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*ittlesuziepie
writes:So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you can answer as if the question was what would you expect would happen. When you get home.A... you get right to trying it out. B...you sit around and watch TV for a few hours then go to bed. There is always tomorrow night. C...you wait for your girlfriend to make the first move. Thanks for answering. My boyfriend answered B needless to say I'm pissed off.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Well... depends. If it is a 14 inch strap-on I would run like hell and not even bother to open the door.
But since you posted an update saying it is a cockring (not one with inwards facing spikes I presume (don't ask) I would pick A.
Although that might not be a good answer if the shopping trip was a girls outing and the girls are still there. Then again...
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (9 June 2008):
littlesuziepie is verified as being by the original poster of the question It is a viberating cock ring with a thing on the top that hits the girls u know what uphon deep thrusting. Its cool. Really cool. Wasn't anything too kinky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): You should let us in as to what the toy was.
I have not yet found anything that a guy would enjoy the way a girl would!
Thanks!
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (8 June 2008):
littlesuziepie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha. Nothing on TV tonight. I got my fun. He liked it more than I did. Figures. Just made me think. I sure did make a mountain out of a mole hill. I believe I have issues with rejection. So lastnight wasn't the right night but tonight was fantastic. Good things come to those who wait. He is madly attracted to me. I have to relax when its just not the right time. I am just usto being the object of a mans desires. Ok I can share with the simpsons if I get the goods in the end. Lesson learned. Life goes on. Thanks for taking part in my request for advise aunties!!!!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 If it's a new episode, in our house EVERYTHING stops for the Simpson's! Even new sex toys. My husband would probably think that your guys priorities were beyond questioning, I mean, come on, it's the Simpson's. We can't even have a dinner party without it deteriorating in Simpson's references.
rcn, that was the sweetest story! Thanks! It made my day!
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (7 June 2008):
littlesuziepie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys are all so awesome. I am so happy I got great advise.
I guess I could have approached it differently.
Maybe if I wanted it so bad I should have just took it.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 Maybe if you had kept it as a surprise until you actually got into the bedroom he would have been more receptive. Sometimes people dont like sex on demand.
Was he watching the football at the time!!! Try again in a day or two x
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 June 2008):
 I don't know. Simpsons or sex? That's a no brainer, but I'm not him. It sounds like sex is not the only area this relationship is falling into the rut? It's time to get out of it.
Relationships are about people. They are not about tv, bills, work, cooking, and not all about sex. Problem happens when one, or both start treating the other person as just being "part" of the relationship as all the other pieces.
I heard a cute story once about a couple who was going to get divorced. The husband asked a friend what he'd doing wrong. His friend said, "Treat her as fine china and not tupperware." For the next 25 years before his death, that's what he did. When he passed, during the funeral his wife put a china cup on top of his coffin.
That one sentence changed their marriage and their life together. The whole relationship is about appreciation. What can he do, besides using sex toys, to make you feel appreciated. To keep you smiling and feeling secure. To show you how much he appreciates that out of all the men in this world, you chose him to spend time with.
We all create our environment. I hear so many talking about the fairytail relationships. Everyone can have one, but it has to be created by those within the relationship.
I hope everything works out for you. Take care.
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reader, natasia +, writes (7 June 2008):
 ps Ah - having read your added note, now i think: he is just in that stage of a relationship where he's done pretty much everything he wants to, he knows it's all on tap, so he's not trying = he's just watching the Simpsons.
Tough. But it happens to all of us ; (
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reader, natasia +, writes (7 June 2008):
I would have hoped for A ... ; )
I too would have been distressed by B, and then would have desperately tried not to seem so as, as rcn says, that would spoil all the fun.
Problem is, he may not like the idea of it. You say it is to pleasure both partners - I can only begin to wonder what that might be, but indeed it might be a way in which your partner wasn't sure he wanted pleasuring, if you see what i mean. just a thought.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (7 June 2008):
 Depends what the toy is and what it does. And it depends what's on TV.
It also depends on whether this is a first, or it's simply a variation on the whole range of toys, gadgets and the other things that I'm certainly not going to mention here that we already have in our bedroom cupboard.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (7 June 2008):
I ask my boyfriend and he said C. If it was me i would talk to my significant other about the toy and if they felt comfortable with it I would go for it, but if they weren't then I would wait however long it took them to get curious to use it.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (7 June 2008):
littlesuziepie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your quick answer. We had one of these things before and he loved it. He even tried it on while watching TV. And soft. I was sure he was going to start something but then he put it back in the package and said oh cool the simpsons are on. He claims his answer is C...waiting for me to make a move. I thought buying it was my move. I even said this morning hey let's talk about it. Thinkin the make up sex would be good. And he snubbed me eyes glued to the TV. I think I have a couch potato on my hands what guy would rather watch TV than watch me get off? Huh confused and horney story of my life. But good answer. It is a very logical answer but doesn't fit this guy.
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 June 2008):
It may be his nervs. If this is something you don't do often, he may be watching tv and playing over again in his head how to go about doing this with you.
Don't be mad, that will ruin all the fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I don't blame you, I would also be unhappy.
Keep it up girl!
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