A
male
age
51-59,
*dwr7497
writes:My girlfriend lost her dad 12 months ago he always loved Mablethorpe and had a chalet down there my partner kept it going my partners family was having a family gathering in Mablethorpe she went to chalet while I stayed at home. I didn't feel I was welcome and wasa bit miffed I know my partner has been struggling with her dad passing while she was in Mablethorpe . I phoned her about a phone bill we had a argument about it .The next thing she has dumped me blocked me on Facebook dosent answer my calls text just tells me is she had enough of all the shouting and me thinking I'm right all the time she saysnot to go to her house when she comes home we have been together for 10 years I'm absolutely gutted and love her so much but she seems adder ment she dosent love me anymore Had no conact since she dumped me it's been so hard she says she wants to deal with it on her own .what can i do I'm in love with her
View related questions:
broke up, facebook, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2014): When I started to read this, I went back and checked the age that was listed. Initially it sounds like a couple of teenagers in a new relationship having an argument about nothing important. When I got a bit further and found out that you're middle aged and that you've been together for 10 years, I couldn't believe it.
Something here just isn't adding up to me. Why wouldn't you feel welcome going to a family event? Do you get on with her family? It seems odd that at a time like this, you'd feel excluded and 'a bit miffed'.
Then the phone call to discuss the phone bill, what was that about? Couldn't you have waited or just not brought it up at all? It doesn't seem like the best time to discuss it. Finally her reaction to your call seems completely over the top. I don't feel that we're getting the whole picture here.
A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 August 2014):
 I was thinking the same thing about the phone bill. Whether it was a genuine query about the bill or just a means of getting her attention, it was poorly timed and I can understand why she'd be put off by it. I guess it was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back.
Stop trying to contact her for a while. Give her, and yourself, some time and space to reflect. I imagine she'll reach out to you again and perhaps by then you'll have gained some new insights.
...............................
A
female
reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 August 2014):
 Was the phone bill really so urgent you had to phone her about it while she was away ..... could it not have waited until she returned home?
If there has been shouting and arguments maybe she has reached the point of no return in the relationship ... the phone call about something that could probably have waited might have been the last straw.
If she has blocked you, and isn't responding to texts the best thing to do would be to leave her alone for a while.
...............................
|
