I fell in love with a girl on a train, found out who she is, but she doesn't want anything to do with me!
Q. am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found ...
A. 17 December 2009: she has a boyfriend, you are aged between 18 and 21. How long do you intend to wait, 6 months, a year, five years, 10 years, maybe 20 years. what if she never wants to have anything to do with you, will you wait another 20 years after the first ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Does he want us to get back together?
Q. I'm still confused me and my partner split up four months ago we have a child and one due anyday he's really good with our son, we haven't talked about getting back together for a few weeks but the thing that drives me crazy is he still got a tattoo ...
A. 15 December 2009: Find somebody who can mediate between you, if you have a Salvation Army nearby contact them, they may be able to help or a social worker attached to your local government.
It sounds like you both want the same thing, but you both need to develop ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my former teacher from sexually abusing someone else?
Q. I am desperately seeking advice or help on this -- I am 19 now; but when i was at school i had a bad experience with my teacher. I had my shirt tucked in by him when i was 11 and thus established a crush on him which pushed me to move into his grou...
A. 15 December 2009: See it there is any organisations in the UK who are fighting against child sexual predators. Phone your nearest telephone couselling service who should have a list of people and organisation who may be able to help you.
Good luck in your quest!... (read in full...)
Are all guys this selfish in bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about eleven months now, and I really can't help but notice he can really be a selfish guy when he feels like it. Namely, I'm talking about our sex life. When we met I was a virgin. Before we started having ...
A. 15 December 2009: To answer your question blunty, No, not all men are like that and Yes, he does sound like a selfish pig.
Tell him if he is'nt interested in love making but only in getting his rocks off he can go pay for the service, because your playgrou... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my boyfriend's accusations, I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. I have a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and we live together. Monday-Friday he works in another state and I'm at home by myself. I have three children from a previous relationship that lives with us too. I only get ...
A. 15 December 2009: Change your passwords, change your numbers and change your locks, he has no right to make assumptions based on such flimsy evidence. Maybe those other women didnt cheat, maybe he just accused them of it, try running that past him and see how it ... (read in full...)
We were due to be getting married before Christmas but his close frienship with another woman is ruining everything!
Q. A coule of months ago I posted a question regarding my fiance's very close friendship with another woman and how I felt uncomfortable with it. Well we are due to be married before Christmas and ths lady has started calling him more and more. ...
A. 15 December 2009: I doubt I would be insisting on having a phone number for the other woman, as calling her is not going to achieve much more than let her know how vulnerable you are feeling, which is not a good thing if she does have her eyes out for him.
But d... (read in full...)
Help for a tight foreskin???
Q. Hey... I'm 14 years old an I have a slightly embarassing problem. All my life I've had a tight foreskin, it's impossible to retract. I'm a little concerned because I don't want this to restrain or prevent my sex life in the future. I really don't ...
A. 15 December 2009: How can you tell how accurate or even genuine the advise you receive on a site such as this will be.
Your best option is to visit a doctor, he, or she, will be able to determine the best course for you to follow and should also be able to give you... (read in full...)
She can't remember if she had sex while drunk!!!
Q. My gf is currently studying abroad in Italy. She gets back in a week (it was just one semester so she will be back on campus here next semester). We were dating before she left and then I suggested we take a break while she's away. When she was in ...
A. 14 December 2009: Point ONE: you were having a break from each other at the time so IF something did happen, she wasnt cheating.
Point TWo: The person who saw them, saw them disappear for 15 minutes ---- could they perhaps have been having one of those drunken ... (read in full...)
Should I say yes to his proposal... or am I too young?
Q. 1)My boyfriend and I are both 16. Him and I have connected on an extremely deep level and already talk about marriage and kids. we've been dating for 7 months, and his friends and mom have told me he's planning to propose (they showed me the ring ...
A. 14 December 2009: Run Away!! Any boy who has a mother who is quite prepared for him to get engaged at such a young age is not going to go anywhere fast.
Although, of course, she may be just trying to keep him from joining the Marines, which kinda sorta makes se... (read in full...)
Break up help...
Q. I know what I need to do, but... ...but I still need reassurance? Strength? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He comes to see me twice a month and stays at my house. We talk to each other every day. I wanted to go see...
A. 14 December 2009: I am so pleased to hear you have bitten the bullet and started the process to get rid of this flea bitten bug!
I am also happy to hear you are going to install your brother in the house when you think he might come a knocking! If it seems he... (read in full...)
I'm worried I could end up marrying the wrong person! Should I accept him or let him go?
Q. I've been with my fiance a year now, he proposed to me 8mths ago, but since then he's been going off and on. for no reasons he'll start avoiding me later he'll come back and beg me. Last 2 month he came to my house i saw him off, when he got home...
A. 14 December 2009: Let him go, trying to keep track of his coming and going will keep you so tired you wont have any energy for anything else
... (read in full...)
My guy has never come straight out and said " I love You"
Q. SO my guy has never said these three words "I love you." right out like that...Instead he says things like "Love yah lots!" Or he will tell his friends he "love yah lots!" then turn to me and say "love yah lots...more." Or if I do something stupid h...
A. 14 December 2009: Actions speak louder than words, and it would seem from what you have said, that his actions surely say he love you.
I agree with cellardoor, he sounds like fun, but you know what, there is no reason why you cant be the first to say it, it might... (read in full...)
The man I am involved with is waiting for a married woman, how do I get rid of her from our lives?
Q. I'm seeing a man who has been involved with a married woman for a few years, she tells him that she will leave her husband but they have children and has yet to do so, how do I get her out of our lives....
A. 14 December 2009: The best way to get rid of her out of your life is to get rid of him - problem solved!... (read in full...)
I thought my ex cheated so I left rude voice messages. Now I want him back.
Q. [Moderator note: OP, if you post any replies to this thread, please use proper case. 'Talking' not 'tawken'] im 16 yrs old and i have been tawken t0 this b0y that use t0 be my b0yfriend until my ex bestie t0ld me he cheated 0n me s0 me and her sent...
A. 14 December 2009: whoot whooot pinktopaz
feeling a tad bitey today are we
but you sure seem to have the answer covered!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is talking to his ex behind my back!
Q. Okay this girl messaged me on myspace saying she was a friend of my bf's ex. She was telling me how he was calling her and messaging her on myspace saying how he missed her but he wants to keep it from me till he is ready to tell me. I didn't want ...
A. 14 December 2009: If the trust is gone, it might be time to move on. If the messages were there, and are now deleted, you have reason to be concerned. Tell him why you are concerned and see what he has to say, if it makes sense, great, if his story lacks logic call ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty and can't decide!
Q. [Note: All names are changed for privacy.] My girlfriend, "Jane," wanted to take a break from our relationship, partly because she was weary of my uncertainty about whether I was committed to the relationship. During the break in our relati...
A. 14 December 2009:
Have you ever considered a career in creative writing?
... (read in full...)
Converting between Christian Religions?
Q. I was born and raised a catholic, recently I've been going to a Christian services and I absolutely love it. My question is it bad that I want to convert and be baptized as a Christian?...
A. 14 December 2009: Catholics are Christians, Methodists are Christians, Anglicans ane Christians, The Pentecostal Church is Christian, as are the Baptists and any number of Churches. They all believe in the same God and, at their very core, base their religion on the ... (read in full...)
He only stayed a minute on the phone... why was he so cool with me tonight?
Q. i cant sleep through worrying about this - I feel very stupid. I've developed strong feelings for a new guy i work with, I dont know how. hes going through his second divorce and I've been on my own 8 months. Anyway he's already seeing someone ...
A. 14 December 2009: Which part of my answer didnt you understand? I am happy to rephrase it if necessary.... (read in full...)
Who is the father of my baby?
Q. Hi. I'm 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and my due date is on the 18 march 2010. Me and my partner were having a bit of trouble round the time I think I fell pregnant and I slept with a different boy on the 17th may and 26th june. I wanted to know if ...
A. 14 December 2009: Ask your doctor who will be able to give a more precise date than the rest of us, and dont forget, even they cant pinpoint the exact day.
You really have gone and got yourself into a bit of a pickle havent you, you may have to come clean with you... (read in full...)
Break up help...
Q. I know what I need to do, but... ...but I still need reassurance? Strength? My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He comes to see me twice a month and stays at my house. We talk to each other every day. I wanted to go see...
A. 14 December 2009: Wow, do you have a big burly male relative who could come and stay for a few days, just for when he comes abusing you after you tell him its over?
A cousin or brother in law, a friends husband, anybody like that?
If not, go talk to the poli... (read in full...)
Christmas is anything but a time to be joyful for me
Q. I have always hated xmas. Firstly my older childrens father use to two time me at this time which seriously damaged me emotionally. Secondly I come from a very large family and since back in the UK for 26 years, they have never invited me for x...
A. 14 December 2009: Christmas sucks, but only if we let it. If the traditional family thing isnt happening for you, create your own traditions.
I was a single mother of three, with very little money, isolated from the extended family - so I have an inkling ... (read in full...)
Engaged but having second thoughts!
Q. should i get married? i have been in a relationship for almost 5 years, and have been engaged for 8 months. I have lived in apartment with him for about 41/2 years... and things have been good... except for the last couple months. We are supposed to ...
A. 14 December 2009: Damn, if only you had waited for a bit before making the financial committment to buy and renovate, it does make your life difficult, but we are all smarter with hindsight!
I dont know how much of your money you have invested in this, but you may ... (read in full...)
This girl is a thorn in my side...
Q. My bf is really good friends with this girl and her bf. I get the feeling that the girl is trying to break me and my bf up, or something like that anyway. I am interested in other peoples outsiders veiws of the situation. Just so you know, my bf, t...
A. 14 December 2009: Walk away, if he follow you tell him you feel that you are constantly being set up to compete with her, by him and by her, and that you are not into those sorts of competitions.
If he wants to work through it with you, be firm about what you want... (read in full...)
He only stayed a minute on the phone... why was he so cool with me tonight?
Q. i cant sleep through worrying about this - I feel very stupid. I've developed strong feelings for a new guy i work with, I dont know how. hes going through his second divorce and I've been on my own 8 months. Anyway he's already seeing someone ...
A. 14 December 2009: If you initiated the phone call he may have had a strong urge to visit the bathroom, his mother may have come to visit bearing his freshly laundered undies or his new bird, you know, the one he started dating three weeks after his split, might have ... (read in full...)
Can I regain the trust of an ex-cheater?
Q. My girlfriend "befriended" another man when her and I were serious. I caught her sleeping at his place multiple times, but she would never admit to cheating. As soon as I broke up with her (for cheating) she immediately entered a relationship with ...
A. 14 December 2009: errk! You dont trust her, and yet you took her back? You know she cheated but she still wont admit it, what was she doing when she spent the nights at his place, playing Monopoly?? Until she is honest with you there can be no trust in this ... (read in full...)
I keep having bad dreams
Q. i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...
A. 14 December 2009: The best place to start would be to reread the answer from Anonymous lady, she seems to have a very good handle on dream interpretation, I also think the old saying "mother knows best" has more than a grain of truth in it, perhaps listen to your ... (read in full...)
I keep having bad dreams
Q. i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...
A. 13 December 2009: In reply to you more recent question, it would appear so!
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 13 wont even kiss me, she is frigid!
Q. Ok i am 13 years old and have a girlfriend who is friged but dosent want to be and she gets scared and backs away when i try to kiss OR EVEN HUG HER i like her alot and really dont want to dump her but for weeks now it seems that she dosent even ...
A. 13 December 2009: Have you considered that she could be nervous, have you considered she might not be ready to kiss, 13 is very young to be going around accusing people of being frigid.
Back off a little, relax, take one day at a time, you dont need physical... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wished his ex happy birthday on facebook but ignored mine!
Q. Things have been going amazingly well recently between me and my boyfriend. But I recently saw something which really upset me and got me thinking. This year, despite the fact that we text/call each other every day, my boyfriend didn't wish me a ...
A. 13 December 2009: Before you make any hasty decision based on his forgetting your birthday, please let me say, people do forget birthdays, one year I forgot my own child's, the fact he was an adult who understood the pressures I was under at the time eased my guilt a ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a girl on a train, found out who she is, but she doesn't want anything to do with me!
Q. am i love with this girl that i saw a couple of times when i took a train. i found out about her from a common friend of ours.. He gave me her contact details and i contacted her, i chatted with her a couple of times under the pretense that i found ...
A. 13 December 2009: You don't seem to comprehend how "not normal" you are. What you are doing is stalking, and I am sure there are laws against it in Singapore just as there are in all other civilised countries of the world.
Stop it right now, or you might find you... (read in full...)
I keep having bad dreams
Q. i keep having really long vivid not very nice dreams. i wouldn't call them nightmares because they don't scare me as such, they are just unpleasant and do not give me restful sleep as i seem to act out my dreams in my sleep (or thats how my muscles ...
A. 13 December 2009: A quick google (because I can't find my Dictionary of Dreams book by Betty Bethards the best one ever!) shows that your running away dreams mean that you are avoiding an issue.
Based on your age listed on your ID, naturally I have to assume t... (read in full...)
I think two staff members at my school are having an affair
Q. I think that 2 people at my high school are having an affair. The thing is, their not students. I think he knows I know as well. Lets call my principal 'Street' and my vice principal 'Watson'. Street is the macho principal. Watson, is the woman who ...
A. 13 December 2009: The writer of this question states she hasnt seen anything inappropriate, all she has seen are two adults talking to each other, what have they done to be reported to their superintendent?
The whole this is a story built on innuendo and supposit... (read in full...)
My girl has changed over the past 5 months and now I don't love her the same
Q. For a few weeks (about 3), I've been confused about the way i feel about my girlfriend. We have been going on strong for 5 months now, and we were completely attached to each other. But recently I've been having doubts. Now that she has this new ...
A. 13 December 2009: Gaining the apprenticeship would be a big thing in your girl's life, due to your posted age I am going to assume this is her first job since finishing school, so she has a lot happening in her life right now, the end of one stage and the beginning ... (read in full...)
I think two staff members at my school are having an affair
Q. I think that 2 people at my high school are having an affair. The thing is, their not students. I think he knows I know as well. Lets call my principal 'Street' and my vice principal 'Watson'. Street is the macho principal. Watson, is the woman who ...
A. 13 December 2009: Don't you think at your age this is really juvenille on your part? If there is something going on, and I doubt there is much more than you having an over active imagination, it's none of your business.
And your question reads as if a pair of ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give a gift in bad taste
Q. Is it in bad taste or bad relationship etiquette to give my GF the same gift (a custom-designed collectible) two christmases in a row? She loved the one I got her last year and I thought about getting her another one this year....
A. 13 December 2009: I think if your GF is still collecting whatever it is you gave her last year, a new piece for her collection will not be considered bad taste.
Go for it, it shows forethought and consideration.... (read in full...)
A boy who wants to have sex with me and his girlfriend are upset with me, my ex wont get back with me and another friend is pregnant and I am dropping grades due to all this
Q. Hi there I'm 15, and right now, I'm extremely stressed out, so I thought I'd come to you guys and ask for some advice. Within the past few months, I've had a hard time social wise because of a boy that I can't seem to fall out of love with. H...
A. 13 December 2009: Okayyy, first up lets make sure I understand your problem.
You are 15 and 12 months ago you broke up with your ex boyfriend.
He wont get back with you because he says nothing has changed and the reasons you broke up still exist.
Since then... (read in full...)
I have heard rumours my 15 yo boyfriend is gay, and I am a girl!
Q. Hey, im 14 and my boyfriends 15. i'm worried about his sexuality and i'm not sure if its just rumors starting to sink in or if he really is. don't get me wrong he is really sweet and very funny but sometimes he sends off signals. when we first ...
A. 13 December 2009: well because you and he are really still very young, and because it is very unlikely that you and he are likely to end up living happily ever after (because as you mature you will both change and probably go in differnt directions), and because you ... (read in full...)
We met during troubled times and split, but now we are dating like a normal couple
Q. My ex and I broke up 6 months ago. We started out in a wrong way both our marriages were ending when we met. I was in an abusive marriage . He was and his now exwife had been living as roommates for 3 years ( his ex wife told me this herself, said ...
A. 13 December 2009: I am a bit confused, in light of the fact he and his wife had effectively stopped living as partners such a long time ago, he doesn't sound like a cheater to me.
I say go for it, the fact you have both worked on your pasts and are now willing ... (read in full...)
I feel my daughter is being left out - what do I do?
Q. My daughter is in fifth grade and is one of four girls. Two are very cliquish and are practically glued together. Buddying up with the other one is not an option as the other girl is more interested in fitting in with the two who are very ...
A. 13 December 2009: no, no, no don't approach the girls on your daughters behalf, imagine how that will look, as if her mother has to go out and develop her friendships for her, girls are so judgmental, and they are not in playgroup or kinder anymore where hand holding ... (read in full...)
He is making my drinking an issue, and says he cant trust me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over nine months, and just recently my drinking has begun to cause problems. One I start, I cannot stop and I have said and done hurtful things to him in the past when I was under the influence. Jut ...
A. 13 December 2009: You answer your question in the first sentence, "just recently my drinking has begun to cause problems"
You really do have a problem, and you need to sort it out PDQ!
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a baby and spends time with the baby Mama!
Q. Hi, I been with my boyfriend for close to 3yrs there is a big age difference between us but I love him very much. Anyway about 1yr ago he cheated on me and got another woman pregnant that hurted my soul because although I'm older then he is it still ...
A. 13 December 2009: How do you expect him to have a healthy relationship with his baby if he cannot have any interaction with the baby's mother?
He cheated on you, but the other girl is the one left holding the baby. If you honestly can't deal with him talking ... (read in full...)
My Dad's gf is threatening to leave him and I don't want her to! What should I do?
Q. This is really hard for me so here it goes. Well I feel as if my dad and his fianceé are always arguing. Today I did not mean to but I heard what they were saying and she(we will call her Alli) is crying. They were arguing and Alli was talking about ...
A. 12 December 2009: Oh dear, sadly if your dad and his partner are to split there isnt much you can do about it, even sadder if it means your half sister moving out as well, it seems strange that you arent sure if your sister is your sister, do you live with your ... (read in full...)
I feel my daughter is being left out - what do I do?
Q. My daughter is in fifth grade and is one of four girls. Two are very cliquish and are practically glued together. Buddying up with the other one is not an option as the other girl is more interested in fitting in with the two who are very ...
A. 12 December 2009: I am sorry, but there isnt much you can do, at least she is one of four, and has friends, if there were only three in the group she would be on the outer.
... (read in full...)
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