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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Is it because of rough sex that I'm getting sore after sex?
Q. So, my ex and I got back together about 3 weeks ago. Since I haven't been on birth control in a while, the first time we had sex I used the Plan B (Morning after pill), the following weekend we ended up using a condom and he morning afterwards I ...
A. 25 November 2008: Being sore after sex seems common enough, lets face it, an activity that involves punching something very big (leave a guy his delusions) and hard into soft tissue is bound to cause some grief.
But bleeding? That sounds more serious. Sore as in br... (read in full...)
I think my doctor took my virginity! Should I press charges?
Q. i think mydoctor took my virginity!i was a virgin and i went to the doctor for a pap spear and a swab exam.when I told the doctor to be gentle because i was a virgin his whole facial expression changed.he was going to fast.he didn't care if i was ...
A. 13 November 2008: I would definitly report him. There is no reason for the exam to hurt at all, and a young woman doesn't need an extensive exam at all. Pap smear is enough and there is indeed no reason for two fingers.
Pressing charges is risky, your word against ... (read in full...)
I like goth clothing, is goth believing in the devil?
Q. Hey, I'm a christian. I like goth clothing. Just the way they look, dress. Can I dress goth? Is goth believing in the devil. I want to know more about goth. Any advice?...
A. 13 November 2008: From personal observation it seems to believing that if you are overweight you should dress up as if you have consumption. Here is a hint, dark clothes and heavy somber make-up really need a certain type of body.
But no, it doesn't mean a believe ... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant from the sperm on his hands?
Q. im really paranoid, badly. my boyfriend and i started to have sex, he said he wanted to feel what it was like for a second without the condom, so i let him, and a few seconds he put his condom on, i made him stop half way, and he jerked off the rest ...
A. 13 November 2008: You get pregnant when a sperm comes into contact with your egg and manages to penetrate its outer lining.
It doesn't matter HOW this sperm and egg meet. All is needed is ONE sperm and ONE egg.
What are the changes? Low, but then, people pla... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a World of Warcraft addict!
Q. Basically my boyfriend is a world of warcraft addict i'm sure of it! The next expansion has come out today and he's getting it this afternoon. I've been told hes leveling with a friend for two weeks. :( This really isn't good! How do I make him see ...
A. 13 November 2008: Dress up as a night elf.
Life is only a game. See the game instead as a hobby, another thing women are known to be able to understand.
Party it is the age old battle of the sexes. The same women who keep track of every bit of celebrity and ho... (read in full...)
What do you buy a guy who you like as a gift without it getting awkward?
Q. what kind of birthday gift do you get a guy friend,who you are madly in love with, but don't want to make things awkward? He's into working out, being active, six flags, math, and (i know you'll laugh) he's a male cheerleader, a damn good one i ...
A. 13 November 2008: Giftcard... oh boy. Every woman and every wel trained circus monkey, sorry married/committed male, will roll their eyes at this.
Giftcards are a perfect way of saying "couldn't give a shit but had to do something". They are fine for say a temp emp... (read in full...)
Whose surname should my new baby have?
Q. Heya everyone =) Ok, well I've just had a beautiful baby boy, we got home from the hospital yesterday. I'm finding things hard but he is definitely worth it... I love him so much. Me and the father are no longer together (His choice, not mine...
A. 12 November 2008: Yours, if he wants a child to have his name then it is simple, marry the mother.
He is on an ego trip, nothing more nothing less. Do not take wanting the bragging rights of having a kid named after him with wanting to be a father.
Furthermore, ... (read in full...)
Does a low sperm count mean he can't have kids?
Q. if a guy is told he has low sperm count does that mean he can't have kids full stop or does it mean that there are ways that he can but not naturally?...
A. 12 November 2008: Getting pregnant is a crap shoot, while millions of sperms are involved the method for them getting to the egg is to say the least a little bit akward. Most never make it. The fewer there are to begin with, the less the odds of it being done by ... (read in full...)
I'm fat, right?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old. I'm 6 ft tall and weigh 98 kilograms. I'm F A T, right?...
A. 10 November 2008: 98 kilograms = 216.053017 pounds
You can always ask google, "98 kilo in pounds"
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Anal Sex without lube
Q. Hi. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex without lube. I'm fine with this (I'm aware that it will hurt badly, and I'm ok with that), but we need to know if it is possible without seriously damaging me. I've never had anal sex before, let alone ...
A. 7 November 2008: It depends, how big is he, how small are you, now fragile is the skin etc etc.
Yes, it is possible to have anal sex without lube without to much damage but you got to remember that pain is a warning.
If you never even tried anal play before... (read in full...)
After 7 years of marriage, I find out she's been with over 100 men!
Q. Last year after 7 years of marriage I overheard my wife saying that she lost count after 100!!! And this was between the ages of 12-18. While I knew she had been with alot, I had asked her when we had gotten serious dating and said 20? 30? her ...
A. 6 November 2008: I think it is fair to say she was having emotional troubles in her youth that led her to this behavior. As said, having sex with your boyfriends friend because it is his birthday and he asked, well. That is not exactly what a normal person would ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys only want girls for sex?
Q. Do they not know that girls are PEOPLE and not THINGS? What causes them to be like this? Is it in their genes?...
A. 6 November 2008: Frankly? Because women allow it.
If you fall for the most idiotic lines, for guys that you been warned about by everyone then what do you expect?
You have to understand one simple thing in this life. You do NOT got a say how someone else wan... (read in full...)
Trying to get over this breakup and a miscarriage. Please help!
Q. Im completely at my wits end. At this point I could really use some serious advice. I posted a question earlier about whether or not my ex would come back to me after I let him go to sort his feelings out. It was under 'now that ive let him go will ...
A. 6 November 2008: While it might sound harsher then it is meant to, from your post it sounds like you believe love can be bargained.
In exchange for loving you, you love me. In exchange for my virginity, you never leave. If I give you a child we will have a family... (read in full...)
Men over 40: do men loose their sex drive after 40?
Q. This question to men over40...I really need to know how common is that,, that man loses his sex drive over 40? I'm so confused because I know many older ,60 and up guys who are chasing after woman and yet I keep hearing about andropause what hap...
A. 6 November 2008: If there is a myth then it is the common one that you can put a single label on an entire group.
Not all men are the same.
Sex drive is a combination of factors, personality, health, social circumstances etc etc.
Some men might loose ... (read in full...)
He's too immature for me, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a dilemma, I've recently started seeing a guy who is 4 years younger than me (he's 21 and I'm 25). Although I don't mind the age gap I'm just finding him a little immature and I don't know whether I should continue seeing him and ...
A. 31 October 2008: The poster blow says men act two years younger then their age. This is true. For two year old boys. As boys grow up, the gap increases, roughly 1 year for every birthday.
There is a reason most age gaps have the guy being older. ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to make a sex tape!
Q. My husband (for 3 years) wants us to make a sex tape for his birthday (hes turning 28). We have no kids yet (we're still talking about it). I told him to dream on. I dont want to get out and then everyone will i'm a slut. He promise he'll get a safe ...
A. 31 October 2008: The risk is simple, if the tape gets out, it might very well end up on the internet and voila, the entire world can see you in the bedroom.
Sure, the world is more intrested in Paris Hilton then your bedroom antics but do you really want to risk ... (read in full...)
It seems that all the guys round me want the dumb, loud, big-chested girls and I get over-looked...
Q. Hi. I'm 15, female. I think I'm an average looking girl, not UGLY but not exactly beautiful either. Lots of folk tell me I'm funny, got a good sense of humour, that kind of stuff. I reckon I'm quite a nice person and pretty smart [without meaning to ...
A. 25 October 2008: Have you ever asked a guy out? Approached him, tried to find an opening, opened yourself up with all the risk of being rejected in the most humiliating way right in front of all your friends?
No? Well, that is what you are asking a boy to do. Not ... (read in full...)
Where can a single parent find a job where they don't get ripped off?!
Q. I've taken this job that was advertised in the job centre as 15-20 hours a week. Minimum wage of £5.73 per hour. So i take it, after being on Income Support for the last 8 yrs. 16 hours is what it takes to be able to claim tax credits. Im a single ...
A. 25 October 2008: There are a LOT of jobs like that, the EU is sliding towards the american system without taxes getting any lower. So we get high taxes and low wages. Yippee! Long life new labour and its various variants on the main land. (Don't get me started on ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my boyfriend (we are both going through divorce) but why do I risk losing him for casual sex with others??
Q. What am I doing??? My husband and I are going through a divorce. It will be final in about 2 weeks. We have been seperated for about 5 months. For the first 3 months I begged and begged him to come home. We were very back and forth. I did go out ...
A. 25 October 2008: Perhaps you just ain't ready for a comitted relationship? Why are you getting divorced? Odd that you don't mention a reason. Why does your husband not want you anymore? Or is it you that started proceedings and changed your mind?
It is tricky t... (read in full...)
I slapped him and he left me! What can I do?
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for more than 3 years. For the period of time we lived together I am always the one initiate sex. I'm always hurt when he postoned to make love to me, coz he is always busy playing cards or playing with his Xbox. I know he ...
A. 20 October 2008: Using violence is of course never right. If you were the one who preffered to game rather then have sex with him, would it have been OK for him to hit you? No.
On the other hand, you heard his answer, he prefers his gaming over sex with you. We ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents about being sexually abused when I was younger?
Q. I was sexually abused when I was younger (I think between 5 and 8). I think it stopped when I was 8 because we moved to a differnt county. Anyway, I'm 17 now and I know I need some help. Ii never told anyone, I hate thinking about it and I don't ...
A. 18 October 2008: There are support groups especially for these kind of situations. Survivors of child sexual abuse. Telling your relatives, a partner is always hard because deep down you feel ashamed, perhaps even thinking that somehow you were to blame.
I sug... (read in full...)
I don't want her little sister to live with her as I don't like kids!
Q. My girlfriend's sister (who's 5) was being abuse by her parents. To cut a long story short, child services called her asking if she wanted to be her guardian, or she'll be in foster care. She told me she doesn't want her sister to live with brun...
A. 18 October 2008: Not getting much sympathy so far and I am not going to give it either.
You want a child of 5 to go into a home after being abused because you don't like kids.
My advice to her is to dump you yesterday and my advice to you is crawl back under... (read in full...)
Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the perfect model type in most porn?
Q. Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the model perfect type in most porn. I mean do they really prefer a mommy body with scars and sags (not overweight)as they say, over the scarless pre baby bodies on playboy and ...
A. 18 October 2008: The truth? Of course we want a super model over some middle aged woman not so much going down hill as in free fall but that is not the right thing to say. It upsets the mother of your kids and it is not like super-models are there for all of us.
... (read in full...)
Why do I feel the need to be a mother at only 17? I'm aware of all implications of teenage pregnancy!
Q. Since I was a little girl i've been very motherly, I take care of everbody and I developed my period among other things quite early (10 ish) My dilemma is that lately I have been wanting to get pregnant. I'm aware this isn't normal considering i'm ...
A. 18 October 2008: Perhaps you are not satisfied with your life as it is now. Do you think that having a baby is going to improve your happiness? Make things better, fill a void you might feeling?
Perhaps you think it is going to make you an adult, no longer a... (read in full...)
I got my revenge on the other woman, and I didn't have to do anything!
Q. My hubby had an affair, I found out and caused hell on earth for him, asked for a divorce, even got the papers drawn up, did the whole counselling thing, he got such a shock finding out that I was not going to tolerate his nonsense. He gave up his ...
A. 16 October 2008: Congrats, you won. Your prize, a lying cheating husband.
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Should I give him another chance? I found texts to his ex begging her to come back!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been dating a man that when we first started dating still had feelings for his ex of 5 years, they have 2 young children together and have been broken up for 2 years He at the time said he did want to get back with her and is ...
A. 15 October 2008: He figured, "why not give it a try". That shows just how much he cares about you.
It don't matter if he gets over her or not, he has shown how easily he got over you. No matter what happens between him and his ex, you are NOT that importan... (read in full...)
I've been dating a very busy, self centred guy, how to take it to the next level?
Q. hello all I have been dating for the last 6 months a man, 56 year old (I am 32 years), never been married, who works in the finance sector, which means non stop travelling and intense work pressure He's an old school guy, not very demonstrati...
A. 11 October 2008: "i would like to have somebody to push my wheelchair", which i translated as "i ve lived to fight all my life, but now, i have to do something else and i m afraid to finish alone"
Okay, lets ask you a question. WHAT DO YOU WANT OUT OF YOUR LIF... (read in full...)
Lets say orgasm on your own then you bleed, is there any chances that you can't give birth or are you considered as not virgin anymore?
Q. I just want to ask if you have been doing something... lets say orgasm on your own then you bleed, is there any chances that you can't give birth or are you considered as not virgin anymore... cause' i'm enjoying rubbing my clitoris and ins...
A. 11 October 2008: What probably happened is that you tore part of your hymen. It is a small stretch of skin at the entrance to your vagina. It varies greatly from woman to woman and normal everyday activity can break it if it is even there to begin with. Other women ... (read in full...)
Do women have morals?
Q. I had a Japanese friend who once joked that 'women have no morals!' I can't remember what we were talking about but, having read a lot of forums, here and elsewhere, this is what seems apparent:- Men, when considering cheating on their partne...
A. 9 October 2008: It is just different justification for their actions.
Since you admit both consider cheating and both of course cheat they are the same.
Of course women reason different then men but since the result is the same they really can't be that di... (read in full...)
Is cheating still bad if my bf wont find out?
Q. i love my boyfriend but i want more. he can be quite shy when it comes to even leg touching and he says he wants to kiss me but he always chickens out, and we ave had PLENTY of opportunitites! but there is this guy i like who is prepared to go all t...
A. 7 October 2008: Is murder still bad if the police doesn't catch you?... (read in full...)
How can I stretch my vagina in preparation for sex?
Q. My boyrfriend of a year and half are planning on having sex within the next two months. i was wondering how i can possibly stretch my vagina out as it is quite tight. yes, we will be using a condom....
A. 7 October 2008: It is supposed to be. Just how big do you think penisses are anyway?... (read in full...)
I need some guys opinions...would you guys care if a girl had scars on her breasts from reduction surgery?
Q. A few years back I had a breast reduction surgery...and while I am more comfortable in my clothes I must say that I'm not so comfortable outside my clothes...the surgery has left me with scars and one of my nipples is a different shape than the ...
A. 7 October 2008: Most women have uneven breasts. The likes of playboy disguise this by not photographing women with uneven breasts directly from the front so it isn't that noticable.
Nipples also vary in size, how much, well that depends. Women who are not happ... (read in full...)
Pains in my chest! Why is that?
Q. im now 16years old and im a girl i had a heart operation when i was 15 i fownd out in ur 9 going up to year 10 i had a hole in my heart i still get pains in my chest is it cos my boobs are still growing or cos i had the operation ...
A. 4 October 2008: Considering your history, everyone is giving the right advice, go to a doctor. ... (read in full...)
Who was wrong????
Q. Okay at work and this manager from another company not my own comes up out of no where and started yelling, cursing, and at one point stuck his shoulder in my chest when we were face to face. Not only did this manger harass me to do a job that ...
A. 3 October 2008: Get a lawyer and sue for wrongful dismissal straight away. Make it really clear he made physical contact first.
If there are unions in your area, get them involved.
Do this NOW, don't waste a second. In these case the answer is ALWAYS, get a la... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hurt his back muscle slightly 2 months ago and ever since then he has not been able to orgasm during sex.
Q. My boyfriend hurt his back muscle slightly 2 months ago and ever since then he has not been able to orgasm during sex. I am very confused by this because usually his back only starts to hurt after more than 20 minutes of sex but there have been ...
A. 3 October 2008: How serious is his back injury?
A broken spine will SERIOUSLY interrupt his capacity to orgasm, the orgasm happens in the brain after all, so if something is interrupting the communication between the penis and the brain.
All it needs is the ... (read in full...)
I dared him to put my penis in his mouth. He did. How do I pretend it didn't happen?
Q. I hope this really is annonomous. I can't believe that I'm even writing this. I have a really close friend, OK, my best friend named Tony. I've been married a little over 5 years, and been best friends with Tony for about 3 years. We are very close ...
A. 3 October 2008: DiovanLestat is right, men do the strangest thing. One thing we don't do is touch each other.
It might be trivial to get girls to kiss each other and make out. Men don't. Absolutely NOT. The phobia about being gay is just to strong in society.... (read in full...)
We had sex. Will he think I'm too fast?
Q. I met this guy over the internet and we started emailing on a Wednesday. We had a lunch date that Friday and liked each other, so we decided to have a happy hour that same day. We kissed after the happy hour. Then I saw the guy Saturday, Sunday and ...
A. 3 October 2008: Well, it is whirlwind romance but lets see, that is sex on the 5th date? Hardly that fast.
Granted, in time it is quick, but not in number of dates.
Anyway, if you are too fast, isn't he as well? He had sex with you in a week as well. Double ... (read in full...)
I engage in sex with men I don't love, because I want to feel loved but they treat me like garbage instead! What's wrong with me?
Q. iam verry clingy...i dont know whats wrong with me iam scared to be by myself, i take a lot of crap form guys...i still talk to my ex and even mess with him from time to time after he hurt me so much....stupid huh....i even have this stupid relation ...
A. 3 October 2008: Attention != love. If you love someone, you give them attention. You confuse however that if somebody gives you attention, that must mean they love you. This is not true, as you are realizing. The attention you get during sex is not love.
We al... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that my boobs are an ok size?
Q. My boyfriend always seemed to like my body. But he was very critical yesterday. There are things I can change, but there's one that I can't: my breasts. Full B's. But he says he'd prefer they were bigger. He says I look good anyway, but if they were ...
A. 3 October 2008: Shrug, make similar comments about his penis size. That you wished it was bigger. That it is enough, but if it was longer/thicker it would be better. That you know some guys with bigger penisses.
See how he likes it.
Be careful, he migh... (read in full...)
My husband acts like I cheated when I didn't! How do I get him to stop pushing me away?
Q. I've been with my husband for 17 years and married for 15. During our relationship I have always been honest and faithful and gone through a lot with him. In the past, he has given me many reasons not to trust him but still, I stayed and moved on. ...
A. 1 October 2008: The next is the absolute truth, I swear it. I am the queen of england.
I am a 37 year old male.
The first is a lie, the second is not. BUT after the first lie, why would you trust me the second time?
That is the problem with cheating (a... (read in full...)
How can I cover up the bruises and scratches I got from my boyfriend?
Q. How can i cover these bruises i got from my boyfriend and the scratches on my wrists that i did to myself because of him hurting me? They are fresh and just done today. Before u judge me about hurting myself. Its because my whole life from six years ...
A. 1 October 2008: You need to seek proffesional help, hurting yourself is very bad because it doesn't stop on its own and will only get worse.
Being with someone who makes you feel like hurting yourself is not the right thing to do. Being alone might be hard but... (read in full...)
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