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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Porn or prostitution? Which is worse?
Q. Is porn more degrading than prostitution? Just wondering what peeps opinions are.do you think that been a porn star or working in a brothel is more degrading? serious answers please...
A. 24 June 2008: What is degrading? Having criminals sentenced to do the job you are doing all your life?
Depends on who you are, while it wouldn't be my choice of job, partly because I would starve to death, there are far worse available. Unpaid Agony Aunt for... (read in full...)
My large breasts are a real hassle...should I get a breast reduction?
Q. This is kinda awkward 2 ask without sounding totally full of myself, but here goes. I have really big boobs, which i hate by the way, and my friends boyfriends always comment on. It makes me uncomfortable. They kinda look fake because im slim. They ...
A. 24 June 2008: We are not, some of us are. Why do all women go for guys who are talk dark and handsome? Do you know how much trouble that gives guys like me?.... I will try again when you stopped laughing.
Yes I get that you got a problem and you certainl... (read in full...)
Any straight guys know what its like to give a blow job...?
Q. does any curious straight male know what it feels like to suck a cock? Please tell me as I am interested in experimenting with my best mate....
A. 24 June 2008: Why not ask a gay guy?
What is the next question, what guy knows what it is like to have a period? I don't, didn't have a single period in this entire post. damn. ARGH!... (read in full...)
Why can't there just be enough guys for every girl to have a partner?
Q. I would really love to find a boyfriend, but I'm so frustrated. If a guy is desirable, handsome, smart sweet and knows how to listen... those guys are always taken, or they're gay. It seems counterintuitive that someone like that would be single ...
A. 24 June 2008: Eh, there are? Roughly 50/50 in fact.
In fact because older men go for younger women and rarely the other way around there are MORE men then women for you out there.
But yeah Danielepew is right, the decent ones are taken. As you get older th... (read in full...)
Why do some people have absolutely no luck in love?
Q. Why do some people have absolutely no luck? I'm 29 and I'm beginning to wonder what's wrong with me! I've been interested in guys and had a series of disappointments, but I've never been interested in someone who reciprocated. I really care for ...
A. 24 June 2008: While you probably want some sympathy I suck at that so will try something else.
Why do go for men that aren't available. Are you a terrible judge of character OR is it perhaps on purpose? As long as your fall for guys who can't respond you don'... (read in full...)
I want to make love and he doesn't, what am I doing wrong?
Q. me and my partner have been together for two years the problem is that i want to make love with my partner as frequently as possible where as he doesn't and it really upsets me when i ask him whats wrong he says nothing. what am i doing wrong as ...
A. 24 June 2008: Depends, you two might simply have different sex drives.
He might also have troubles getting it up often enough, lets face it, he is over the hill and if he is out of shape as well...
The mismatched sexual peeks in men and women are defini... (read in full...)
Who here is against recreational sex? Any antisexuals?
Q. I know several asexuals but only a handful of antisexuals. It's disheartening that I often feel I am alone on this. While asexuality is gaining acceptance, people ridicule those who are against sex. The only sex I am not against is proc...
A. 24 June 2008: So you want to tell the world they should only have sex to make babies?
Pope, is that you?
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I think I might be pregnant - what symptoms should I look for? And how can I keep it healthy?
Q. i have had a hard time getting pregnent. i have had many misscariages and an ectopic which caused me to lose a tube. when i was pregnent i had to get hormonal injection shots in my butt every day and even then i lost the baby. i have never made it ...
A. 24 June 2008: Oh dear.
If you can't even afford a pregnancy test then the next bit of advice might be impossible.
The best chance of keeping the pregnancy is life as healthy as possible. Fruits, vegetables a well balanced diet. No drugs, no smoking, no alco... (read in full...)
Do I need to apply sunscreen in the evening?
Q. I have a question about sunscreen. Do I need to apply sunscreen spf 30 in the evening? Such as around 8:00pm and there is still a bit of sun outside. I usually excercise in the evening outside....
A. 24 June 2008: Ah, lots of wrong info so far.
First Vitamin D. Unless you spend ALL your time in doors and go out in a burqa, you got nothing to worry about. If you go out with your arms exposed for half an hour a day (on your way to work for instance) that is ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control?
Q. Is it possible for withdrawal to work as birth control? I know it's not supposed to work. I'd like to have a baby. The problem is my bf isn't sure, so when we have sex he shoots his sperm on my stomach. I am secretly hoping to get pregnant but ...
A. 24 June 2008: Withdrawal is an unreliable method of birth control but it does reduce the chance of it.
But I would advice against trying to get pregnant if not both of you are ready for it unless you are want to become a single mother.
Mind you, if he is no... (read in full...)
Unsure if I love my husband more as a brother or a long term partner!!
Q. Hi aunts wonder can you shed some light on my problem please? I will be married for 2 years in July we have had our problems etc but managed to sort these and had split up twice during this two years but then got back together. My worry is, i ...
A. 24 June 2008: There are a lot of possible issues in your post so I will only tackle one possible cause.
Some people suffer from "the grass is always greener on the other side". Once in a relationship they can't help but wondering "couldn't I do better".... (read in full...)
What can I do? ! really hate my body!
Q. Hi i'm sure you get this all of the time but i'm going to ask my question anyway. i really hate my body. i have small breasts (about a b-cup) they used to be bigger (a c cup) and then they shrunk (i lost 30 pounds because i was overweight). they are...
A. 24 June 2008: It is regonized at least in Holland that for some people this issue is so strong that breast implants are actually re-funded by the insurance company if a shrink says it is necessary for the patients mental health.
Obviously this means that in ... (read in full...)
I felt nothing when we had sex...what should I do??
Q. hey my bf is 22 and i am 17 we have had sex and i felt nothing what should i do he is 8.5inches long and 3 inches thick what should i do since i felt nothing?...
A. 24 June 2008: I would see a doctor about this.
To be sure, we are talking about not feeling ANYTHING, no pain, no pleasure, no rubbing, no pressure NOTHING right?
That sounds worrying. If you touch yourself there do you then feel it?
Again, BIG difference... (read in full...)
Can you tell me how to squirt?
Q. I've always wanted to act sexy and one of the only things that all the men that i know say is sexy is to squirt when i'm having an orgasm! can you tell me how to squirt please! my boyfriend does not mind me not squirting but i would love to. and ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well the orgasm is easy, more attention to what you need to get one.
But the squirting, just the other day a poster complained about squirting to much, she did it at every orgasm and wanted to know how to stop it or at least minimize the amount. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, we already have 4 kids and I can't handle any more! She won't agree to abortion, any advice?
Q. My girlfriends pregnant again... We already have 4 kids, she popped the first sprog out when she was 15, had to stay with her ever since, i dont wanna leave her but i cant handle any more kids! Its doin my nut in! She wont get rid of it either., ...
A. 23 June 2008: Yeah, use birth control. It is available for men to you know. ... (read in full...)
I'm I going to be pressured to have sex from all these boys?
Q. i am nearly 14 and i am underpresser about having sex! there are soo many sexy lads that i know, and most of them have asked me out, i have only went out with 1 of them, and there is 9 more lads that have asked me out. the one i went out with said ...
A. 23 June 2008: Millions of times eh, really?
The average young male can get an erection slighty more often then when they are older, but 4-5 is really the max.
That means that in order to have sex a million times he would need to have had sex for 547 years ea... (read in full...)
Let the sleeping dog lay and see where things end up.........what does that mean?
Q. Okay there was this guy I was pursuing and i found out that he was not interested in me. He gave me mixed signals so I continued to pursue him until I just told him how I felt. He said he just wanted to be friends. Although Im really "pretty and ...
A. 23 June 2008: I got no idea, perhaps he doesn't know what the saying means either?
"Let the sleeping dog lay" means don't disturb something that might hurt you when you don't have to.
Unless he is warning you off because he is dangerous I can't see why he... (read in full...)
I like to experiment with everything sex wise whereas he doesn't. Is it wrong to want sex all the time?
Q. Hello- Sorry if this is a bit inappropriate but I would like to get some feedback. I have been in a relationship for about a year now, my boyfriend and I have always had a healthy and very active sex life, but now it seems like I am a bit much for...
A. 23 June 2008: We all have different drives, how much we want, how much we can put up with and frankly where we want to do it.
Sex in public... well I can imagine he is reluctant to do that. You are not going to share a cell with a guy called Bubba who also has... (read in full...)
Do guys really prefer virgins?
Q. hi everyone. ok i went on holiday a few weeks ago and went on a date with this boy who was a year older than me. within 1 hour it was clear all he wanted was sex.(i didnt give him it!) i told him i was a virgin but he was still eager saying stuff ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well, there are TWO different reasons for wanting a virgin.
In your case, it is about scoring, getting to be the first but and this might matter to you, NOT THE LAST! He just want to add a cherry to his list of achievements. He has no intrest ... (read in full...)
Our kids live with me, can she force me to do a DNA test to prove they're not all mine and take them away?
Q. Split up with my long term girlfriend last year and she's been trying to make life difficult for me since. Our kids live with me and that's where they want to be. Now she wants a DNA test to prove they're not all mine. I'm not going to willingly do ...
A. 23 June 2008: First of, may I salute you for wanting to raise your kids even with her claims you are not the biological parent?
Good for you.
Now, as for the legal advice, that is really for a lawyer to answer BUT what does the birth certificate say?... (read in full...)
I have not been asked out and I don't believe in this idea that women should take the initiative! Thus?
Q. I seem to be having a very strange time finding a man. Well, obviously you are everywhere, but its one that is attracted to me. I'm a pretty, confident girl, yet no man has ever looked twice at me. If they are they don't approach me. I don't believe ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well, if you don't believe in taking the initiative do you at least believe in responding to careful advances to see if you are interested?
It may be that your attitude just tells guys, "no way" so they don't bother partly because in the work pla... (read in full...)
I like this guy and suddenly all my ex's are getting in touch... what is going on?
Q. what is going on, i really like this guy im seeing- we r taking it slowly and all of the sudden a couple of my exs have been in touch wanting to see me. why now? I don't get it....
A. 23 June 2008: What is more worrying is that you give a shit.
They are your ex'es. Let them go to hell, focus on the new guy or is that you still haven't gotten over them?... (read in full...)
Does he have anger issues, or do most guys act like that?
Q. Is it normal for a 21 year old guy who is a total video game freak, to get really - and I mean really upset when he is losing in a game? He starts cursing so bad, over and over and then punches the couch if he loses. When I say "that sucks I'm sorr...
A. 23 June 2008: Women on the whole tend to play games differently then men. We compete against others, women compete against themselves.
We want the highest score, women want to improve their own score. So we are defeated, women just didn't do well enough t... (read in full...)
My only problem here is that I cannot orgasm during sex, and it's causing a lot of stress and guilt for both of us.
Q. I am a 28 year old woman and have been married for 4 years. My husband and I don't have any children. We are very happy together and don't really have any complaints about our relationship. My only problem is that I cannot orgasm during sex. My...
A. 23 June 2008: Can't he masturbate you with his fingers?
You can also masturbate during intercourse.
It sounds like the both of you need to learn a lot about sex. It ain't just oral and intercourse that is available.
And sex toys exist for a reason. Fine... (read in full...)
Can men tell if a woman has low self confidence?
Q. Can men tell if a women has low self confidance? I have low self confidance and it seems all the guys I go out with ethier dump me in a few weeks {the normal ones} Or I end up with some jerk that hits me and takes advantage of me. How can I let men ...
A. 23 June 2008: If your confidence was really that low you wouldn't be able to dump the abusers. So not all is lost but yes there are definitely people out there who send all the wrong signals and just are trouble magnets.
One part of it is that "good" guys wil... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after he punched a wall during an argument?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months he is very passionate and lovey dovey. I like it I'm that way too. But one night he was over and we got into an arguement about him going to a party without me. I told him if he goes without me ...
A. 23 June 2008: I think the danger flag is that he has double standards.
It is okay for him to go to a party alone but not for you to do the same.
Just the wall punch, well it depends on how it was done. It can be very aggressive if you were against said wal... (read in full...)
Do all men manipulate you when you are vulnerable?
Q. I have found in two long term relationships with men that as I get to know them and I start to talk more openly about my feelings and vulnerable aspects of my thoughts or personality they use those very things to either undermine me in an argument ...
A. 23 June 2008: You don't give any examples of what happened. Understandable but it makes it hard to judge whether you are over-reacting OR these past men did indeed try to use your feelings against you.
If this boyfriend is doing things to make you cry on purpo... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe in sex before marrige, how can I bring her around?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and from the UK. I've been living in Banff, Canada for the summer and have met a girl that I really like who's a similar age. We've got with each other a few times and I've slept round her house after nights out and what have you......
A. 22 June 2008: Right and when you are going back to the UK after the summer where is she?
You just want to shag her during your stay. Well, sorry but nobody on this site is going to help you do that.
Find another girl without her convictions and stop being s... (read in full...)
Fallen for a man aged 50...should I trust my judgement and leave it alone...or should I go for it??
Q. I am 27 yrs old - been single for about a year after a serious relationship with someone my own age (this ended amicably) now ive fallen for a man thats a lot older than me (50) althogh he doesnt know how i feel about him. when we are together ...
A. 22 June 2008: Life is to short to worry so much about what might happen in 10-20 years.
Yeah oldersister has a point but frankly ED can happen at all ages. If the sex doesn't work out, well then at least you tried.
But I would make sure first that you a... (read in full...)
Will there be someone for me?
Q. Will there be someone for me? I'm 27, have a successful career and am smarter than most peers my age. I've dated a couple of times but things did not work out. As I read the questions on this site...seems like there's a lot of bad guys out there - ...
A. 22 June 2008: Oh boy, PLEASE do NOT take this site as a cross-section of real life.
ONLY people with problems to fix ask for advice. It would be like going to a ford garage, seeing only cars in need of being fixed and thereby concluding that ALL ford cars are... (read in full...)
He makes un-PC jokes. Do I have to feel uncomfortable all the time, or can I make him censor himself?
Q. Hi guys, I'm pretty stressed out about my situation. I'm a very P.C. person, I always think about the bigger picture of what people say, and every once in a while my bf says things or makes jokes that make me really uncomfortable and I think ar...
A. 22 June 2008: Political Correctness is a hot topic, I will be honest upfront, I hate it with a passion.
To me PC is nothing more then an excuse to hide behind to not have to face real life. For fat there is the label Big Beautiful Women BBW that some claim in... (read in full...)
What are the odds of being father to your own children?
Q. What are the odds of being father of your own children?. I've often been in amongst groups of men where the most handsome guy is constantly having sex with a steady stream of women, one night stands were often the women are married. Like many of my ...
A. 22 June 2008: As the first responder said, you do NOT want to know.
My sister was a nurse and it is an almost routine situation in a hospital to have to explain to a father worried about his kid that well, he isn't the father. They even had a protocol for it. ... (read in full...)
What is this man thinking?!? I really don't understand the guy!! Help!
Q. Hi! I would really appreciate your perspective on this. I was with my boyfriend for two and a half years, we lived together for one and a half. Broke up in October 2007 after which I found out that the whole first year he lied and cheated on me ma...
A. 22 June 2008: Who broke up with whom?
People are strange creatures after we break up with someone we tend to forget exactly why it happened. You rememeber the good times and wonder why you can't go back to those times.
He is probably thinking that an... (read in full...)
Is female squirting abnormal? Is there anything I can do to lessen the amount of liquid?
Q. Is a lot of "come" unusual. I met my boyfriend almost two years ago. He was my first sexual partner and before I met him I could not orgasm. It took 6 months before I could finally climax. Since then my sex life has been quite good. But I have...
A. 22 June 2008: Someone women do that especially if the orgasm is intense. The scientists are not exactly sure about how it all works or even exactly what the liquid is. (well they may be sure but the internet is a hard to place to find the absolute truth)
Yes t... (read in full...)
The Infamous "I have a crush on my teacher" Story
Q. The infamous “I have a crush on my teacher” post has once again graced the pages of this website, but I assure you, this post is quite different, and again, you probably have heard this many times before. I’m sorry if I’m wasting the time of the ...
A. 22 June 2008: You know why we older people so often take young people like you not serious? Because we been young ourselves and remember how certain we were back then of all our emotions.
Maybe you are different. Maybe you are not just another teen girl wit... (read in full...)
Is holding hands just friendship?
Q. Was wondering what do you all think about holding hands, when someone does this is it just them being friendly or does it usually mean something more. Be good to get all your opinions on this!...
A. 22 June 2008: With a guy? Most likely something more. Depends a bit on the circumstances but if you walk in hand in hand. Well you do that with a parent, child, partner. Someone you want to know. I am here beside you for no reason.... (read in full...)
Have recently found out my husband is doing drugs is our marriage ending anyway?
Q. I've been married for 2 years and have recently found out my husband is doing drugs. I argue with him all the time and feel he is not listening to my feelings or thoughts. We have one child and I feel this marriage is going nowhere and am thinking ...
A. 22 June 2008: How are the drug laws in your country? I am from Holland so we hear nothing but horror stories like a woman going to jail for having lend her car to her boyfriend who bought weed in it.
Crazy people those Americans but if your husband is committi... (read in full...)
Is it because of excessively watching porn videos that I have difficulty in maintaining an erection?
Q. who thinks that the porn industry wrecks men's sex lives? who thinks porn and to much sexual images causes damage in erections? the reason im asking this question is because for many years i used to masterbate to porn ( 11 years to be exact) b...
A. 22 June 2008: I didn't say YOU had a slight problem because of ED, I said there was a problem with you blaming it on porn.
"who thinks that the porn industry wrecks men's sex lives?"
Even if it is your porn use that is to blame it is YOUR porn use that is... (read in full...)
Is it because of excessively watching porn videos that I have difficulty in maintaining an erection?
Q. who thinks that the porn industry wrecks men's sex lives? who thinks porn and to much sexual images causes damage in erections? the reason im asking this question is because for many years i used to masterbate to porn ( 11 years to be exact) b...
A. 22 June 2008: Sure, blame porn.
Slight problem, countless other guys watch porn and don't have trouble.
Fix yourself, don't seek excuses.... (read in full...)
I'm taken but I like another guy but I don't know if he is trustworthy.
Q. i like my b/f but i also like this other guy that is related to him and i dont know if he is trustworthy. i really like my b/f and the other guy alot but i dont know if i can trust him. becuase he has a g/f and he said he will break up with her for ...
A. 22 June 2008: Self-reflection, you are doing it wrong.
We don't know if this 2nd guy is trustworthy, but we sure know about you don't we?
Arent't you doing the exact same thing? How does the 2nd guy know you are not going to break up with him for someone ... (read in full...)
This thread is Rated "Arrhhh"
Q. As of late i find my posts.. vanishing or not even being posted. Apparently some of the mods/admins around here thinks its ok for a man to want to sleep with his sister. Instead of telling people what they need to hear, it seems as if they would...
A. 22 June 2008: The truth?
Is that you god?
Oh no it isn't, then how can you claim to hold the truth?
Part of giving advice is to put yourself in their shoes, not to just say what you think they should do but try and help them with their problem from their... (read in full...)
I felt nothing when we had sex...what should I do??
Q. hey my bf is 22 and i am 17 we have had sex and i felt nothing what should i do he is 8.5inches long and 3 inches thick what should i do since i felt nothing?...
A. 20 June 2008: Right. That is 7.62 centimeters in diameter and 21.59 centimeters in length for those of us in civilized parts of the world.
With all that you felt nothing? Not even OUCH?
... (read in full...)
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