Should I knock on his door or just leave well enough alone?
Q. Ok, hi everyone, im kinda really wanting to do this but not sure if its going 2 work or not, I was kinda seeing this guy and we stoped talking, he didnt reply 2 any of my text messeges or answer tho phone to me, But my problam is i cant stop t...
A. 19 December 2009: awww, its horrid to be left dangling, not knowing whats going on. But if he is ignoring your texts and phone calls that he doesnt want to be in touch with you.
Put it down to a bad experience and walk away, have a few drinks but dont knock on... (read in full...)
Won't see him for over a week, hope the feelings don't change
Q. it is now the christmas holidays and i wont see my boyfriend for over a week,, we can keep in contact by texting but i hope things wont have changed after not seeing eachother for this lentgh of time. what can i do to stop this from happening? ...
A. 19 December 2009: believe me, one week is not a lifetime, and if his feelings change after such a SHORT period of time, he isnt worth wasting tears over.... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance and pursue the high school jock?
Q. I am a gay junior in high school and i have a huge crush on this senior guy in one of my classes. anyways... i started liking this guy when i noticed him more in my class. he is soo cool and sooo nice :) ive only talked to him about twice but i...
A. 19 December 2009: None of your listed reasons is evidence enough of his being gay or bi, however there isothing wrong with being friends but I would hold off on any romantic advances until your are 100% sure they arent going to earn you a blood nose.
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Are my work colleagues judging me?
Q. Shyness has always been a big problem for me and recently I've noticed a lot of girls staring at me. There is a girl who sits over the other side of the office who Im sure fancies me, staring alot. A while back she started walking past and she said ...
A. 19 December 2009: Okay, before you quit your job, just check to see if there is something obvious that is drawing their attention that you are unaware of, get a close relative or friend to give you the once over, does your hair knot at the back and you havent ... (read in full...)
How much time do husbands and fathers spend with their families on average?
Q. I would like to know the average time a husband/live in boyfriend (other than those who work away from home)spends with his family. Like on a daily basis, how many hours does he spend at home and really "being there" and not doing something else ...
A. 19 December 2009: "good" husbands expend quality time on their families, some families all get together to repair the fence, to build the cubby, to cook a batch of cakes. Some dads organise their work hours so they can be home to bath their kids and read a bed time ... (read in full...)
He is over it, but I want more reaction from him
Q. Hi! My ex and I broke up in September because I was immature. Lately though, I've been missing the conversations we used to have, and I miss talking to him. We haven't really talked since we broke up, and when I asked for forgiveness, he said...
A. 19 December 2009: umm, you broke up with him, and he says he is over it. His feelings for you have changed. You didn't hide your feelings when you broke it off with him so why should he hide his feelings now?
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I broke up with him, but still see us being married some time in the future
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago just to cool things off in our senior year and to give each of us a chance to focus on colleges and spend time with friends (we go to different schools and have different friends) and to maybe start seeing ...
A. 19 December 2009: Maybe he didnt appreciate being dumped by you, regardless of your reasons, and doesnt want to get back into any sort of relationship with you in case you do it again.
Seems to me you want to have your cake and eat it too, and that rarely works ou... (read in full...)
I told a guy I liked him, but he only said "okay"
Q. I have liked a guy at my school since this summer (he is smart and nerdy and funny and perverted and weird and philosophical). I had a budding friendship with him and suddenly found myself ridiculously attracted to him. We spent the whole first ...
A. 19 December 2009: You say: "I was much prettier, thinner, and more well suited (this is what other people tell me)for him than his girlfriend".
Maybe in his eyes she is the prettier, maybe he doesnt care much about skinny, skinny doesnt always mean healthy,... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my husband's brother
Q. my husbands brother moved in with us after his divorce. he had no where to stay so i agreed to let him stay with us. i spent some time with him, while my husband was at work. I got to know him better, and acually got close with him, i find myself ...
A. 19 December 2009: ooooer, he dresses nice, and is attractive and listens to you, while your husband is at work no less.
Maybe you think you can remove the husband and install the brother in his house, as it seems he already has your husbands place in your heart!
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I thought everything was going well, until I heard them laughing about me...
Q. My best mate sleeps around and knows loads of guys, everyone wanting to be with her. She's overweight, spotty and generally greasy. She's taken guys off of me and every guy I've liked she's flirted with until they go to her instead. This seems to ...
A. 18 December 2009: Caring guy is right, this girl is not a friend. Create yourself a new life, create some interests, do some night classes, learn pottery, learn creative writing, get into netball, anything, until you learn to feel a little more confident around a ... (read in full...)
My GF hangs out late drinking with her many guy friends...
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is me being insecure or overly protective. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. Recently in the past 2 months, she has been hanging with guy friend(s), I say this because she is not clear who she hangs ou...
A. 18 December 2009: from what you are telling us I think your relationship is in deep trouble.
You need to decide if you are willing to accept this situation and if you are do nothing, if you aren't then you need to confront her and explain that her behaviou... (read in full...)
We broke up 3 months ago and he still isn't ready to be friends
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago--- why isnt he ready to be friends..? im reallly in love with him still. and im over the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing but i really wana be friends with him and he wont let me in.. he says it hurts too ...
A. 18 December 2009: Not everybody ends up friends after the boyfriend / girlfriend thing. Some people are hurt when the boyfriend / girlfriend thing ends.
Maybe he learnt things about you during the boyfriend/girlfriend thing that now precludes you from being a ... (read in full...)
Dad is cheating on mom I have the messages as proof do I let mom hear them?
Q. My parents have been married for 19 years and my dad has been cheating on my mom for as long as i can remember i believe she knows i thought he stopped but i have his voicemail password and i secretly check it a few times a week and there are ...
A. 18 December 2009: Oh, you dont want your parents to get divorced, so what do you think is the most likely outcome if you bring your father's ongoing affairs,which you believe your mother knows about, into the open?
Use your brain, you are playing with real people's... (read in full...)
My husband wants to watch me with another man
Q. I have been married to my husband for 13 years and during this time he has hinted off and on that it would be a turn on for him to see me have sex with another man. I remember at first feeling repulsed by even the thought of being with someone else ...
A. 18 December 2009: I can see a whole lotta trouble ahead if you agree to your husbands suggestion.
Sure, he THINKS he wants to see you having sex with another man, but give him even a suggestion that you might be enjoying it more than you do with him and he will acc... (read in full...)
Dumped before the baby was born, I found a new guy but now the ex wants back in!
Q. I was seeing this guy awhile back, we both weren't ready for a relationship and very immature. After that broke off I found a new guy and ended up falling in love with him. We ended up having a baby on December 4th [ yes just 2 weeks ago ]. But that ...
A. 18 December 2009: The ex left you not only holding the baby, but having it, now he has decided he wants back in? What has he done to show he is willing to take you and the baby seriously, is he going to marry you and support you both, through thick and thin?
Sound... (read in full...)
I feel like the only time he wants to be alone with me is when he wants to have sex!
Q. My boyfriend is always playing games on his xbox live and him ad his friend are attached to the hip, the sit around all day playing xbox or somtimes they watch movies. I never get to spend alone time with him because I can never pull him away from ...
A. 18 December 2009: Leave him, dont get stuck in this sort of bad cycle, find somebody who will value you, who has some sort of life besides x box and movies - dont they work?
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How do I figure out which employee to cut?
Q. The company I work for needs to down size my office by one position. Since I'm the manager it's up to me to figure out which position can be eliminated and create a strategy for re-directing the work load to the other 4 workers. There are two ...
A. 18 December 2009: You need to keep the more productive of the two, ie the older lady.
Glad its you and not me having to do the firing!
Better do it sooner rather than later, give her whatever notice if you can, another good thing to do as an employer, is giv... (read in full...)
He should follow his dream but how do I get over the man I love?
Q. He's moving to Germany in September and I have already began detaching myself from our relationship in order to give us a clean break. I love him and rightfully I cannot spend a day without missing him so much it hurts. I cannot go a year without ...
A. 17 December 2009: Hah oldersister, I'd take a stab at a few months at the most @ length of relationship. I am wondering if she is already eyeing off the next in line.
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I love my husband but I TOTALLY love my best friend!
Q. I've been married for 11yrs.I love my husband,but I'm totally in love with my best friend. we've been together since 2nd grade.We r just made for each other. We see each other offten and talk everyday.I just don't know how 2 be without him.Do anyone ...
A. 17 December 2009: Re read your original question, and then come back and tell us what you meant by it.
Did everybody miss read your question? Exactly what is it you are seeking advice on if not on your original post?
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He should follow his dream but how do I get over the man I love?
Q. He's moving to Germany in September and I have already began detaching myself from our relationship in order to give us a clean break. I love him and rightfully I cannot spend a day without missing him so much it hurts. I cannot go a year without ...
A. 17 December 2009: This all sounds very dramatic, why is he going to Germany, why must you break it off, have you talked to HIM about this, you can't bear 12 months without him?? It must be a very tenuous sort of love that you cant bear twelve months!
Think of all t... (read in full...)
Lengths to go for happiness?
Q. I am currently living with my ex, we also have 4 children together. He has been abusive and has cheated on me in the past. It's difficult for me to forgive him, when I know he won't change. He has chosen that marriage is not for him, however I do ...
A. 17 December 2009: You have so many issues it's hard to know where to start. First up your children's safety and well being is paramount, and that doesnt just mean their well being now, but also into the future. Normally I would suggest you remove them from a house ... (read in full...)
Do I trust the ex? Or not?
Q. so me and my ex boyfriend dated for like 5 months are so but after we broke up we still been extremely close and he still likes me and im unsure about how i feel about him and then i learned recently that he was cheating on me with his best friends ...
A. 17 December 2009: he is cheating with his best friends girlfriend, and you are asking if you should trust him or not.
Let me take you by the hand for a moment, look into my eyes, right, hello, he is cheating his best friend. With his best friend's girlfrie... (read in full...)
My b/f expects me to pay 50% of his mortgage with no guanantees for me
Q. I am just new to living with my boyfriend in a house that he owns. Recently while discussing contributions towards household expenses he told me that he expects me to pay half his mortgage and that he is not interested in putting me on the title. He ...
A. 17 December 2009: Hmm, this one is a little bit tough to answer, there are so many grey areas. Is he splitting all household costs 50%, is there a disparity in wages, ie does one of you earn much more, or less, than the other. I would feel very uneasy about paying ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a girl on a train, found out who she is, but she doesn't want anything to do with me!
Q. am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found ...
A. 17 December 2009: she has a boyfriend, you are aged between 18 and 21. How long do you intend to wait, 6 months, a year, five years, 10 years, maybe 20 years. what if she never wants to have anything to do with you, will you wait another 20 years after the first ... (read in full...)
I fight to get my anger out now he has walked away!
Q. Okay, so i just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, we are very very serious, we've already discussed marriage.The problem with me is that i fight to get my anger out. We have been fighting for over a week now, everyday. It is always my fault and i ...
A. 17 December 2009: you ended it, he didnt end it, you did, with your constant fighting over small things, you say in your original post it was your fault.
Leave him be, I doubt from the tone of you latest posting that you even know what you have done
Like he... (read in full...)
My unemployed b/f has anger issues, and I want to confront him about them
Q. My boyfriend doesn't work and has a bad temper; how do I confront him about this without him breaking up with me?...
A. 17 December 2009: Stop supporting this freeloader and your life will improve 99.9%... (read in full...)
I fight to get my anger out now he has walked away!
Q. Okay, so i just had a huge fight with my boyfriend, we are very very serious, we've already discussed marriage.The problem with me is that i fight to get my anger out. We have been fighting for over a week now, everyday. It is always my fault and i ...
A. 16 December 2009: Based on what you have told us I don't think an email saying sorry is going to help much in this situation.
You have been fighting for a week, I assume you mean verabally? No matter, and you also admit you start the fights and always over small th... (read in full...)
My best friend isn't celebrating Christmas or attending birthday parties anymore. I would like for her to make one exception for me!
Q. I hope you can help me out with a friend of mine. Me and her have been best friends for 8 years. Her dad is a jehovah's witness and over the years she has gradually become one herself. Just a few months ago she told me she won't be celebrat...
A. 16 December 2009: it wasnt unreasonable to ask her but I think its unreasonable to continue to try and get her to change her mind.
Jehovah's Witness believe that Christmas and other celebrations have a non Christian basis, and they also believe Birthday parties ... (read in full...)
We both had affairs but she is so angry with me, I don't want to lose her!
Q. My wife is so angry about the affair that i had and the affair that she had, one minute she is calm and confident, the next she is so angry towards me, telling me to leave her alone. I dont want to lose her what can i do?, what should i say? Please ...
A. 16 December 2009: oh, thankyou Marieclaire, I think his problem has already been adequately answered
for those who dont know the story:
He had an affair, she suspected he had an affair so to even things up she had an affair, he found out, she confessed, sound... (read in full...)
I really want this relationship to work but I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. Hi, i have been dating a boy that i love with all my heart for 1 year and 7 month. I am not going to go off saying hes completely horrible because i dont think he is. sometime he is very sweet and caring. I met him second year of college and i left ...
A. 16 December 2009: he doesnt sound like the catch of the century so why do you want him in your life anyway?
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We both had affairs but she is so angry with me, I don't want to lose her!
Q. My wife is so angry about the affair that i had and the affair that she had, one minute she is calm and confident, the next she is so angry towards me, telling me to leave her alone. I dont want to lose her what can i do?, what should i say? Please ...
A. 16 December 2009: you both had affairs and you wife is angry about your affair and her affair. You question doesn't really give much of a background, so its really hard to guage what is happening with you both and your marriage.
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I said "no way! no more! so he blocked me on myspace, why?
Q. We've Ben together for 9 months, kinda off and on. We got back together Sunday night and I thought everythin was fine now. We talked about life and kids ad marriage and then bam! Last night I find iut he's cheating on me.. For 3 weeks with this girl ...
A. 16 December 2009: Maybe, when you said you didn't want anything to do with, not even to be friends, maybe he listed to you, and decided if you weren't going to be friends there was little point in having you listed as a friend on myspace.
How can you stay open whe... (read in full...)
We are happy, our mothers are happy but what will the wife say when she finds out?
Q. Had a wonderful friend in high school, I knew he was in love with me but I just wanted to be friends, 4 years after graduation he comes back into my life,by then I am a young single mother to a 1 year old son and he said he would be honored if I ...
A. 16 December 2009: Maybe you should ask his wife's mother what she thinks of it all.
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I love my husband but I TOTALLY love my best friend!
Q. I've been married for 11yrs.I love my husband,but I'm totally in love with my best friend. we've been together since 2nd grade.We r just made for each other. We see each other offten and talk everyday.I just don't know how 2 be without him.Do anyone ...
A. 16 December 2009: Honestly now, where was your brain when you decided to marry some poor sap when the love of your life had been with you since 2nd grade?
What's the story, were you sleepwalking when you made your marriage vows, did somebody hold a gun to your hea... (read in full...)
I gave some gifts to my professor, but apart from sying thankyou I havent heard further from him
Q. I gave a gift to my ex- professor, actually there were 3 gifts, a box of brownies, a box of caramel sticks and a gift wrapped, which contained a Parker pen and a note written ''remembering you this season... thanks for being nice'' my name, and my ...
A. 16 December 2009: He has already said thankyou and told you it was very nice.
As for the rest of it, maybe you have convinced yourself you saw more than existed.
Leave it, get on with your life, mix and mingle with people of your own age, and let it be.... (read in full...)
I haven't been able to contact my online g/f for a few months, I think she is cheating on me
Q. For the past few months my girlfriend and I have lost contact. I've not been able to get hold of her at the best or worst of times with the constant reasoning that she's sleeping. I do understand some people have sleeping problems, however I call ...
A. 16 December 2009: I have to be honest and say that I dont know how people can refer to others as boyfriend / girlfriend / lover / fiance etc etc when they have never met face to face. Online friendships yeah, I know and have, but online love affairs ... they are a ... (read in full...)
How much does appearance affect overall attractiveness?
Q. The basics are simple, I'm a little over 300 lbs(mostly fat), I'm a virgin, and I'm 25 years old. I've been losing weight rapidly, lost 25 lbs in 2 months and continuing to lose for my own self esteem. My question is, do girls judge a gu...
A. 16 December 2009: Congratulations with the weight loss to date, continue with the getting healthy, because, hate to say it, but first impressions usually count a lot, (especially with younger people), and fat turns people off.
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Am I correct in thinking he used his son as an excuse to cancel our wedding?
Q. My boyfriend asked me to marry him a few weeks after his son left for Afghanistan for 1 year. Two days before our wedding he told me we had to wait for another year. He could not get married without his son being present. I was in total shock ...
A. 16 December 2009: This got me: "he said he had his doubts about me because I had not reacted the way he expected"
tell him next time he is going to drop a bombshell he should pre warn what sort of reaction he expects so that you can ensure he gets it
Open op... (read in full...)
I'm scared my family will disown me if I marry my bf.
Q. hi, i'm 25 years old muslim girl. i'm currently in a 5-year relationship with the man of my dreams, he is african and a christian. he treats me with respect, i have never met a man who is as driven, understanding, supportive and kind as he is. and ...
A. 15 December 2009: If you are Indonesian and you are studying overseas it indicates to me your family might hold a high-ish status in Indonesia?
I think you are just going to have to take the bull by the horns and go for it, what country is your boyfriend from, do... (read in full...)
She lets them feel her up and I don't want to sit with her anymore!
Q. ok here goes one of my best friends is kind of a slag, i mean shes pretty shes really thin has big boobs and is really confident, but even tho she has a boy friend she still lets all of our male friends feel her up at dinner time, she trys to make ...
A. 15 December 2009: Tell your friend her behaviour makes you uncomfortable, doesnt she realise why the other friend isnt sitting with you any more, or is she so focussed on being the centre of attention (not nice attention but attention anyway) that she hasnt noticed ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Does he want us to get back together?
Q. I'm still confused me and my partner split up four months ago we have a child and one due anyday he's really good with our son, we haven't talked about getting back together for a few weeks but the thing that drives me crazy is he still got a tattoo ...
A. 15 December 2009: Find somebody who can mediate between you, if you have a Salvation Army nearby contact them, they may be able to help or a social worker attached to your local government.
It sounds like you both want the same thing, but you both need to develop ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a girl on a train, found out who she is, but she doesn't want anything to do with me!
Q. am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found ...
A. 13 December 2009: You don't seem to comprehend how "not normal" you are. What you are doing is stalking, and I am sure there are laws against it in Singapore just as there are in all other civilised countries of the world.
Stop it right now, or you might find you... (read in full...)
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