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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (21 August 2013):
So you only met them briefly and you were attracted to them...hmm I don't think it's grounds for telling them you have a crush on them. Ultimately, you'll probably end up embarrassing yourself.
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reader, Anongrl  +, writes (20 August 2013):
If it starts to bother you very much after time has passed, then perhaps, but if it's just something lighthearted with no big intentions, then there probably is no need!
But if you find yourself starting to have feelings etc. then nip it in the bud, make distance or whatever.
I had an inappropriate crush that lasted over two years and nearly drove me insane. I told my crush and I was able to then let it go, but that was after a lot of time. People say that it's pathetic and childish to tell them, but for me, it was something I had to do in order to move on from it, very difficult and embarrassing but neccessary!
Good Luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 August 2013):
 If you want to sound like a 13 year old girl, then go ahead, declare your crush...
I mean really.. what would the POINT of telling him be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): Tell who? Your husband or the guy you have the crush on?
If your marriage is happy I don't see the point in telling anybody - just keep it to yourself.
If your marriage is unhappy I think you should tell your husband so you can talk about it..... and I mean tell your husband that you are unhappy (not that you have a crush.)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 August 2013):
 IF I told every married woman who I have a crush on.. that I have a crush on her... I would spend upwards of 75% of my life in the hospital with injuries inflicted by husbands (of married women who I have a crush on)......
Keep quiet....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (20 August 2013):
Yet another..... WHY?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2013):
 You have a crush. That makes you normal. Having a crush on someone is not restricted to unmarried or unpartnered people.
Are you unhappily married? Are you looking for an excuse to end your marriage or have an affair?
I see no need to tell an almost complete stranger you have a crush on them.
I'm curious why you even think it's appropriate... can you enlighten me?
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (20 August 2013):
You have a crush! Why would you do that to someone you really don't know.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Yeah why would you think you should tell him?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 Why on earth would you do that? What would you be hoping to achieve?
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