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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am getting ready to give birth to my baby boy on February 14th (lets see). My daughters dad and soon to be kids dad is threatening to take me to court for 50/50 custody (in which he signed over his rights to our daughter). He haven't been around. An aquiantence mentioned he have been hanging around Walmart quite often (Wow! a 40 year old man hanging around Walmart with a teenage son who's getting ready be a dad at 17 and a 9 year old daughter who extremely needs attention with academics -- first two kids from his first marriage in which he have full custody by default because of no show from the mother). What can I say about that? He started to come around months after he gave up his rights. Things weren't going so well for him. A few weeks prior to our first child custody case for my first child (his third child), he was already in a relationship with a female he met on myspace (Wow! I can't believe he met someone already. I was even more heartbroken but didn't show it). It didn't workout. I guess she wanted him to convert his Christianity to Catholicism. I don't know (I'm pretty sure there's more to it). We started to get along better. We both shared conversations on dating after the child custody case however, I still have pain, hurt for my daughter because he's given up his rights for her. Anyhow, don't want to get too deep into the situation because I'll be typing a rough draft of a novel. We worked things out and then when he brings up the past by blaming me for him giving up his rights, he's back to being an "a@#hole". During the process of working things out, I've became pregnant. He was happy about it. When he gets mad, again, he questions his fatherhood (I'm not that type of gal). If he strongly feels that way, I told him don't bother. He leaves a message at my old place of employment after I mentioned to him stop calling (he doesn't know I have a new job) my job. He just wanted to give me his insurance card because he doesn't want to be responsible for any financial part for our son (his fourth child). I am so sick of it. Enough is enough. My foot is put down. His threats of taking me to court is tiresome. I am strictly on limited funds (no financial help or any kind of help). I am getting ready to hit 30 and I feel like I'm going through a midlife crisis. I don't want to go through the court system, again....I'm just tired of being tired. Any advice??
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 Lawyer time.
ALWAYS get a lawyer when you need to deal with the law. Get one who specializes in family law, tell him EVERYTHING and let him/her take care of things.
It is simple, lawyers deal with the law, you on your own don't stand a change because people typically got the wrong idea about the law. It ain't about justice or being right, it is about who uses the law the right way and that is what lawyers have spent years learning how to do.
So get a lawyer as SOON as possible and get a good one.
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