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writes:Hope you can help me...I feel so so sorry and helpless for my other half. He split up from his ex around 5 years ago who had a son (not his). Over Xmas, she decided she didn't want him so threw her son out as he was just being a typical teenager. My fellas retired parents and my fella have taken him in (they all live together) for a supposed short period of time. He has been there 3 months. My fella has obtained professional help to try and get counselling for mum and son to get on, but professionals haven't done anything. We have now found a house to move into which is close but as we both work full time and shifts, we can't have him move in with us. You can't talk to the mother as his other grandmother doesn't want to know. My fella isn't very assertive but they are all being pushed into a corner in which they have to have him, else he will have to go to foster care. Oh and one last thing, mother has told biological dad that he can't see his son when they both want to. Such a mess, I don't know what to stay to my other half as we are not married, but moving in together soon which should be an exciting time.The only thing I feel I can do is help him get more professional help for this situation. Has anyone else got advice? Thanks x
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 February 2013):
 Kicking the boy out means what the mother wants no longer has any sway. If the biological dad is safe and able and willing, and the boy is willing, then him going to his fathers would be the ideal situation.
Poor kid! Your boyfriend should find a professional (try family and childrens services type govt dept or Salvation Army) and him and the boy sit down with them to work out what he wants. And then call the dad from there.
I hope it works out well for him.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (3 February 2013):
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I would say the lads biological Dad is the answer here, his Mum doesn't want him at home so she threw him out.She really doesn't have a leg to stand on and is damn lucky he had somewhere to go.If you can find out where his Dad is,contact him,then perhaps this would be a way forward for all of you.
You don't say how old the lad is,or where HE wants to live,your fella has a big heart,his parents too but there has to be a way to solve this.
He isn't a blood relative so its only because he feels he has no choice and also has formed a bond over the years. His Ex knows this and has used it.She's not stupid.I hope they are getting financial help for him rather than the Ex.
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