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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): My brother calls me by his wife's name when he is really exhausted and brain dead from driving 40 minutes to my house to drop off or pick up his kids on the days both he and his wife work. He's done it a lot more than four times and I don't look or act like his wife. Best I can tell, he's on autopilot. So, since I'm watching his toddlers and I'll make him food when he's hungry he just defaults to "Thanks for dinner, Suzie...i mean, uh, sorry Liza."Looks like your girlfriend has her ex's (?) name as her default guy's name. This is not a good thing for your relationship. I think it is time you tell her that you really don't think she's into you and you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't even care enough to get your name right. My brother doesn't call his wife by my name no matter how tired he is. Ya feel me?
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reader, when nothing goes right go left  +, writes (3 March 2013):
 Its probably just out of habit but if it bothers you that much then you should bring it up. Because it seems like she wanted you all along and with the trust issue that is quite often what happens in these situations but in your case it seeems like she was with this guy only because she couldn't have you.
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reader, 1GrIff  +, writes (3 March 2013):
1GrIff is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso we haven't had sex in weeks but she doesn't have her ex her is this also a sign to get lost? Thats a good point i find myself not being able to trust her cause whats going to stop her from doing it to me?
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reader, 1GrIff +, writes (3 March 2013):
1GrIff is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo 1 said its cool and 2 said its not we do live in a democracy maybe twice i get, but four times? not cool she would be angry with me for just a first time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 March 2013):
 Accidents happen, and calling someone by their ex's name happens too. The thing is, this whole relationship is based on an affair. That's NOT a good thing. It's not healthy and there can never be any real trust. That is why I said you need to leave.
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reader, 1GrIff +, writes (3 March 2013):
1GrIff is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo 1 said its cool and 2 said its not we do live in a democracy maybe twice i get but four time not cool she would murder me after the first time.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 March 2013):
 Most people probably have called somebody by the wrong name at some stage or another, I actually did it at a very intimate moment .....
There is no need to run for the hills, unless you have other reasons to suspect your girl is now cheating on you instead of him. She may be so nervous about calling you by the wrong name that no matter what she thinks of this name just pops out.
Relax. As I said, if there is no other reason to suspect cheating it is not a problem.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 March 2013):
I agree, run for the hills. She was bad news from the beginning and it's only going to get worse.
Chances are, she's still with him too.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 March 2013):
The best advice I can give is run and don't look back.
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reader, teddy 19  +, writes (3 March 2013):
she's probably back with him or she cant get over him.....i am a womanizer but the weird thing about me is each girl im with i fall in love with and i treat right and when i leave her i still get jealous maybe she has that angle too... shes the type that cheats for hearts not for sex.....an attention seeker maybe......besides if you dont care about her why does it bother you....after all she was with someone else and you at the same time never bothered you then.....calm your **** and talk to her tell her if she still thinks of him she should go back....i personally believe that she might be the type to cheat because she wants to feel special by that person but not at the cost of you losing your special feelings for her just like me i wanna win over every heart the attitude of attention seekers
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