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writes:Me and this guy met online and we have been talking/texting to each other for over two months. Everything was amazing we have so much in common like our birthdays are on the same day,we listen to a lot of the same music and think very alike and finally we hung out last thursday and went on a "date" from like 8-11:30 that's a pretty good time to spend with each other.We just went to the beach and listened to music and watched the stars. He felt very comfortable with me I mean, we've been talking for a long time so he opened up to me about his life and usually people would not do that if they just were going to blow you off.He told me that it was refreshing to hang out with me and that I was a really cool person. So after our date was over he took me home and gave me a big squeezy hug and said, "Thank you for meeting me it was a pleasure."And I said, "I hope we can do this again soon"and he said, "Okay, I'll hit you up."So I walked to my door and he waited for me to get into my house before he left which was really sweet.But a day or two passed. He never called/texted. Its okay. He's following the "rule".Three-four days pass.."Maybe he's busy working."But I couldn't wait! I couldn't stop thinking about how great our connection was so I called him on Monday. He didn't answer of course so I left a message saying "Hey _____, its ______. I was listening to a song and it reminded me of you so I just wanted to call and say hello and how was your weekend. Well give me a call back when you can. Bye."Next day. Still no answer.So its been officially a week. STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM THIS GUY!Is he blowing me off?I don't understand how he could when he kept telling me all these good things about me. He never tried to make a move so I know he was genuinely trying to get to know me. And he was very comfortable telling me personal things about his life. So why the silence ?I asked my friends - some people say he might genuinely be busy.But we talked EVERY SINGLE DAY up until we met.One of my friends say he may be intimidated by me or even guarding his heart BECAUSE he knows we have such a connection - he's afraid to take it to the next level.But I feel like, maybe when he saw me, he might of not been attracted to me which is every girls initial thought. But at the same time.. I think if he wasn't he would have cut that date real short.Even when his friend called him, he ignored the call and put the phone away. So he gave me all of his attention I just don't see what happened !I like him A LOT and it's really bugging me and I am so tempted to just text him and say "Hey I haven't heard from you in a week. whats up?"It's hard for me to let things go without knowing what went wrong. I just wanna know what happened. Is it okay to ask? At least if he is blowing me off, I wanna give him a piece of my mind. But would he think I'm crazy or desperate? I'm neither but it just bugs me to talk to someone everyday and suddenly just stop for no apparent reason.PLEASE HELP ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Let him come to you. Give him some space to miss you. You already reached out to him after the date/meeting. He may just need time to figure out if and how you fit into his "real" life.
Move on if he does not contact you within a few weeks. Be sweet if he does call you. Be your usual friendly self with him. This way it might help him confirm all the happy and positive reasons why your such a great girl.
If you don't here from him,no bother...you will meet someone else even better suited for you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 ooooo
seems he has decided that you two are not meant for each other afterall, and he is too gutless to front up and say it.
I can understand your wanting to give him a piece of you mind but really, the best way to deal with him would be to delete him from your contacts and just get on with your life.
He'll probably show up again sometime in the future, and if you still feel inclined you can give him a piece of your mind then!
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