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writes:My boyfriend keeps asking me to give him a picture of my chest to him. I keep saying that i dont want to because i feel he might eventually might use it against me one day. I really love him and he is just really persistent! How can i stay with him and get him to understand? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Aw, some mean-minded and humourless moderator removed my little joke!
I said, in my reply,
"If he wants to see them and you are happy with that, get them out and show him, but then he will just have to commit them to memory (mammary? - sorry!) and be content with that."
Spot the difference?
OK, not a very good joke, but no need to edit it out - I've seen lots worse on here, "q", haven't I?
Not having a go, BTW, I love your posts.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): This is a post to all of the young girls out there. PLease do not give naked photos to your boyfriends. Do not text naked photos either. This will haunt you the rest of your life. Have self respect and keep your shirt on. Recently in the news a 13 year old girl texted her boyfriend a topless picture and the boyfriend sent it around the school The kids were ruthless to this young girl and picking on her. She ended up commiting sucide. To all the young girls, please stop this behavior. No more girls gone wild. Lets see some self respect!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): As most hve said, it is inadvisable to give young boys such intimate pictures - they will be passed around amongst his friends and maybe even on the Internet!If he wants to see them and you are happy with that, get them out and show him, but then he will just have to commit them to memory and be content with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): his behavior is quite piggish, but take in consideration how long you have been dating. if it's more than 5 months give him what he wants,but if you're really uncomfortable with it, explain to him why you don't want to. Now if it's less, give him a goal. Tell him if he sticks around for 4-5 months, from the start of your dating, you'll give him a tempting pic, and keep setting him goals. Guys enjoy a chanlenge, so give him one. But if you're really uncomfortable with it, again explain to him why not.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (23 December 2009):
He is an ass, and does not respect your desire NOW! You KNOW what he's going to do in several months when you've grown tired of him and moved on... keep your shirt on!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 December 2009):
 If he's that persistent, he's a pest. Are you sure he's really smart enough for you to be dating him? He sounds kind of stupid to me. Tell him that you will break up with him if he asks one more time. Then do it if he does. You can do better, seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Him even asking that question is a sign that maybe he doesn't respect you.
Also, considering taking a photo of your bare breasts would be considered Child Pornography, it is not a good idea. You could get in trouble for manufacturing and distributing child pornography if you were caught.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): nope, nope and nope. you'll be sorry. mal
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reader, scrdofyou +, writes (23 December 2009):
 q1605, your post always crack me up lol.
As for the OP: I agree with Sammii and Auntie BimBim, if he loves you as much as he claims, he'll have no problem accepting the decision you've made. :)
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reader, ibob  +, writes (23 December 2009):
Don't do it! Just explain to him that letting him have any kind of that picture makes you feel uncomfortable. If he has any kind of respect for you, he'll understand. If he's being persistent, maybe you should not be with him. Sorry to be so blunt but you sound as if you have your own doubts.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 you cant! Either he accepts your NO or he will remain persistent.
His behaviour shows a lack of respect for you, he may not accept your answer and you may have to decide to walk away, dignity intact.
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