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I'm unsure about losing my virginity. I love my boyfriend, but I promised myself I would wait until marriage.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 month and 15 days (( Yes, I counted the days, shoot me )) and we've been talking about sex latley. We played the nervous game one time and he was suppose to go in my pants, but he went in my underwear by ...
A. 18 September 2008: Together forever, after 1 month and 15 days.
Right, because that is some serious commitment.
You haven't even been one season together, not shared a holiday or most likely a birthday. And you talk about forever.
Understandable at you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends more time on Runescape than he does with me!
Q. Hey,, Since May 16, 2008 (Friday) I've got a boyfriend W.,, I really love him,, and he loved me too.. But now there's a boy V. and he's 12 years old and he makes our relationship bad and runescape too.. W. is 15 and I'm 16 before you didn't know....
A. 18 September 2008: You can't, it his choice to spend his life the way wants to. Seems clear he values games more then spending time with you. That is his choice.
It really is no different then your obsession with Skandar Keynes, who ever that may be.
Maybe y... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is this man a real asshole? What should I do?
Q. I am a 34 year old female. I have been in a live-in relationship for going on 3 years. He is older than myself, but I dont think that matters. Sometimes he is wonderful to be around and then other times, he acts if I dont exist. On Valentin...
A. 18 September 2008: You got a guy, who you know cheated on his ex-wife.
What is rule 1 of the dating game? Find out how he/she treats OTHERS. Of course he/she is nice to you, they want something of you. Find out about their interactions with strangers and past rel... (read in full...)
If my wife were to ever swallow my semen, would it get into our baby's system as she is still nursing?
Q. Hello, my wife and I have oral sex and she nurses our ten mouth old, I was wondering if she were to ever swallow would the semen get into our baby's system??...
A. 17 September 2008: As explained, yes and no. It will simply be processed as food. Then again, so is any snot you swallow, saliva from the other person as you kiss, farts you inhale.
Best not to think about biology to much, it is icky. For instance the water yo... (read in full...)
Was I given a date rape drug?
Q. About 2 weeks ago 3 guys that I met while I was at my aunt's house called to say that they were driving to my town to see me and that we should meet up and hang out. First of all I was in shock that they were driving about 130 miles just to see me. ...
A. 17 September 2008: Well, your underwear being inside out doesn't happen by itself.
I of course can't comment on soarness, only know that some women feel it after sex, especially the first time. But the sex might not have lasted long at all.
Your tampon being gon... (read in full...)
Should I tell my children I was abused by my dad?
Q. I was abused by my dad as a child. I have had counselling and I am now a mother. All the family know about it except the children. My daughter is now 9 and I think its time she knew. My husband disagrees and said she will become frightened of him. ...
A. 17 September 2008: I suggest you get support from this, survivor support groups as they will have experience with the best way of dealing with this.
Whatever you do, be very careful.... (read in full...)
Does love involve belonging to your partner?
Q. I would like an opinion here... Would you say that love involves belonging to someone else? In soul/heart? In body?...
A. 17 September 2008: Depends on what you mean, do you belong as in property? Then no.
Do you mean as Pepper&Salt belong together? Then yes.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so immature, he pouts constantly like a child, I am at a point where I feel I want a MAN and not a boy! Help!
Q. I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship w/ my bf for 2 years. Sometimes I feel like it's very serious. Sometimes I just want to leave. There are so many problems that I don't where to start. First of all, sometimes he is so immature I feel ...
A. 17 September 2008: The hardest thing to learn in this life, is to know when to give up. To just call it a day, you tried, didn't work, move on.
Love makes this even harder because the movies tell us that if you try, your prince will come, things will change and ther... (read in full...)
Our 1 year wedding anniversary went unmentioned. Does this mean we have a bad marriage??
Q. Wondering if this means we have a bad marriage..Although I feel we have a decent marriage. We have a 6 month old and a 17 month old. I stay home, he works. He likes his job and it is not stressful for him. Well, yesterday was our 1 year wedding ...
A. 16 September 2008: Frankly, to be brutally honest, some men do NOT like parties/anniversaries. It just ain't their thing. I got a deal with my gf, I remember her birthday if she forgets mine. It works perfectly.
There is one thing to consider, why was it up to hi... (read in full...)
Should I apologise for yelling to get his attention? Should he have apologised for the huge bruise on my leg? Should I find better ways to deal with him when he is moody?
Q. Last weekend I went to a club and met my boyfriend there. He went out with his guy friends first and I went out with my girlfriends first. When I walked in he was super sweet and flirty and we were all having a great time. We were sitting at a booth ...
A. 16 September 2008: Should you apologize. Easy to check, go to the mirror, if you see 'doormat' printed on your forehead, then apologize.
Else, you weren't wrong, he was. To be honest he sounds like a small child insensitive to others feelings even outright pain. Ba... (read in full...)
Is our love a lost cause or is what I did forgivable?
Q. Hello.. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half and we have been inseparable ever since. We were really close friends before we started to date, which means I would confide a lot of my darkest secrets to him about other men and re...
A. 16 September 2008: Hopeless, a good nick.
Come on, be honest with yourself at least. You have a history of cheating and despite saying you know this and don't want to again you carry on flirting with an ex.
Why did you feel the need to keep this flirting up? Enj... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 16 September 2008: Oh my god! A man with porn! Shock horror!
Where did you grow up? Was it hard living under a rock?
Wether you agree with porn or not, in 2008 surely no mature woman can be unaware that it is a huge industry and that somebody somewhere must b... (read in full...)
Has anyone been to a clairvoiyant and what they told you helped you make a decision in life, or do you think it's a load of rubbish?
Q. Hi, just a quick question. I was on holiday a few weeks ago at a well known seaside resort and i went to see a clairvoiyant. I'd been to this area a couple of times and have always wanted a reading, and this time i plucked up the courage to go in. I...
A. 16 September 2008: If you go to a clairvoyant is it free? No it is not. They charge and they charge a large amount as well.
So they are in it for the money. Well any clairvoyant who is not scamming people can claim 1 million dollar anytime he wants to by contacti... (read in full...)
Why do I run away every time a guy shows interest in me?
Q. What's my problem? I start to like a guy, and as soon as he starts liking me back, I run scared. It doesn't matter how sweet or genuine he is, I just don't like them anymore. It's as if I prefer the chase over the actual prize. This probably ...
A. 16 September 2008: What makes you scared? Have you seen bad relationships in your past and want to avoid that?
It is possible that deep down you think relationships are bad and while on the one hand you are a normal women intrested in men, the thought of being in... (read in full...)
On top of struggling financially, I discovered that my husband has been sleeping with our neighbour. I don't know what to do.
Q. I need help. I am in a very very bad place. I work in an industry that is taking massive hits and lay offs everywhere. I am responsible for 2 children (from my husbands 1st relationship)and my husband, He also works but we rely on my wage ( I earn m...
A. 16 September 2008: Well, you almost cheated yourself, so you don't exactly have the moral high-ground in this manner.
Live is hard and the reality of being an adult of constantly having to earn money to deal with a never ending deluge of bills can get to much. It... (read in full...)
I asked him to be gentle but he focused on himself during sex and wouldn't mind my objections. Should I believe him that it won't happen again?
Q. Hi, So I need some serious advice again. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and for our anniversary, i booked a hotel to make our 'first time' special. I had told him I wanted to take it slow with lots of foreplay and candle...
A. 16 September 2008: The best way to judge your partner is not through your own eyes but through the eyes of strangers. After all he/she has reasons to be on their best behavior with you, they either want to win your heart or get you naked.
It is how they interact... (read in full...)
Why has he never made love to me?
Q. I spent the night in bed with a man I love on Saturday, and it's about the eighth time I have shared his bed. We only see each other now and then but he has already said that he adores me, that he thinks I am a great woman and that he admires me. ...
A. 15 September 2008: If he has erection problems it is not your looks that cause them.
There may be many reasons, best to talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend looking at VERY young girls online!
Q. so here's my problem I am 22 and my boyfriend 26 have been together for almost a year and we recently moved in together. I was on the computer the other day and I saw that he had been looking at sites such as veryounggirls.com and others related....
A. 14 September 2008: He should seek help to deal with this immidiatly. The west currently has an extremely negative image of pedophiles (believe it or not, once child porn was produced legally) and as such it is better if HE seeks out aid on his own before he has a ... (read in full...)
Was I given a date rape drug?
Q. About 2 weeks ago 3 guys that I met while I was at my aunt's house called to say that they were driving to my town to see me and that we should meet up and hang out. First of all I was in shock that they were driving about 130 miles just to see me. ...
A. 14 September 2008: You were drunk.
Alcohol affects you, any amount does. It is chemistry and 5 shots would be enough to have a serious effect on me and I am fairly sure I am a LOT larger then you.
Do you the best way to know that you are under the affect of al... (read in full...)
My parents think it's wrong for me to date a black guy, is this racist?
Q. My mom and dad are soo protective. i like this black guy...alot and he likes me. but my parents think it is wrong for a white girl to date a black boy. i think thats racsism. but me and this boy have been talking for a year and we tell each other ...
A. 14 September 2008: Do they tell you not to date black guys OR are they telling you not to date this guy, who happens to be black.
Huge difference, the first is racists, the second they just think this particulair guy is bad for you, and you are the one turning ... (read in full...)
Is he metro or is he gay?
Q. I just recently started dating this guy hes very metro gets his eyebrows done which is fine! has to clean all the time he has ocd with cleaning the hous everyday.. he says hes a virgin and everygirl he dated broke up with him cuz he wouldnt have sex ...
A. 13 September 2008: or a freak?
The guy got issues, lots of them.
Shares a bed with a man but is scared of gay people?
Are you looking for a boyfriend or a project?... (read in full...)
Guys- If a woman who looked like a porn star propositioned you for sex, could you say no?
Q. If a girl who looked like a porn star propositioned you for sex, would you agree? Like if she looked like Briana Banks, a young Pamela Anderson, Jenna Jameson, or Jesse Jane? I was just wondering because I heard that my boyfriend was at a party a...
A. 13 September 2008: Sure, we men got the power. We just don't use it.
Some other little known secrets about men.
We can pick up our clothes from the floor.
The vacuum-cleaner is NOT completely alien to us.
We can actually clean the dishes before archelog... (read in full...)
I cry in bed when my boyfriend has fallen asleep. Why does this happen?
Q. For the past few months I find myself crying in bed with my boyfriend. He does not know because I wait until he has fallen asleep. It is only when I am in bed with him, not when I'm alone. We have had no problems in our relationship and he has been ...
A. 13 September 2008: What is missing? He has been perfect boyfriend and there have been no problems.
You don't mention love, not from you or from him.
An ommision or something missing?... (read in full...)
Twisted Love: he's cheated on me over 20 times!
Q. I have been in a relationship with the same guy for five years. We have had some amazing times and some terrible times. He has cheated on me over 20 times (4 of them having sex with other girls) I cheated on him twice (having sex with two other ...
A. 11 September 2008: o_O
Come on, you two just ain't ready for a relationship. Neither of you seems willing to commit to the other. You want to go out and have fun, presumably sleeping around. He wants to sleep around and keep you locked up for later.
You two just ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that her boyfriend touches me? I know it's wrong...
Q. hello, right here is my problem recently my mum has started seeing this bloke. he is so lovely when he is around her, but what she doesnt no is when he stops over he comes into my room at night after she has gone to bed and does things that arnt...
A. 11 September 2008: He should not be in your room, end of story. That alone is a serious breach of your privacy and should be enough to alert your mother. Neither should he be touchy with a teenage girl.
The guy sounds dangerous, you got to protect yourself... (read in full...)
Isn't it hard enough being single? How do get through this embarassment?
Q. I'm knocking on 30 and have never been in a serious relationship. Honestly, I haven't been on many dates either. No one seems interested in me. More and more my single friends are getting married and the married ones are having children and I ...
A. 11 September 2008: Get a puppy, they welcome you when you come home and are very intrested what you are doing especially in the kitchen.
Some people just don't want to be in a relationship, it is hard for couples to accept this. Rememeber, misery loves company.... (read in full...)
Am I the ugliest fattest stupid cow in the world for trying to do it with him but for him only doing it when hes drunk? What would you do?
Q. Right .. Well I don't really know where to start this, basically my boyfriend of 2 and a bit years and I have been going through, well a very argumentative stage. All we ever seem to do is argue and to be honest I really hate it. When we are like ...
A. 11 September 2008: Well, it seems a mess, but there is one thing I wonder about.
You went to see him during lunch. I presume that means you left work/school and found him under the covers. Presumably that means he was at home in bed.
Then later, you found him wi... (read in full...)
Tips to help you maintain your new boyfriend...
Q. if you get a new boyfriend or already have one dont be to clingy. act cold sometimes. do what you want and not care if they tell you you cant do that. it only makes you harder to get and thats what makes them want you even more. if a guy says thi...
A. 10 September 2008: Some of the things you say are good but some I think are wrong and possibly caused because at your age you still consider a 6 month relationship a long time.
As the other poster says, living a lie is hard. Don't play games because sooner or later... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't bought anything for our future baby but keeps lending money for me and not return it. I don't know what to do!
Q. Hiyaa Im 19 and currently 32 weeks pregnant.. My boyfriend (and father of the baby) is 18 and we have been together about 20 months. The baby was unplanned.. but we decided to keep her and things were ok. Recently we havent stopped arguing tho...
A. 10 September 2008: This is why child support laws were introduced. As Phil suggests, if he don't shape up real soon, use the law, that is what it is therefor.
You made your choice, you are keeping the baby. That is fine, but that means you got a kid to take care off... (read in full...)
Is this his way of keeping me attached or is he just bored?
Q. I was dating a known player for a short while and he got super serious. He asked me to moved in, insisted I got to know his family (hes 27 and only ever brought 3 girls home), and even said he loved me numerous times (I disagreed with him, tho to ...
A. 10 September 2008: The texting is a bloody big clue, what is different from texting vs a voice call?
Emotion and time. A voice call happens in real time and the other person can hear your voice, can hear if you are busy.
Texting I can do while I am doing other t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never wants to have sex with me, and nothing has changed since we discussed it!
Q. I am a 20 year old female currently in a relationship with a guy, where the sex is very disappointing. Well when we actually have sex it is great but these days that's not very often. He seems to be a very sexual person on his own, I mean he used ...
A. 10 September 2008: Masturbation != sex drive.
For that matter, just because someone masturbates doesn't mean they want to have sex. In fact it might be done because they don't have time or aren't in the mood for sex, just the orgasm.
Compare it like this, eatin... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay and is confused!
Q. I have a boyfriend that I have lived with for 8 years whom I have supported in every sense of the word...financially, emotionally etc. Has not worked consistently and is constantly on the computer at home, while I work my butt off to pay all the ...
A. 10 September 2008: I think it is you that is confused. Come on, the guy is a sponge. Who cares wether is gay, hetero, bi or does it with chickens, he is draining you dry.
Get rid of him. Do you really think that if he sorts out his sexual idenity he will change? ... (read in full...)
Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?
Q. ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...
A. 8 September 2008: Go to the local drugstore, look at the sections for men and for women. Men got a shelve, women got the store. One wall will be filled with hair dyes. A while industry dedicated to giving every woman on the planet a different color hair then she got. ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait on sex to earn respect in a relationship?
Q. Ok it's super unlike me to wait on sex but I'm coming to realize that pretty much if you want someone to respect you, you have to give it some time. So... how long do I give it and more importantly how the hell do I politely turn it down??? Guys are ...
A. 8 September 2008: If a guy doesn't respect you after sex on a first date, he will be unlikely to ever respect you.
The reason to wait is NOT to build up his respect BUT to find out his real intentions.
Hopeful, after spending sometime with him you will know we... (read in full...)
I have nightmares and hear voices before I sleep. What should I do?
Q. i'm 13 and i have never had a real problom sleeping before but for the past few months i keep hearing things that keep me up at night so i turn the tv on to block out the noise. but then i wake up agin and hear my name being called over and ...
A. 8 September 2008: You hear your name being called when really awake or are you dreaming you are awake?
Nightmares happen although sometimes they are because you feel stressed about something.
If you hear the voices when you are awake it might be time to talk to ... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend be more mature about my pregnancy?
Q. how can i get my boyfriend to help with my pregnancy? ok .. well my boyfriend n i been together for a yeae..n hes been really happy lately because of our child. and i really love him and care bout him .. the thing is ,, hes always buyin vide...
A. 8 September 2008: You are pregnant, he isn't.
You got little choice but to grow up and perhaps you were ready for it but you only got to look down to see that you got no choice.
To him, the baby is just a blob in your stomach. It won't be real until it is born... (read in full...)
Is alcoholism hereditary?
Q. last year i sent a question in about my dad being sick, well he died. im going through a stage of being terrified im going to turn out like him. he was an alcoholic. iv looked it up and it says that it is genetic. am i going to turn out ...
A. 6 September 2008: So, don't drink. Alcoholism is genetic, drinking isn't.... (read in full...)
Since I'm on the pill and we no longer use condoms, he finishes too quickly to give me pleasure.
Q. Hi, im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now... I have recently gone on the pill and it seems to have ruined our sex life! Since we no longer use a condom it takes him a matter of literally 30 seconds to come during sex. This ...
A. 6 September 2008: Use a condom... (read in full...)
Dodgy Adverts
Q. Hey all Humans bright and cheerful. (And variations there of.) I was pondering round this sight when i was looking at these here adverts which will soon surround the comments and answers this artical gets, and asked myself, "Does anyone act...
A. 6 September 2008: Well the [insert country here] bride ads ain't fake. The industry been around for a long time.
There are scams associated with it, but there are genuine businesses as well. After all, it makes sense, country X has women looking for a better l... (read in full...)
First date conversations!
Q. You've found the object of your interest, made eye contact and you are making your way towards him. And while you are doing that, don't forget to BREATHE ! You've done the hard work - you've approached someone and not only talked to them but secured ...
A. 6 September 2008: Just one tip, don't be to much at ease or confident. This is often why techie women in a male enviroment do badly romantically, they are so at ease around men that the men don't think the woman is intrested at all.
Being needy is bad, but the ... (read in full...)
Asking Stupid Questions!
Q. How many woman out there cant stand the "oh babe, is it that time?" Come on you know what i mean, right!? I hate being asked that question. Most of my guy friends ask me everytime i start, to complain. Some dont bother cuz they know not to ask me ...
A. 6 September 2008: Women suffer periods, men suffer women.
Deal with it.
Women seem to think that being a man is just one long wonderous life filled with nothing but pleasure, freedom and lack of any hassle what so ever.
Oh okay, so that is true, but that p... (read in full...)
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