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writes: My brother (and get let fired from his job) and his girlfriend got booted from they'll apartmant. They have been living with me and my boyfriend. My brother has been driving me insane. He hasn't been picking up after hisself, he leaves dashes and treash around the house. He wont look for another one. All he does is eat and sleep. And since im a total neat freak I just loss on it on him. He even stilled coffee on my bofriend's laptop and tried to hidded under his bed and now it won't work. Im at the the point where im going to loss it with him. And I did talk to him about it about it but he wont. Any ideas?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 February 2009):
Go out to work and tell him that if the place isn't clean when you get home then you are going to have to ask them to leave.
Tell him you don't mind him staying but you expect him to put some effort in and that once he gets a job then he can pay you back for the lap top and you can talk about rent.
As Lazyguy quite rightly says, he lived with his girlfriend and they got kicked out for a reason. Let him actually stand on his own 2 feet for a change rather than leeching off the women in his life
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Auntie Stoned  +, writes (1 February 2009):
Kick him out before your own life is ruined. He apparently took advantage of you, thinking that since you helped him out by letting him stay with you, you would pick up after him as well as a sister. He wont learn until you throw him out on the street.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 They got kicked out of their apartment for a reason. If he didn't clean up his act when faced with being made homeless, why should he now. Especially since he hasn't faced the consequences of being kicked out. He has found a new spot just like that.
I suggest you simply show him the door. Yes he is your brother but if he is not made to face up to the consequences of his actions, he will never change.
Your brother probably always had someone who cleaned up after him, gave him another chance and this is the result. Time to put your foot down. For your own sake but also for his.
Kick him out. Not next month, not after the next that happens. He has 1 week to find a new place, after that his stuff is out on the street.
If you absolutely insist on letting him stay, their income goes to your account and from that you pay for a cleaner, living costs and the repair/replacement of the laptop. He might, if he does his chores you assign get a small allowance (and with small I mean small). If he wants to live with his mommy, then he don't get to be an adult.
Dutch saying "Zachte heelmeesters maken stinkende wonden", "gentle healers make stinking wounds". Spare the rod, spoil the brother.
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