Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: Did you consult with your boyfriend when you were making your plans, did you ask him when he would be having access, did you ask him if he would like you to plan somewhere he could take his daughter, did you consider him at all when you were making ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: yes, especially if his access arrangements are of long standing or ordered through the family law courts, you do need to organise anything you want you boyfriend to attend around his child's access visits.... (read in full...)
I'm completely supporting my son, his girlfriend, and baby and running out of money! What do I do?
Q. i would really appreciate some advice. Ok, i was with my 19 year old sons father for 20 years. It was an awful relationship, he was a control freak and was verbally and physically abusive. i left him finally 2 years ago and moved so that he doesn...
A. 7 February 2010: You need help, have you access to a social worker or counselling or anybody who will be able to be your back up, and support while you work through this. I dont think you are going to change this young couple overnight, its going to be a gradual ... (read in full...)
He got a birthday card from his child and the mother, what does this mean
Q. If a woman throws her boyfriend out of the house and tells him to leave and then 6 months later sends him a birthday card is she wanting him back?? I have been seeing a man who split up with his girlfriend but they have a child and still see each...
A. 7 February 2010: I wouldnt worry, the child's mother is probably just teaching her child the correct thing to do, ie acknowledging people's birthdays. I also agree with Miamine 6 months is too soon to expect him to be totally ready for a new relationship.
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He's letting our relationship slide because he has to have at least 6 hours of gaming a day
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years. he has recently got back into n online game, world of warcraft. he plays non stop all day - i mean wake up at 8am to play and play till 12am, if i am at his house he will play from around...
A. 6 February 2010: Sure seems like he isnt adding anything to your life, WOW takes precedence over you, how does that make you feel?
I would run, not walk, far, far away and find somebody who is interested in having a relationship with a flesh and blood person n... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: Print off this letter and show him, it may convince him you are serious about not having children.
He needs to be made aware you are serious, and that if he does want to father children of his own he needs to find a new life partner.
Good lu... (read in full...)
Our friend just got a new girlfriend and none of us like her!
Q. my best guy friend just got a new girl friend and none of our friends like her. she's just awful and she's cheated on every boyfriend she's ever had.we all love him and would hate to see him get hurt. we were wondering if there was a way to break ...
A. 6 February 2010: I don't think you should be looking for advise on how to break people up, that is a very juvenille thing to do.
Why not try to be adult about this, and let the relationship run it's course. If this girl is as bad as you say she is he will soo... (read in full...)
I hate her and I cant let it go
Q. Several years ago, I fell in love with a boy. A girl that I was friends with at the time liked him to and dated him behind my back. Both of them were aware of what they were doing to me. She was always jealous of me and had issues of her own at ho...
A. 6 February 2010: You really do need to examine what you are doing to yourself here. You dont say that your love was reciprocated. You say she went and dated behind your back, if you werent involved with him, whats the problem with them dating?
You were crushed?... (read in full...)
My step dad is in the army and bosses us around like we are little soldiers.
Q. Well, i have a huge problem with my step-dad. It may sound ridiculous but i really cant stand him. Hes in the army and thats one of the problems. He works in a different town and is only home on the weekends for the most part. But when he is home i ...
A. 6 February 2010: Oh dear, I hate these situations. Your step dad is the adult and should be the one looking for ways to resolve this, but he isnt and so its up to you. He probably cant even see that he is part of the problem, and your mother will be trying to keep ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my family that the baby's father is part Turkish!
Q. I'm pregnant but now raising this kid alone. My family have no idea who the father is and as he does not wish to be involued, i see no reason why my family should know. It is the child at the end of the day which is most important. My question is a ...
A. 6 February 2010: Did you see the Kath & Kim episode when the baby was born, and they brought out a black baby .....
However, it is very, very unlikely the baby is going to be anything more that olived skinned etc etc, if people ask just say the baby's father w... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my family that the baby's father is part Turkish!
Q. I'm pregnant but now raising this kid alone. My family have no idea who the father is and as he does not wish to be involued, i see no reason why my family should know. It is the child at the end of the day which is most important. My question is a ...
A. 6 February 2010: Did you see the Kath & Kim episode when the baby was born, and they brought out a black baby .....
However, it is very, very unlikely the baby is going to be anything more that olived skinned etc etc, if people ask just say the baby's father w... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he trying to get out of marrying me
Q. I am married woman due to my husbands abuse and very suspicous behaviour I felt all alone. My husband had his first love and he could not forget and my comparsion. Listening to dirt words. after a year of marriage i deliverd a baby boy who is ...
A. 6 February 2010: You are still married. How long is this poor man going to be expected to wait for you? What if he would like some children of his own?
Are you saying he is looking to these women to provide for him financially?
I think you need to investig... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my b/f give us another chance if we ever broke up?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my fiance have only been together for about 1 1/2 or 2 years. Of course we have our ups/downs like every body else. But, he says that if we ever break-up he will never come back to me.He said if we break up for any reason at all. ...
A. 6 February 2010: I dont understand why you see this as a problem, you say you are not going to do anything to cause a breakup, it would appear your boyfriend has very strong ideas on the matter and is also unlikely to do anything to cause a breakup, why are you ... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship with him but his ex is always in his head
Q. ive been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now,we got together right after his girlfriend/babys momma of 3 years left him,he constantly looks up her myspace,but tells me hes looking for updates about his daughter,when i know hes kinda stalking her,he ...
A. 6 February 2010: If you and he got together right after he broke up with his baby's mother, and its only been 6 months have you considered that he didnt give himself time to get over that relationship before he got into one with you?
Maybe you need to leave hi... (read in full...)
I sometimes wonder if he ever did plan on marrying me
Q. dear cupid's lounge, i have a question because quite frankly I'm at a loss. When my boyfriend and I were together 1 1/2 yrs(almost to the day)we got the news that we were going to have a baby. There were ups and downs because he thought he ...
A. 6 February 2010: Its hard to say what his intentions were, are you still together? Is he an involved parent, are his family involved in the baby's life?
You dont say how long ago this happened, I can understand it was like a bombshell, I hope everything is settl... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend almost 14 months, she attracts a massive amount of attention from other males, a wee while ago she left herself logged into a social networking site, and when i realised she was still logged in i took a little look in ...
A. 6 February 2010: ahah but can your girfriend trust you? As soon as you noticed she had left her computer logged in there you were, snooping for whatever you could find.
You already have said her responses to the guy showed no interest in him, there you have you... (read in full...)
I eat less and excercise but I keep putting on weight!
Q. I Do not know what is going on with my body! I eat less do more exercise , walk atleast 1 hour now per day (try to). How ever i keep on getting fatter. My stumic is like huge i never had one now its big and wabbley . The last few months i realised ...
A. 5 February 2010: You need to seek professional medical advise, such a sudden weight gain is not usual.... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend more committed?
Q. How can i make my girlfriend more committed. I feel frustrated showing her so much love while she does nothing. I have talked to her so much about it but nothing has changed. Should i walk away or what....
A. 5 February 2010: You can't "make" your girlfriend more committed. You also can't "make" people feel more or less or bigger or smaller. If you have already discussed how you feel with your girlfriend, and nothing has changed either accept her as she is or find ... (read in full...)
Boy, revenge is sweet...
Q. Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...
A. 4 February 2010: No, not a good idea, have you got kids, no matter, are you and your cheating wife going to try to save the marriage?
What do you think this will acheive, besides giving you a moment to gloat? All of us who have ever been cheated on etc etc thin... (read in full...)
Should I tell this woman's boyfriend the baby might not be his, but my boyfriend's?
Q. ok so ive previously been writing about questions i have concerning my boyfriend and i. well the story gets more interesting every week. to give you a summary my boyfriend and i have seen dating for about 10 months..in that time we broke and got ...
A. 4 February 2010: This issue is between this other girl who might be pregnant and the men who might be the father.
If she cannot work out who the father is all three concerned will need to have DNA tests to determine who the father is. If it turns out the fath... (read in full...)
I don't know if I love my husband...
Q. I dont know if i still love my boyfriend cause everyday we argue and am 23 and his 37 we have 3 kids together and one thats not his which is the oldes. I mean he has nowhere to stay if i tell him to leave my house.but he screams and is always in a ...
A. 4 February 2010: You already have three children to take care of, you dont need your boyfriend acting like a fourth.
If he is screaming and in a bad mood your kids will grow up thinking tha is how fathers are supposed to act, and when they grow up the boys wil... (read in full...)
I think my bf's Aunt wants to have sex with him.
Q. I'm in a real relationship for the first time and have a three month old. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. But whenever he goes near his aunt, I feel like they might start something. It's not like they are blood related or ...
A. 3 February 2010: Saying you like somebody's butt doesn't always mean you want to have sex with somebody. If this is all you are basing your concerns on I dont think you need worry.... (read in full...)
My mother is making life so difficult for me and I'm 26!
Q. My mother is making things really difficult for me. I've been with my BF for almost 6 months...it's my first serious relationship. He's a great guy and treats me well. I also live with my parents as I bought a property with them last year. I ...
A. 2 February 2010: Sit her down, make her a cup of tea, then talk to her. Tell her you are 26, and while you appreciate her concern its time she let the apron strings fray a little. Tell her she has raised you to be able to make decisions and think clearly so her ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband wear his wedding ring?
Q. My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?...
A. 2 February 2010: When I was first married I never wore my wedding ring, it felt uncomfortable, and I didnt like it. It took a few years (like 20) to get into the habit of wearing rings. I doubt there is anything here to cause you disquiet, I wouldn't worry too ... (read in full...)
So does anyone have any good suggestions for places to meet a girl?
Q. I really want to start talking to girls more. I'm 19 and in college but I go to a primarily guy college. No joke there is like no girls here. For every 15 guys there is maybe 1 girl. So one night I thought about all the ways I could come in contact ...
A. 31 January 2010: Gina and strontiumdog have some good ideas, you need to remember that you might not meet your perfect girl at these places, but you might meet her brother, or her female cousin or her spinster aunt. By being friendly and approachable with all ... (read in full...)
To move on or not when we have trust issues?
Q. We are having trust issues because he decided to bring a girl home, got touchy feely with her and in his bed. Then he updates her with his new number after swearing he is not going to have anything to do with her again. I went through his phone ...
A. 31 January 2010: Griffo's advise was a little blunt, but accurate. This relationship has no future, you need to cut your losses and run, dont walk away from it.... (read in full...)
I got my sis to speak to my wife about sending money to another man. Now she says I can thank my sis for her dirvorcing me.
Q. Hi everyone...im in alot of confusion and disbelief... ok so on monday the 26th my wife used my credit card to send money to some guy names Ivan...so i texted my 2 of my sisters and asked them to ask her what was going on cause i tried texting ...
A. 31 January 2010: I have to agree with everybody else who has answered so far, why was your wife sending money to this other man?
ANd it seems to me she is using the fight with your sister as an excuse to blame you (by extension) for the divorce.
Take care of ... (read in full...)
I text him, he says he doesn't know who I am, or that he doesn't want to talk, and yet I still wonder if he could be interested in me
Q. Hi everyone help needed please, i like this guy and we got on really wel, anyway we stopped talking for a reason i cant really explian 2 u it wasnt bad but he didnt belive that it was not me, Anyway everynow and then i text him sometimes he rel...
A. 31 January 2010: You text him and he says he doesnt want to talk
You text him and he says he doesnt know who you are
You text him and he says he is too knackered to go out with you.
I think there is a recurring theme there, have you considered that he is tryin... (read in full...)
Should I take police advise and sue my ex?
Q. I have an awful ex - he abused me emotionally and sexually for years (physically only right at the end, when I was finally getting out). I'm wondering if revenge is worth it at all? I could either do nothing and continue working through my issues, ...
A. 31 January 2010: I think you should have another talk to the police, they would not be suggesting charges unless they believed your ex has a strong case to answer to.
I agree, dont do this for revenge, do it to stop him from doing it to somebody else, your tak... (read in full...)
My gf is pregnant, wants to keep it, but I don't.
Q. My gf is pregnant. We've been together for 5 years. I don't want to keep it. She didn't want to either, but now just accepts it and wants to keep it. We rarely even have sex and she was on the pill, of course this has to happen. She just looks at ...
A. 31 January 2010: STop feeling stuck. I have a nephew who became a dad at the very tender age of 18 - he and his girlfriend did try living together at first, but my nephew was quite immature and not ready to give up being a young single man.
Now, even though t... (read in full...)
My gf is pregnant, wants to keep it, but I don't.
Q. My gf is pregnant. We've been together for 5 years. I don't want to keep it. She didn't want to either, but now just accepts it and wants to keep it. We rarely even have sex and she was on the pill, of course this has to happen. She just looks at ...
A. 30 January 2010: no, you dont have to be stuck, however you do need to acknowledge that you are going to have a child who is going to require, as a minimum, your financial and material support for at least the next 18 years (now do you understand why older people ... (read in full...)
My wife is very childish when I scold her.
Q. My wife is 27 years old and I am 29.She's my sweetie and I do really care for her.But regarding few things i have some concern.I donno how can I help her to improve on those certain issues.I convince her.But nothing has worked yet. 1.She can't ma...
A. 29 January 2010: how to help her become a mature, organised, self sufficient, emotially intelligent lady huh.
Sounds like this girl is nothing like what you want in a wife, which leads me to the question, why did you marry her. Why didnt you find a girl who alre... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable to push her when she came at me with a hot iron?
Q. I've been married 10 years. On Thursday evenings my wife drops off our 7-year old son at football training and I drive from work to collect him. A few times there has been a last minute change and my wife has texted me but I don't think I've...
A. 29 January 2010: I am female, mother of three, grandmother, and I know the feeling when your child is not where you expect them to be.
I think your outburst on the phone was normal. Hers may be guilt because you have asked her previously to phone or make sur... (read in full...)
I accept his views but don't like him pushing his religion on me.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who I have gotten to know through work. At first glance, he seemed shy (or antisocial). I don't work with him often but when I did I realised he was a friendly person, and after a few weeks, we started hanging out. We get ...
A. 29 January 2010: I think you need to recognise that if you and he are going to progress into a relationship you will need to become a "believer"
Have you tried telling him that you are simply not interested in religion and that you feel he is trying to push his... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum and boyfriend that I am pregnant?
Q. Im 18 and im pregnant. i have no idea how to tell my mom or boyfriend. He doesnt want a baby because of his baseball but i pretty much have my life set. i have a good flexible job i went to collage for and am currently doing it (Dog grooming). I ...
A. 29 January 2010: There is no easy way to tell your mother. You need to just track her down, and ask if she has 5 minutes, if she is busy ask her when you can have a quiet moment to talk with her,be persistant, she will get the message ... talk to your Mom first, ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to revenge on an ex that has treated you so badly?
Q. What is the best revenge I could give my ex. For 3 years, he has treated me badly, dumped me, cheated and come back, I forgive him, still treat him so nice and he turns around, humilate me and treat me bad. What could be the best revenge I could do ...
A. 29 January 2010: The best revenge is your success, for him to see you succeed in your life without him, and without him influencing your life's decisions in any way.
Put him and all thoughts of him behind you, work out what you want from life for yourself and go g... (read in full...)
Can dreams predict the future? Am I freaking out over nothing?
Q. I'm not sure if this post has anything to do with a relationship, but I really could use some help. I had a really weird dream last night, and I'm not sure what it meant. I'd like to hear from anyone who knows about dream analysis. I...
A. 28 January 2010: I dont have my dream book handy, it is the only one I recommend, its by Betty Bothards, an American.
Now, water is to do with feelings, and your being unable to get out of the aquarium and being trapped is just an extension of your longing ... (read in full...)
Sometimes a peach can have too much syrup and it doesn't mean the tree is getting too much water.
Q. Well I am in a s*load of trouble over a relationship I had with my boss at work. I handled the whole thing badly and it blew up in my face. I tried to get some advice on this problem the other day but my question wasn't posted because it was d...
A. 27 January 2010: I agree with fishdish and caring guy, tell her what you have told us, in writing if you have to, or even send her the link, that might be safer,
good luck... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 9 years has been cheating on me with another woman for more than 2 years. WHY, do you think?
Q. Hi, If you've ever cheated on your partner, then I need your advice. I found out a week ago that my boyfriend of nine years has been cheating on me with another woman for more than 2 years. Other than feeling like I've been hit by a bus...
A. 27 January 2010: I was cheated on, forgave him, forgave him again and in the end I, and my three kids, were dumped for an older woman who ended up taking him to the cleaners.
Ah well.
But that isnt what you asked, you what to know why.... it's hard to say, and... (read in full...)
Does he love me? Or what the heck is going on?
Q. Good Day all.Well you see my husband is very rude these 2-4 days. i did nothing wrong at all but he is rude towards me when he wakes up, during the day and after work . he is a bit friendly late at night but he doesnt say goodnight, hold me anymore ...
A. 26 January 2010: His way or get out? Has a car but refuses to drive you to work? Stopped talking to you?
If you have no access to public transport I would leave the house earlier to get to work, keep your job if you can. Sock the money away where he cant get... (read in full...)
I cant have the girl I want because she is with another guy and is afraid that she will be blamed for my break-up with my ex!
Q. Hello, there is one girl called H that i loved for 1 year. And H loves me too. But right now H has a boyfriend called J and she is afraid to hurt her boyfriend J. And second thing H is afraid of is that other people will think that the reason for ...
A. 26 January 2010: If H loves you but has a boyfriend called J, then she is not being very fair to him, in fact, unless she has told J that she doesnt love him, and that she loves you, she is living a lie, and thats not nice.
Meanwhile if H is the reason you brok... (read in full...)
I was caught in a compromising situation at midnight by the police
Q. me and my partner got caught with our tops off kissing in a car park at midnight by the police. I have never done anything like this and probs wont again. The police man took my name and done a check and then left...will that be the end of ...
A. 26 January 2010: I very much doubt you will hear any more from it, if you had been a pair of kids you would have been sent home with a flea in your ear.
... (read in full...)
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