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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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My boyfriend is telling me my vagina is too wide, what should I do?
Q. my boyfriend told me that i have a wide vagina and theres no feeling for him when we have sex. what could be the problem?, and what can i do to fix it?...
A. 29 July 2008: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
All vagina's are wide, after all, they got to be to pass a baby.
But like your anus the vagina has a muscle around it and you can learn to control this.
The muscle can contract as thight as th... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is refusing to give me oral unless I shave, what do I do?
Q. My gf is refusing to give me a blow job unless i start shaving. what should i do? I'm also woried about accidentally cutting myself. Plz help me out....
A. 29 July 2008: Shave, you are male, it will be one of the less stupid thing you do for sex, trust me.
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21 and still a virgin. What can I expect for my first time?
Q. Hello, I'm a 21 year old female. I have recently gotten together with my first boyfriend, who is 23. We spent the night together last saturday but decided to stop and not to have sex just yet. I am a virgin, he is not. But i haven't told hi...
A. 29 July 2008: Depends, simple question.
What human organ enlarges to ten times its original size when excited?
If you are blushing, then disappointment.
(Answer, the Iris).... (read in full...)
My vibrator is making me feel uncomfortable when I get close to orgasm.
Q. I have not been masturbating for very long. (about two weeks and it is with a rabbit style vibrator) I come very close but I find the vibrating is too intense so I have to stop! I have not had an orgasm before. I would like to but when I get very ...
A. 29 July 2008: It is not unusual, the sensitivity of the clit changes, which is why the advice for good oral is to vary tactics and don't think you just dive in on the clit and stay there.
If it comes to much switch to indirect stimulation, rub your lips/hoo... (read in full...)
Is asking my boyfriend for oral sex unfair?
Q. I am a virgin, which my boyfriend knows, but we have had anal. There are a lot of reasons I don't want to have sex with him that I won't include here. But one thing is that he's small in that department (I can't imagine that I would honestly feel ...
A. 29 July 2008: o_O
Did Bill Clinton die and get reborn as a teen girl?
You got some weird ideas about sex.
No, it is not unfair. He gets his jollies but you don't get any.
Seems like a great guy, a real keeper. If he refuses oral then refuse anal.
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Where can you get married at 16 without parental consent?
Q. hey, well i needs some questions answered if you can help? well i need to know: were can you get married at the age of sixteen without you parents consent?...
A. 29 July 2008: At 18
Not just being flippant, if you are mature enough to get married you are mature enough to wait 2 years.
The fact you think you must get married NOW shows you are not yet mature enough to get married without your parents consent. What do... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't know I've never had an orgasm because I fake it!
Q. hi, well,eva since i started having sex,which is a long time now,i ve never had an orgasm,i mean never.am married with two kids and my husband doesnt know cos i fake it!!!i dont want to hurt his feelings!! i do have feelings though when i put my pi...
A. 29 July 2008: If you never had one, how do you know how to fake one?
When you grind a pillow like that you are putting pressure on your the top of your vulva, your clit. The can also be done during intercourse. Either with your or his hand or by him by taking a... (read in full...)
He always has to take over at some point during manual or oral stimulation and finish off the job himself - is this normal?
Q. Is it normal that I can't make my boyfriend cum by hand or oral? I can get him really really aroused but he always ends up finshing off himself by hand or by sex. I am pretty sure I'm doing it right, going fast etc, but I go for so long I just get ...
A. 29 July 2008: It ain't just about speed but about pressure.
If he lasts a long time he may have trained himself that way because it is a common belief that stamina is what counts the most in pleasing a woman. Wether this is correct or not is somehting you seem... (read in full...)
Why do tears come out during sex? Do men like it?
Q. During sex i cant help but my tears came out, what is the reason for that? is it because im over whelmed, happy or what? is man happy to see when their partner have a tears when they have sex?? please answerrrrrrrrrr...
A. 29 July 2008: The human body ain't all that complex, there are only so many nerves and many are used for multiple purposes.
For whatever reason your eyes start to water when excited, some people moan, others are silent and can't even talk, yet others go giggl... (read in full...)
Do Guys Really Just Need Time to Grow Up Sometimes, or Is This a Myth?
Q. Is it possible for a guy to just need time to mature, to get to the point where he's ready to be in a real relationship? Or is it the case that, if the right girl comes along, he'll be ready? I dated a guy for a long time. Eventually, we b...
A. 29 July 2008: Whose need? Is it your need that he matures or does he have a need to mature for himself?
Because from your post, you want him to mature for your sake. Unlikely to happen. After all, you aren't going to loosen up for his sake are you?
Women l... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the woman to pay for everything in a relationship?
Q. okay my boyfriend and i have been together for about three months and i just want to know if its normal for the woman to pay for almost everything. WAIT...i know what ur gonna say "hes a feeloader" "hes not worth it" But i love him with all of my ...
A. 29 July 2008: He is one of the best men you ever know because he has a job. His finances are a mess, doesn't ave a car and expects the woman to pay for everything.
I suppose it is important to remember that 'best' is relative. Everquest was once the best sel... (read in full...)
I feel like the man in the relationship. And I hate it!
Q. I have been married for two years. At first, my husband couldnt keep his hands off me, but then life changed. Reality if you like. Work, baby, health etc. I work in a high powered, stressful job. Out early. Get home very late. My husband got m...
A. 28 July 2008: As a man, THOUGH SHIT!
Basically you are saying that men should have the high stress job and barely get to see the kids while the women can stay at home, have a relaxed life and play with the kids.
Oh dear, feminism is having a dark day today. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend. Should I tell him?
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend, whom i have been going out with for 2 months. With someone that i kissed about a year ago, it was totally out of the blue and i really regret it now. Should i tell him or not ...?!...
A. 27 July 2008: Just a kiss? If it was just a kiss and you stopped it, then you didn't cheat on him. Not very nice but not something to get overly worked up about at your age.
It was you that ended the kiss right and stopped it from going any further?... (read in full...)
How can I do exercises to make myself tighter?
Q. i just have a question i was just wondering how can i do a kegel exercise you know to tighten my vagina muscles and can i become tighter inside my lips in my vagina on the inside you know the vagina part there isa lot of skin sagging i guess you ...
A. 27 July 2008: Kegel excersises are for the muscles that surround your vagina. They don't thighten skin.
Are you sure you are not talking about your labia? That is normal, they can stick out. Nothing you can do about it, just the way you are build.
http://... (read in full...)
I'm confused about giving oral sex. Are there guys who just don't like it, or haven't I got it quite right?
Q. Confused...for the last 10months ive been contemplating whether to give my boyfriend a blowjob or not...i was so unsure just because i was scared i would do it wrong...or incase he didnt like them cuz the subject never came up...and we are doing ...
A. 27 July 2008: Maybe he didn't want to cum in your mouth? If he didn't like it he wouldn't have been close to cuming.
And if he said "just continue" then didn't he mean continue the blowjob?... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend. Should I tell him?
Q. i cheated on my boyfriend, whom i have been going out with for 2 months. With someone that i kissed about a year ago, it was totally out of the blue and i really regret it now. Should i tell him or not ...?!...
A. 27 July 2008: If you don't tell him and he never finds out, you got to keep the lie for as long as you life.
If you don't tell him and he finds out, then you are not just a cheat but a liar as well. From that point on anything you say will be suspect.... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 27 July 2008: Perhaps I am just to much of a guy to understand. I like to think there is some sense in the world. That there is logic. If I do X and Y then Z happens.
As an outsider is just seems so often to be the case that the warning signs are clear. F... (read in full...)
My sister-n-law lost her baby at 5 months and won't talk to anyone! How can I help?
Q. My sister-in-law just got married in January and she got pregnant in February. She was so excited and 3 weeks ago she lost the baby. She was 5 months along and her water broke and the baby had tumors on his brain. They had to induce her, but the ...
A. 27 July 2008: Perhaps the hardest thing is that there is little you can do but be there for her. What are you going to say, that you understand? You don't.
The best support in these circumstances comes from others who have gone through the same thing. Find out... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 27 July 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-possible-to-make-yourself-like-someone.html
This story is hardly unusual for this site, people (men just don't post as much) just don't seem to be able to see straight when they are in heat. Oops sorry, l... (read in full...)
I'm ready but a little scared that he might not be "the one", should I give him my virginity or not?
Q. i was wondering.me and my b/f has been datin 4 7 mths and he dosnt rlly pressure me he has told me he wants to do it..im ready and i want to have sex with my b/f but im a lil scared tht he might not be the one should i give him my virginlatity or ...
A. 27 July 2008: If you want to, why not. If you feel you need to, no.
It is your choice and nobody elses.... (read in full...)
Why does he masturbate, when I am available at any moment?
Q. My boyfriend always masturbates and lies about it (because he knows it upsets me that he does it in the first place, but my question is.. why does he masturbate in the first place!? especially since i am ready and willing at any moment!! is it ...
A. 26 July 2008: No, whacking off is NOTHING like masturbating. That might be the entire problem.
When whacking off he never takes to long or comes to fast. The hardness of the erection doesn't matter, he doesn't need to keep his weight of anyone, or remember... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to ask him out. He's even more shy. Help!
Q. im too shy to ask out this boy. and he is even more shy than me! i waved to him before but hes so shy he didnt even wave back! im affraid if i go up and say hi he wont say anything back cause of his shyness. and how embaressing would that be! plz ...
A. 26 July 2008: Awh... so cute!
Sorry. Is there something natural you two do that you can do together?
Team up during a school project or something? So that you two have something neutral to talk about while being close together to help with the shyness?
... (read in full...)
Ugly girls don't make guys feel insecure? Is there any truth in that?
Q. Is this true what they say...as my friends said it last night, that a guy will only go out with ugly girls because he`s insecure, and he wont feel like that if she is ugly as no other guys will fancy her? Surley that ain't true....
A. 26 July 2008: If a person is very attractive others might well feel they are out of their league.
No point in going to that which you cannot obtain. When I go shopping for a car the Rolls Royce dealer doesn't get on the list because I know I can't afford i... (read in full...)
Should I give up on finding love and opt for casual sex?
Q. I am 25 and still a virgin. It is not something I am proud of anymore, in fact I find it to be frustrating and a total drag. All my life I tried to find someone special but did not succeed. My body is aching for sex, and I feel like I am missing ...
A. 26 July 2008: Well, couple of options.
Porn would pay for a 'real' virgin to loose it on tape. Just make sure you do it while the camera is rolling and not during the audition (yes, french porn star claimed she lost her virginity (including anal) during a... (read in full...)
His constant praise and putting me on a pedestal has killed my libido.
Q. i am in head over heels in love with my boyfriend of 1 year and i truly believe we will grow old together. the only problem is that he practically worships the ground that i walk on. (he has repeatedly said "i worship you" and other gushy ...
A. 26 July 2008: What is amusing is that a few posts away there is a woman complaining that he doesn't show enough affection. Maybe you two could meet up and swap?
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Is it possible to get withdrawal symptoms if you stop masturbating?
Q. i know you hear of people gettin withdrawal symptoms from smoking, drinking etc, but when its that one week out of the month and mastubating would be a REALLYY messy job so i prefer not to do it, i get realy snappy n stuff, and i get so horny its ...
A. 26 July 2008: No it is not.
Strictly speaking, withdrawal occurs when a drug the body has gotten used to and depends on to feel 'normal' is suddenly gone.
For instance smokers claim nicotine calms them down. It does, in small irregular doses. If you ho... (read in full...)
Why do men say they want real women if they fantasize and desire "fake" girls, if it's the ideal woman then they should want to be with them, right?
Q. Hello, I wrote this last night: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-hate-to-think-that-a-anorexic-fake.html Basically, I was saying that guys (and my boyfriend especially) say that women in the media and strip clubs are hotter than us normal gi...
A. 25 July 2008: Question to you, why do women say they want nice guys that respect them but date the assholes? Mmm?
If all men were the same there would be only one nudie-mag. Instead there are hundreds each catering to their market with its own tastes. Stop try... (read in full...)
How do you tell a telemarketer that you are interested in male enhancement issues, and find out if you both are bi?
Q. is it possible to convey to an email telemarketer that you would welcome further correspondence with them about male enhancement issues, and find out if you are both oriented toward a bi persuasion?...
A. 25 July 2008: Among techies it is commenly held that people who reply to spammers are the lowest form of life. You want to date one.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25840140
You want to date this?... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: It is not that I think he ain't doing it, just that he seems to do it so stupidly. What is so hard? Go to bathroom, lock door, turn on shower, take out panties, use them, put them back, take shower, unlock door. Nobody the wiser. No need to block ... (read in full...)
Are men programmed to lose interest in a woman after they've had sex?
Q. I,ve been flirting with a friend of mine for months and yesterday we finally had sex. Today I feel that i really could be in love with him, but i have this feelin that now hes finally got his shag i'll hardly see him - and before u say it the sex ...
A. 25 July 2008: Shouldn't you give him a bit of time to show what his intentions are? You seem to be condemning him when the bed is still warm.
I wouldn't say men loose interest, rather, they satisfied their interest. The intrest being to screw pretty much eve... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 25 July 2008: Some women go into a relationship thinking love conquers all. I got a pet theory that while men know they have feelings of lust and of love and that there is no relation between them, women think that the moment their panties catch on fire think ... (read in full...)
Can a man love his wife and keep outside affairs seperate, and be content and happy?
Q. I have been with my husband for 18 years, who never wanted to get married in the first place. He was and is a player ever since I had met him. When I gave him an ultimatum. he married me after dating for 10 years. Anyway, He had many affairs ...
A. 25 July 2008: 'withheld' simply means that the person calling you has turned caller-id off, it is either done as a privacy measure or for companies when the internal number the call is made from is not supposed to be the number people call.
By itself, it means... (read in full...)
Broke up with an abusive boyfriend - how do I get my life back?
Q. Hiya, Im 19 years old and I have just split up with my boyfriend today. I love him so much but he hits me he has left me with so many bruises and he has kicked me round the head today and pushed me off a tree. He has also been txting other girls, ...
A. 25 July 2008: You have been the victim of a very abusive relationship, not just physical abuse but emotional as well.
It reads as a classic abuse post, the only thing that stands out is that you are not making excuses for him or saying that you love him so m... (read in full...)
Why can't a 14 yearold date but not sleep with a 26 year old?
Q. I was just wondering something. You know how they say you shouldn't see anyone who's really older than you, like in a loving way? like say you're a teen who likes or thinks you're in love with someone say in their 20's or 30's. say you're like 14 ...
A. 25 July 2008: Stricly speaking, if you are pubescent (breast and hair growth, period) then is he a ephebophile NOT a pedophile. Common mistake but one that gets on my nerves.
Attraction to young girls is NORMAL, every male has it. This has been tested by showi... (read in full...)
He says he's not in the mood for sex but then goes and jerks off!?
Q. My bf and I just had an argument. and Well I dont quite understand him, I was hoping on advice. I told him last night that I wanted to get a shower to fool around. [ and We have this big shower, so theres room, or even a jacquzzi bath] ...
A. 25 July 2008: Spanking the monkey AIN'T having sex. Women seems unable to grasp this basic fact. Men jerk off as easily and with about the same complex thought patterns as blowing their nose.
It maybe as simple as that you gave him a hardon, he didn't feel lik... (read in full...)
I don't regularly have washes and I'm worried about how I would smell to a boyfriend.
Q. hi. this is embarrasing. but i dont regually have washes. once every two months if im lucky. and im worried if i get a boyfriend my area down below wont smell too good. if i start washing now everyday will it smell good if he was ever to go down ...
A. 25 July 2008: What do you mean by wash? Do you mean cleaning the inside of your vagina?
Because if you only wash your body (the outside) 6 times a year, ewh!
But if you mean clean the inside of your vagina, that should NOT be done under normal circumsta... (read in full...)
Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?
Q. Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...
A. 25 July 2008: What is his IQ?
While things are odd, he would have to be really stupid to be caught this easily.
Did he grow up with a mother, because any teen boy will have learned to hide the evidence of his 'activities'. Say that he did use you kids und... (read in full...)
My best friend calls me a "cradle robber" because I like a boy a year younger than me, but I need help to approach him.
Q. ok so i really REALLY like this boy ALOT! im 14 almost 15 and hes 13 almost 14. but im in 10th grade and hes in 8th. it was hard enough for me to tell my bff that i had fallen for him. but she is totally against it! she even calls me a kerd ...
A. 25 July 2008: Your best friend is a twit.
You can't rob the cradle when you are still in it.... (read in full...)
I feel woman aren't attracted to me, what can I do?
Q. Why do females look at me as if I am very ugly? I am a twenty one year old guy who has never had a girlfriend because of how I look. Every time I look at a female with a pleasant face, she would look at me with an 'as if' attitude or give me a dir...
A. 25 July 2008: 'This is makes me feel very angry with females I like and driving me insane.'
Oooh, I think I spotted your problem.... (read in full...)
I hate to think that anorexic, fake breasted whores are better than me! How do I stop being insecure?!
Q. I hate having to compete with media beauties. My boyfriend (23) admitted that the girls on TV are supposed to represent the fantasy of the ideal female. He says they're hotter than the average female because that's what they're paid for, the same as ...
A. 25 July 2008: Oh right, I forgot. Every male out there looks like a action movie star.
Every male has clear skin, wears make-up and has a hairdresser on standbye.
For that matter, all males can of course hold down a high paying job, pay for luxerious apartm... (read in full...)
Is there a differance between cumming and orgasm?
Q. Ok this may be a stupid question...but I just want to know is there a difference between cumin and havin and actual orgasm? If anyone can answer..thanx...
A. 24 July 2008: When you are cumming, you are having an orgasm.
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The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: There is a big difference between giving advice and how you behave in real life.
DearCupid: You should only attempt anal sex if you really want to and even then care must be taken to avoid injury.
Realife: Squeel piggy, squeel!
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