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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost six months, and he claims to still be a virgin.I don't know whether I can fully believe him or not because he has told me in the past that he has had sex before, but then one day he tells me that was all just to impress me.All of his friends promise me hes never had sex.But Im really unsure, I know it sounds horrible, but I just don't know what to believe.And he said he thinks im the right girl to lose his virginity to, which is really nice but when I have sex with him, Im going to be really unsure whether he's losing it to me or not.Does anyone have any advice for me PLEASE?Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I've lied to guys before about whether or not I was a virgin. I've told guys who were virgins that I was one too just to make them feel less self conscious or make them feel special. I've also told guys that I was just messing around with that I wasn't a virgin (when I was) as a way of saying "no I'm not prudish, I just don't want to sleep with YOU." From what you've stated, It sounds like your boy is telling the truth. You do need to ask yourself however, if it really means that much to you for him to be a virgin.
-Jmo
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Frankly, it is impossible to tell from just this.
Some people lie about having had sex because they want to impress somebody else. That is what he claims and it might well be true.
On the other hand, it is not unknown for guys to claim they are a virgin, using it as lie to get a girl to sleep with them. Hoping she will react the way you are "which is really nice".
So it could be either, you are the one who knows him best. Is he the type to lie about this in order to get sex?
The fact that you are asking here leads me to believe you have reasons to doubt him. Has he lied before, to you or to others, to get what he wants?
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reader, planepocket +, writes (29 January 2009):
At his age a lot of men will lie about having sex to impress their friends.He is probably telling you the truth because he trusts you.
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reader, carriebaby +, writes (29 January 2009):
 You have to believe your boyfriend when he tells you this private information. A lot of people pretend to their new gf/bf that they have had sex before because they think its easier to say that than to admit to being a virgin. You should be grateful that he thinks an awful lot of you to be able to trust you and tell you this.Being his first time lover, it will mean a lot to him and you too so just enjoy yourselves and have fun! Safe fun mind...Let me no how you get on..good luck
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