I feel my daughter is being left out - what do I do?
Q. My daughter is in fifth grade and is one of four girls. Two are very cliquish and are practically glued together. Buddying up with the other one is not an option as the other girl is more interested in fitting in with the two who are very ...
A. 13 December 2009: no, no, no don't approach the girls on your daughters behalf, imagine how that will look, as if her mother has to go out and develop her friendships for her, girls are so judgmental, and they are not in playgroup or kinder anymore where hand holding ... (read in full...)
My Dad's gf is threatening to leave him and I don't want her to! What should I do?
Q. This is really hard for me so here it goes. Well I feel as if my dad and his fianceé are always arguing. Today I did not mean to but I heard what they were saying and she(we will call her Alli) is crying. They were arguing and Alli was talking about ...
A. 12 December 2009: Oh dear, sadly if your dad and his partner are to split there isnt much you can do about it, even sadder if it means your half sister moving out as well, it seems strange that you arent sure if your sister is your sister, do you live with your ... (read in full...)
Help! He's going back to his old ways!
Q. me and my bf have been close lately considering what we have been through recently n hes tryed to put my feelings first but ive noticed that hes slipping back to his old ways, going out all the time and coming home drunk, only tells me he loves me ...
A. 12 December 2009: From what you have written it sounds to me it is only one way, he tried to change, persumably because you have discussed his behaviour before, but he hasnt changed.
You now need to decide if this is what you want for the rest of your life, an... (read in full...)
The way my bf acts around other girls...really hurts me! What can I do?
Q. I have been with my fiance for 1 year now and i have tried to tell him that the way he acts around other girls makes me feel like he doesnt care how i feel or if it hurts me but he does it anyways, what am i supposed to do? I love him and i dont ...
A. 12 December 2009: You question lacks a little detail, but if he is hurting you and you have let him know his actions hurt but he is not taking any notice then you need to decide if that is what you want for the rest of your life, your profile lists your age as 18 to ... (read in full...)
This girl I am seeing is a maniac! I need to be rid of her..help!!
Q. i am with a girl since a year now. it was great but now she has started dominating me big time. always suspects me of cheating on her. she HAS to check my phone every time. she WANTS all my passwords(email, facebook, bank accounts etc). she doesn't ...
A. 12 December 2009: First thing to do is to approach your family, tell them everything including her threats against you and your father. It might be easier if you talk to your mother first. This girl is toxic, and you need more practical help than you will get from ... (read in full...)
I feel my daughter is being left out - what do I do?
Q. My daughter is in fifth grade and is one of four girls. Two are very cliquish and are practically glued together. Buddying up with the other one is not an option as the other girl is more interested in fitting in with the two who are very ...
A. 12 December 2009: I am sorry, but there isnt much you can do, at least she is one of four, and has friends, if there were only three in the group she would be on the outer.
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What should I get him for Christmas if he got me a teddy bear?
Q. what should i get my boyfriend for christmas if he got me a teddy bear that cost 20 dollars???please help me...
A. 12 December 2009: A CD or DVD or video game of around about the same value. ... (read in full...)
Pills to prevent pregnancy?
Q. What are the names of the pills used in avoiding pregnancy...
A. 12 December 2009: THey are more commonly referred to as "The Pill" Search online for more information, sites such as the one below have heaps of information:
http://www.femail.com.au/contra1.htm... (read in full...)
I have a crush and we are meant to be friends but sometimes she wont even talk to me
Q. Me and this girl are supposed to be friends because she said she wanted to be friends. However I am pretty sure she has a crush on me and she already knows I like her. As every time me and her walk past each other her best friend looks at me and g...
A. 12 December 2009: I dont know if she likes you, have you spoken to her without having your friends along yet? ... (read in full...)
I am getting all the communications from his friends, but little from him!
Q. Please someone give me some advice. I have been dating a man for about 6 months now. He has constantly been in my face telling me he loves me and I will be his wife. Well, I didn't say anything to him about this but a really good friend of his ...
A. 12 December 2009: Cut out the middle men who are telling your this that and the other, and talk direct to him. Tell him about the friend who was saying he is playing around with another woman. Tell him about the friend who said he said you were too clingy. Ask him ... (read in full...)
My partner appeared in an adult movie to get money to support her and our baby!
Q. Hi, I have come across that my current girlfriend was recently in an adult film. we weren't together at the time, but we have a child together, i am 22, we had our daughter when we were 20 we were together for 1 year prior to the baby's birth. We...
A. 12 December 2009: Hah, you feel as if you have been disrespected huh, how do you think she felt for three years as a single mum?
I am sure you lived a life of pure as driven snow during those three years you were apart, yeah? I am sure you were busy building... (read in full...)
I have a crush and we are meant to be friends but sometimes she wont even talk to me
Q. Me and this girl are supposed to be friends because she said she wanted to be friends. However I am pretty sure she has a crush on me and she already knows I like her. As every time me and her walk past each other her best friend looks at me and g...
A. 12 December 2009: so if you and the girl had agreed to talk, what was your friend doing there?... (read in full...)
A guy I dated between his prison sentences wants to go out with me again, but I don't know if I should or not
Q. I dated a guy for several months and he broke up with me cause he went to prison and then we dated again after he got out but he went back for 2 years and then we where friends for a while but he went back again. He wonts to go back out wit...
A. 12 December 2009: Three times in prison and you are still wondering if you should take a punt on him being umm what exactly? He sure doesnt appear to be the sort that is going to stick around for lengthy periods of time - why on earth are you even asking? Do your ... (read in full...)
Is she taking advantage of me or do I give her a chance?
Q. Ok. So I've been getting like in these situations. So, one of my friends did this to me a long time ago, but we worked it out, cuz she lives in Tx n im in Cali. Its happening again though! This gurl started playing with me, sayn im her her ...
A. 12 December 2009: Is this an online friendship? ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking me these questions?
Q. this guy and i are getting to know each other.. i like him and he tells me he likes me too.. but he keeps asking me how long has it been since ive been single, if ive ever gotten pregnant before or had an abortion:( i told him my ex was carefu...
A. 12 December 2009: While I agree if he asks for a clean bill of health, you should comply, I dont agree that a history of abortion or pregnancy are any of his business. I would find that line of questioning disquietning.... (read in full...)
My mum is trying to control my life!!!
Q. I've just about had it already!! I'm 21 years old and my mom is trying to control my life!!! I've been out of a job for 3 weeks now and Im getting frustrated because no one is calling me back and I understand I can only do so much and my mother is ...
A. 11 December 2009: Thankyou for the followup by messages. Your mother is right, in today's economic climate finding jobs is not as easy as it was a few short years ago. You should be dedicating a lot of time to finding employment, and you cant do that if you are ... (read in full...)
My mum is trying to control my life!!!
Q. I've just about had it already!! I'm 21 years old and my mom is trying to control my life!!! I've been out of a job for 3 weeks now and Im getting frustrated because no one is calling me back and I understand I can only do so much and my mother is ...
A. 11 December 2009: Thankyou for the followup by messages. Your mother is right, in today's economic climate finding jobs is not as easy as it was a few short years ago. You should be dedicating a lot of time to finding employment, and you cant do that if you are ... (read in full...)
I get violent with my friends when they agree a boy is hot!
Q. hey aunts i have a problem with jelousy but it isnt with my boyfriends its with guys i fancy, all my friends have noticed well its kind of hard not to because if i say the guy i like (lets call him chris)is fit and they agree i will literally rip ...
A. 11 December 2009: YOU, young lady, need a reality check. Violence in any way, shape or form is totally unacceptable.
Your excuses dont wash. I am surprised your friends still allow you to be in their company. THe only way to stop this is to change your behaviou... (read in full...)
Since we married in October my husband has shut me off
Q. I jsut got married in October 2009 and I am feeling extremely unhappy. I don't know what to do because I love him but I am frustrated with his critical, negative behavior. We are already having sex issues and he blames me for that too. I feel like I ...
A. 11 December 2009: Wow, I think some counselling might be in order, if he refuses to go with you, go by yourself. Hopefully you will learn some tips on how to work out why he is like this, and even give you some tips on how to extricate youself from what appears to ... (read in full...)
Is he right, are people at it like rabbits?
Q. I would really like to know how other people percieve sex. I was having a "discussion" about attitudes to sex with a male friend of mine, and well, lets say it got quite heated - he totally disagreed with what I think, and basically told m...
A. 11 December 2009: A male friend once told me that for him, having sex with a female was no differnt to shaking hands, but that it releived a need. I was horrified but went away and thought about it for a while, this is my theory ....
For men,sex can be external... (read in full...)
Should I jeapordise her happiness?
Q. I met my ex 8 years ago. I had never been in a serious relationship before her, and she quickly became my first - everything. I haven't known true love before or since, but I know that what we had was true love. I can remember literally seeing a ...
A. 11 December 2009: Your followup doesnt change my original response, you had her but you wanted to see how green the grass was elsewhere.
Four years later you have discovered that the grass wasnt all that green elsewhere at all, or maybe you found that other wo... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking me these questions?
Q. this guy and i are getting to know each other.. i like him and he tells me he likes me too.. but he keeps asking me how long has it been since ive been single, if ive ever gotten pregnant before or had an abortion:( i told him my ex was carefu...
A. 11 December 2009: These things are none of his business, and I would find them disquietning, he sounds weird, I would walk away before any deeper feelings develop on your part.... (read in full...)
Should I jeapordise her happiness?
Q. I met my ex 8 years ago. I had never been in a serious relationship before her, and she quickly became my first - everything. I haven't known true love before or since, but I know that what we had was true love. I can remember literally seeing a ...
A. 11 December 2009: Leave her alone, she wasnt enough for you, you HAD to experience othe women, and she went on and got herself a life elsewhere, now you want so stuff her life up
Just leave her alone okay, and if you dont I hope her husband comes after you and give... (read in full...)
My mum is trying to control my life!!!
Q. I've just about had it already!! I'm 21 years old and my mom is trying to control my life!!! I've been out of a job for 3 weeks now and Im getting frustrated because no one is calling me back and I understand I can only do so much and my mother is ...
A. 11 December 2009: I'm sorry but there isnt enough information here, why are you out of a job and why is your mother blaming your boyfriend? And your location is not showing for me, what country are you in, as employment issues can be different in some countries.... (read in full...)
I'm ready to have a child but hubby says no. How to handle the situation? I almost resent him.
Q. My husband and I have been married for a year but together for 9 years. He is a student pilot for the military and I am a stay at home wife. I'm having baby fever and he is aware of my feelings. He is the kind of guy who likes to plan EVERYTHING. ...
A. 11 December 2009: exlain to him simply and calmly that the longer you wait to fall pregnant the greater the chances of there being something wrong with the baby and the greater the chances of your having some sort pregnancy related medical emergency.
If he wants ch... (read in full...)
He got another girl pregnant during one of our breakups, and my heart is breaking
Q. Well I'm 14 years old and I thought I found the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... We quickly fell in love but we also faught way to much. These weren't just silly little fights they got serious to the point were he tried to kill ...
A. 11 December 2009: You ask what you should do, I hate to be harsh here, and I am not really into appearing hard hearted but what I think you should do is give thanks it wasnt you he got pregnant!
What a LUCKY BREAK!
Of course, if you prefer to be in the middle... (read in full...)
How can I accept that I can never be hot for my b/f?
Q. I'm not a hot and sexy female. I know this because ever since I hit puberty, I've lacked the attention my friends got. Then I got a boyfriend, and I felt secure... until time passed, we started getting more comfortable with each other and I started ...
A. 10 December 2009: You need to accept your boyfriends words, he chose you! He is still with you! He has told you to forget the girls with big boobs and bums! So really, he could get upset with YOU because you keep discounting his choice of girlfriend, and you keep ... (read in full...)
How can I accept that I can never be hot for my b/f?
Q. I'm not a hot and sexy female. I know this because ever since I hit puberty, I've lacked the attention my friends got. Then I got a boyfriend, and I felt secure... until time passed, we started getting more comfortable with each other and I started ...
A. 10 December 2009: Whoa, you and he are in a band, and the band has a facebook page, and people are adding the band as friends, but you are more concerned about thier looks than the fact the band appears to have fans?
You need to accept your boyfriends words, h... (read in full...)
My creative son calls me judgemental
Q. How can you tell your son or daughter,if you don't really like something what they create,or dress up,or any other thing ,where they ask your opinion? I have very creative son, and he is good at music , and painting. But many times, I don't think, ...
A. 10 December 2009: When he is not asking for your opinion, tell him how proud you are, in general conversation tell him how clever he is, and that even though you dont understand much of his creative work, you can see the talent.
Just try and use positive words wi... (read in full...)
I want to initiate contact again, but should I use the "read receipt" option?
Q. I just have a quick question - but first a little background. While visiting fammily in London in October I attended the church I normally go to when there. I was able to attend on two Sundays out of my three weekends. I met and talked with a ve...
A. 10 December 2009: I would send the email without using the receipt function, and maybe in a few weeks and you dont hear, follow it up with a quick best wishes for Christmas and the coming new year, and if nothing after that let it go.... (read in full...)
Is it odd that he is going to his ex-wife's house for Christmas when they supposedly hate each other?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I've posted on her before and got some really helpful advice so I'm back for more! I split up with my partner about 6 months ago (after 7 years together). He walked out after us having many problems and I was upset...
A. 10 December 2009: My ex husband was always welcome to join me and the kids and anybody else who happened to be around for whatever Christmas celebrations we were having, be it breakfast, or lunch or dinner, but as the kids got older it was more often breakfast, so ... (read in full...)
Nothing will make this guy stop!
Q. I have a problem this guy won't go away. What started out whatseemed like a crush has progressed to begging for one date. I have told him no I'm not interested . I'm in love with someone elae . I ignore his texts and phone calls I'm rude to him. But ...
A. 10 December 2009: Get an older male to go and tell him, a brother or cousin or work mate, get them to tell him you have asked them to speak with him because you are not interested and if he persists you will be filing an official complaint against him for stalking.
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I'm afraid to pursue a girl who likes me because of what my friend says
Q. So I'm talking to this girl who likes me, and I really like her. Its been almost a week, and things are going great but my best friend is getting in the way sorta now. He just found out today that we are talking and the first thing he said was "don...
A. 10 December 2009: oh, you are talking to her, and considering asking her on a date, but you already feel you have the right to decide who she can talk to and hang out with?
If you are that unsure and have a knot in your stomach just dont ask her out, nobody i... (read in full...)
He's the one who cheated but he tells me I can't talk to guys
Q. so I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now since we have been together i have caught him cheating ,i have caught him on several dating websites and also caught him on phone dating services chatting and talking with different girls. ...
A. 10 December 2009: Why are you afraid of losing him, what is so wonderful that you fear this? He doesnt sound so wonderful to me!
Now here's a novel idea. Leave the friends you have on facebook on facebook and delete him, not just from facebook and other online s... (read in full...)
He's ripped me off and left me. What do I do now?
Q. My ex and I were together for four years, we met through a mutual friend. Our relationship felt perfect. We were engaged for the last two years (he proposed) and early this summer booked our wedding; we'd been living together for a year and before ...
A. 9 December 2009: The Mongrel!! OKay, with the money he owes, get your dad or big brother, or burly cousin or somebody to call him, and tell him you require that money by the end of December.
This crap he has been telling you, well, I have heard it as well, so... (read in full...)
I have her Xmas presents even though she dumped me... do I give them?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me a couple of weeks ago, Ive asked why, but been given no clear answers. I do miss her very much and am really hurting, Id like to hear from her-yes id like her back. I have already brought her, her Christmas presents. A fr...
A. 9 December 2009: Return the gifts you can, and get your refund. Those gifts that are personalised, pack safely in a box with a lid and sticky tape it down firmly. If your wish for her to come back comes true you can pull them out for valentines day or her next ... (read in full...)
My girl's biological clock is ticking after 8 years together but I wont commit
Q. Hi there My girlfriend and I have been together for 8yrs. She is 29 and I am 31 in three days. She really wants to have kids, but I am not sure. Sorry for the long story that follows but it gets a bit more complicated. I can imagine having kids...
A. 9 December 2009: Your girlfriend wants kids, and her biological clock is ticking. I can udnerstand why she has put a cut off age on this situation. Asking her to wait another 6 years, and you still might not want children is very unfair, she will then be 35, and ... (read in full...)
He told me to move out because his ex said he was a bad person
Q. I got involved with a much older man. It began asu almost a fling. I had only had two boyfriends in my life and when a smart handsome older man showed me attention I thought I needed to live a little. We got together for a week and I had the best ...
A. 9 December 2009: nahhh, he is just stringing you this line so that he appears to be a decent caring guy, when if fact what he doing is dumping you after you have lived with him happily for two years.
... (read in full...)
Why do people hate virgins so much?
Q. Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...
A. 9 December 2009: why do you need to even tell people you are a virgin? Why do people who are not virgins even feel the need to tell people they aren't. Why do girls who claim to be bi sexual come onto this site and broadcast the news to all and sundry, how come ... (read in full...)
My best friend confessed his feelings, but I'm married.
Q. I have been married for four months and I just found out the my best friend who is a guy have strong feelings for me. I once felt the same way the problem is once he told me that all my feelings started to come back. I feel lost cuz I love my ...
A. 8 December 2009: he is not much of a friend in my book, a real friend would have declared his feelings before you made your wedding vows.
Dump the so called friend and keep the husband, he at least is honest with you!... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me? I feel I am being mentally abused by my wife and I don't know where to turn
Q. I'm lost........... I am a 37yr old male who has been married for 5-1/2 years been with my wife for 8 years. We have a beautiful 2-1/2 year old daughter who is my life and soul. I am stuck in a spot where the only thing right now in life is what ...
A. 8 December 2009: You need to stop this sooner rather than later, our children do the bulk of their learning from birth up to about age 4, and right now she is learning all the wrong things from her mother.
Seek some legal advise, from what you are saying you shou... (read in full...)
He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...
A. 8 December 2009: You ask if you should even be with him, I place my vote in the "NO" corner
No, you shouldn't so get out now!
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