.
Yeah some guys have gotten the idea, partly from porn and partly from women mags that longer is better.
Some women don't agree with this. One poster recently said how would you fe... (read in full...)
He played a prank on me, now says he cannot trust me. Must I carry on with this relationship?
Q. My bfriend and I have been going out for almost 6 months and last month he sms me from a different number and pretended that he was someone else and ask if I had a boyf. I said yes. Then he asked if I would go out with him at the weekend if my ...
A. 19 June 2008: This is what a dutch nighttime radio program does. Allows people , mostly women as far as I heard, to sign-up their partner and then someone calls them pretending to have met them at some party and wanting to see if they are intrested.
Funny... (read in full...)
First date with a woman... how is it different than a date with a man?
Q. m going on a fisrt date with awoman and is also my first ime ever... is it just the same as being in a date with a man... or is just like going out with your own friends... ...
A. 19 June 2008: Simple both of you will be an hour late getting dressed.
Both of you will order the salad then steal food from your partners plate but that will be a salad as well so both you will have to stop on the way home to get some decent greasy food.
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I met a great guy but he's not my type... can I change that?
Q. About a month and a half ago I met this really great guy. I mean, he's nice, sweet, funny and great to hang out with. The only problem is...I'm not really too attracted to him physically. He's not ugly by any means but I suppose he's just not my...
A. 19 June 2008: Is the issue really with his sex appeal or with how you feel about getting intimate?
Have you been intimate with other men, are there any men who are you type? Or to take a completly different approach are perhaps women your type?
You spend two... (read in full...)
I think I was raped by the man I'm in love with... at 18.
Q. Hey everyone, I feel kinda scared and wierd asking this question but I'm so confused and I need help. Today after I got home from picking up my boyfriend from work, we ate breakfast and he was watching the highlights from the celtics vs lakers ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sounds like rape to me, but not all rape is the same.
Basically you didn't so much say "no" as "not right now". You wanted it earlier and presumably would have wanted it at some later time, just not at that moment.
He did not respect that and... (read in full...)
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