Should I assume she wants to equalize the treats?
Q. I just got rejected because the girl happened to have a boyfriend and all... We decided to meet up for coffee but then she asked me if I want to do dinner instead. The last dinner we had, it was on me so I am assuming she wants to equalize the ...
A. 17 January 2010: what sort of weird game is she playing? I agree with older sister, thank her for the invitations, wish her all the best for the future and walk.... (read in full...)
What is your definition of respect?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who calls me the C word often for "acting like one". He feels this acceptable, am I missing something here? Men please describe your level of respect for and what kind of person fits the label? Ladies please let ...
A. 17 January 2010: I am just a little older than your listed age, and I would probably ask him once to stop calling me that, and if he didnt I would simply walk.
I don't need that sort of crap in my life, and I don't see myself as having the time to sit around h... (read in full...)
I've been 2 years now with my best friend's ex but now she's started to like him again... help!
Q. my best friend went out with a guy for like 2 weeks and they broke up. about 3 months later he asked me out and i realy liked him so i asked my best friend if she was ok with it and she said yes. We have been dating for almost 2 years now and i ...
A. 17 January 2010: I tend to agree with caring guy, but don't mention that to her, as she will deny it and try harder to take him away.
Next time she starts talking about him ask her what her interest is, let her know that her flirting with him is not what friends ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and really ready for a baby... got money and stuff, what do you think?
Q. hi, i am 14 and want a baby..ive cared for babys all of mii life n have the money for it...i kno a baby is alot of work and its all about the baby and u come last..but i dont care.. i wanna have a baby to love me and share their feelings wit me n ...
A. 16 January 2010: If your parents are rich why not ask them if they will pay for some English lessons.... (read in full...)
I told a girl I loved her, and she said she has feelings for her ex
Q. i told a girl i loved her n her reply was "oh rite" the following day she told me still has feelings for her ex but she cant go with him..... was i right to till her to stay out my life forever?...
A. 16 January 2010: hey, you approached her and told her you loved her, she did the right thing and gave your statement some thought, and then she let you know she doesnt feel the same about you.
Then you told her to stay out of your life
FOREVER?
S... (read in full...)
She has told me what she did with her ex and I think it makes her look easy
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months now and i love her but she dated my friend a little before me and her but that's ok I know about that all along that's not a big deal. What I just found out is that thay started dating the last week of ...
A. 16 January 2010: well, for me your question raises other questions, and I find there are too many grey areas to be able to say she is or isnt a slut or a decent girl.
Why was this girl telling you what she did with an ex boyfriend, did you ask her about her prev... (read in full...)
I am 14 and really ready for a baby... got money and stuff, what do you think?
Q. hi, i am 14 and want a baby..ive cared for babys all of mii life n have the money for it...i kno a baby is alot of work and its all about the baby and u come last..but i dont care.. i wanna have a baby to love me and share their feelings wit me n ...
A. 15 January 2010: your language doesnt indicate that you have a cool $250,000 laying around to raise your child to adulthood. That amount is what the US Dept Agriculture calcuated the cost to be in 2001. And that is for a lower income single parent family.
Of co... (read in full...)
Tough Relationship Problems
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and hes always wanted to be with another girl from his past while dating me.. i dont want to lose him so i let him be with us both but now im sick but i wont admit to being upset or he will get mad ...
A. 15 January 2010: sweetheart, you have to decide what you want for your life, and your son's, to always be second best, what if you live for the next 60 years, 60 years of feeling sick like you do now. Even another 12 months of feeling sick is 12 months too many!
... (read in full...)
HAVEN'T HEARD FROM THIS GUY IN A WEEK... WHAT SHOULD I DO ??
Q. Me and this guy met online and we have been talking/texting to each other for over two months. Everything was amazing we have so much in common like our birthdays are on the same day,we listen to a lot of the same music and think very alike and ...
A. 15 January 2010: ooooo
seems he has decided that you two are not meant for each other afterall, and he is too gutless to front up and say it.
I can understand your wanting to give him a piece of you mind but really, the best way to deal with him would be to ... (read in full...)
Which man should I Choose?
Q. I am a 34 year old woman recently separated from my husband aged 37. We have 3 children together and we have been married for 14 years. We love each other but he has cheated on me several times so I kicked him out. Everytime I have caught him he ...
A. 15 January 2010: why do you have to chose, why not decide to be on your own while you sort your life out and finish raising your kids?
Not having a man doesnt make you any less a woman.
What if this 60 drops dead of a heart attack tomorrow, it can happen to mi... (read in full...)
He's cheating and want to continue in that lifestyle!
Q. well my name is kee kee and me and my kids father been together for eight years and its like its not there no more becouse through out our eight years he has cheated and i think he really has a promblem but he also has a controlling promblem i dnt ...
A. 15 January 2010: Have you got a plan in place for leaving? I understand how frustrating it can be, its as if you are beating your head against a brick wall, but you know deep in your heart he is not going to change, and if you stay there you will just shrivel up ... (read in full...)
Family feud over wedding. Please help
Q. Hi there, I have a problem (again) I became engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years in october just gone and have been on cloud 9 up to christmas. When I was 9 I was adopted and my mum has a brother who has two children a boy and girl (tha...
A. 15 January 2010: hah! families, and their best sides seem to come out around about Christmas time.
There are two issues here, one being your upcoming wedding, the other your family, for better or worse.
Stop trying to heal the breach - I am going to assume ... (read in full...)
I always have a smart comeback, but what do I say if others have a comeback for my comeback?
Q. i was wondering, i always have a smart comback like if someone says bite me id say i dont want any kinda of disease, or if someone says what are you looking at id say, i dunno tell you when i find out, things like that, but just as ofter as i...
A. 15 January 2010: Why bother with the smart comebacks, why not try being affable for a change?... (read in full...)
Two boys, my mother says this one, my father says that one, who to choose
Q. Well, there are two boys, who are both really close friends of mine, that really like me. Boy #1 is sweet, nice, kinda cute, and is nice to my family. The only problem is that he likes two other girls too, and tries to be a ladies man a lot. Then ...
A. 15 January 2010: why chose either? Who says you have to chose one? Why not be just friends with both of them? ... (read in full...)
I tried to help a victim of violence but she's left and I don't know where she is
Q. I need some advice. I met this random girl one day i saw her walking down the other side of the street and i called to her and told her she was cute and she stopped, so i went over and started talking to her, but when i got close i could tell she...
A. 15 January 2010: Contact the police and tell them exactly what you have written here, they may be able to keep a look out for her and ensure she receives the assistance she needs.... (read in full...)
Is my present really that insulting?
Q. So my friend is getting married soon and I decided to make her a couple of soft toys as part of her wedding present (I've become quite good at soft toy making). I had a look through my pattern books and saw this really cute elephant pattern I just ...
A. 13 January 2010: They are your friends, not your sisters, I am sure you would know better what they would like, I say continue with the elephant bridal couple... (read in full...)
Will using a condom keep me a virgin?
Q. Ok here's another question for all of you wouldn't having sex for the first time with a condom on keep me a virgin? lol and plz read the question before answearing it ...
A. 13 January 2010: no, wearing a condom whilst having sex would not make you a virgin... (read in full...)
He loves me but hes not going to leave the other girl
Q. I found out that my man is seeing someone. When i asked he said he love me although he is not going to live his gal friend. What should i do....
A. 12 January 2010: Slam the door in his face, and never open it to him again... (read in full...)
I don't like kids and now I have one!
Q. I have a toddler daughter. I love her very much. But im going to b honest: i dont like kids, n now that i have 1, im still adjusting to the whole thing. I feel so awkward playing with her n trying to talk to her on a toddler level. Even my family ...
A. 12 January 2010: I agree that lots of cuddles are very important, also read to her, even if you can only manage it at bedtime, join the library, they may also have free activities you can join in with, see if you have a playgroup nearby, these are very cheap to ... (read in full...)
Father Left Me With Emotional Damage..what to do??
Q. hello(: im 16 and i just have a few questions about fathers. to start off with, my father left me when i was born and i have only seen him once when i was about 5 and since then have spoken a word to him. sometimes i feel like he completly ruied ...
A. 12 January 2010: Okay, my daughter's father left when she was four, and as far as his fathering skills go, he sux big time.
The first thing you need to do is accept that your father isnt very good at the job of fathering. Whatever you need from your father y... (read in full...)
He's on his way, should I be worried?
Q. Okay so I just joined up wondering if I could get some advice. Me and a guy I've been talking to for about 6-7 years on the internet have recently become more... involved I guess you'd say. We've never done anything like cyber or all that jazz but ...
A. 12 January 2010: It might work, I know of two couples who met over the internet, married, and at least 7 years down the track are still as happy and the proverbial pigs in muck.
I know another who married and it ended in disaster. I know some who met and never go... (read in full...)
When does the crappy feeling go away?
Q. I feel so awful! I met with my soon-to be "ex" husband to discuss me filing for divorce. We've been separated for a few years and I guess he thought we'd get back together. So I gave him the opportunity have closure and talk everything through one ...
A. 12 January 2010: its normal to feel crappy, but as time moves on the crappiness will be interspersed with good feelings and eventually the crappy bits will be moments and the good feelings weeks and months.
Just hang in there, dont let his man's manipula... (read in full...)
Best way to dump a sensitive long distance boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Recently I figured I really need to break up with my boyfriend. We've been in a long distance relationship from the start, and although I've been able to handle it quite well so far, lately it's really been getting into me. We have been t...
A. 9 January 2010: whatever and however you break up with this man he will be hurt and there is no right or wrong way to do it, just do it sooner rather than later, be honest without being hurtful, just let him know that your feelings have changed and that you wish ... (read in full...)
Whom to choose: the one I'm with or the one I want
Q. I'm with this guy who is 25 and we have been together for 4 years now. But there was this 20ish guy at college who i fancied but he didnt fancy me, he just didnt seeem interested, he always had girfriends who where on and off and after college i ...
A. 25 December 2009: I still dont get it, your age is listed between 22 and 25, your current boyfriend and you have been together for 4 years, you dont say the KIDS, plural, are his, which means you had kids very early, and he must have been around for much of their ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me wear very revealing outfits all the time, is this right? If not how can I make him stop this?
Q. My boyfriend insists on me wearing very skimpy clothing even in the winter time. I live in Toledo, so it is cold down here! He has made me wear very short skirts and dresses, with little boots,it does look cute but not for every place we go. I am in ...
A. 24 December 2009: your question sounds like a whole lot of hogwash to me... (read in full...)
Whom to choose: the one I'm with or the one I want
Q. I'm with this guy who is 25 and we have been together for 4 years now. But there was this 20ish guy at college who i fancied but he didnt fancy me, he just didnt seeem interested, he always had girfriends who where on and off and after college i ...
A. 24 December 2009: whose kids are these guys both great with? Yours or somebody elses?
... (read in full...)
He's married but we love each other, what should I do?
Q. Ive just recently started a new job. Me and the manager being very close he knows everything about me and my history of abuse and current abusive situation with my family. It was agreed during holidays i would come work for him to get some extra ...
A. 24 December 2009: Read My Lips:
It is highly unlikely that this man will leave his wife for you, and if it looks like you are not prepared to hush when his wife rings you will be Dumped with a capital "D".
Do yourself a favour,and have nothing more to do with ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a 50 year old man and my parents don't understand.
Q. need your advice. my parents have recently found out that i'm going out with a 50 yr old (and have been for a year). i love him dearly and can't imagine life without him by my side. my parents are devastated, the last thing i want to do was hurt ...
A. 24 December 2009: He is older than your parents and you cant comprehend why they are a little peeved? Sure it might work but consider this, when you are 30 he is going to be 60 and when you hit your peak at 40 he is going to be a doddering old man -- wotcha gunna do ... (read in full...)
Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?
Q. i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...
A. 23 December 2009: It all sounds like a big sorry mess, I agree that you should confront them, with your witness by your side. I agree with Griffo your sister seems to have scant regard for your feelings and marriage in all this.
The marriage can probably be saved... (read in full...)
My husband says he watches porn because I don't look the same after having kids. Should I leave?
Q. I am thinking of leaving my husband, is this too extreme? When we met I made it very clear to him that I'm not intereted in being with someone who uses porn. I find it insulting and disrespectful. At the time he said this is fine as he is not inte...
A. 23 December 2009: I think his comments are insulting and disrespectful. I dont know if it would be a deal breaker for me, but I would surely be finding some way to let him know how I feel, I know if somebody who was supposed to love me said he didnt like my body I ... (read in full...)
He wants boob pics, but I don't want to give him any..?
Q. My boyfriend keeps asking me to give him a picture of my chest to him. I keep saying that i dont want to because i feel he might eventually might use it against me one day. I really love him and he is just really persistent! How can i stay with him ...
A. 23 December 2009: you cant! Either he accepts your NO or he will remain persistent.
His behaviour shows a lack of respect for you, he may not accept your answer and you may have to decide to walk away, dignity intact.... (read in full...)
I asked him if he was gay and he stopped talking to me
Q. ok so here is my problem... so was in a realationship for 7 months... i actually had real feelings for this guy... we stopped talkin on my birthday in nov.. cause i heard that he was gay.. when i asked him about he told me he wasnt gay and that i ...
A. 22 December 2009: maybe you hurt his feelings because, even though you were in a relationship with him, you thought he might be gay.
For a straight guy, especially a young one, to be asked by his g'f if he was gay would be a bit of an insult, as in he may be havin... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a boring relationship?
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and I'm starting to get bored with our relationship! He NEVER leaves the house not even to go to our friends which live across the street. He thinks that you need money to do ...
A. 21 December 2009: leave again, and when he comes begging for you to take him back ask him what for, ask him what he thinks he adds to your life, and just keep walking... (read in full...)
Why does she try and make me jealous?
Q. This may not seem too much of a big deal but it really annoys me as it happens all the time! Well my 'best mate' knows about almost every boy iv been out with. I tell her first if a boy says he likes me or if im going out with someone. If me a...
A. 20 December 2009: What you should do is recognise the fact she isn't really your mate. Don't tell her which guys you like, don't tell her who you go out with, and just to teach her a bit of a lesson, block her for a few days on facebook.
Then find some new frie... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a boring relationship?
Q. Dear cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and I'm starting to get bored with our relationship! He NEVER leaves the house not even to go to our friends which live across the street. He thinks that you need money to do ...
A. 20 December 2009: Wow, and your ID lists your age as young still, so pick up your feet and walk on out the door, do those things that don't cost money, get out there and start living your life, and while you are at it you might meet somebody is prepared to live a ... (read in full...)
My friends wont take my advice and its starting to make me angry!
Q. Ok. I've spent the last 3 years helping my friends when they have a problem, reasuring them and making them smile. I try my best. And when I'm upset I hope for someone to be there for me aswell. Lately all my friends are going through a hard time, ...
A. 20 December 2009: I hate to say this but here goes anyway "GOOD GIRL!"... (read in full...)
I have some problems with a housemate!
Q. Dear Cupid, I did a favor to my cousin and helped a woman he knows when she was in the town where I live. Until she gets situated, or her so boyfriend that she is madley in love with returns from overseas. she is living in my Apt, paying symb...
A. 19 December 2009: I have been in a similar situation, its time the friend moved on out, give her a date, two weeks should be sufficient, practice your speech something along the lines of "I have been happy to help you out but I am finding myself getting resentful ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend greets his friends first I think he should come to me first
Q. in the morning i come to the place were my boyfriend stands but i get there before him so i talk to any of my friends that are there too. when he comes he goes to his friends first sometimes and then goes to me and my friend who is with me goes go ...
A. 19 December 2009: But you arent always going to him, you stand there with your friends, he comes, he says hello to his friends, sometimes your friend goes and says hello to him and then he comes to you.
Whats wrong with you going to him when you first see him appe... (read in full...)
My friends wont take my advice and its starting to make me angry!
Q. Ok. I've spent the last 3 years helping my friends when they have a problem, reasuring them and making them smile. I try my best. And when I'm upset I hope for someone to be there for me aswell. Lately all my friends are going through a hard time, ...
A. 19 December 2009: Okay, with your friend who is being "groomed" online, either tell her parents or a teacher or the police, let an adult sort it, its not something a 14 year old should be having to deal with.
As for the girl with the jerk, you have said your pie... (read in full...)
B/f's parents are WAY TOO overprotective! How do we deal with this?
Q. So, here's the deal. My boyfriend's parents are way too overprotective. So much it drives me and him crazy. He's going to turn 19 in a couple of months, and yet they don't let him stay out longer than 12 am. We went to a party once and everyon...
A. 19 December 2009: ah, well, its not as if he doesnt have a choice is it? He can live under their roof, with them supporting him and paying for his university studeies, and I assume his undies and his toothpaste and everyother thing a person uses, or he can quit ... (read in full...)
Should I knock on his door or just leave well enough alone?
Q. Ok, hi everyone, im kinda really wanting to do this but not sure if its going 2 work or not, I was kinda seeing this guy and we stoped talking, he didnt reply 2 any of my text messeges or answer tho phone to me, But my problam is i cant stop t...
A. 19 December 2009: awww, its horrid to be left dangling, not knowing whats going on. But if he is ignoring your texts and phone calls that he doesnt want to be in touch with you.
Put it down to a bad experience and walk away, have a few drinks but dont knock on... (read in full...)
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