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writes:ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?!seriously, i hate it when i am out with the girls and i get some old man staring at me. that's the other thing, they just stare and then lick their lips or wink. makes me sick thinking about it. the one thing that really ticks me off is when they slap a younger girls ass, it's bad enough when a young guy does it, but i dont want to go out and end up being touched by some old man. so why do they think they can do that and actually have a chance?????
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reader, ocgreengoddess  +, writes (16 April 2011):
I think a lot of older men are in denial. No one wants to think they are too old for women they find attractive and fun. And I think that a lot of people who are offended by your question are the guys you would probably reject. ;)
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reader, tra40d +, writes (30 January 2009):
 "The Old Man" seems to be the most sensible respondent here. I deplore rude and crude behaviour in anyone, men or women, young or old. THAT is justifiable in your posting, Miss anonymous, but not your acerbic attitude to those who choose to go outside their immediate age group.
And, do we have a chance? YES, we do.
I am 65, and I have recently (last November) taken the virginity of a very shy and nervous 19-year-old. No details, except to say that I was very patient and gentle, considerate to the maximum.
We were friends first, and still are.
She would never have had the courage to go with someone her own age, and in view of what I know about them - dry hump, fuck and fuck off - they would have put her off sex for decades.
I am pleased to report that she now has the courage to find a b/f of her own age which she would never have done before (not even kissed a boy before) and I have backed off in order not to jeapordise their relationship.
But we still chat ard are great friends.
Ron.
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reader, sinclair +, writes (29 January 2009):
The behavior of these men has nothing to do with their age-it would rude whether they were 18 or 85. That said, there are many women your age who like older guys, for whatever reason it doesn't matter to them. I have dated many women in their early 20's. These men staring aren't even hitting on you-there just being rude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): I personally never date an older man. I'm talking about someone twice my age here.
I haven't got daddy issues
I' not going to settle for someone with baggage
I don't care about money
I don't want people to think my date my dad!
Don't want to get odd looks by people and teased by friends/work mates
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reader, Scoutabout +, writes (26 January 2009):
Reply to LazyGuy - Re "Gee, put a twenty-four-year-old woman and a forty-four year old woman next to each other and ask that question . . ." Gee, put a 24-year-old naked woman next to an old forty, fifty or older man - now THAT'S ugly! YUCK.
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reader, Scoutabout +, writes (26 January 2009):
Reply to LazyGuy - Re "Gee, put a twenty-four-year-old woman and a forty-four year old woman next to each other and ask that question . . ." Gee, put a 24-year-old naked woman next to an old forty, fifty or older man - now THAT'S ugly! YUCK - you're an idiot.
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (24 January 2009):
 You ask,"why do older men think they have a chance"?The answer is simple. WE DO! I'm a 48 year old male with no kids, not "wealthy", but I get along. I asked myself that question for quite a long time. Until the answer came to me like a vision! I don't know if you are familiar with the home improvement stores like Menards, Home Depot or Lowes, But there is a 22 year old girl that works in one of those stores that I frequently shop. A Very pretty girl. She's 5'5 and maybe 115lbs. Beautiful - beautiful - beautiful! I spent a great deal of time talking with her, just passing time. I never licked my lips at her, never grabbed her butt, but just talked. One day while in the store, she came up to me and bumped my leg rather briskly with her hip and said "hey old man,what's up"? I gave her a smile and we talked for a bit. As I looked into her eyes, and saw her smile, I knew what I saw but was nervous as could be! I decided what the hell, I asked her out. She didn't just say yes, maybe or OK, she gave me a huge smile and said "ABSOLUTELY"!I remember our first date, a very simple lunch. When it came time to pay, she reached for her purse and started to get her money out. I put my hand over her purse and said," I asked you out" ! She was floored! She explained to me that the guys her age usually expected her to pay her own way.We dated for a few months, five or six. We shared many common interests. We'd go for a motorcycle rides,out to dinner, the state fair, the museum, or would go for a walk, or hang out at my place. No matter what we did together, we always had fun! Our relationship was very physical as well! She didn't seem to have the slightest bit of problem with my age. Though we no longer date, I still see her at her work. We still talk, and share a smile and a wink. I have since dated only younger women. She at 22, another at 25 and the last is 26.I think the problem that you have is you maybe carry a little too high of an opinion of yourself. I have seen your kind, you act as though you are some sort of "Diva' and that any man would be lucky to have you. You act as though you are young and beautiful, and any older person is disgusting! As another poster stated, you too will age, your looks will fade.There are many younger girls out there who are attracted to us older men. I'll agree that it's not all about money. As I said, I am not wealthy, but I am stable. We older men offer some things that many, (NOT ALL) but many of the younger guys don't. It's a thing called chivalry! I'm sure you would like to be treated with respect and dignity. When I am out with someone, my attention is on them! I had one girl who had me take her to Hooters for lunch. At first I was a bit confused. Later on she told me that she wanted to go there to see if I was going to pay attention to her, or the girls in the skimpy clothes. Apparently I passed the test! Our idea of dating is not getting drunk, (often at your expense) and taking you somewhere for sex. Nor do we pass the word to our buddies of how wild and kinky you are. That too is another thing one of the girls told me. She said that she felt free to do whatever she wanted, explore her sexuality, and not be called a "freak". So you may want to come down off of that pedestal you've got yourself on, and look around. Maybe try this, sometime when you're out shopping or whatever, pay attention to what appears to be a father daughter couple. Watch how they interact. You may find yourself surprised to find that they are a couple!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 To be brutally honest? Because we do.
It is considered perfectly normal for the male to be older then the female. You can wish it isn't so or question why it is true but tell me this. When you date, do you date men your own age or few years younger OR men older then you?
You might be the excemption, but most women go for men a bit older then them. Might be a year, might be ten years, might be more. Why? God knows, ask women who do. The cynical side of me says a large part of it is money. Nearing 40 at a break neck speed myself I can say a LOT of things about myself but definitly one big difference is that I now make a LOT more money then when I was your age. It ain't just about buying a girl with money. It is confidence, one of the things women list as a high requirement when choosing a mate. I am a lot more sure of myself now then I was 20 years ago.
Why do men go after younger women? Gee, put a 24yr old girl and 44yr old women next to each other naked and ask that question again. I am going to pay for this but women age badly. Oh don't get me wrong, I look pretty bad as well, but apparently looks don't matter that much for women. Or so they claim. Again, ask young women who date old men why the looks are not a killer.
For whatever reason, older men think they got a chance with younger women because they do. Not with you apprently but with enough for some to get the idea it is worth a shot. A lesbian might as well complain that men think they have a chance with all women.
You seem to think that people should only be with people near their own age. That is your choice, it ain't either right or wrong, it is a matter of taste. Others have different tastes.
Is your issue really with people lusting after people outside their own age range OR is it with the way they approach you with it?
You are getting slapped on the ass by apperently men of all ages. I don't know much about women but slaps on the ass seem NOT to be the best way to approach most of them. Since men of all ages slap you, I would say it has nothing to do with the age of the men that you are upset but by the type of man that hangs around you. Perhaps you should find a different type of men to be around? Men who do not treat you as a piece of meat, regardless their age?
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (24 January 2009):
 To the anonymous female who said she is 21 and her husband is 61 and it ISNT about the money. Let me ask you this though ~ he DOES have money thought doesnt he. Does he have enough money to keep you very confortable? Or is he struggleing to pay the bills and worried he may never be able to retire? It is the former, isnt it? While it may not strictly be money that attracted you to this man, it certainly helps. A much older man without money has zero chance with a very young woman like yourself. Having plenty of money gives him potential.
I have a couple I am friends with that have a 30 year age differance. Now I do not doubt for one minute that she really, truely loves this man. And he is not rich by any means. But he is a former college proffessor and has enough money not to have to worry. They have a small place up north for the summer and a small place down south for the winter. They own 2 sailboats and a host of other small toys. She is about 45 and has NEVER HAD TO WORK. Now, their life may not be extravagent, but it is VERY confortable. If he couldnt support her this way I doubt very much that she would have even given the relationship the chance in the first place to find out that she could indeed love this man like she does. She is not by any means a gold digger, and while not every woman with an older man is a gold digger MANY ARE! And money helps. Without money a young woman will not look at an older guy, with money it becomes a 'maybe'
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionseriously? your husband is old enough to be your grandfather! well i guess if you love eachother go for it, but what made you feel attracted to such an older man, when you are probably a beautiful young intelligent woman?
pvtguy i don't understand what you are really suggesting? that it is wrong for younger girls to want a guy their age who will have the same interests as them,etc? i don't see older men as a fantasy at all. so i don't get what you are trying to say. that the old guys are the only ones there at the end of the day? it just does not make sense.
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reader, Scoutabout +, writes (17 January 2009):
Yeah, honey - tell me about how much you're in "love" when your man turns 80 and you're only 40 - get ready to play "nurse maid" because we all get old - it's just that he's going to hit the "decrepit" stage a lot sooner than you. Let us know how much fun it is to wheel him around in his wheelchair, or perhaps have to change his diapers or spoon-feed him (particularly if he gets Alzheimers). You're just fooling yourself and being fooled by this old man. Forty is pretty young - you'll realize that when you get there, and we'll see how much you enjoy your life with him then. Good luck - you'll need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): I thimk that not every girl is with an old man because of their money. I have been my husband for 3 yrs. and we are very happy together. We have great sex all the time and he doe not need VIAGRA. I am now 21 and he is 61 but he looks way younger than his age, he has a great body we work out together. We are so much in love. I plan to be with him the rest of hi life and mine too. He is the most wonderful man on earth. :)
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reader, Scoutabout +, writes (14 January 2009):
What a sensible young woman you are! Too bad those "old guys" don't have the brains you obviously do. To answer your question, basically, guys have been brought up to think that looks and age don't matter for them like it does for women. Also, they are taught by parents, society, the media, Hollywood, etc., that it's "normal" for an older - even much older - guy to expect to snare a younger woman. However, the part most of your "average" older guess neglect to factor in is that the older men - especially the much older men - who do get a younger women have MONEY. LOTS OF MONEY. Why else would a good-looking young woman want an old dude, when she could make it with a much younger and much better looking guy? Again, the difference is MONEY. What young woman in her right mind would want sexual intimacy with a pasty, flabby, pot-bellied, bald and wrinkly old guy? Is she really going to feel anything sexually for him? NO. Read it here, old dudes - IT'S THE MONEY! Personally, I wouldn't care how much money an old dude has - he could be a bajillionaire, and I still couldn't have sex with him! I get nauseated just thinking about it. Now, of course, I'm fifty-two, so I'm an old lady to some of you, but when you young gals get to my age, you will find the same thing is still happening. The guys my own age are looking at you younger gals, but the old (I mean seventy, eighty and older) dudes are looking at ME. Just like some of you young gals, it makes me want to PUKE. So, things being the way they are, if some old dude pinches your ass or winks or tries to act sexy with you, he needs a rude awakening. Just tell him he's far too old for you, that he's old enough to be your FATHER or even GRANDFATHER and that it's time he grew up and acted the age he's supposed to be! If that doesn't work, just tell him he's an old, bald, fat fart and that you don't find him attractive. Seriously, some guys won't stop until you give them the blunt truth! Personally, I think men and women ought to stick with a partner who's only a few years or so apart from their age. They will have everything more in common. Don't go too old or too young - it's foolish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah and you often find that the older men think that it is normal and that we should see it as a compliment. please! they want to have a fantasy that we will enjoy the attention, but really i can't stand it.
some girls may like it, but i believe that's because they lack a male in their lives,such as a father figure. so they look up to these older men as someone who will spoil them and look after them.
but for me....older men are a big no no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): I hate that too. I am also 22 and I get older men and older gay women hitting(and I'm straight). It's so damn annoying. I don't respect men or women who are in their 40s and hitting on me! I think some have real issues. They need to mature and grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know older guys will always look at younger women, but do they have to touch!!
it's just nasty.
i dont mind if an older guys wants to chat for a bit and does not talk about sexual stuff. but when they start touching your ass it just goes too far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Thank God someone else is bringing this up! I'm 22 and I seem to only get hit on by men old enough to be my father! It's disturbing! Starting to wonder if guys are age are simply intimidated by good-looking, intelligent women. At least we're not alone!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 No hay problema, Bugs (no problem).
Wordreference.com is an excellent site, and they also have forums with native speakers, or people who have studied the language.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (24 December 2008):
No hay problema, Bugs (no problem).
Wordreference.com is an excellent site, and they also have forums with native speakers, or people who have studied the language.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): He He.No ,I am not a Spanish speaker.I have just been picking up phrases from What you and Daniel talk.
This link here has been teaching me a lot over the past few days.
http://www.wordreference.com/es/en/translation.asp?
Thanks Guys!
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (24 December 2008):
Bugs, I have never asked you if you are a Spanish speaker but I would LOVE to have you as my student :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Muchas gracias Daniel.Hee Hee.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Bugs, the word is "piropo". It's a "flirtatious remark". The oldest and perhaps most worn out one: "OH! So many curves, and I got no brakes". This one is so old and worn that I think it achieves the absolute opposite effect. It reveals the man has no real appreciation for what he sees, but repeats what he heard other guys say.
Diovan GETS piropos all the time. She used to have an avatar with a whip, and that was for a reason: to keep the guys at bay. Sirena uses her guitar for that purpose.
Sirena, there are many downsides to marrying a much older man. Some people do manage to sort them out admirably, but they are an exception. You're right.
Piropos do exist for men, and some women use them, but generally men don't get many, this being a culture where "good women don't do bad things". Generally what women say is cryptic if you don't know your way. Something like "Oh, I have always liked that brand of trousers", which means "OHMIGOSH, some piece of ass". I know for a fact that women do "exchange information"; I heard them countless times when I was a child and the women in my family thought I was a fool who didn't understand things :-). Yep, I did.
You also need to be careful. If a woman praises you too much, she might be after something different from your body. You need to wonder what she's up to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Daniel My sis taught me the safety pin trick.:-).
Smart and wise women all over the world think alike huh?
Sirena thanks for "Piroco".I am learning more spanish from you everyday.
Diovan,that avatar is so gorgeous.you might get "piroco" in your mail box.Be careful sweetie.:-)
I am very curious.Does "piroco" exist for men?
Have men faced catcalls,wolf whistles and comments?
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
Muy gracioso, jejeje. If he did murder me, then my post wouldn't be a mitigating factor in court :)I don't want to die, but it's a part of life. The downside to a relationship with a much older man would be that I would have to dread being depressed when he's gone.Saludos...
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
LePew is a classy gentleman. :)
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (23 December 2008):
Sirena, if you tell a man that you want to die first, what are the chances that he will kill you?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (23 December 2008):
Bugs, my mother used to do just that in buses, too :-). That gives another meaning to "safety", I guess.
I live in a country where catcalling is the rule, rather than the exception. It's a rare man who doesn't do it, and the girl doesn't have to be a redhead, though that helps :-). I work with many foreigners, so this is a subject that comes up often. That is to say, women are whistled at and overwhelmed with catcalling.
I'm not defending anyone, but I will present some information. The idea is to shed light about this and help the poster. I want to add my one cent.
People of different ages flirt with younger or older people, and that is so because we're naturally attracted to each other. It is pointless to hope that some day people won't flirt with each other unless they are in the same age group. That is the same as expecting that attraction will cease to exist.
Older people around the world flirt with younger people because quite often they get what they want. Witness the many couples with age gaps. We might like or dislike the fact, but, as Lenin said, facts are stubborn.
I understand that the poster dislikes the flirting, and it is her right. But she has no other way than to make it known AFTER the flirting. Older men don't know whether their advances will be accepted, so they will flirt to see what happens.
As to the catcalling, I was reared by women (only a few men in the family) and I was taught that I shouldn't do it. But the men who weren't taught that do it all the time. They get more girls, you know? They come across as confident men, and I challenge a woman to tell me if, in all honesty, she doesn't find that appealing.
Again, I agree with the poster, however. It's one thing to flirt in a classy manner, and another to just stare, like a stalker, and then slap someone in the lower cheeks. I think Sirena Blusera is right, and I quote her: "the real issue is that you're offended by the disrespectful treatment". That is so understandable. But we needed to clarify the point.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
Bugs is absolutely right.
I went to college in Mexico, and one of my professsors explained to me about "piropo." It's the most wonderful culture on earth in my opinion, and I'm not being racist (I DESPISE racism) but "piropo" is there to stay. Catcalls, whistles, "oye... mamacita,"... every woman gets it. Every smart woman just ignores it. I got more attention than most, because red hair is very rare in the heart of Mexico :)
I'm not sure why guys do this... one time I was walking home from the laundromat and a much older man starts to describe, in graphic detail, what he wanted to do with me. I just ignored him, lol...
The same thing applies anywhere in the universe... just ignore it.
Now I'm back in the USA and everything here is pathologically uptight, sterilized and politically correct.
A good many guys in Mexico are elegant classy gentleman, and they have chivalry down there.
Guys in USA mostly treat me like dirt :( We're uptight about stuff like political correctness, but you go in a store here in USA and people are rude to you because that's okay to do. Go figure :(
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (23 December 2008):
The thing is, that it would make me sad to get involved with a man who is older than me because I would almost certainly be around for a long time after he is gone.
I know it's selfish, but I hope that if I were to marry, that I die before my husband. I don't want to spend decades alone. I want to share the course of my life with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Shame on me, but I couldn't stop laughing at this: My son (15) came home from a night out at Applebees's and when they were leaving, an older couple(60's) came out, his friend said Very Loudly, "Wow, she's....Hot!" The senior hubby looked back once, twice, sizing them up and down...:) maybe to fight for his wifey :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Thanks for your update. Some older guys look at young women, so older guys don't... Your telling us how the world should be and how ALL guys should act. Good on you, stand up for yourself and if a guy is rude, offensive then tell him off. But you can scream and shout all you want, people do tons of "nasty" things, and that's their choice. You can't change people you can only change yourself. You don't like these things and you don't want them to continue, what suggestion do you have to get them dirty men to stop looking at you.
You tell us what you want, we unfortunately nobody here has the power to change what other people do. You decide to shout at them, other women walk away. Men looks, men with no manners comment, so what???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): I understand you are feeling mad.I also agree they should not get away with it.
After I got a job,I used to travel in buses.India is a conservative country.If I yell that someone is touching me ,I might get unwanted attention.The guy might end up being vindictive.
This is what I used to do.When in bus I feel a hand trying to inch closer,I had a huge safety pin that I had hidden in my fingers.When the hand touches use the safety pin hidden in the hand to give the sharpest prick.The guy cannot even scream.
I don't know what girls do in USA.I thought sexual harassment laws are much more severe in your country.Obviously I was wrong.
I would still say for all the comments,ignorance is the best policy.
I tried to help you out.I am sorry I ended up infuriating you further.Probably should have stuck to questions from my country.Sorry again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou know everyone is talking about age difference relationships, but people are forgetting older men that like to try and chat up school girls! now you can't tell me that is normal and should be allowed. i remember when i was around 16,17 and would get the bus to school and while waiting at the bus stop, i would get older guys shouting things from their cars,etc. you can't tell me that, that is acceptable and a 16 year old girl should feel comfortable with a much older guy shouting sexual things. like i said before it;s like having your dad's friends coming on to you. it's just not right that some older guys find young girls sexually attractive. if they do, keep it to themselves and don't try it on with a younger girl. it's not right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso you're telling me that you don't mind some older guy who is old enough to be your dad and probably has a daughter of the same age, touching you up and asking you to bend over for them.
what the fudge is wrong with some girls? ok men are men and they will always think they can get whatever they want. and most young girls only go for older guys because they see a wallet. i personally would not want to be with a man who is in his 50's. i just don't find them attractive. after all it's like dating one of your dad's friends and i don't want to be fathered by some older guy. maybe that's why some younger girls go with them, because they have not had a real father figure.
as for just ignoring someone who touches you sexually,i don't think they should get away with it. i usually turn round and remind them that i am old enough to be their daughter. they usually look abit sheepish and stupid then. so they obviously believe that they were going to get a positive reaction from it.
you can't stop older guys looking, but really...do they have to touch!!!!!!!! keep your hands to yourself. it's just plain nasty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): They do have a chance with many young girls (especially if they are rich) How can they know if you are into older guys or not? So they are just trying their luck. May be you should wear a T-Shirt with words "I dont like older men" :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Maybe you cannot do anything about men who stare at you.
But you can definitely change something about yourself to help you feel better.
Do not catch any body's eye.It takes some time.But hey,its achievable.
Act as if you are a snob.Stare at the spot right in front of your eyes.Don't even look at your left and right until otherwise you are crossing a road or a railway track(which is dangerous by the way).
When they know you are not even bothered to look at them,it slowly stops.
I understand how disgusted you might feel when someone lays a hand on you with out your permission.
If you stamp something nasty,you wash your feet.You do not cut your feet off.Think you have stamped something nasty and don't show any disgust on your face.
Most of these guys do this to get a reaction out of you.When they know they can't get a reaction they get plain bored.
Merry Christmas and hope you feel better soon.:-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Its usually done tongue in cheek mainly to just make a young female feel good about herself, many don't.
Many men have daughters of their own, they are boosting your self esteem in a fatherly way. 'Having the crack'
Don't get so above yourself to think they really want you.
They know how the young female mind works.
Good luck georgeous xx
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (22 December 2008):
Why do they think they have a chance? Because quite often they DO! We have had way too many posts on this site from couples with the girl in her ealy 20s and the man much older, even in his 50s to be ignored. My own boyfriend dated a girl who was 27 when he was 42. And they dated for 1 1/2 years! And he was not using her at all. In fact it was quite the other way round. And back when he was 30 he dated a 40 year old woman and that relationship lasted 6 years! So age is not always such a strong factor in determining who to date as you think.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (22 December 2008):
First of all, 40 isn't "old" (this is coming from a 29 year old, by the way). :)
Having said that, I think that the real issue is that you're offended by the disrespectful treatment you've received from these sharks in human form. I don't blame you for being pissed off. I don't care if he's 20, or if he's 80, I wouldn't let ANYONE molest me. However, there is a difference between a guy who, regardless of age, wants to pursue a relationship but does it tastefully... and a "viejo rabo verde." The guys you described fit in that category.
You ask WHY older men think they have a chance with younger girls. I can understand why you're offended by a guy slapping you on the ass, but I don't think that age makes you inferior, necessarily.
I'm praying that no one I know is reading this, but that's why God invented screen names. So here goes... I'm a highschool teacher and there's another teacher at my school who I know is over fifty (he told me). He's a classy gentleman, though... he's athletic and takes care of himself and talks to me in Spanish and knows how to dance. He's married though, so I understand that I have to settle for being his friend. I don't "love" him but I used to turn red when he'd talk to me. I couldn't help it... one of my students pointed this out one day and I was like, "Okay, let's move on and talk about Spanish again..."
I wouldn't pursue some married guy (I hate bitches who do that), and nothing will induce me to say his name, but you would probably like him if you met him.
You have a right to date or reject whoever you want, but I don't understand why you would be hostile to a guy just for being interested in you (provided he's not some pervert).
I think people should get treated the same, regardless of age, etc. In the USA where I live, it makes me sad to think that 60 years ago, if a black guy were to LOOKat a
white woman, that an angry mob would "put him in his place..." but that a white guy could do it with impunity. It was completely unfair. People in the north like to accuse us Southerners of being racist, but it was just as bad, if not worse, in the North.
I don't care if a guy is over forty or in his twenties, black or white, etc... I would be flattered by his interest, I would be pissed if he molested me... and I won't date anyone who doesn't speak Spanish... but I'm not racist, anyone can learn Spanish. :)
I'm a picky bitch, but I don't harbour prejudices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Oh DoubleM - you got it bang-on mate!
But further to the posting, it has been acceptable, nay encouraged by society to go with opposite age groups - men and women. Believe me baby, lots of young ladies come on to much older guys (I am pleased to announce!)and with a long-term view to boot. So, old guys do what they do because they DO have a chance, though obviously not with you. Try taking a look around you.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Life is short, and you will soon enough be classified an "older woman." Why do some "old" women flirt with much younger men as if they have a chance? Because they do, and they are called cougars. A famous example is Cher, who has consistently been banging guys less than half her age for decades. Anyway, relax. You will be undesirable sooner than you think.
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