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anonymous
writes:I had a friend who I thought would be more he made me think he liked me and some stuff happened between us. It turned out that the guy is actually gay which is fine I had no issue with that I was happy to be just friends. He would text me all the time and tell me all about who he was seeing and then occasionally we would meet for a coffee max one hour. I would ask him to do stuff just as friends but he was always too busy said I was his only female friend and that he couldn't tell anyone else about his sexuality. I had been friends with him for about two years and never met any of his friends then he met this girl and never told me he goes out with her places she's met all of his friends and he still says he is gay tels me he was with one person one place and would be tagged on Facebook somewhere else with someone different. He basically made me feel like he was embarrassed to be seen with me and would make arrangements and then cancel for other people. I have stopped speaking to him and he keeps texting me even though I don't reply. If someone has no interest in being your friend then why text all day everyday but cringe at the thought of being seen with you and when you cut contact text saying they miss you etc how can you miss someone you never see? What can I do to move on and leave this behind I don't want to be friends with him he makes me feel like Im not good enough for him to be seen with not good enough to meet his friends but good enough to listen to his conquests his problems and to text 24/7
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 May 2013):
 You have already made a good decision, in that you don't want to be friends with him anymore, now just block his number.
I would not bother saying anything to him, but he seems a bit thick to not have got the message yet, so if you do feel you need to let him know why you could tell him friendships are meant to be give and take, and you feel this relationship does not give you what you need. Tell him goodbye and let that be the end of it.
Your hurt will fade eventually, don't let his actions and dickwittiness colour any friendships you may form in the future.
Good luck.
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