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writes: i have a boyfriend.we have been together for a year and ahalf. When we make love he doesnt make any sound he so quiet that i wouldnt know if he is enjoying himself. Well i asked him why he's quiet? He told he he doesnt know and he said i also dont make any sounds of which i know i moan alot. what did he imply by telling me that i dont make sounds? and what can i do to make him notice this? Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 The first time me and hubbie had sex my nephew was babysitting my two young kids and slept over and told his mum the next day he heard his auntie having sex!! My own son is now 14 and has requested earplugs. Sometimes Im noisy and sometimes hubbie is but sometimes we are both quiet. Depends on lots of things, who is in the house, whether or not we have had alcohol, if its a quickie of a long session etc. I dont think its anything to worry about, and if he doesnt hear you moaning when you say you do maybe he is just so caught up in the moment he is in his own little world during that time. Dont force it and dont worry about it everyone is different and it certainly doesnt mean he isnt enjoying it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I don't necessarily agree with the previous comment. My man is so loud that it is actually quite embarassing! On the other hand i make no noise until I'm actually climaxing and even then it isn't much just enough to let him know I'm satisfied and he can concentrate on getting off himself! Being loud makes me feel really stupid for not being more erm...verbal...noisey during sex but I really don't see why I should force myself to be loud when I don't feel like saying anything or making any noises. Why waste energy? Maybe it turns some partners on but personally I could do with bf turning it down a bit lol. I also don't think I would enjoy sex if I had to force myself to express myself aloud. MAybe it comes naturally to some people and to others it doesn't. Like people who breathe heavily and those who don't. Btw I'm a very confident and extremely chatty loud person just normally so it's nothing to do with that either. So don't force ur man just let him express his pleasure or give u it in his own way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Some people don't make any noise, some do... It's perfectly natural for people to respond differently to different things.
It's nothing to worry about.
Try talking to him about how confused you are about his comment. I'm sure there is a simple explaination.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I do the same, doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it. The only reason why I don't moan is because I'm concentrated on pleasuring my partner and that I want her to moan.
I don't think you need to worry about it.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 This may be a fundemental difference between men and women. Men are silent, women are not. I am not talking about porn style screaming but on the whole it seems women moan and men don't.
Wether it is natural or just the way we are expected to behave I don't know but I wouldn't worry about him being quiet during sex.
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