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writes:I need some advice.I met this random girl one day i saw her walking down the other side of the street and i called to her and told her she was cute and she stopped, so i went over and started talking to her, but when i got close i could tell she was younger then i thought so i just looked at her and she asked me what did i want i told her i forgot and i started walking away but then i turned back and asked her why she was out all by her self so late she said Cuse her mom kiked her out. I asked her why she said because they got in a fight. so i asked her where she was gonna go she said she didnt care.I asked her if she was hungry and i told her im going to white castle, she said sure, so we just walked and talked she asked me why i didnt have a car i told her it was in the shop even though i really didnt have one,So at whitecastle she told me she doesnt get along with her mom and she got kiked out,i told her she should go stay with her dad, she told me she never met him. i told her she cant stay out on the street its freezing she would die foreal iv been seeing frozen animals everywhere.She asked why did i care i didnt really have an answer for that, i asked her how old she was she wouldnt tell me im pretty sure shes not 18 she looks like it from the neck down atleast but she said i didnt need to kno that,when we where done i told her she could stay at my place for the night it wasnt far she said if i want her to, I was thinking what kind of answer is that.well i let her stay she snores.ok that happen rte before new years, i told her she could stay if she wanted but she still hadnt told me much about her except her name if thats real.any way the other day i heard her crying in the bathroom i knocked but she didnt answer so i just went in and she was on the floor crying i kneeled down to ask her what was wrong and i saw her arms had these lines and welts on them, i asked her if she had them all over she didnt answer so i lifted her shirt and looked at her back and she had bruise old ones all over.Make a long story short as i can she finnaly told me that her moms Bf beats her and they got in a fight cuse she told her mom and her mom didnt believe her and her mom kiked her out, I told her i was gonna call the police she cant hide forever someones gonna be looking for her and i would be albeting a runnaways.She just got mad yelled at me and stormed out she said she hated cops curse word curse word and its none of my business.i went after her It took me three blocks to calm her down.I cant say mutch to her she always throws why do i care in my face, any way i said what kind of future does she think she will have if she doesnt go to school.... well i still let her stay. she said she goes to school and she will be old enough to do w/e she wants in a few months.I did go by her house she didnt want me too well let me just say her mother is something else shes probably a stripper or something worst but any ways apparently it was her daughter or her bFs deep pokets she chose the bf.so thats about it what should i do i need to turn her in but she would never forgive me and where actually making progress,Im also starting to get attached to having her around shes quiet doesnt eat mutch and shes gone all day i still dont kno where but im trying to find out. so whats the rte thing to do
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (15 January 2010):
 this is a tricky one. I would say that it is probably legal to leave home after the age of 16 and if she is 16+ then you can just let her stay at your place or get her the assisted living some other way.
Either way to simply walk away would be devestating to her. Whether she wants to admit it or not, she is reliant on you. You provided her safe refuge to get away from a guy who is committing felony assault on a child. A CHILD.
She is probably sexually abused by the guy as well. Abuse like that goes hand in hand with sexual abuse.
It would be the worst thing to do to throw her back to her old life.
I am going to be a cop and I say do what you are doing. Of the two situations she can be in, the one she is in now, with you, is the best one.
Try finding out her age by talking to her about school and what not.
You have a unique chance to really, truely help someone out and make a difference in their life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): My wife is a social worker. She would jump all over this. Basically what would happen if you call the cops is she would be put into the child welfare system until she is 18 if she isn't already, and then put out on the street in the same situation she is in now.
Sadly it sounds like she has never been able to form trusting relationships, especially with men, so you might be s.o.l. Keep offering a place to stay and try to always be there for her. Maybe she'll open up to you one day. Sorry that's what 6 years of Psychology and a wife as a social worker has taught me. Try your best to be her friend and maybe with a little luck she'll come around.
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reader, texasgal +, writes (15 January 2010):
I don't know what is the "right" thing to do but here goes...Contact your nearest resources, crisis & counseling center to find out what services they offer. Pick up some of their literature & leave it around for your friend to see; maybe she'll read it. She might be depressed. Try to get her interested in a hobby, some form of physical exercise and/or something to do with her hands. Getting her to open up will be like peeling away the layers of an onion; be patient. Give her some simple chores to do around the place, let her feel useful and give her a small sense of accomplishment. Talk to her often, even if she doesn't really talk back, she's listening. Good luck to both of you!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Contact the police and tell them exactly what you have written here, they may be able to keep a look out for her and ensure she receives the assistance she needs.
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