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writes:Okay so it all started when my mate first stayed round my Girlfriend's house and she said he could stay in the bed with us.I didn't think anything at this time I just didn't like it and in the end I just made him sleep on the floor.Then he stayed again the next night and I didn't go to sleep so in the end she went to sleep on the floor.I still I didn't think anything at this point.Then the way she started getting annoyed about me touching her and how she started putting make up on when we was with him or going to see him. Yet she hardly ever wears makeup around me.The next day I decided to put my phone on record to hear what they said and they had a conversation, with her saying that's why she changed her password, and him saying there was nothing bad on that night he stayed again.Yet he was on the floor despite my girlfriend having made a bed for him with blankets and all sorts.So when I was about to go to sleep I put my phone on record and went to sleep, didn't think nothing of it hen I woke up in the morning the first thing I did was listen to the recording. It was about an hour and a half long but at 25 mins before the video ends u hear her get out the bed and his sleeping bag constantly moving and her going ahh yhh yhh yhh and al. No video footage though, so no actual proof.She's now found the video and gone mad about it, saying I'm paranoid and why am I filming her blah blah I just want to know what I should do?Am I just being paranoid?She's deleted the video now so I can't prove what do know happened. I'm almost ripping my hair out after what I heard. what should I do? Cheers.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 January 2013):
 Hi OP, how do you feel about his answer, do you think that is all there was too it? If he is speaking the truth how do you feel about her texting him that she fancies him?
Do you feel the text was okay where having sex wasn't? Is it cheating if your girlfriend tells your mate she likes him?
Are you sure you are not just looking to convince yourself your suspicions and the sound recordings are all one big mistake?
They could be, but only you can decide what and who you are going to believe.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk so I said to him what I no about it .... And this what he said.. I ain't gonna lie, she did text me saying she liked me but:1) I wouldn't do anything as she ain't my type, and 2) She is going out and living with my mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): Oh dear lord man! Grow some n*ts!!
What other proof do you need? The evidence is there and it's right under your nose. They want to be together, let them because they won't be happy together. Be a man and leave.
It's called being a cuckold, and you don't want to be there faux denying while they do the deed right there in front of you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): Don't be stupid just because it's not video doesn't mean it's not proof! Audio recording WAS proof is and you knew it when you heard it. In a court of law audo will do just as well as vido as there are programs that can match up persons voice to a recording.
With the way she acted when you played that recording, is the way of the GUILTY. Kick her lying ass to curb and stop plying stupid your obviously not if you have enough intellect to think to make a recording in the first place.
AS for your made is not your mate any longer and is a SLIME BALL. Don't keep people around like that they will poison you. Kick their butts to the curb and move on or it'll just get worse, grow a pair and refuse to be used. You deserve so much better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut she's sayin she was just asleep nd it could of been him moving in his sleep but I don't think it would of been constantly like that nd she sed that if say anything about it agen it will be over if there wasn't anything going on then why's she getting so defensive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): dude, you literally CAUGHT her on tape sleeping with your "friend." i'm not sure what you're questioning here. she reacted with anger because she knows she's busted. are you somehow talking yourself out of knowing what you heard? because you know what you heard, man. DUMP HER. and while you're at it, drop your so-called friend. cause that's really messed up. let them have each other, as they both seem like really crappy people. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right, I do know the answer but I need actual proof.How am I going to get this proof? I feel like I know I'm just in denial
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (5 January 2013):
 She's cheating on you with your friend OP, there's no doubt about that. You need to get them both out of your life.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (5 January 2013):
Sweetheart, she cheated. And he is no longer your best mate.
Your decision now is who is to move out, you; or her and him. Make sure base your decision on facts and reality and not your emotions, if you are going to be financially better off moving out, then move out and leave them to it, if it suits you better to stay, then give her a time frame to find somewhere else to live, 7 days should be sufficient.
Chin up and take care.
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reader, tby1 +, writes (5 January 2013):
 You know the answer I'm afraid to say. He isn't a mate and a line has been crossed. Your choice, but they should both be kicked into touch. Sorry
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