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writes:I betrayed my boyfriends trust. I lied to him and hurt him..i was selfish.i made a big mistake.. And we broke up forever..i feel like a horrible person..in a way i feel like i deserve it. Maybe i do? Cause of how i treat others. Maybe its a lesson..i regret it. I flirted w guys and smoked and lied. And i destroyed everything we had..all of our future.. Because of my stupidity and childishness. I lost him. I pushed him away. And now i wish i could get him back.. But it's stupid of me to think someone whom I've hurt repeatedly will come back.i should let him be happy for once and for all..i love him so much ill let him be. He deserves it.. But how do i cope..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 April 2013):
 How do you cope?
you use this experience to grow and mature and learn not to make the same mistakes again.
and you slowly heal, one day at a time, You can't go back and change the past, you can only learn from it, and even if you have changed, he does not know that and he can't trust that... so hoping that changing will win him back is futile.
If you feel the need to "make amends" you can write long letters (that you never send) and do it over and over till you are tired of writing. then put the letter in an envelope. seal it.date it, and put it away in the bottom of a drawer you rarely use. In a few years when you find it, you can read it and be amazed at your growth. I've done this over the years and it's been very helpful for me to see progress I've made as a person.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 April 2013):
 You cope by taking it one day at a time, whilst doing your best to become a person who doesn't treat people the way you treated your boyfriend. Counselling or therapy would probably help, as would volunteering your time to work with people who are less fortunate than yourself, its a good way to learn a little humility. You are only young, if you honestly (I said HONESTLY) admit your mistakes and then activly work on changing those bad habits there is still time for you to become the person people, not just guys but all people, want to be with.
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