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writes:Why am i still single at 25i a m a 25 year old college graduate. i have dated several guys for only short period of time not because i find them either below my standards in terms of education, or their appearances dont quite appeal to me. I have never really met someone that i appreciate but now i am desperate that at 25 my biological clock is ticking. when am i going to get someone that i love and appreciate, let alone marry? My family is now putting pressure on me to get married, but i haven't really come clean to them and told them i am not seeing someone, i feel embarrassed. When am i going to get my mr right? or am i just going to grow old and lonely?. i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your answers they made me feel better but the problem is how can i get this at the back of my mind. how can i go on coz everyday its an issue.Now i want to go to another country to work and i am thinking can i just go with nothing to my name can i just hang in there because mr right is around the corner
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): just enjoy life and what it has to offer! I got married when I was 35 (although was a single mom for 9 years before that). Now I've been married for 10 years and am glad I made the choice to wait for the right guy.
Don't worry too much about what your family and friends say about the "ticking" clock. 25's far too young anyway, and I suggest you look at it more as a blessing than a curse, that you are just exercising your choice to enjoy your single blessedness..
good luck!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Well yes, your clock is ticking. It also ticked when you were 2 days old, and will keep ticking for two decades at least.
You have dated, so have no trouble meeting people, you just haven't found the right one yet.
Now you are being pressured by family but consider this. You do have a clock thicking and that is the clock of your life. Say you go for a guy now just for the sake of your family and he ends up being completely wrong for you.
2 years engagement, 3 year marriage, 2 year divorce. BAM, 7 years down the tube, you are NOW a 32 year old female and while you still got a decade left on your biological clock you are now a bitter female, maybe even with a kid or two. Far less likely to find the person who is right for you. Who MIGHT have passed by while you were married.
While if you stick to your principles, the right person might come by tomorrow. Or next year. But you will do it on your terms, when you are ready with the person YOU want to spend the rest of your life with.
Life doesn't have a replay option. If you get married now to keep your family happy you might very well ruin the chance with the person who would truly be right for you. Life your life at your own pace and on your own terms and if and when you meet someone, be free rather then trapped in a marriage for the sake of being married.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Your 25 for goodness sake not 45, then I would say you have something to worry about. Girls are leaving it later to get married and have children, so your not unusual at all. Stop trying so hard and enjoy your freedom while it last's. Then before you know it you will be married and tied down with kids and not a moment to yourself.
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