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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Asking Stupid Questions!
Q. How many woman out there cant stand the "oh babe, is it that time?" Come on you know what i mean, right!? I hate being asked that question. Most of my guy friends ask me everytime i start, to complain. Some dont bother cuz they know not to ask me ...
A. 6 September 2008: Women suffer periods, men suffer women.
Deal with it.
Women seem to think that being a man is just one long wonderous life filled with nothing but pleasure, freedom and lack of any hassle what so ever.
Oh okay, so that is true, but that p... (read in full...)
Should I worry if I'm the one who usually calls first?
Q. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for almost a month and called him on Tuesday wanting to talk to him since I started school the next day, I called while he was eating so I said "How about you call me when you're done?" he said "ok" and that ...
A. 6 September 2008: You are asking the wrong question. You called him, he was busy, you asked him to call you when he was free, he didn't even after he said he would.
Sure, guys don't often call as much as women do. Men and women are different and this is one of t... (read in full...)
He hit me again today but I still love him. Please, someone tell me what to do...
Q. Hey, i'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. About 4 months ago, he started hitting me. Nothing really to start with but it got worse. Today he burst my nose and strangled me, I think that it was probably the most terrifying ...
A. 6 September 2008: You have no one in your life but him. Ask yourself why this is. Could it be that he has been isolating you from the rest of society through his actions?
It would be typical behavior of a wife-beater, the more he can isolate you, the more he can c... (read in full...)
Do guys care how a vagina looks like?
Q. okay so ive just been watchin this documentry called the perfect vagina and baslicly its a woman makin a documenntry goin round and explorin vaginas lol, shes been askin men if the way a vagina looks puts them off sex and the amount that have said ...
A. 4 September 2008: Reminded of a joke.
Father talking to his son.
"Dad, what does a vagina look like before sex"
"Like a beautiful rose bud, about to burst open moist with dew.
"And after sex?"
"Well, have you ever seen a bulldog eat mayonaise?"
There are... (read in full...)
When two guys are having sex, who exactly takes the role of the man?
Q. Picture this, one guy is getting penetrated helplessly and the other is DOING the penetration. Theyre both enjoying it, which guy is more masculine or "manly" and why? Now the guy who is being penetrated cums because he got penetrated for.....
A. 4 September 2008: Mmm, you got issues mate and I pity any woman who is with you. Women are helpless because they are the ones penetrated?
Work out your insecurities and leave others to lead their own lives.... (read in full...)
He wants me to give him an incredible orgasm, but I have to put my finger in a certain place...
Q. My boyfriend asked me if I ever wanted to try anal sex. I'm not interested in puttig anything up my hiney. Exit only please! He mentioned that one of the biggest and best orgasms he ever had was with an ex who fingered him in the anus during sex. ...
A. 29 August 2008: Understandable that you feel a icky about it but it is often claimed that the male g-spot is in the anus.
If it works for him, then denying it to him is not exactly being an attentive lover. After all, he merely asked you if you wanted anal but... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man who has a healthy sex life to watch porn?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other very much and have a healthy sex life. I found out today that he watches porn sometimes. He told me without hesitation and I did not ask. We some how got on the topic of porn. H...
A. 29 August 2008: Is it normal for a woman who has a healthy romantic life to watch romantic movies?
Anyway, the word 'normal' is really used in the wrong way here. When it comes to sex few things are normal and few people would be able to agree in the first pl... (read in full...)
What can I do about my romantic life? Why have I been unlucky until now?
Q. Hi cupid Thanks for this opportunity, i had a relationship wid a guy a 1 yrs ago,he was never commited n never willing to take a step ahead bt i blindly met him once we did nt ve sex bt he touch me all over and after few days he told me he was gett...
A. 25 August 2008: Oral and anal? Well strictly speaking, you are still a virgin but morally, no.
You seem to attract guys that only want to use you, why? Do others not find you attractive or are you only attracted to this kind of guy?
You need to take charge o... (read in full...)
Are men intimidated by me? How can I avoid these situations without changing who I am or what I'm doing?
Q. So, I am a young, attractive (so I've heard) single women. I am also in college, pursuing what some may say is a man's career (engineering). My problem is that sometimes I feel that I don't get appraoched by men as often as I'd like when at bar...
A. 25 August 2008: Certainly, if I think you are in a relationship of course I won't approach you. No decent guy would. Even the bad boys will stay away from a girl who is obviously happy with her guy, after all she would never say yes.
Some women, some men to for t... (read in full...)
Are there any undamaged women left?
Q. I'm sick of trying to get along with a grown woman these days. Every woman I've known just makes the same mistakes in life for the same reasons. I don't even want to keep trying to find anyone different anymore. How do I find a grown adult ...
A. 25 August 2008: You say you haven't let your ex'es tear you apart, so where does the bitterness come from?
If you go out and find only damaged women, look somewhere else.
Or could it be that only damaged women go for you because healthy women don't want a guy... (read in full...)
How do I forgive my mom after she forced me to kill my baby?
Q. i am an 18 year old female who has just graduated high school. i am hurting right now. in december i found out iwas 2 months pregnant and i kept it a secret only my boyfriend and my brothers girlfriend kew. i thought that i could trust her, but i ...
A. 25 August 2008: Forced you? You were 18, old enough sex, old enough to take responsibility. There would have been places to go that could have supported you.
If you wanted the child. She could not have forced you, did you go to a clinic? You could have said tha... (read in full...)
Is it because of a midlife crisis that my ex is with her?
Q. I posted a previous question on 8/19/2008 about me going out with a 40 yr old guy I am 29yrs old...we went out for 1.5 years and then we broke up he went back to his ex. He actually said he was confused about what he wanted and that he did not want ...
A. 25 August 2008: Most likely you were his midlife crisis.
Man leaves his wife for a younger woman... can it get any more classic?
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Should I tell him the full story of my having cheated or leave with him what he already knows and deal with my guilt on my own?
Q. Ok so here's the situation... Back in March I cheated on my boyfriend. I was out for a friends birthday and saw an old friend at the club. I ended up getting very drunk that night (no excuse) but my old friend pursuaded me to share a taxi home with ...
A. 25 August 2008: You want the other guy who raped you. After all if you were really that drunk, you were incapcitated that automatically makes it rape.
Why protect him? You see that suggests to me that you are not telling us the entire truth. Just how willing ... (read in full...)
Can my cousin kill her unborn child by drinking water and vingar?
Q. if you drink water and and vingar can u kill your unborn child, because my cousin does that and i was wondering can that happen ?...
A. 25 August 2008: Vinegar itself is harmless and at least some women I know who have been pregnant loved very large pickles (zure bommen). Apparently it helped settle morning sickness.
Medically there is no reason not to eat them and of course they come with ple... (read in full...)
How can I talk my husband into having another baby?
Q. Hi, How can i talk my husband into having another baby? We have two children boy an girl and i really want another child and he does not. How can i change his mind?...
A. 25 August 2008: Why do you want the kid and why doesn't he?
Two kids are pretty average, well 2.5 is the average but I am sure you agree that is pretty unlikely.
If you want to change a persons opinion you must first find out their reasons and then either nuli... (read in full...)
How could I bring up the subject of sex to her and get her feelings? Any tips about sex with a deaf partner?
Q. I have had a long time friend who is a beautiful deaf woman. Despite being deaf she still looks normal and works at a professional job. We have been dating for a little while. We enjoy spending time together and doing things like watching...
A. 24 August 2008: Don't bother whispering sweet nothings in her ear :p... (read in full...)
My parents are against my boyfriend and will disown me if I don't listen to them...
Q. i am 24 years old and very soon will be 25. i love my b/f and wants to marry him. But my parents are against it and they wil disown me if i go aginst them. i m in dilemma what should i do? let me explain in detail. we are in relatinship for ...
A. 24 August 2008: The people responding really should look at the little flag above the post. She is from India, a country where the village council could have her killed and be called real men for doing so.
India is not the west, not even close. It is still a ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to be angry and feel insulted when my boyfriend occasionally fails to orgasm after an hour of sex?
Q. Is it unreasonable for me to be angry and feel insulted when my boyfriend fails to orgasm after an hour of sex because he is tired or his back hurts? This happens to us almost half the time. I'm certain he is not cheating on me. I want to tell him ...
A. 24 August 2008: Well, while it is unusual does he have the same right? If you do not come after an hour of sex can he feel angry and insulted?
After all, a lot of women claim to have faked orgasms, men can't but does put them on the spot to perform everytim... (read in full...)
What about losing the "V card" twice?
Q. erm, this is a request from my girlfriend, she has been told by a friend that after a sertain amount of time, you can lose your virginity after losing it once before. is this true? if it is, how long should she wait untill she can lose it a...
A. 24 August 2008: Sure, it is the same with dying, wait a bit after you die and you can die again. A lot of people believe that happened after all.
Same with your 37th birthday, you can have that year after year after year.
Sorry mate, your friend is full o... (read in full...)
Are women typically interested in one night stands as much as men?
Q. Simple question: Are women typically interested in one night stands as much as men? Just curious....
A. 3 August 2008: Well obviously women have as many one night stands as men. It takes two after all to have one.
Maybe some women as PsyCookie says do it for the wrong reason but perhaps some women also lie about wanting one because that is what our culture ... (read in full...)
Religion (feel free to debate and discuss!!)
Q. Lately iv been having a discussion/debate with a woman on here about religion, she's a muslim and im not really anything, more of an athiest with a hint of scientologist id say, and as you could imagine our opinions on religion are at complete ...
A. 1 August 2008: A scientoligst? The ones who believe that there was a space faring race ages ago whose spacecraft just happened to look EXACTLY like early jet airliners.
Scientology is a valuable religion because it is so recent we can see its origins clearly.... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with sex, I'm begining to think this is all he wants..
Q. I've been with my bf for about 5 months now. When were together he wants to have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now that my bf has been away for about a month, every time i talk to him, he keeps talking about how he cant wait to do it with me like ...
A. 1 August 2008: Maybe that is his way?
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He says he doesn't want kids but won't use contraception...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going nearly a year now, and it seems to be going great but one thing bugsme all the time, He doesnt want anymore kids he already has a 2year old and says he dosent want any more where one day i would love to have one ...
A. 1 August 2008: He is a jerk. Congrats, your mom must be so proud.
You make a good couple, you are with a bf who doesn't want kids but not using contra-ceptives and letting him do something idiotic with a condom. Do you enjoy the though of being a single mother? ... (read in full...)
Super sensitive clitoris after orgasm - is this normal?
Q. Hello all! I'm not sure if this really is a problem, but all i'm trying to understand is: does a girl's clitoris remain too sensitive after an orgasm??? I've realised that every time after an orgasm when my bf rubs my clit again i feel a little pain ...
A. 1 August 2008: Depends on the woman. For some it becomes so sensitive they can't stand any touching at all, others can just keep going.... (read in full...)
How can I improce my dress sense so women will take notice?
Q. Hi, A few people have commented on my (currently) bland and scruffy dress sense (and it is!) so I need a clothing makeover. I know it will be different for all women, but what clothes and dress sense do women find "casually smart" on a man,...
A. 1 August 2008: Simple go shopping, look for a store that has the look you want and buy it with the help of a shop assistant.
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Why do women keep dumping me right after we have sex?
Q. I have a big problem. Girlfriends keep dumping me after sex. Allow me to explain. I have had a total of 4 proper girlfriends to date. Every single one of them has dumped me just after we'd had sex for the first time. My first girlfriend, who ...
A. 31 July 2008: A: You are truly goddamn awful in the sack. Really setting a new low because just being mediocre or even poor doesn't get you dumped so fast. How I know? None of your business ;)
B: You do something very weird that just repulses women. Again, c... (read in full...)
How can I get my man to cry during sex?
Q. I'm just a little curious I would like to know how many men out there have actually cried during sex and why?? I want to try to get my man to cry any tips, tricks, and or advice to help me with that on a serious note I've heard about men crying ...
A. 31 July 2008: Simple, start a blowjob, then bite down. He will do anything you please. ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to him groping me while I slept?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a year and a half now and about a week ago my boyfriend and I were on holiday together; we'd gone away with my family. We shared a room but not a bed; we're both virgins and I want to wait until I turn 18 before I ...
A. 31 July 2008: If a couple sleeps together even if they are not having sex yet then some touching is to be expected.
But this sounds like a serious violation of the rules you had set. If the idea was that you two would share a room but in seperate beds as teena... (read in full...)
It was only our third date and he asked me what I wanted to name our kids. Then when I said I thought we would have cute babies together, he freaked out.
Q. I just started seeing this really attractive man and on the 3rd date, he asked me what I would like to name my kids. I thought this was a strange question. But I played along with it because I'm really attracted to him. Since then, he has asked me ...
A. 31 July 2008: Some details. Did he ask "what do you want to name YOUR children" or "what do you want to name OUR children"?
Important difference.
He doesn't want his wife to work in NYC. That doesn't mean you are that wife, in fact it can almost be read a... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?
Q. My husband can not get me pregnant do to a surgery that he had many years ago. My question for this community is this. Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?...
A. 31 July 2008: What do you think sperm-banks are for?
Come on, asking a random guy to get you pregnant when married?
Talk to a docter, there are plenty of alternative options and with the right one it might still be possible to use your husbands sperm.... (read in full...)
Will losing my virginity help my self confidence?
Q. I'm 16 in a few days. I always feel lonely and lost even if I have a girlfriend. I guess I just feel different from everyone else. Maybe it's a self-confidence thing. Does anyone think that losing my virginity will help this a little? I mean, I want ...
A. 31 July 2008: Not if she laughs at your small penis and tells everyone you came in 5 seconds.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a "minute man". Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend is almost 34 years old and is a "minute man". He's the first guy I've been with that didn't have a little more control over said issue. Are there any men that might have some advice? Is lasting longer a genetic thing, a mental thing? ...
A. 31 July 2008: Yes, it is a matter of control but if he has not learned by now...
Make sure you do NOT over-excite him before. Blowjob followed by intercourse is just asking for trouble. Give him time to cooldown and use that time to get you ready.
He can ... (read in full...)
Men, do you discuss details of your sex lives with your buddies?
Q. I have a question for the men. Do you guys discuss what happens in the bedroom with your male buddies, or best friends? I'd like to think what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Do you guys compare notes and tell each other if she was...
A. 31 July 2008: No. We make things up because else we can't compete with the other made up stories.... (read in full...)
She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?
Q. Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...
A. 31 July 2008: Laptops and iPods? She better be putting out for those kind of gifts. Anyway, how many of these does a person need?
You are buying sex, so better make sure you are getting it and that it is worth it.... (read in full...)
On a date, who should pick up the bill?
Q. What is the proper etiquette when going out on a date on who should pay? I always expect the man to pay for at least the first few dates. Then I may put some money towards dinner once in a while. Is this ok? ...
A. 31 July 2008: Depends on the date.
The person that asks the other for a romantic date, pays.
If it is just two friends meeting, split the check.
If one person is significantly better off, the person that is better off shouldn't allow the other person t... (read in full...)
I get self concious around girly girls, and I sometimes feel like my boyfriend wants me to be more feminine. Help!
Q. hello! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now. we're close and all so it's all good. but i am so self conscious. like i'm a tom boy i guess. i'm not a girly girl at all and i don't wear girly stuff. it's just not me and i do...
A. 31 July 2008: You are not a tomboy, if you were you wouldn't feel like this.
More likely you are a person who "don't want to be like everybody else." Nothing wrong with that but a tomboy simple wears male clothes because they are easier, you wear them to make ... (read in full...)
I love a man who is still married, but separated for 10 years, his wife will not sign divorce papers, I want to marry him, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 24 year old lady that has been dating a special man for over two years. A month ago, I found out that he was still married to his "ex-wife" but they have been separated for ten years. She has moved on to someone else and had ...
A. 31 July 2008: She doesn't need to sign the papers, that just makes it easier and faster.
But with 10 years and her living with someone else divorce should be easy to arrange and if he really wanted to marry again he would have settled this long ago.
But he ... (read in full...)
We have no sex life. Am I being a selfish bitch?
Q. I am with a guy for the last year and a half and we get on very well in general in that we don't really argue but lately i am getting more and more unhappy, problem is we have no sex life. He has made many excuses as to why we don't, depression, ...
A. 30 July 2008: Alcohol in my experience is an erection killer. If he is having troubles then the last thing he needs is 4 pints.
Alcohol does remove inhibitions make us worry less about things temporary. If he can't or doesn't want to have sex because of worri... (read in full...)
We've been together a lot, not just for sex, but our schedules prevent actual dates. Is he just using me?
Q. I met this guy about 6 months ago through work. For the first few months we barely knew each other - but he would chat to me, there was a little bit of flirting and on more than a few occasions I caught him looking at me. A few months later we ...
A. 30 July 2008: You seem to hope that him being nice to you and cuddling etc means he has deeper feelings for you. Sorry no, that is just the line you feed to the ladies to get them to drop their panties. Works too doesn't it?
Very few women, even those willing ... (read in full...)
My ex got another girl pregnant and we are still sleeping together! What do I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up on thanksgiving of last year. But we remained friends he told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone but im still in love with him and I know he loves me. But lately he's been giving me mixed signals I ...
A. 30 July 2008: Right. He was willing to end the relationship, says he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and got another girl pregnant.
But he loves you.
Yah, those are all the classics signs.
It is time for you to grow up.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is telling me my vagina is too wide, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?...
A. 29 July 2008: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
All vagina's are wide, after all, they got to be to pass a baby.
But like your anus the vagina has a muscle around it and you can learn to control this.
The muscle can contract as thight as th... (read in full...)
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