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writes:hey i will start that i loved twice in my whole life i am 18 years and i get dumped by the 2 guys i loved in my life the first one left me cuz he dont want me to speak to anyone except him and he dosent want me to have friends ... the second one left cuz he says that i am tryin to be perfect in everything and making everything perfect around me so was tottaly destroyed what did i commit wrong so i took a risk and had a new boyfriend but i am so scaRED and afraid taht my third love will leave me too but he says he loves me but how can i make sure that he love mes ... he dosent call a lot i always call him ... and he always says that i am drama queen so how can be with him forever and make him never leave me ??????????? Reply to this Question
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reader, norah +, writes (11 June 2008):
norah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much :)
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Try to step back from it all and take a look firstly at what you really want out of a relationship and secondly a long, hard look at yourself.
Are you trying to be "perfect in everything"? Are you a "drama queen"? We can't tell from here! Only you and possibly your boyfriend and ex boyfriends really know.
You can't make someone love you. You can't keep them if they really want to go. What you can do is to try to put yourself in his position from time to time, work out what he really wants and see if you are right for him - and if you aren't perfect for him, can you change yourself and be what he wants AND, more importantly, do you WANT to change to be what he wants?
If he's not right for you, then (to take LazyGuy's metaphor) don't even bother kissing him to see if he will turn into your prince. Just put him down and let him hop away back under the slime where he belongs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): I think you are insecure and even more I think you are living with the big enemy called FEAR!
Stop, stop doing this to yourself and your boyfriend or any future boyfriends.
Take stock, think back carefully make a list of all the things that went wrong in your preious relationships, all the sign that you could pick up when things were going wrong.....almost "disect" your previous relationships,
then
make a list of all the positives and negatives in this relationship
oh and matter of fact .....STOP PHONING HIM..............wait for him to phone you
Lastly but not least, stop being scared, do not FEAR
Go and stand in front of the mirror, look at yourself and tell yourself 20 reason why you love yourself, and why he should love you.
Do it, please you will discover yourself, built your self confidence and it will help you to get rid of the FEAR!
ENjoy and have fun!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 You got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince.
But your 3rd one might have a point. Don't push too hard. Love happens, you can't force it. In fact the harder you try the more impossible it becomes.
If this is the right person, so be it. If it isn't. Well, just cry, pick up the pieces and try again. It is what we all do. Why do you think [INSERT LOCAL BRANDNAME ICECREAM] can charge such insane amounts for frozen milk?
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 There are no assurances in love and thats what makes it wonderful!
Good luck!
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