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writes:I'm only 19 and my husband and I just got married when we got married I was 8 months pregnant with our twins. Our twins are now 6 weeks old and he does even seem like he loves me. I don't want us to get a divorce my parents were and so is his. I want to change it before it gets to bad. He does not even want to have sex with me, he is only 21 they say men want to have sex more than women but I don't think that's true in my case. Before I was pregnant we did it all the time. We don't even play around or anything anymore. Wat can I do any advice... There is no way he is cheating. He works long hours and I'm always with him on the weekends wat else could it be? Please help I want the guy I fell in love with......
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reader, Kell0804 +, writes (6 January 2013):
Maybe marriage counseling is the answer it helped me and my husband a ton
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 January 2013):
 I suggest that you be a good Mom to the twins..... be a good wife to your hubby.... and patiently wait to see what happens over time......
Consider that, now that you have two kids to tend to, you and hubby don't have carte blanche for all the fooling around you did.... and, he is working (hard, I hope) and has all sort of responsibilities related to that.... PLUS the responsibilities of Fatherhood.....
These things CAN "work out", sometimes, with just the passage of time... and the two parties (you and hubby) growing up and behaving as you know you should...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): He wanted to have kids every time I took a test and I wasn't pregnant he would cry. He also wanted to get married. I don't know if he regrets it now or not?? What should I do just sit back and wait? I feel like his mom instead of his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): He wanted a kid. Every time I took a test and it was negative he was in tears. He didn't want twins tho. One of the twins are real fussy and he doesn't even like spending time with her. He was also all for gettin married. He wanted what we have now. That's why I don't understand why he is pushing me away
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 January 2013):
 Your husband could be shell shocked at the changes in his life, one minute there he was with you, doing the things young men do, and wham next thing he knows he is an old married man with a wife and a couple of kids, and the girl who he used to play around with, well she no longer exists and her BODY created the miracle of life, not once, but twice.
So many changes in his life, and so fast. Instead of being just responsible for himself he is now responsible for four people.
You need to open up the lines of communication. Try and get a quiet time when you are both at home and the babies either quiet (just fed) or asleep. Make sure he is listening to you (he has eye contact) and tell him what you have told us. Ask him if you can help ease the load for him in any way. If you can afford it go out on a date once a month or so, if money is tight get a new movie, takeaways and have a pretend date at home. Use the time to just relax together, with no expectations at the end of the evening. Also pop the babies into their stroller and go for a walk every weekend, around the block or to the nearest park, bundle them up in winter, put hats and sunblock in summer, unless it is life threatening dont let the weather deter you. This will also give you time together, and a chance to start bonding as a family.
Its going to take a little while for all of you to settle, as the babies are still only 6 weeks old your hormones will still be all over the place, and you have only been married for a few months.
Slowly, slowly does it and communication all the way.
Good luck to you both, and congratulations on the babies, I am sure they will bring you much joy!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 January 2013):
Some guys lose all attraction to their woman after she becomes a mom. It's some psychological issue. Talk to him about it and you may also consider counseling. Either that or he's too tired, but even then he should get horny.
Are you positive he's always at work when you think he is?
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