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writes:Me and my boyfriend have never had sex before, and this Saturday was going to be our first time. The only problem is today I have started my period (this morning) and we were planning to have sex either late saturday night or the early hours of sunday morning.When I told him I was on my period he said he wouldn't mind having sex still, as he is looking forward to it, as long as we use protection. By the time we do have sex, if we still do, I think I might have calmed down a bit then and might not be very heavy.So I was wondering if we should have sex. As we are both still virgins and I don't know whether it would be very enjoyable for a first time. Also would it be very messy? Considering my period will almost be over. Do you think it's disgusting? I'm really unsure of what to do. Please, Please, Please can you get back to me soon! I really need this advice..Thanks x
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (3 February 2009):
glad it turned out to be good.
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reader, befffy +, writes (3 February 2009):
befffy is verified as being by the original poster of the question We did end up having sex anyway and It was amazing :D
Thankyouu peoplee
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (30 January 2009):
if you don't want to have sex during your period, just tell him and ask him to wait a few days. if he says something like "your not really on your period" or whatever ask him to stick his hand down and find out. that always works, because the guy always looks abit scared and put off and then just agrees with you. lol. so just wait a few days, it won't make a difference if you have sex on saturday or the following week.
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reader, MommyOfOne  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I have to agree with Lkw810, my boyfriend says the same thing. And I have heard from countless women, myself included, that sex during her period feels better sometimes. Your more sensitive down there due to increased blood flow to aid in menstrual. You will be later in your cycle, and very well may not be that messy at all. If I have sex on the 4th or 5th day, or after, there is no mess at all because its so light during those days. You wouldn't even know I was on my period.
But, if your nervous about getting anything on your sheets, put a towel down. If your boyfriend is ok with it, then its between you two. Some guys are far to immature to do that at your age. So, that may be a good thing. LOL
But, sweetheart, you MUST use a condom. Pregnancy during your period is indeed very rare, BUT std's are easier to pass while on your cycle. To you and to him. Especially aids. You don't know for sure where his little member has been, so be careful. Make sure you use a condom.
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reader, befffy +, writes (29 January 2009):
befffy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyouubut the only thing is, i chose this saturday because it's the time when my parents are away and we get the house to ourselves.Im really excited obviously and am so tempted.So I think I shall have a talk with my boyfriend about it, thanks, Keep posting reply's please :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Sex is always messy. If you do it right.
Some women are extra turned on during their period, you don't seem to be one of them. Would it really hurt to wait a bit longer?
What I miss from you is "you wanting to do it". Are you sure this is being planned because YOU want to do it or because you don't want to disappoint him? If you are not ready, then you are not ready.
Do you really want your first time to be with a guy "who doesn't mind having sex with you" and you just doing it because it was planned for that day? Romance might not be dead yet, but it sure is hanging by a thread.
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Personally, i think you should wait until your period is over.. Especially if its both your first time, you want to be able to remember it! 1..It will be messy.. prepare to have it not only over you both but on your sheets too so when your finished, you both cant just lie in each others arms because it was be sticky and quite yuk to be honest! i dont get people who think its ok to have sex while on her monthly.. Whats the point. Its a bloody mess.If you both have waited this long, and i no it will be disappointing for you both because you have got excited about it but whats another week to wait?? Then once you are finished your monthly , you can have a nice romantic night in bed and properly enjoy yourselves without worying about mess..Safe sex of course!! Good luck let me no how u get on
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reader, lkw810 +, writes (29 January 2009):
Me and my boyfriend live together so when I am on my period if we feel like sex we just go for it! We haven't done it very often because to be honest it can be abit messy, plus I am on the pill so can control when I have a period, which may be something for you to think about then when you do want to plan a special evening you know you won't be caught out :)What we normally do it put some towels down on the bed and its fine. Another tip would be to go for a shower or a bath before you have sex.By saturday, depending what your cycle is like, you shouldn't be that heavy anyway, and it's a fact that girls are more horny when they are on their period! Plus with it been your first time it might actually help because, not to sound discusting, but things will be more moist down there. My boyfriend says to him it sometimes feels better for him when I am on my period!If you trust your boyfriend and both feel comfortable with it I don't see why it is a problem so my advice would be to not stress, go ahead and enjoy your evening as planned :)Best of luck with it all xx
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I would advise, if you are on your period, save sex for a later date. I know you're probably very excited and anxious, but yes, it will be messy, even if you're in the light stage. Your first time is going to be stressful enough without having to worry if it's messy, and your boyfriend will probably enjoy it more too. :)
It's not wrong or disgusting to have sex during your period, but I have yet to come across a girl who enjoys it. But hey, feel free to prove me wrong.
masq
PS. I know you probably know this already, but in good conscious I have to say, USE A CONDOM regardless of when you have sex. You CAN still get pregnant while on your period. It's unlikely, but still possible.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 January 2009):
I really really wouldn't advise that you do it during the first few days of your period. It's hardly going to be very romantic with all that blood about.
It's just not your time this week. There will be lots of other times, another week or two won't hurt you.
Also make sure you use condoms and know how to put them on properly. You should also know how to get hold of the morning after pill in case of emergency and if you are going to start having regular sex then perhaps think about going on the pill.
Good Luck!! xx
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