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writes:Hey everyone, I know i prolly shouldnt of done this but I did it. Anyway I met this nice guy in school and we became friends. I told him I was not interested in a relationship right now cause I am so busy with school and work. He was fine with that but as we got to know each other better he brought the sex subject up. At first I didnt want to have sex with him cause we are only friends and i dont like to have sex when Im not in a relationship with someone. Well one day we were alone and he really turned me on and we had sex. I never had a guy want sex all the time after the first sexual encounter, it seems to be the main thing that is on his mind. We are not even in a relationship and i made it clear to him but im not blaming it on him, i am guilty as well for responding to his desire for sex.Hes a nice guy but Im thinking he is after sex. He treats me with respect but now we have sex every time we hang out and it seems to be the main thing on his mind. Do you think there is something wrong if a guy asks for sex all the time even though you told him that you were only interested in friendship? Reply to this Question
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reader, lushlass93  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 i think he is only aftr sex to be honest
you have to say no and see what his reaction is if he stops talking to you and being close its obvious waht he wanted all along but if he doesnt then you two could just be friends and hang around
if you are not in a relationship with this oerson you shoukdnt have sex whenever because it can ruin oyur friendship see how he reacts and then move on because you coul find someone who can love you and give you sex in a nice relationship
good luckxxxx
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Well in his defense, he never lied to you, never pretended to want anything more. Surely that should count for something?
He wants sex, he asks for it. Doesn't cheat, doesn't lie, doesn't pressure. Just asks for it and you gave it.
All you have to do is answer, yes or no and if you really meant no you wouldn't be friends with him anymore. You can't have been to upset about him asking then.
There is nothing wrong with him, start looking at yourself. You have a guy who made it clear he wanted only sex. You claim to want a relationship first. Yet you had sex with this guy who made it clear he didn't want one. What exactly was the reasoning behind that?
Shouldn't your question be "Do you think there is something wrong if a girl has sex with a guy who only wants sex when she wants a relationship?"
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (31 May 2008):
 How can he respect you when all he wants is sex? You crossed the line with him when you gave into his sexual urges.
Did you really want a platonic friendship or a FWB? You seem really confused of what you want from this guy, of course he is going to expect sex everytime you meet up, its because you let him take advantage. If you want to keep it platonic then don't have sex with him, but then again you have already shut the stable door once the horse has bolted. Haven't You? If that all he wants from you, then I suggest you re-think this friendship with this guy.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Nope. He's a typical guy. Just a little more open about it. ALL guys think of sex, pretty constantly. And you are feeding it to him. He might be an addict. Just like drug addicts, he tried it, got hooked, and now relates your face to sex. Lol! Be firm, tell him it needs to stop (of thats what you really want). If he really is your good buddy, he will respect your feelings toward this subject. If not, and he still begs for it, he dosnt respect you, you are a "fix" to him and nothing more, and he might not be worth your time. Good luck.
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