Jealousy is ruining my life!
Q. For as far back as I can remember, I have been a VERY jealous person. I was jealous of friends, girls in my class, and one day in primary school, my friends mum actually said to me that I was a very jealous little girl because I got so pissed off ...
A. 25 August 2014: If you have been the jealous type for as long as you can remember there is not much the volunteer agony aunts can do that will make a lasting difference.
I suggest you seek professional assistance, or counselling, to determine the root cause of... (read in full...)
I cant stand my boyfriend's family and things with my boyfriend are starting to fall apart as well. What do I do?
Q. Iv been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now, engaged for a year. I agree that I rushed into this relationship and I have nothing to say in my defense. I had known him for many years because we worked in the same place and he seemed great. ...
A. 25 August 2014: Woah!
You really don't like him at all do you? Or his unfortunate family.
Do the poor man and his family a favour and break up with him, they certainly don't deserve to have you bitching and hating on them!
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We had an argument and she broke up with me
Q. My girlfriend lost her dad 12 months ago he always loved Mablethorpe and had a chalet down there my partner kept it going my partners family was having a family gathering in Mablethorpe she went to chalet while I stayed at home. I didn't feel I was ...
A. 25 August 2014: Was the phone bill really so urgent you had to phone her about it while she was away ..... could it not have waited until she returned home?
If there has been shouting and arguments maybe she has reached the point of no return in the relation... (read in full...)
.I don't understand why I should be faithful and invest in a relationship that has unstable future plans
Q. I have been dating this man for a year and a half and I need a solution to a problem. We are in a long distance relationship an hour and a half drive away.I live in a big city and he lives in a small town. I am willing to relocate to another big ...
A. 25 August 2014: Is there anywhere you could live about half way between, a small hamlet or village, that would give you both a 45 minute commute .... if you put this suggestion to him as being fair, you will at least discover how flexible he is!
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He proposed, but every weekend is taken up with his children ... what if I want a child too?
Q. Hi. My bofriend proposed 2 months ago. As he has 2 kids with ex, he spent Saturdays taking them out somewher, dropped them back at their mom's because she doesn't like them sleeping out and on Sunday took them to visit their grandmother from about ...
A. 24 August 2014: Do you have contact with the children, are you included for some of their activities and outings? To be honest from your question it seems that you don't see him when he has the children, and, if you and he are planning to get married, it really ... (read in full...)
He said he would help, we had sex, and now, no help!
Q. A fee days ago I asked my ex boyfriend if I could borrow some money from him to invest in my business. He is a millionare so I knew he could spare it. We broke up 2 years ago and we hadn't spoken in 5 months since the last time we met up- mainly ...
A. 19 August 2014: To be honest unless you presented him with a costed business plan, which included outlining how you intended paying the loan back, he probably didn't take you seriously.
I hope you haven't order stock or otherwise spent money that you do not have... (read in full...)
Why is my married co worker avoiding me and yet also acting like something might be going on?
Q. I met a married man at work. Recently for a month we've been working more closely together. He started flirting with me and I am attracted to him. He winked at me a few times, brushed his arm against mine one time for a few seconds and teasing me ...
A. 17 August 2014: What's going on is that he was having fun, joking around, being silly, with a co worker (you) who then took it a level further and let him know you are interested.
He obviously isn't "interested" it seems you read the situation wrong. Leave hi... (read in full...)
He says he's serious about me, so why is he so interested in these other girls?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. I'm not the most attractive girl in the world. I'm short and don't have much of a "Sexy" or curvy body. My boyfriend has dated pretty attractive girls in the past (in High school), but says that he ...
A. 16 August 2014: What on earth are you doing to this young man?
What do you expect from him when you point out girls you think are attractive ..... why do you do this?
If you point out a girl, what is he supposed to do, blank his mind? He is probably wonderi... (read in full...)
Losing My Girl, What Can I Do?
Q. I feel really stupid writing about this, but I'm feeling like whatever I do, I'm pushing my girl further and further away, even though I believe that she is the one in the wrong. We have been together for 3 years and when we first met, she was with...
A. 14 August 2014: Take off the blinkers and look at her track record. You don't trust her, and with very good reason, you say yourself that she keeps lying to you ...... what are you wanting us to say to you?
I feel sad that you find yourself in this place, y... (read in full...)
How important do you think political opinions are in a relationship?
Q. Hi all, I'm looking for some opinions on how important you think political opinions are in a relationship? As I'm sure many of you know, Scotland are about to go through an independence referendum. This whole thing has completely divided the coun...
A. 12 August 2014: Couples can survive long marriages where the partners have different political I know a couple the wife is about to turn 80, he already has, he votes and supports the left, she the right side of political divide. They must have come together a few ... (read in full...)
I've tried to stay friends with my ex but he's on my case about everything!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a year ago and since then, he's been on my case about every little thing that I do! He insists on knowing where I go and with who every time I go somewhere and he's always starting arguments about tiny things. I've tried ...
A. 11 August 2014: The friendship is not adding anything positive to your life, its time to let it go, stop giving him any information about your life and your movements. Don't initiate conversations or contact, limit your time with him, if he contacts you be polite ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't hang out with my friends and I feel uncomfortable around him
Q. I have been dating someone for about 1 month now and it started really nicely. We went to the cinema on a date and he spoilt me to popcorn and drinks. He would always say how nice I looked and I felt really nice all the time. Then we started hanging ...
A. 10 August 2014: He sound awful, he is a person who is so insecure in himself he needs to try to make other people look bad so he looks good.
I think I would be giving him the flick, especially as you are feeling uncomfortable around him.... (read in full...)
Should the other woman tell the wife?
Q. In a nutshell, should the other woman tell the wife? It's after breaking up with the married man (5 month affair), she does care for him very deeply. He has said his wife has seen several text messages and suspects an affair, and that there have ...
A. 7 August 2014: The OW telling the wife would not be seen as a helpful gesture by the wife.
The wife already knows her husband is cheating and will be processing the information, AND deciding what to do about it. That decision might be to do nothing.
As ... (read in full...)
Am I being a bitter twisted step mum?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm being completely pathetic or not about this situation so I think you in advance for any views on this matter I'm married to a man and we have 1 child together we both have 2 older children from previous marriages, my hb was the ...
A. 7 August 2014: I think splitting the cost of running the house, mortgage, food, utilities, is fair and your retaining your earnings for your children is only fair.
I hope your husband can see that it is the only fair way as well.
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Am I being a bitter twisted step mum?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm being completely pathetic or not about this situation so I think you in advance for any views on this matter I'm married to a man and we have 1 child together we both have 2 older children from previous marriages, my hb was the ...
A. 6 August 2014: Did I read your response correctly, in that most of YOUR wages go to his ex wife to pay for his and her children's private schooling?
I am gobsmacked!!
How dare he!
Phone him and tell him to stop using the credit card and that as from th... (read in full...)
Am I being a bitter twisted step mum?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm being completely pathetic or not about this situation so I think you in advance for any views on this matter I'm married to a man and we have 1 child together we both have 2 older children from previous marriages, my hb was the ...
A. 6 August 2014: Leave him, or ask him to leave, which ever is better for you, make sure you apply for support for the child you share through CSA.
He is married to you, he has made a commitment to you, and I assume, the child you share. If he is choosing... (read in full...)
Husband is taking off to our honeymoon destination with friends before we get to go, how do I react?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. So my husband and I are married, but postponed our honeymoon, due to finances and the birth of our first baby. We have our honeymoon-vacation planned. So, I was looking forward to it. My husband just informed me that one of his ...
A. 4 August 2014: I think his accepting to go without you, knowing it is a place you will be visiting with him in a few months is very insensitive.
Why can't he wait those few months for when you can go with him?
He and you need to sort out what is importan... (read in full...)
My slob of a housemate has bitched to our friends!
Q. I live with a guy who is a complete slob. Not a couple or anything but we are friends. We live in a rented house and we deal with an accomodation agency. Last monh he was given plenty of notice that the agency was coming to inspect the house as ...
A. 4 August 2014: See what it will take to break the lease and find somewhere else to live.
If this guy wants to live surrounded by all his shit let him, but you are in danger of incurring extra debts, getting kicked out, and getting your name black listed as far a... (read in full...)
My ex lover, who's a married man, won't leave his wife and children for me. But he keep buying me things even though I said I only want to be friends. Do you think he is too emotionally involved to lose contact with me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man but ended it because it wasn't going anywhere, I ended my marriage and now I'm seperated.Anyway my ex lover started contacting me and I told him that I ended my marriage and moving on with my life,I told him I ...
A. 3 August 2014: His motives are clear, he wants to have sex with you while remaining married to somebody else, the gifts are intended to get you to have sex with him.
He doesn't care if you want a relationship .... he doesn't care!
He has told you he will... (read in full...)
I've done everything for him, why does he prefer her over me?
Q. I was dating this guy for a few months.. he told me he loved me and everything was going great.. one day I noticed he was acting a little funny only to find out he met someone else and completely left me for her.. he claimed to be so in love with ...
A. 3 August 2014: Sometimes people get hooked into bad relationships and find it difficult to get themselves free of them, very much like this guy with his ex, and also like you, with him.
Maybe the answer is that he doesn't love either of you, some would see that... (read in full...)
I don't want his friends to think badly of me, but I also don't think I should just take what he throws at me!
Q. I'm not very assertive so would really like some advice on how I should have acted last night. My boyfriend and I went to a wedding reception last night. During the day, I was texting him about the arrangements, and he was only giving me one wo...
A. 3 August 2014: In your shoes I may have quietly left the wedding and let him have his little sulk without you there to either witness it or endure it.
His sulking and pouting while not telling you what the problem is suggests he is a spoilt brat who needs hi... (read in full...)
Should I look for my husband or wait for him to contact me?
Q. Hello, So my husband and I are in a long distance relationship at the moment due to work related reasons. Usually we talk for at least an hour every day over Skype. A week ago we had an argument, he got upset and left in the middle of the co...
A. 3 August 2014: If he is adamant about keeping his depression from his family the only other course of action available to you would be to contact the police in the area he is in ..... tell them he suffers depression and that you usually talk for an hour each day ... (read in full...)
He won't commit! We are stuck in a cycle of breaking up and making up!
Q. I met a guy 4 years ago. At the time I was 25 and he was 38. We soon started seeing each other and after 4 months I had met his family. Everything seemed to be going well other than the fact that he started working longer hours and going out salsa ...
A. 31 July 2014: First of all you need to decide if you are happy to continue like this, or not.
Really think about your answer, continuing as you are will mean you continue exactly as it is now, seeing him intermittently, him not wanting the same sort of relation... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? Or is my reluctance to share information with her due to her need to compete with me?
Q. Hi everybody, I am a nursing student soon to qualify and I have decided that I want to go down the route of medicine. I have researched the course and contacted the university. I have paid for the upcoming GAMSAT examination and started ...
A. 30 July 2014: This person is not a 'friend' but more a close acquaintance. You are under no obligation to share every aspect of your life with anybody else, family, friends or even acquaintances, HOWEVER, I believe we all have a duty to ourselves to protect us, ... (read in full...)
My grandparents play favorites and I'm fed up!
Q. This is very long. It's getting harder for me to hold in my feelings. My family have always had problems. My grandparents always like to play favorites with their grand kids. There were three of us and they treated Emily much better. Babysitting, ...
A. 28 July 2014: It happens in families, and yes, it sucks to be the one who is left out all the time, but really, there is not a lot you can do.
When the kids ask that awkward question tell them the truth, you don't know.
As for thanksgiving, you don't have t... (read in full...)
The families' demands are ruining my wedding experience
Q. I need some advice on whether we should allow our families to take control of our upcoming wedding or just tell them that everything they want is far from what we want. We have been together for five years and we have a three year old. We have bee...
A. 28 July 2014: No, don't give in.
Tell both sets of parents: "our wedding was supposed to be a happy day where George and I formalised our relationship and promise to be with each other for the rest of our lives.
However, with the demands being put on us ... (read in full...)
Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new?
Q. I got a question, i'm a gay guy and I love straight men, especially buff or frat guys. I can't get enough of them. Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new? ...
A. 26 July 2014: I am not sure what you are asking, but if you are suggesting the 'something new' straight buff frat guys are scared to try is homosexual experimentation, then maybe the answer is that they aren't scared but simply not interested in gay guys because ... (read in full...)
Dating a month. So why is he saying he's afraid of being criticized by his friends if he loads a picture of me?
Q. He said it was because he was afraid of being critized with his friends. But i'm a pretty girl, and the friends he does upload (which are girls look similar to me. So I don't understand what the real problem is. We have been dating for a month, ...
A. 23 July 2014: Facebook is not the be all and end all of everybody's life.
If he doesn't want to post pictures on facebook that surely is his choice.
You have only known him for three months, the relationship is till very new and he is not ready to post pi... (read in full...)
My B/f seems to think I should be available to fit around his busy schedule. Am I being out of line?
Q. I'm looking for some advice on the argument I just had with my boyfriend please. He has been on vacation for 2 and a bit weeks, at a music festival in Spain. Before he left and during the course of him being away, I've asked him a couple of time...
A. 21 July 2014: Hey! Guess what!
You are right! He has no respect for you or your time, and yes, he does expect you to be putting your life on hold for him.
Now that your feelings are confirmed, what are you going to do about it? Let him continue treated you ... (read in full...)
I'm driving myself insane with jealousy!
Q. I'm driving myself insane with jealousy over the way my boyfriends family are with his ex girlfriend, but my friends say that the way they act isn't right and I have every right to be annoyed. It started at the beginning of the year when my boyfr...
A. 20 July 2014: Your boyfriend's ex seems to be staking a claim, and his sisters are letting her do it.
It is a tough one .... asserting your position as your boyfriends CHOSEN partner, while still acknowledging his sisters can chose their friends how they wis... (read in full...)
I've met my soulmate and am ready to settle down, but she says she doesn't feel like it!
Q. So, I think that its time for me to settle down with my soulmate. I met this girl - five times. She is a shy and reserved. Unfortunately, I get told that she feels 'neutral' about me and that she does not 'feel like it.' I would really like to u...
A. 12 July 2014: I find it a little amusing that you find the fact she is 'neutral' to you and has told you she doesn't feel like settling down with you a little off.
It is not a 'roadblock'. Regardless of what you feel she obviously doesn't see you as HER soul... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont cooperate and help work things out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. Lately I feel like he's been turning into a complete asshole and I feel like I'm just being tossed aside. It first started when I had asked him to spend 4th of July weekend with me from Thursday ...
A. 12 July 2014: Connect the dots .... his computer has been invaded by an alien being which causes it to do odd stuff, like downloading pictures and automatically starting up Skype.
Seriously though, I think the time for him to cooperate in getting the relation... (read in full...)
He loves his hobby but there is no time for me.
Q. I have been dating a very kind and warm guy of 35 for nearly a year. He works from home and is also totally renovating his house all the way through. He has lived with women but never had a family. My children are grown up. When we first met I c...
A. 12 July 2014: I've met a few people over the years who buy dilapidated or run down houses, do them up and then sell them at a profit.
I don't think any of them saw it as a hobby, but more as an income stream. It also becomes a lifestyle, goals are set, and... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of one month lives with me and I pay the bills, ex boyfriend says he cant be with me but wants me to wait for him.
Q. So this is kind a long story that will lead to the question. Please give me some advise though. I am currently dating someone and have been for a month. Now my ex, who was made at the fact I was dating his friend or anyone for that matter, sai...
A. 12 July 2014: Moving some guy in and committing to supporting him financially after only one month and the fact you say you "feel as if you are being used" suggests you are not very in tune with your intuition.
What the hell girl! I don't know why you say your... (read in full...)
Chatting online for a month and he wants me to pay his phone bill so we can talk
Q. I met this guy in a dating website about a month ago and he asked me to pay his phone bill. It makes me a little uncomfortable because I don't know if he is using me. He says he likes me a lot and has plans to come visit me in 3 weeks (lives 7 hours ...
A. 11 July 2014: Listen to your gut, it speaks the truth!
If he can't afford $60 for his phone bill how is this moocher going to be able to afford to visit you in three weeks time?
Scammers often seem charming and friendly, and the sort of person we all wa... (read in full...)
I need help understanding why he won't see me!
Q. So I've got this friend of like 7 years, but recently he refuses to see me. We used to be the best of friends and then we got together. It wasnt easy as we were very shy and alot of people made it hard. It ended, by him, I was hurt but we stay...
A. 9 July 2014: He avoids you like the plague because he doesn't want to see you. He is happy to indulge in some simple texting but as soon as you suggest a face to face meeting ESPECIALLY if it does not include his girlfriend he isn't interested.
Its kind of ... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: I'm somebody who really doesn't deal well with any confrontation ..... if I was in your situation I expect I would have martyred myself and given up my nice comfortable bed, and suffered in silence with a smile plastered n my face deferring my ... (read in full...)
I feel I am constantly waiting for him and wasting my life away ...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have a son together who is 3 years old. We all live together, my partner works 16 hour days, and he works nights. He only gets one day off but even on his day off i don't see him as he lays in bed ...
A. 8 July 2014: I agree, sometimes it is hard to motivate yourself (myself?) when life is just the same ole same ole ..... a boring round of housework and child minding and a partner who is always too tired to do anything but sleep.
BUT, and here's the thing, e... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about this drunken mistake?
Q. I have recently been away with a group of friends including my best friend ,her husband and his cousin. I hadn't met this cousin previously but had heard friends talk about him and he is kind of connected to where I work, I knew I would get on well ...
A. 8 July 2014: Quite frankly what you got up to with her cousin, or didn't get up to, is none of your friend's business.
Apologise to the cousin, tell him your attitude towards him was a result of your being embarrassed at your out of character behaviou... (read in full...)
Love triangle or 3 broken hearts?
Q. My fiancee and I have been having threesome's and I have been letting him sleep with other women. I don't really have a problem as long as I am involved... he doesn't feel comfortable letting me sleep with other men which is annoying and stressful ...
A. 8 July 2014: Grow some balls and tell them you are not happy with the situation, why is your being unhappy less important than making sure your supposed best friend isn't upset and your selfish arse of a fiancé, who is quite happy to bring other women home and ... (read in full...)
My fiances sister is a great girl, but I don't want her living with us!
Q. I understand that some of you may think I am purely being selfish but please try and understand what I'm saying.... Ok, so my fiancée and I got our own place last year. We had both saved to be able to buy our own place, and when we got engaged i...
A. 3 July 2014: You are not being selfish.
You could give an ultimatum, but must be prepared to carry it through if he choses his sister over you ..... which is what he is doing now but he might not realise it until he has to make his decision a consciou... (read in full...)
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