Should I contact the girl I suspect my bf of "e-cheating" on me with?
Q. Yeah, I know, I should probably just give up on the guy entirely considering I "apparently" can't trust him, but oh well. My bf showed me an e-mail where this girl was hitting on him. He did this indrectly, of course, as he was showing me somet...
A. 1 April 2010: I like , luter1's suggestion. Ask your boyfriend if the three of you can meet up for a coffee, she may need to see him interacting with you, or uh oh, you may see him interacting back with her, either way you would have something to go on other ... (read in full...)
Should I believe he is being genuine when he said he doesn't want to be anyone's boyfriend right now?
Q. First off, i have been dating and trying to keep busy. Was with my ex for 3 and a half years..it was petty stuff i think that broke us apart.. fighting over things i regret.. no one cheated.. we did have alot of love.. he broke it off... a year la...
A. 1 April 2010: He is being very nice, I would guess he isnt into hurting your feelings, I have a horrible suspicion you will take all those answers your receive here back to him for another speakfest, either for him to confirm or explain answers you receive.
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If you really loved me, you would do this ...
Q. I met my boyfriend about 10 months ago and he lives about and hour and a half away. I spend all my free time with him..which is every saturday and days during the week... and love him very much. he asked me to move six months after dateing and I ...
A. 28 March 2010: Next time he starts the "if you really loved me" crap give it back to him
"If you really loved me you would understand me and if you really loved me you would give me as much time as I needed before I took this big step and if you really loved me... (read in full...)
Should I cancel this trip so he realizes I'm serious?
Q. I just can't believe the incident that occured with me and my boyfriend. I went to meet him because he was waiting for his daughter to get dropped off by her mother..so, while I'm in the car with him and his daughter he ask's his ex if she needs a ...
A. 28 March 2010: There are a number of issues here.
Yes, your children should be your first priority. You should be focusing on their health and well being, making sure they are having positive male role models to follow so they will grow up to be decent, caring m... (read in full...)
How would you work around this problem?
Q. There are so many questions I would like to ask... I'm an American college student who is in a relationship with a (N. mainland) Chinese boy who came to the USA 6 months ago. He loves me very very much and always wants me to be happy but he has...
A. 26 March 2010: He doesnt love you. IF he loved you he would not be so critical about your love making, or lack of expertise. If you are not enjoying sex it is possibly because he is not taking care to ensure your body is ready to receive his.
If he loved yo... (read in full...)
He sent flowers and a bear from overseas, but I am not happy coz they arrived at night after I waited all day for a call.
Q. hey everyone! okay,so it was my birthday a week back and my best friend stays in another country. He sent me flowers that reached me the evening of my birthday and a cute bunny bear that said I love you. But throughout the day,I was waiting for ...
A. 25 March 2010: Thankyou for your followup, however my original response remains unchanged.... (read in full...)
My wife pre empts all lovemaking by saying what she wont do!
Q. Hello, I have been married for 20 years, love my wife dearly, we have a good sex life. I would do anything for my wife , sex wise too. My concern is everytime we want to have sex, foreplay , the first thing she says is I am not giving you a ...
A. 25 March 2010: Maybe your wife doesnt like giving blow jobs, maybe in the past she has felt harrassed into giving blow jobs, you admit you really like it, and that you "guess" she would.
Stop guessing and listen to your wife
she doesnt like giving blow jobs... (read in full...)
My loyalty is to my deceased wife, ... so how can I stop other women hitting on me!
Q. I have four beautiful daughters who mean the world to me. They range from 13 months-8 years. I became a widower 8 months ago and my daughters and I are still dealing with the shock and grief. There isn't a second that goes by that doesn't make me ...
A. 25 March 2010: I too am sorry for you and your little girls. I agree with much already written, but there is just one thing I would change, dont tell Amber that it is too soon, or than you are not ready yet -- that will leave her believing there is a chance for ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel pity for your ex if you think they might be getting cheated on?
Q. Is it normal to feel pity for your ex's current situation? I mean, in my case, the guy I used to date "suddenly had a change of appetite" and went for another girl. Or in other words, he dumped me for someone else. Yesterday he wasnt in cam...
A. 25 March 2010: because you are basically a nice person and you dont like to see people hurting
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He sent flowers and a bear from overseas, but I am not happy coz they arrived at night after I waited all day for a call.
Q. hey everyone! okay,so it was my birthday a week back and my best friend stays in another country. He sent me flowers that reached me the evening of my birthday and a cute bunny bear that said I love you. But throughout the day,I was waiting for ...
A. 25 March 2010: you are over reacting
you dont like his girlfriend huh so what, suck it up sistah, have you considered they, him and his girlfriend, may not have had any control over when you received your gift??
I am glad you are not my friend .... I would... (read in full...)
I know he is married, ..but I like him!
Q. there this guy that i work with 2 days a week, he's married. we exchanged numbers due to work contact. he starting texting me and we were having a banter and joke for a few days. i saw him at work 3 days later and we were really flirty. he has sent ...
A. 25 March 2010: Start talking about his wife and family more, when the suggestive talk starts change the subject and talk about more mundane things, like the weather
he is only in it for the thrill of the chase, but you will only be his prey if you let it happe... (read in full...)
Why does he want to stay married to me if he doesn't want me?
Q. my husband and i have been married for 14 years, he has been gone for the past 10 years. I tried to give him a divorce in 2002 because he asked for one, when he received the papers, he wouldn't sign them. He has been living with the other woman for ...
A. 25 March 2010: If he divorces you he will be put in a position where he will be free to marry the woman he lives with
phone her up and ask her if she can influence him into signing, and see what happens... (read in full...)
Sleeping with a broken heart...
Q. Hello, Here's my situation: i found out through myspace that my boyfriend of 3 years has been cheating with an ex girlfriend for the past year. when confronted, he denied it so i confronted her and found out it was true. when he found out i talk...
A. 25 March 2010: eh, you gave him the chance to tell you when you confronted him and he denied it
he is trying to baffle you with words, create enough of a smoke screen and he hopes to come out the other end squeeky clean
tell him you are not interested in ta... (read in full...)
The baby girl I had adopted is in my class!!! (I'm teaching her!)
Q. I'm an 8th grade teacher and when i was younger I had a baby girl and put her up for adoption because i was only 15 at the time i had her. Now I recently recieved an email from the parents of a child informing me that my daughter was in my class. ...
A. 25 March 2010: I'm with Not My Name
it doesnt make sense, either we dont have all the information or the question is a fake... (read in full...)
What physical attributes do you like in a man?
Q. What physical attributes (body parts) do you like in a man? Ladies, here is a question which I hope you take your time in answering. I bet you Women hear that most guys love a women's "butt" or Breasts" or even "Height"...so now its your turn....
A. 23 March 2010: Smile, laughing eyes, ability to make me laugh --- a thinking working brain, and clean fingernails... (read in full...)
How do you touch a woman so she knows your interested without being too forward?
Q. How does a man touch a woman to communicate interest in her without being too forward or too stiff?...
A. 23 March 2010: Practice the SOFTEN approach until it becomes second nature --
S smile
O open posture
F forward lean
T touch, elbow, hand upper arm etc
E eye contact
N nod
However, if you are finding remembering all the above is simply adding to your s... (read in full...)
I would love someone to tell me that my decision to see a married man is right.
Q. I've already made my decision, I guess like most women I would love to have someone tell me it is the right one but that is not likely. I've agreed to an affair with a married man. We were together when we were very young and I ended it because...
A. 22 March 2010: he is unhappy but married for good. Well, thats nice, I am sure his wife will be happy with that declaration if she finds out he is off having a week of uncommitted lust and sex with you.
As for keeping your heart safe, phht, you can try and just... (read in full...)
He is treating me and the kids like shit!!!
Q. My Kids dad cheated and now is acting like the victim.. my boyfriend practically husband of 13 years cheated, left me and the kids for the other women.. now is living with the new girl and expects for his kids 11, 7 boys and 6 years girl to go ...
A. 21 March 2010: I've been in your situation.
You get on with it. You dont answer his texts or his phone calls unless they are to do with the children's health and well being.
You seek legal advise. You do what you can to protect yourself and your childre... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: You have told him you are not interested in his religion but he persists! He isnt listening to you, he doesnt care about your opinions or wishes, he just wants to convert you to his church.
If you are as strong in your disbeliefs (for want of ... (read in full...)
Should I keep the dog I'm allergic to or risk losing my boyfriend?
Q. I am in a moral dilema but it is affecting my health and I don't know the best way to handle this. I have been in a relationship for some time now and three years ago I acquired a dog through some emotional blackmail from my daughters and my b...
A. 17 March 2010: Although it will be harsh to say so, it seems to me the dog is more important to your boyfriend than you are.
The dog needs more than you can give it, it also needs more than your boyfriend is WILLING to give it, you have found a good home for... (read in full...)
What in the world does his comment mean?
Q. Have been involved with a man now for a little over 5 yrs and care for this man very much. I recently asked him if he was happy with what we have and he said that he was. I then went on to say if you're happy, comfortable, and getting your ne...
A. 10 March 2010: It means he can see the benefits of taking the relationship further but that he doesnt want to.... (read in full...)
What can I do for my 22nd birthday? My husband has to work.
Q. what can i do on my birthday?I'll be 22yrs my husband ask his boss for the day off but she said noooo....so what can i do for my birthday while my husband is at work plz plz dont say anything bad becuz i'm a good wife/mother and hate lim...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm not sure why you would expect your husband to take the day off for your birthday ..... and unless he works seven days a week there is no reason why you cant wait until the weekend to celebrate together, otherwise just do your normal stuff during ... (read in full...)
He invites his ex round to OUR house to visit and I don't know how to handle it any more...
Q. I have met a wonderful man online in a chat room in October of 2009. We met face to face and hit it of so well we have moved in together and not been apart since. Sounds like a happily ever after story well not quite. His ex girlfriend left him...
A. 9 March 2010: Just leave.
He is supposedly around the same age as you and instead of acting like a mature man he is acting like a love struck calf, mooning all over his lost love.
His admitting to you that he still loves her is disrespectful of you and your... (read in full...)
He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 9 March 2010: you might be really into him, but he isnt really into you.
He is selfish, he isnt interested in you being sexually comfortable or satisfied, he sounds ikky
For him to ask you to do this after only a month of dating indicates to me a lack of resp... (read in full...)
He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 9 March 2010: you might be really into him, but he isnt really into you.
He is selfish, he isnt interested in you being sexually comfortable or satisfied, he sounds ikky
For him to ask you to do this after only a month of dating indicates to me a lack of resp... (read in full...)
I need a female perspective please...
Q. Hi, A few weeks ago i told a girl at work that i liked her and asked if she would like to go out. Her response was that she had no idea that i felt that way about but and that i was a sweet guy but she had a boyfriend. I was disappointed w...
A. 9 March 2010: Sound to me she is not sure what she wants either, but she wants to keep her options open, sometimes when women tell a guy they don't want to hurt him it can be viewed as a pre warning.
I think wait until she does get her head together, just act... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about my best friend's boyfriend???
Q. i recently had sex with my best friend's boyfriend, they have been together for 10 years and have 3 children, we bumped into each other on a night out and a few friends came back to my house, everyone went around 5am and her boyfriend stayed to ...
A. 8 March 2010: I agree with sunny, think of the effects on your bestfriend and her children if she knew you were screwing around with her partner.
Its not something best friends do.
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He broke his promise to me...
Q. Okay, some of this is going to sound bad. If you're going to judge the situation, please just dont. We ask for help, not judgement and criticism. I've been with my bf for about 6 months. He smokes weed, and used to do bars (xanex) I noticed that h...
A. 8 March 2010: This is the important stuff, this drug is addictive, due to its short half-life (3 hours) it is one of the more addictive benzos. Addicts can consume up to 14 mg per day. Withdrawal effects include psychosis and epileptic-type seizures.
Your ... (read in full...)
I don't want to only talk to him at school...???
Q. I don't get why he acts like he does! He talks to me while I try to ignore him or read! He never comments on anything I put on his facebook but if someone else does he comments! He knows that I like him and he never admits that he might like me! ...
A. 8 March 2010: Don't comment on his facebook, don't open the chat, don't compliment him, be polite but distant at school, and on the bus, don't get into long conversations, just talk enough to acknowledge him without being rude
If he is interested he will hav... (read in full...)
My parents have rules but my boyfriend thinks I am treated unfairly
Q. So I have a curfew. Tonight was my boyfriends birthday, so I went out. I told my parents I would be home by one, not knowing if that would happen or not. My boyfriend knows my parents are strict too, and that I had to be home. So, Im at the party ...
A. 7 March 2010: You are 21, an adult. If you don't want to live by your parent's rules you can move out into your own place. Otherwise, as long as you are under their roof you need to respect their requests. You knew you wer eexpected home by 1:00pm and yet you ... (read in full...)
I love him and want to believe this is all a "joke" but it has gone too far
Q. So i have a really complex situation, and don't know what to do.. The problem is my boyfriend has been talking to another girl on skype and facebook. He tells me when he talks to her and what is said. But thats not exactly the truth. See, h...
A. 7 March 2010: Im sorry, he is cheating, I would hate to be in your shoes and reading those chats, maybe you should just print a few off and hand them to him as a dear john letter, you deserve so much better than this cheater
tell him to shove off the Italy an... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble accepting the way he treats women because of his culture, is it true all men from the middle east are like this?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend is Kurdish. I love him so much but ive got the biggest problem with some of his attitudes, mainly about women but about other things as well. It's not just him, all his friends also have these attitudes, I'm told frequent...
A. 5 March 2010: Not all middle eastern men are like this, it seems you have been unlucky enough to jag a bad one.
His behaviour is not going to change, he himself blames it on his culture and has told you he will not be changing.
You need to weigh the situat... (read in full...)
Mutual friend tried to break us up - now it's ok?
Q. My boyfriend and I dated (2 years), broke up and got back together (last 4 years). In the time we broke up, he became friends with a gay man (no, my boyfriend is not gay or bi). When my boyfriend and I got back together, I became very good friends ...
A. 5 March 2010: Don't trust the friend, don't trust the friend, he isnt your friend, don't trust him.
I'm not sure how to best deal with this, if you feel the boyfriend is a keeper, tell him you are fine with him retaining his friendship with this man who trie... (read in full...)
After our weekend getaway he has changed.
Q. Last weekend, I slept with a guy from work, we were both sober so it wasn't a drunken mistake and actually it was a long time coming after weeks of flirty texts and flirting on nights out. I had absolutely fantastic weekend with him and even took me ...
A. 5 March 2010: The flirty texts and flirty nights out were the warm up, the weekend away and the slap up meal was the payment up front, the sex was all he wanted.
He got what he wanted, and has moved on. You need to steel yourself to try and be as cold hearted ... (read in full...)
Next time we go away he wants to take his mum with us!!!
Q. my partner's 50 and been living with his mother again for the last 5 months due to financial difficulties. the whole situation is really depressing him to say the least. although his mum willingly put him up he doesn't have his own space - 'his roo...
A. 2 March 2010: You hit the nail on the head with your last few words, "the way i've been treated by her and her son"
Her son's treatment is the one you should be questioning, not the mothers. I still don't understand what the attraction is here, he lives wi... (read in full...)
Is great sex worth being cheated on and lied to?
Q. My girl's a liar and a cheat but she's so good sexually that I can't ditch her. She lets me do ANYTHING. Tempting? How am I supposed to go out and meet other girl that compare to THAT? Comparatively, every girl I meet is so boring sexually....
A. 2 March 2010: It seems to me you find the sexual benefits more appealing than anything else. Its your choice, go find somebody who doesnt lie and cheat, but who might not "let you do anything" or stick with what you have.
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I'm really hurt that she has moved on to someone else so I have been logging into her Facebook account to see what she is doing
Q. hi thanks for reading my other questions here the latest i recently just got dumped by my ex girlfriend *jasmin* and she told me before she thought it would work but it didnt and that i didnt show enough feelings for her and that i ignored her. she ...
A. 2 March 2010: I am starting to wonder about this thread, your age is stated as 17 to 18, she is 18, now you say you have a son? Or are you deliberately trying to confuse the issue here?
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I'm really hurt that she has moved on to someone else so I have been logging into her Facebook account to see what she is doing
Q. hi thanks for reading my other questions here the latest i recently just got dumped by my ex girlfriend *jasmin* and she told me before she thought it would work but it didnt and that i didnt show enough feelings for her and that i ignored her. she ...
A. 1 March 2010: yes, logging into her facebook account is wrong. ... (read in full...)
I'm really hurt that she has moved on to someone else so I have been logging into her Facebook account to see what she is doing
Q. hi thanks for reading my other questions here the latest i recently just got dumped by my ex girlfriend *jasmin* and she told me before she thought it would work but it didnt and that i didnt show enough feelings for her and that i ignored her. she ...
A. 1 March 2010: yes, logging into her facebook account is wrong. ... (read in full...)
I love him but his past bugs me! What should I do?
Q. ok i know why this guy cheats well i think i do. his dad used to abuse him as a child and and his father cheated on his mom A LOT. now that doesnt mean i agree with his behavior. (cheated twice). but ive also seen how much pain he went through after ...
A. 1 March 2010: You cant change him, only he can change his behaviour, so if you do decide to date him you need to go in with eyes wide open to the fact he has a history of cheating.... (read in full...)
Sex after birth?
Q. We recently had our first baby, (november), and we are just starting to have sex again and my partner has only been ok as long as we have anal, at first I didn't think anything as we have anal sex quite a lot but when I go to give her oral or try to ...
A. 1 March 2010: If she will agree go see her doctor together, if she was okay with sex before the birth it seems a little weird that she now isnt.
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Next time we go away he wants to take his mum with us!!!
Q. my partner's 50 and been living with his mother again for the last 5 months due to financial difficulties. the whole situation is really depressing him to say the least. although his mum willingly put him up he doesn't have his own space - 'his roo...
A. 16 February 2010: He may see this as an opportunity to say "thanks" to his mother, he may see it as an opportunity for you and his mother to be able to get together in a neutral place (not her house), or he may even not want to be away with just you.
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