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writes:My boyfriend and I are in a "committed" relationship. We have talked about sex and he says he would never do anything to make me uncomfortable and wouldn't push me; I believe him. I have stepped up and decided to start taking the pill. I have told him that I want a backup but he doesn't want to wear a condom. He told me he masterbated with one before and it was terrible. Now I'm not sure what to do. Is he worth it? Am I paranoid about becoming pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Thanks, everyone, for your input. After reading it all over I'm gonna stand firm- no condom, no sex! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): It's understandable that you want to be totally sure you can't fall pregnant accidentally, but the pill is very effective and you don't have a lot to worry about. No, it's not foolproof though. If you really want to be sure, you could get the implant or another means of contraception. But tell him that you think it's daft how you should have to have an implant just because he won't wear a condom. It's childish, and he should know better.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 How committed, pill doesn't protect against STD and it takes a while to be sure you are both clean.
It is your body, you decide what goes in it and if he doesn't like the feeling he can whack off without a condom 24/7.
Sorry, but I just can't bring up much sympathy for the old "it don't feel as good" argument. Sure I use it too, never claimed to be a nice guy, but I know it to be a line. Sex with a condom still feels better then no sex without.
Yes, the pill is very effective but it has been known to fail.
But more importantly, a recent newspaper article reported that women don't like having to take the pill, it is very inconvenient etc etc.
So why should you be the only one having to do things to avoid pregnancy? Where is his part?
You have to daily swallow a pill with a long list of side effects yet he doesn't want to wear a piece of rubber because he doesn't like the feeling? Awh, breaking my heart here.
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 My dear its normal to Get paranoid about geting Pregnant. And if you say your in comited relationship my dear go for pills they work.and condoms they are not so gud inshort it aint that enjoyable using them.and some guys after they cum once they lose it u see and that aint fan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): You are not paranoid at all. Although the pill is super effective there have been women that have gotten pregnant while on the pill. So if it makes you comfortable you should try talkin to him again & trying another method.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (1 June 2008):
 The pill is super effective. Really, it's all you need (to prevent pregnancy). Condoms are uncomfertable for some people. It's good to be paranoid about pregnancy, but dont let it ruin your sex life. The pill is good enough, over kill is unnecessary.
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