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writes:My boyfriend insists on me wearing very skimpy clothing even in the winter time. I live in Toledo, so it is cold down here! He has made me wear very short skirts and dresses, with little boots,it does look cute but not for every place we go. I am in my teens, so we are limited to places we can go. Lately it has gotten extreme with what he wants. He had bought me a micro short dress, that falls an inch or two below my bum, and said that it looks great, don't wear panties as you will see the pantyline. So I did this, but I was not expecting to go to the poolhall and have to play a few games. It is very hard to play a round without bending over in a barely there dress without panties! My bum was almost completely exposed, and the guys there were loving the view. My boyfriend even pinched my bare cheeks a few times. I dress like this because I know he loves me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): Actually, my first "serious" boyfriend (who was a lot older than me) was like that, and was always encouraging me to wear skimpy stuff in public even though I wasn't used to it or comfortable with it. I was very young and unfortunately naive, and didn't have the gumption to tell him to go take a hike. :)
It turned out that I did enjoy dressing up for him eventually. However, you can lay down your boundary line for him. Maybe let him know that you'd enjoy wearing these outfits for him, but ONLY in private; as soon as you step outside, you're putting on the tights and undies! You'll probably feel better for setting down a boundary!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): i have seen this kind of stuff but i agree with the troll post sector. if its true you shouldnt complain. you are letting him manipulate you, you accept his gifts. if you dont want to do what he asks (and i certainly wouldnt be caught dead in your boots) then quit obligating yourself by accepting his money and the clothing and tattoos. hello? that is a no brainer to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): To some of you who doubt this posting is true, I forgot to mention that he paid for a tattoo that is on my left bumcheek. He wants me to show it off because he paid for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Basically he makes you dress like a whore, he probably is proud and lucky he has you and is showing you off but next time where tights with a short outfit and KNICKERS x
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 My instinct is to not believe this post is genuine - what a load of shit that someone would go out exposing themselves over a pool table at anothers insistance, ... but hey maybe I just can't compute allowing someone to boss me around or showing so little respect for myself that I would degrade myself for another.
I suppose he MADE you join in on the pool game and bend over instead of bending your knees too. Yeah right- pfffttt!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (24 December 2009):
 your question sounds like a whole lot of hogwash to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): It sounds to me that you like dressing up like this. If you didn't you wouldn't go out dressed like that. It seems like he wants to parade you around, then bring you home and he should give you a good bumwhipping for dressing like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Are you his Barbie doll or something? You should tell that guy to go around in a pair of speedos in public and see how he feels! Personally I'd get out of there as he sounds like he thinks your his wee dress up doll to play with. If you love him too much to leave then explain that you feel like a slapper and dress in any way you want- save the skimpiness for the bedroom! Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): By the way, how old is he? I am guessing he is considerably older than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I agree with every comment on here. The only thing I want to add is this is a clear indicator of this guy's character. And it isn't good. He is a PIG.
You can do better, he does not respect you, he will never love you, what he loves is controlling you and humiliating you in front of others, but for some reason you are too blind to see it. He must be a really good manipulator and practiced liar. He is simply not worth it and you are headed for a hard crash bump fall, world of hurt, get away from him NOW.
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reader, LadyLauren  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 This sounds ridiculous,
maybe you should talk to him, not shouting or angry, just calmly and sweetly, telling him you love him but don't want to dress that way the whole time. He is dressing you up a bit like a toy, and you don't have to dress how he likes just because you love him.
If you think he will finish with you because of this, you should move on, because he should love you for who and what you are, not because of your clothes!
Goood luck anyway :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 December 2009):
This is going to sound rude, but I don't know how else to say it, so please forgive me. But he's dressing you up like a prostitute. I know that sounds harsh, and I'm sure it hurt, but he sees you as an object, or a toy, and not a person. You need to be treated like a person. Somewhere in his mind, he has mixed you up with a fantasy. That can work sometimes, but he's trying to change who you are to fit his little fantasy world. That means he doesn't love you, he loves this fantasy women he has in his mind. I don't think you need to dress up for him like this if he really loves you, because if he really loves you, he will accept you for who you are. Don't be a sex object. You're a person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): That is ridiculous, one that he would want you to dress that way, and two that you ALLOW him to "dress" you. You're 17 years old, dont let yourself fall into the habit of being someone else's puppet already! You said you dress like that bc you know he loves you, sooo, if he loves you, wouldnt he love you regardless of how you dress? keep it classy hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Save this and read it in about 3 years... you'll then realize how mean he was and how naive you were... Look, first of all, he can't MAKE you wear anything. You can resist, he can whine like a baby, or worse leave you at home. You are CHOOSING to wear these outfits because your scared of some action he may or may not take. He is abusing you for his (and his friends) amusement. The less you wear, the more he'll push till your naked in that pool hall. Then he'll call you a tramp and leave you... you're playing in a no win situation here, you are just too young to realize it.
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