I was caught in a compromising situation at midnight by the police
Q. me and my partner got caught with our tops off kissing in a car park at midnight by the police. I have never done anything like this and probs wont again. The police man took my name and done a check and then left...will that be the end of ...
A. 26 January 2010: I very much doubt you will hear any more from it, if you had been a pair of kids you would have been sent home with a flea in your ear.
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I need tips on IUDs
Q. My college offers free IUD placement (paraguard) for students. I've been wanting an IUD for awhile now, but I'm terrified it will hurt a lot. Does anyone have any tips for when to go so it will hurt less, or how much it hurt or anything? I feel like ...
A. 26 January 2010: I would imagine developments in IUDs, like other areas of health and science, have gone ahead in leaps and bounds since I had one (decades ago ...) they dont hurt, just relax as much as you can, speak to the medical staff about what sort of ... (read in full...)
How do I protect myself and my baby?
Q. My ex and I were together for three years and I thought we had a really strong bond. We had a daughter about a year ago. He told me I would never have to work, that we could live wherever I wanted in the world, that he would provide for me. He told ...
A. 26 January 2010: I would see where the nearest support group for friends and families of the mentally ill is, they should be able to help you deal with all your issues.
But apart from that it is difficult to give any practical advise because the services availabl... (read in full...)
I introduced my husband to my bi g/f now he can only perform sex with her
Q. Okay, to start off with, I am a bisexual female....I have been with my husband for 10 years...I am 27 and he is 29...We have a wonderful relationship but since I have gotten with this girl and let him join in, he can only get hard and stay hard ...
A. 26 January 2010: Maybe he is a one woman man.
Maybe he subconsciously worries about not being able to perform with her in front of you, in case it makes you look like a loser with a husband that cant get it up.
Maybe you need to forget about the threesomes, ... (read in full...)
What kind of guy is he?
Q. I want to give some advice to my friend who is having trouble with her boyfriend.She tells me that he has a job but doesn't help her pay rent or help her out with the bills.He lives with her but doesn't like the help her with anything..like ...
A. 24 January 2010: I think, if the information you have given about him, is correct, that we can all see what sort of man he is, although how he can sit at home all day playing games I want a job like his.
However, you cannot make her see sense, you cannot force he... (read in full...)
Should I go out and have my own secret affair?
Q. OK.. S0 Im glad I found a website to help me out. First I am not a crazy obsessed person.. So at least I don’t think I am. I have been together/Married for 11 Years with my wife. She is 7 years older than I am We have kids. So here is my si...
A. 24 January 2010: I think you are simply looking for validation to go out and have an affair.
Your wife's past is in the past, and that is where it should have impacted on any relationship you planned to have with her ......... in the past,not after ten years of... (read in full...)
He is always correcting me but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying something
Q. There is this guy that I know.Ive known him for about a year or so now.I have a huge problem with the way he is always correcting my grammar.Sometimes I will say went when I should have said gone.I say hamburger meat instead of ground beef.Sometimes ...
A. 24 January 2010: hey, he doesnt seem to care how you feel about him contantly correcting you.
Just tell him, like this, "joe, I know I have mentioned this several times before, but if you correct my speech one more time I am going to have to stop talking to you, ... (read in full...)
BF pushing me away, but does not know I only have months to live. Should I tell him?
Q. ah, I can't stop the way I feel and stay away.. I love someone he loves me too but we can't be together coz plenty of reasons anyway, I have a health issue for years and it got worse in the last year. Recently, the medicine stop working I tried al...
A. 24 January 2010: Tell him of the prognosis, if he still wants to marry you and you want to marry him go for it.... (read in full...)
My cousin is constantly seeking attention from me on facebook
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a tricky situation and need advice. My cousin who i was very close to moved to Chicago 6 years ago when she got married.We have always kept in touch. Now just before Christmas she joined facebook but she bombards ...
A. 23 January 2010: errrk
how long has it been, does it look like her facination with facebook might diminish with time, or has it been for several months already? As she becomes more confident technically she may find other sites to visit, there are lots of onlin... (read in full...)
Guilt over not calling a friend the night before she died
Q. Again, I have another non relationship-related question, but I love the advice, so I figured I'd ask. On october 23rd of 2009, a dear friend passed away from ALS. I saw her for the last time ever on the 3rd of october, My last promise to her w...
A. 23 January 2010: Your guilt is normal, I felt guilty for twenty years over something I neglected to do for my father the day before he died.
However, I doubt very much if he would have appreciated the guilt trip I was on.
Google for Kubler Ross's stages of... (read in full...)
BF pushing me away, but does not know I only have months to live. Should I tell him?
Q. ah, I can't stop the way I feel and stay away.. I love someone he loves me too but we can't be together coz plenty of reasons anyway, I have a health issue for years and it got worse in the last year. Recently, the medicine stop working I tried al...
A. 23 January 2010: If you family know of your illness surely they will allow the time you have left to be spent with the people you love, even if one of those people is somebody they don't approve of, I would tell him.
Let your family deal with it as best they can... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 23 January 2010: Lilibeth, no child can be loved too much, and on the surface it seems he has a grandmother and grandfather and an aunty ready and waiting to just love him and be involved.
Invite them to the baptism, I am going to hope I explain this clearly ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from everything that has happened? I'm 32 and feel like I have nothing!
Q. Please help, I know that your think I am a fool after reading this and I know I am, at 32 I shouldn’t have wasted my life, I now have nothing, but I really need advice. Please. I am so sorry it is so long. Ok, so met guy, fall for each other...
A. 22 January 2010: Your story isnt silly, sad but not silly. He wasnt your one chance, he was married, he dumped you, he met somebody else, he did the boyfriend thing with that person, it broke up, he re met you, he led you on again, he dumped you again, he borrowed ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being childish by hanging up on me?
Q. why is it that when my boyfriend of 3 years hangs up on me when he does not like hearing what I have to say he doesnt talk to me for a couple of days. Is this childish or isnt it. Hes had a bad very bad marriage. thank you. ...
A. 22 January 2010: Have you considered he had a bad marriage because he is incapable of communicating, and his response to hearing something he doesnt want to hear is to hang up and sulk for several days.
Maybe his wife tried to communicate with him as well, an... (read in full...)
Do I "hang on" or "move on"?
Q. I met an awesome guy online last September and thought we were going to be freinds, but he had other ideas, as he wanted to meet and I was over the moon. However, the day before we were supposed to meet, I guess I got a weird vibe, as he still ...
A. 22 January 2010: I think you got the bad vibes for a reason, and you should listen to those vibes.
Move on.... (read in full...)
I become obsessed with famous people and feel like I freak for being this way.
Q. okay heres the thing im a 15 year old girl and I become obsessed with famous people. it all started off when i was younger about 10 and im still doing it. its like i imagine being in that persons life and them loving me. im not in love with them, bu...
A. 21 January 2010: It is normal, but its just that most people dont admit they do the same thing, its just daydreaming, and you are only imagining things, its not as if you are out actually stalking somebody, or if you really believe the things you imagine or dream ... (read in full...)
I'm planning on leaving my wife some day because I don't find her attractive. Does the problem lie with me or with her?
Q. Dear cupid, I have been married for more than twenty years now. I have children (two teenagers) and the youngest one is 17 now. The problem is I married my wife for ten different reasons and none of them is love. I don't like her, physically speak...
A. 21 January 2010: Your age is listed as 41 to 50 - okayyyy, first thing, write the date you plan to leave your wife on a piece of paper and put it somewhere safe.
leave your wife now, still making sure she is financially secure, rather than continue to have to ... (read in full...)
What makes you fall in love?
Q. How can I get someone to fall in love with me, also what makes you fall in love with another person. If your answer is “be yourself” please don't waste yours and my time...
A. 21 January 2010: You cant make another person fall in love with you. However, if you know what sort of person they are attracted to you could try changing a little. Join the same groups, follow the same sports, see what sort of clothes he and his friends wear and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex keeps calling him, do you think they could still be involved?
Q. my bf ex keeps calling him after so long whats up with that does she want something? are they involved? could he be lying to me?...
A. 21 January 2010: It depends on many things, how do you know she is calling, and does he go away to answer and talk, or does he tell you she called, is a recent break and they have stuff to be dealt with?
I need a little more information before I can form an opini... (read in full...)
Partner is MIA and has me dumbfounded, grasping at straws!
Q. I need help feeling secure, or am I fooling myself? Being unemployed had been placing a strain on my relationship of 7 months. Just before X-mas I was told by my partner that he felt that he was putting in all the effort for us and that he cou...
A. 21 January 2010: I'm sorry, but are you saying that the way he told you he was cheating on you with his ex was to invite you join them both in a sexual encounter, and you are feeling bad because you couldn't perform?
And despite the above you feel you can trust hi... (read in full...)
I want a holiday, I don't want to pay, b/f has no money, how to convince him to come?
Q. really want a holiday this summer but boyfriend has no money and i don't think i should be expected to pay. how can i convince him to go away with me?...
A. 18 January 2010: how can he go halves when he has no money? Either go alone or wait until he is back on his feet financially.
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How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter?
Q. my boyfriend is 50 and has two children a 14yr boy and 16yrgirl (he rarely sees his boy). my partner's been separated from their mother for 15 years (who is remarried and has another child)- the daughter has him wrapped round her little finger and ...
A. 18 January 2010: why are you with this old man? He has no future, he lives with his mum, his daughter, according to you, bad mouths him and he takes it, he hasnt any money to spare on wooing or wining and dining you, what is it this relationship for you, honestly, ... (read in full...)
Would you be angry if your husband took a job that pays a lot less?
Q. Would you be angry with your husband for taking a job that pays a lot less than what they should be making? my husbad and I have been married for 1.5 and together 10. We are both nurses and we moved from one side of the country to the ...
A. 18 January 2010: You already know my point of view.... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend and her friend cooked up a scheme to get back at me
Q. So, I went out with this girl for maybe 3 weeks. A the end of the three weeks, she dropped me for occasionally saying stupid (not mean, just stupid) things, and not calling her on a holiday. I tried to get her back for maybe a week then about a week ...
A. 18 January 2010: Their behaviour is not common, but it does happen. THey were nasty and spiteful. Put it behind you as a lesson learnt the hard way, and get on with your life without allowing this month or so of it impact too greatly.
Good luck, just remember... (read in full...)
I found a photo on his phone, he says its nothing but why keep the photo?
Q. i have just found a photo of a woman on my husbands phone which he had hid in his phone files when i asked him who it was he lied and after alot of shouting at him he admitted he had kissed her on a night out when he was away on a stag doo. He said ...
A. 18 January 2010: ohhh dear. I hear you.
Is the relationship worth saving and will he grovel for it?
If you want to save the relationship, put his actions down to men's middle aged crisis, providing you believe, deep down in your heart, that it was only a kiss,... (read in full...)
Wife number two doesn't like children of wife number one, I have them once a week, and every week she complains
Q. Should I leave my 2nd wife? She and the kids from the 1st wife don't click well at all, I've tried so many things but noting helped, the kids stay with us every Sunday, by Sunday evening she always bitch to me about them, so my week is always m...
A. 18 January 2010: She knew you had the kids when she said yes to marriage. Honest Answer and Piktopaz both are speaking words of wisdom.
Yes, they might be being little rotters for her, ask her, if they are all of you, thats all four of you, can sit down and... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter?
Q. my boyfriend is 50 and has two children a 14yr boy and 16yrgirl (he rarely sees his boy). my partner's been separated from their mother for 15 years (who is remarried and has another child)- the daughter has him wrapped round her little finger and ...
A. 18 January 2010: Sorry but it's not your place to enlighten a parent on how they raise their children.
You dont say how long you have been in a relationship with your boyfriend.
The daughter may see you as trying to supplant her in her father's affection - as f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is heavily in debt and I don't think it will be cleared before he retires
Q. my boyfriend of 50 is in £25,000 debt and it doesn't look like it's going to be cleared by the time he's retired. he says it's a mixture of things but generally bulit up from everyday living - i can't really see how because he hasn't had any ...
A. 17 January 2010: What is an 18 - 21 year old doing going out with a 50 year old, one who cant manage his own life as it is.
Sounds like he lacks basic budgeting skills, spends money he doesnt have, doesnt live within his means etc. He needs to seek a financia... (read in full...)
I want a holiday, I don't want to pay, b/f has no money, how to convince him to come?
Q. really want a holiday this summer but boyfriend has no money and i don't think i should be expected to pay. how can i convince him to go away with me?...
A. 17 January 2010: If you dont want to pay, and your boyfriend has no money, what are you expecting from this site. A magic wand, details on how to rob a bank, are you expecting us to advise he get a credit card and into debt when he can't pay?
Do you believe ... (read in full...)
What does bootycall mean?
Q. hey there, ok simple question. This guy told my friend that she was a "bootycall". What in the world does that mean ?? Thanks alot...
A. 17 January 2010: it means if he wants sex he will call her up, but other than that he isnt interested/... (read in full...)
How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: I have already said what I think you should do:
"why don't you just get on a bus and out of their faces so that they can both move on and build futures for themselves that dont include you"?... (read in full...)
My husband has taken a lower paying job so that he can study and I am angry about it!
Q. My husband and I Married 1.5yrs together 10. We are both nurses and we moved from one side of the country to the other 1.5 years ago. When we moved my husband worked temp jobs for a little while and I did not seek employment do to anxiety and depr...
A. 17 January 2010: I see you as having several options.
Stay home and accept your husband is taking a lower paying job which will give him time to study in order to get a better paying job, and accept there will be less money for a time.
Accept that your husban... (read in full...)
Why is he all of the sudden being so clingy?
Q. This guy and I were FWB for nearly a year. Gradually it got to where he couldn't do the deed. I couldn't understand his problem as he wouldn't talk about it, so I backed off. His personality and mood became dark. I didn't want to be around him. ...
A. 17 January 2010: Why are you accepting his invitations if he has a habit of going into his room when you turn up?
Why are you having anything to do with him at all if you saw his true colours and you don't agree with the things he does?
I don't understand.... (read in full...)
How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: whoooot whooooot older sistah, way to go
you are speaking my language!
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How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: You call yourself "The Ladies Man" what sort of picture do you think that gives of you.
Fornicate away, no skin off anybody else's nose, but to think your girlfriend will be waiting for you with open arms when she has finished her clubbing... (read in full...)
Is his behavior my fault?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of weeks. It's been pretty good, hanging out with him and stuff. One day we were watching a movie,and then he walked me home. The next day, he glared at me, would not speak to me, and whenever I ...
A. 17 January 2010: what a rude boy! Is there any reason why you can't ask his sister what she thinks went wrong?
In the meantime just hold your head up high, and rather than give him a chance to cuss you out again, just pretend he is invisible.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend cheat on me with my best friend?
Q. why did my best friend cheat on me with my boyfriend they dont even know i know what should i do...
A. 17 January 2010: well, she obviously isnt your friend, and he obviously isnt interested in a monogamous relationship so I think you need to let them both know that you know and then have nothing more to do with either of them.
And don't worry if they get together... (read in full...)
How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: You cant do what you are asking, not without compromising either one or the other or both of them. Whats wrong with you that you seem to have no thought or care for the feelings of either of these girls. They are living breathing human beings but ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with my married boss?
Q. Am considering sleeping with my boss. He is married with a family, and from the outside all seems fairly happy and normal, I am single and have not been in a relationship for a while (so had been feeling rather lonely). I've known him for over 6 ...
A. 17 January 2010: Uh oh, I think the best thing to do would be to phone Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission (HREOC, they also have a website with heaps of information, but I find actually talking to somebody about my problems helps. They should be able to ... (read in full...)
Is our affair worth all this stress?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married woman for the last 4 years. We know the relationship is never going to go anywhere due to our commitment to our respective partners. Over the last few months I have seen our affair is adding stress to my ...
A. 17 January 2010: If she is still with you and gets stressed when you mention breaking up, she can't be too serious about "fixing" her relationship with her husband.
And your comment about longing to be with her always is a load of codswallop as well, if you long... (read in full...)
Should I assume she wants to equalize the treats?
Q. I just got rejected because the girl happened to have a boyfriend and all... We decided to meet up for coffee but then she asked me if I want to do dinner instead. The last dinner we had, it was on me so I am assuming she wants to equalize the ...
A. 17 January 2010: what sort of weird game is she playing? I agree with older sister, thank her for the invitations, wish her all the best for the future and walk.... (read in full...)
My ex wanted me to have an abortion, but now he wants visitation rights
Q. Im 18 years old and i have a 3 month old little boy with my ex whose 22. He wants to have some sort of visitation rights but i dont want him to. Since when i found out i was pregnant at 17 he left me for another girl and told me to have an abortion. ...
A. 21 November 2009: Okay, first up I raised three kids as a single mother, even though I hadnt started out that way, so I know what it is like to be left holding the baby! visitation and support are (should be) two separate issues. It is very important that y... (read in full...)
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