What if there IS a journal entry that I don't remember and I lose my son?
Q. I had something bad happen to me almost eight months ago. Me and my ex got back together almost 6 months ago. We have been married now for almost three months now. The person who did the bad thing to me is still insisting I'm lieing. My husband says ...
A. 25 June 2010: You need to go to the police. Somebody may have hacked your account and made a fake entry into your journal. If you can afford a lawyer get one, if you have access to free legal advise go seek it. This situation sounds quite messy, also go see your... (read in full...)
Should I meet this younger girl I have met on Facebook?
Q. I really like the sound of a girl that I saw on Facebook. We have been exchanging emails for a couple of weeks now. Should I meet this girl, she is younger than me? I'd really appreciate some tips from people, especially if they are just about t...
A. 25 June 2010: Your question raises more questions that I would like answer to, for example: When you say younger, how much younger? How can you be sure she isnt even younger than she says? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend frustrations - any way to fix these things?
Q. I am concerned about my Girlfriend, she seems quite unhappy with her life at the moment, and this refelcts a little on the expectations she has of me to make more money and manage my money better. the story is this: she comes home from work, ...
A. 25 June 2010: oooo She sounds like hard work. I am going to assume she is not suffering depression or any other illness, which would make her either a misery guts or a controller. If she just likes to be miserable because its easier than being happy, move on, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so obsessed with porn, he ignores my crying!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and i cant seem to get past his porn viewing habit. i didn't know to what extent it was to until i found out he looks at it every single day!! he has lied to me about it several times saying that he ...
A. 25 June 2010: He has suggested you deal with it, and in your shoes I would. I would deal with it by walking away and finding a man who wants a real woman, one who feels, thinks, and even who sometimes cries.
Your last sentence says it all, if you are tired of... (read in full...)
How do I make my goal of going to college a reality? I feel like I've run out of options!
Q. I don't really know if this would even qualify as a dear cupid question but I have no where else to go to ask it so here goes. I'm going to college in 2011. I plan to go to college right after graduation. I'm from a single parent home and college ...
A. 18 June 2010: Your first step should be to talk to somebody at your school, a careers councellor or student adviser. Tell them what you have told us.
Ask for advise and help to get on the right track. If it means taking a crumby job for a few years while you ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to put more effort into our relationship?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, and it hasn't even been very long, but I just feel like he puts NO effort into communicating. I set my alarm so I get up super early to talk to him (in his evening, because of the time differen...
A. 18 June 2010: stop being the nurturer of the relationship, it seems to me it is all one way, from you to him
Tell him you are getting tired of being the one doing all the work, tell him you would appreciate him discussing with you ways to equal some of the work... (read in full...)
Tattoo of his ex girlfriend?
Q. Dated a man for the past year and he still has a tattoo of his X on his chest. The boyfriend said that he will get it removed but keeps putting it off. How much longer should I put up with this? Is he still holding on to his old relationship? He ...
A. 2 June 2010: My husband had one of his first girlfriends name's tattooed on his lower belly .......... much lower.
Years later our son went to high school and made a new friend, I was amazed to realise it was her son.
She is a very respectable lady... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend wants to research my past! Does he not trust me?
Q. hello friends.. am very worried, my one month boyfriend and i are very open to each other but the problem with me is he wants to know my friends and classmates.. he also want to know about my past ,he even told me hes going to make a research about ...
A. 10 May 2010: after one month only he does this?
I think if I were you I would be looking for a new boyfriend, somebody a little nicer and less of an arsehat!... (read in full...)
Hes got a gf, is there no chance now? (I'm gay)
Q. Im so confident, and comfortable with myself. BUT I fall in love to easily. Its starting to hurt. Theres one boy. Everyone says were cute together. I love him and I flirt with him all the time. But just yesterday he got a gf. Is there any chance for ...
A. 9 May 2010: Sounds like he prefers girls to boys, and you need to cast your eye elsewhere.
Accept it and move on.... (read in full...)
How do I stop believing that everyone in the world is against me?
Q. For years, I have wondered if everyone is part of a conspiracy to give me a bad life. Now, I don't think that way very often. But occasioanlly, I wonder if I am being persecuted by the female race. I have thought in the past that the world owed ...
A. 5 May 2010: You have already taken the first step. Now gird your loins and make an appointment to see a GP, tell them what you have said here, they will be able to refer you to somebody who will be able to help. Just be aware that it has taken you almost 30 ... (read in full...)
Divorced and alone, how can I make my life more fulfilling?
Q. Ok Here we go I will try this .I am a 43 yr old woman who has been married for 28 yrs Always with my husband until he ask for a divorce in feb. of 2008 and then he moved out on his own.I missed him badly but come to realize he wasnt coming back ...
A. 30 April 2010: Enjoy yourselves, wow, in January I spent two weeks travelling with my daughter (she is older than yours though)and what a wonderful experience, we had so much fun, and I am sure you will too.
Good luck with it all, I am sure that once you take... (read in full...)
Divorced and alone, how can I make my life more fulfilling?
Q. Ok Here we go I will try this .I am a 43 yr old woman who has been married for 28 yrs Always with my husband until he ask for a divorce in feb. of 2008 and then he moved out on his own.I missed him badly but come to realize he wasnt coming back ...
A. 29 April 2010: Been there got the T Shirt .....
Do some adult ed short courses, listening skills, first aid, how to draw with left side of the brain, pottery, cake decorating, anything that will get you mixing and meeting people.
Volunteer, train for a help... (read in full...)
I'm not in love with her but she doesn't want an abortion.. I don't want to hurt her.
Q. ok here goes. im from scotland and i got my american girlfriend pregnant. at the moment both of us are living and working in south korea ware we met about 7 months ago. our contracts run out in august and she wants me to move to america with her. i...
A. 23 April 2010: I agree with Caring Guy, you need to be honest with her, and sooner rather than later.
If the girl is then aware of where you stand, and that you will not be going to America with her, that you dont want to spend the rest of your life with her... (read in full...)
Is it cool to text a date request?
Q. I have a crush on this guy at work, he knows about it. I think he likes me too, but has never admitted it like I did. Well yesterday I texted him to see what he was up to, and got no reply. 30 minutes later I jokingly (but it was text- hard to tell, ...
A. 18 April 2010: maybe its a special movie he wants to take you to, maybe he has other committments until the end of may, maybe he has a girlfriend he needs to get rid of first
just text him back and ask if he would like to get together for a coffee or somethin... (read in full...)
Should I be just friends? He is married, too?
Q. I am a married mum of twins who has fallen out of love with my husband of 15 years. He was my first love, however we never go out and he runs up parking fines and bills and never pays, so bailiffs are always knocking on our door and he constantly ...
A. 17 April 2010: out of the frying pan into the fire.
there are two separate issues here.
Firstly if you are unhappy with your marriage, you owe it to your kids to end it. Remaining there with a man that you claim does not treat you right, who constantly break... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to react now I have found out my boyfriend masturbates over his ex!
Q. I just unintentionally found out my boy of 3 years (rarely) wanks to the memory of having sex with his ex. (She was his first, and he says he's totally over her - they have no contact) He said it's just a different type of sex, where as we 'mak...
A. 16 April 2010: Well, I also think its weird, more weird than fantasising about some celebrity or other.
As for how you should react, I don't know, I do know that I wouldnt be taking it as a compliment, nor would I be comfortable with the idea.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!
Q. My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...
A. 14 April 2010: You are very young, I don't see why you should be putting money on his book, and I wouldn't be. I don't know how the law works where you are but sweetspicy's suggestion to visit his parole officer seems like a good one.
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He thinks I lied about the number of relationships I've had
Q. I have been dating a man for six months. We dated each other last year however not seriously and I ended things without an explanation after 5 months last time. This time around things are better and more serious. Initially I contacted him ...
A. 14 April 2010: It seems to me that you will never be able to trust him to beleive what you are saying, nor, it seems, will you ever be able to trust him to understand the results of sexual assault, the number of sexual partners you had prior to meeting him is none ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him, but he might be dying
Q. Sorry this is so long, but I think details should be known. Hi guys. I'm going through some really hard times here. My boyfriend used to make me incredibly happy. He'd try his best to please me and everything for the first couple of weeks we got ...
A. 14 April 2010: You list your age between 13 and 15. I am going to assume he is around the same age.
Type 1 dabetes is not a death sentence, it can be managed through maintaining a healthy lifestyle, regular blood glucose testing and insulin. I personal... (read in full...)
Is there a way to fix this without kicking him out?
Q. I feel terrible for writing this, but feel I could benefit from some advice on how to approach this situation. I trust my boyfriend, but there is a money issue and I dont want to be taken for a ride. We just moved in together, and he was originall...
A. 14 April 2010: you are being taken for a ride, and now you need to decide how to deal with it.
money is often the main cause of marriage going sour, so I will assume its also a cause in living together arrangments as well.
You need to seek legal advise to se... (read in full...)
How can I win her heart when we have never even talked?
Q. I dont how a guy can totally win a lady's heart,i love her but she does not know me,we have not even spoken for once,and i need her in my lify,my heart self even desire her,and i dont know what to do,either to call her on phone,or to call her ...
A. 13 April 2010: You have never spoken to her, or her to you, how can you claim love for somebody you don't know?
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How do I stop feeling guilty and like I abandoned my brother?
Q. Me and my brother were neglected by our parents and we were taken into care. We spent 6 years in various care homes, until 3 months ago when 1 family took me in. So I now live with them My new family have always wanted a daughter having had 5 sons a...
A. 12 April 2010: Your question made me cry, and not much does these days.
I don't know what the rules of foster care etc are in the States, so I cannot give you any good, solid advise.
Continue to see him as much as you can, stay in touch with your case worker, ... (read in full...)
I heard my boyfriend having sex in the background during a phone call!
Q. i rang my boyfreind early this morning becouse he was stopping at his mum becouse he had had a drink with his friend and i couldent get him a taxi back. when i rang his phone it answerd and i heard him say turn that off but obviously he answerd ...
A. 11 April 2010: How can you ignore it?
Same think happened to me, but I forgave him that time, and the next and also the time after that.
However, it finally got to a stage where it was ignore again or go nuts, I decided to save myself and got out of the rela... (read in full...)
My guy is mad because I went to see a movie without him
Q. I invited my man to my nephew birthday party in lafayette, la which is about two hours away from where we live. After the party, everyone wanted to get together and go to the movies; everyone except my man. We rode up there together, so I told him I ...
A. 11 April 2010: He sounds like a spoilt immature brat! You did the right thing, he didn't.... (read in full...)
My family thinks I'm a bad parent!
Q. I have 3 sisters, all of us moms. I have 1 son who is 19 and still lives at home. Ever since the time he was born my family has criticized my parenting skills. My family all live in a small canadian town, my husband and I move to california before ...
A. 11 April 2010: I raised 2 boys, both now married and parents themselves, I like your attitude, it is much more sensible than your sister who hasnt had any of those awkward discussions with her 17 year old, just keep doing what you are doing. Sounds to me you are ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed because I feel ugly! I have bad skin, I stutter and I have huge lips!
Q. hi im 27 yrs old and a loner! all my life im pretending im happy with my life but im not. Growing up i wasnt pretty, i stuttered(and still do) because i was scared to start conversations with people. When i hit puberty i developed bad skin, huge ...
A. 10 April 2010: Bad teeth is genetic, but maybe you can work something out to get these fixed, speak to your doctor, bad skin can be kept under control to a large extent by diet and lifestyle (I have inherited dreadful skin from my father, and chalky teeth from ... (read in full...)
New relationship and I'm starting to feel trapped! Do I tell the guy?
Q. Since I finally got out of an abusive relationship about 18 months ago, I tend to feel trapped and run in the early stages of any new relationship. A few days ago I slept with a guy from work and I felt ok about it because I thought he was a bit of ...
A. 6 April 2010: If you are in a metropolitan area or a large town there may be some counselling available for you, contact your GP and see what they can suggest.... (read in full...)
Is making out with another girl considered cheating?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship over for a year and a half. Occasionally, when I go out with my friends, I make out with other girls. My boyfriend is aware of this. However, the other night, I ended up sleeping with another girl. Should I tell ...
A. 6 April 2010: In answer to your question, yes.... (read in full...)
Fallen for my BFs wife
Q. I am in need of advice, constructive critisim, and feedback. Please do not tell me how terrible of a person I am. I already know this. I have beat myself up emotionally for years now. I can't get away from these feelings, so here is my story. I be...
A. 6 April 2010: My advice is to back off, if there marriage isnt going to work, let it not work without your input. Limit your time with them, find a new outlet, get a hobby, build a life that doesnt include so much of this couple in it, you claim you understand ... (read in full...)
Do I contact this guy from 8 years ago?
Q. My question is do i or dont i contact him? I met this guy about 8 years ago whilst I was travelling and we had a very full on and passionate affair as most travelling relationships are. It all ended when my visa ran out and I had to go home. we...
A. 6 April 2010: Sure, for a coffee and a catchup, no strings, no pressure, no expectations and see what happens. The worst thing that can happen is nothing. The best thing is a rekindling of the feelings you both once had for each other.... (read in full...)
Should I call ex and wish her a happy birthday?
Q. Well this is my second attempt at this question. It was rejected because there wasn't enough detail. I didn't want it to have detail. It was a simple question should I or should I not call my ex and wish her a happy birthday. Now because of this I ...
A. 6 April 2010: I wouldn't phone her but I would say happy birthday when you see her at school... (read in full...)
Do I ignore my boyfriends anger?
Q. I have written previously about my boyfriends anger problem...which I think is hereditary. He is Italian and hot tempered. I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work. He gets upset all the time. If something ...
A. 6 April 2010: No, NO NO NO. Do not ignore your boyfriends anger. How can a relationship work if the only way it will is for one partner to have anger issues and the other to have to ignore it. Is that really the way you want to live the rest of your life? ... (read in full...)
Mom found out about b/f & I having sex and now we have no contact at all!
Q. my very strict mother found out that me and the love of my life hes 17 and im 16 have been having sex. and now we are banned from seeing eachother. we used to text eachother like every second and now i dont have a cellphone anymore, and the house ...
A. 6 April 2010: I can understand your mother's concern, you are 16 . When you are old enough to leave home and support yourself then you can decide how to behave, in the meantime you are living under her roof, being financially supported by her and legally a ... (read in full...)
My ex's family are treating me unfairly, yet they don't know there son abused me whilst we were together, shall I tell them?
Q. Hey all, any answers or advice on this situation will be greatly appreciated. So thankyou in advance. Im 18 years old, currently studying for my alevels, so that i can go to university and make something of my life, i am in a relationship wit...
A. 4 April 2010: I would avoid any unnecesary contact with him or his family. If he or his family come into where you work I would treat them as any other customer, if they spill stuff just clean it up, with a smile, if they make it difficult for you speak with ... (read in full...)
Will my friends think I'm a player?
Q. Basically, i want sex. I do. And i can get it but i always go for the guys i should go for. ie. My best frineds ex's best friend...not a good story. In the end...i seem to always be stuck with the decision of 'the respect oof my frinds' and 'my urge ...
A. 4 April 2010: righteo
aged 13 to 15 and just got out of a five year relationship
that means it started when you were 10, or even worse, 8.
Where were your parents when this was happening?... (read in full...)
I want him to leave her for me
Q. I am having a predicament. I was with "Joe" for 8 years. We met when we were 17 and just broke up a few weeks ago. During the past 8 years I have been very close with his family, in fact I am closer to them than he is. I still hang out with his ...
A. 4 April 2010: what you had was a little hole in the corner, dirty little, illicit affair.
You were cheating on your boyfriend with his step brother and he was cheating on his girlfriend, a long time friend of yours.
Think about it for a moment.
... (read in full...)
My friend is hurting me with his behavior and doesn't seem to get it!
Q. I talked to my friend last night telling him that he hurt me by being distant. He said that the reason why e doesn’t talk to me is because he doesn’t carry his phone every where and sometimes he is signed on online but he’s not at his computer. Plus ...
A. 3 April 2010: I think he is a fairly typical young man, I think he probably doesnt take his phone everywhere, I think sometimes he has his computer conected to the internet when he is not at his computer, I think his idea of how to be a friend might be different ... (read in full...)
6 months later ex deletes our myspace, what does this mean?
Q. Hi, My ex boyfriend and I broke up a around Nov of 09' which was about 6 months ago. A couple weeks after we broke up he had this friend who he vented to about us and they soon after were dating, im guessing it is a rebound after everything i've ...
A. 2 April 2010: Okay OP, how about you write the answer you want to receive from the Agony Aunts and we will all cut and paste it for you
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out all my secrets and I feel lik I cant talk to him
Q. My boyfriend told me that he read my diary and he told me what page it was and it amberrasted me totally! I dont een know if i can talk to him but i should be able to speak to him because he is my boyfriend. I need some edvice please respond to ...
A. 2 April 2010: ewww
what a horrid boy, not only did he get into your diary but he then repeats what you have written.
He has totally broken your trust, this is why you are finding it difficult to speak
Try and explain what he has done, and how it has made ... (read in full...)
6 months later ex deletes our myspace, what does this mean?
Q. Hi, My ex boyfriend and I broke up a around Nov of 09' which was about 6 months ago. A couple weeks after we broke up he had this friend who he vented to about us and they soon after were dating, im guessing it is a rebound after everything i've ...
A. 2 April 2010: I doubt it is a rebound, some men don't get into the rebound thing, its off with the old and on with the new, I would think deleting the my space thing is him moving on more than it would be him thinking about you
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Should I contact the girl I suspect my bf of "e-cheating" on me with?
Q. Yeah, I know, I should probably just give up on the guy entirely considering I "apparently" can't trust him, but oh well. My bf showed me an e-mail where this girl was hitting on him. He did this indrectly, of course, as he was showing me somet...
A. 1 April 2010: I like , luter1's suggestion. Ask your boyfriend if the three of you can meet up for a coffee, she may need to see him interacting with you, or uh oh, you may see him interacting back with her, either way you would have something to go on other ... (read in full...)
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