I have anger issues with my boyfriend and would like help in dealing with them
Q. Hello, im 18 years old. my boyfriend is 19 and we've been dating for about 4 years. (on and off) we've been through pretty much a lot, things i never imagined he would hurt me doing. and well I've been trying to work on my anger issues. i get ...
A. 20 May 2014: I have some questions for you, your answers will help me see the situation more clearly to be able to give my advise.
Why does this 19 year old young man have to ask you if he can eat out with his cousins?
Does he always not listen, or only ... (read in full...)
Some small complications with pregnancy, I need some advise.
Q. Hi all...looking for a bit of advice :) Im currently 30 weeks pregnant and have recently found out of a few small problems with the pregnancy. Thankfully nothing major but i am going into hospital twice a week to be monitored. I am happy that the...
A. 19 May 2014: Have a small bag with you with enough 'stuff' to keep you going for two or three days, depending on what you normally wear I would suggest comfy track suits, undies, basic toiletries, slippers, book, ipad or craft project, permissible snacks and a ... (read in full...)
How do I get over all this hurt and move on from this?
Q. Hi everyone I'm just looking for a bit of advice, I'm really hurting and angry infact confused and I just don't know how to get over this or move on from it. I'll tell u briefly about the history. 3 years with a guy a few years older than me (3...
A. 19 May 2014: Let his ex/current or whatever she is/girlfriend have him, they deserve each other.
Now, none of that is going to help you recover, so now some practical stuff. Ask your family to save the messages etc in case you need them down the track a bit ..... (read in full...)
My friend told me she can't throw my baby shower and I'm scrambling for ideas! Help?
Q. in desperate need of some ideas my "friend" was all set for throwing me a baby shower, which I was very very excited about. I asked for it to be held in my house so I didn't have to bother about traveling anywere whilst tired afterwards, which I ...
A. 19 May 2014: Serve tea, that is what you have so that is what you serve. Ask family members and friends you feel comfortable with to bring a plate of food to share, explain the situation, a tub of dip and some raw veges cut into strips would be suitable, or a ... (read in full...)
Even though we've broken up he still tries to control me
Q. Hi and thanks My ex boyfriend and I had a roller coaster relationship. Our first time around he was on a dating site our whole 8 month relationship plus admitted to having feelings for his ex plus cheated so many times I can't count that high....
A. 18 May 2014: You block his number, you block him on social networking sites, you do not answer the door if he knocks on it, if he persists and you feel you are in danger you seek a restraining order.
You also need to spend some time thinking about where yo... (read in full...)
Went out to dinner with 2 colleagues, were they a little rude..?
Q. Need some opinions. I recently went out for lunch with 2 colleagues who are Asian, one 31 one 53, me early 40s, we get along well and I like them both, Im white. We went to food court and one of the women headed right for an asian restau...
A. 18 May 2014: Their not speaking English was rude. As for the menu and meal I would speak to them about it, tell them you felt excluded when they didn't ask if there was a dish you could share. Act a bit dense if you have to, ask them if this is a cultural ... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with 'the other woman' but she says she hates me
Q. I am a separated male who still is friendly with my wife, we have 2 beautiful teenage girls and we remain very close after 6 years of separation. We still share family vacations and days out as a family and even the bed 1 - 2 times a month. I live...
A. 14 May 2014: Her middle finger gesture was your closure and about all you deserve.... (read in full...)
Boundaries with a patient- husband is a physical therapist- please would like some advice
Q. Will try to be brief :-) SOme history: Im 43, BF is 48- we are both divorced and in a solid trusting relationship for past 6 months. Knew each other 3 years as friends so good foundation. BOth very happy. We live separate for now and everythi...
A. 14 May 2014: Heavens, what a choice you have given your boyfriend of six months.
I should imagine if your boyfriend has been treating this lady for 5 years a strong friendship bond has formed between them. This would be quite normal.
As long as this lad... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with 'the other woman' but she says she hates me
Q. I am a separated male who still is friendly with my wife, we have 2 beautiful teenage girls and we remain very close after 6 years of separation. We still share family vacations and days out as a family and even the bed 1 - 2 times a month. I live...
A. 14 May 2014: Doesn't really matter what you want does it, what matters here is this lady is not interested in a sex buddy relationship with you, while you, on the other hand, seem to be a chap who has become used to having your cake and eating it too!
The l... (read in full...)
BF won't show me his phone
Q. Here is a brief bit of background to shed some light frist. My current boyfriend once lied to me and I forgave him but I am finding it incredibly hard to forget in the way that he wants me to. This is most difficult when it comes to his behaviuor...
A. 14 May 2014: You tell us, what could be so tragic on his phone that would permit your demanding access?
What could be the issue? He is not a naughty 10 year old refusing to do something his mother asks. You are not his wife, a status which would, presumab... (read in full...)
I am struggling to see a future with my boyfriend
Q. I love my boyfriend more than anything but am struggling to see a future for us because of how useless he is with money. We earn roughly the same - take home about £1500 a month. I own a small house and manage to pay all my bills on my own and st...
A. 12 May 2014: Tell him before you are prepared to share a living space with him he needs to live on his own for six months, without any financial help from his parents. That is to
pay rent
pay utilities
buy his food
buy his toiletries
keep his living s... (read in full...)
Should I raise this issue or just accept that my Boyfriend does more than his fair share, financially, for his divorced mother?
Q. Recently I have realised just how much my boyfriend does for his mother and their family but I don't want to point it out to him because I know it will do no good. My boyfriend is three years younger and he still lives at home. His rent covers ...
A. 10 May 2014: Do not talk to his mum. What happens financially in that family is none of your business and you have no right to be raising finances with his mother.
Sure, he shouldn't have to help his family like this, but its possible he sees it as the only... (read in full...)
He just can't let go of my past
Q. Hello aunts, I'm having a dilemma with my current boyfriend. We have been dating for a little over a month now and we really enjoy each-other and fell in love and love spending time together when we can. We are almost one person and I've had pre...
A. 9 May 2014: You cant help him move on, the only person who can do that is him, and to be honest, if he is like this after only one month I would be telling you to be very careful of him.
The fact you say he has done worse things but accept they are in his p... (read in full...)
His ex is still in the way!
Q. Hello, i´ve been dating my BF for almost three years. And his ex is still in the way. I mean, they stayed friends after the break up, but my bf lives in another city than her, so they chat on fb from time to time..I don´t live with my bf yet, he ...
A. 9 May 2014: You should care if you are rude, because that only makes you look like an immature whiny brat.
Your boyfriend's flatmate has every right to have guests in his flat, and as you are also a guest in that flat, in that you don't live there you shou... (read in full...)
How's a nice way to ask her ex in laws to get to know me so they can see I'm not a monster and how does everyone else deal with the ex dad?
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship with a girl that is going through a divorce and a mother of two kids. Her ex is an ass and that's being nice to the guy, he cheated on her,was emotionally and verbally abusive to her and really broke her down. She is trying ...
A. 6 May 2014: It is very important for you and your girlfriend to realise that because children are involved, their father, and his family, are always going to be part of your lives (if your relationship is long term, life long). Always! And, unless they are ... (read in full...)
What's up with this old friend?
Q. What is up with my childhood friend? He has a girlfriend but has always been very protective of me with other guys i went out with saying they arent good enough and giving them dirty looks. Hes in his 30s im nearly 30 he seems to have put his ...
A. 3 May 2014: Its like that old song, because you are wishing and hoping and thinking and praying that you will be his you are seeing signs of love where there are none.
He has a girlfriend, what makes you think he has put his life on hold?
You have a fe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has no reason for doing so
Q. I am so devastated, I am not sure what to think or what happened. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, we are the same age, we both have children (no children together) but out of the blue.... he broke up with me. I asked for a reason he had ...
A. 3 May 2014: Sadly I am agreeing with those who feel he has met somebody else, and is too cowardly to tell you.
Its time to dry your tears and start working on rebuilding your life again, focus on your children, find some work, and find somewhere to live.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never invites me to his parties
Q. Hello all. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have known him well for about 7 years. Last year he decorated his backyard. I picked out the pool which is the staple of the backyard. I picked out most all of the furniture, ...
A. 3 May 2014: Don't put up with it, just don't! You have already told him his not including you bothers you, and as he has very clearly shown you, he doesn't care!
Not one jot!
Not one iota!
Don't be his doormat. Just cut contact, now, right this minut... (read in full...)
I quit my job after 5 days because of the way I was treated! Should I say something?
Q. Hey! I've been having a bad day at my new job today. I started my new job last Tuesday at a Clinic and got to meet 4 girls who I'm going to be working with in the front desk and with the doctors. My first day was good. My second day was really bad. ...
A. 1 May 2014: You could ask for an exit interview, or write to the owner or manager, point out the lack of training and clear direction.... (read in full...)
How to encourage my significant other to take care of her skin?
Q. I feel bad saying this but... Sometimes, when I am really close to my girlfriend's face, I feel unattracted to her. Well, I find her attractive at a closer than conversational level. But I tend to analyze every detail, line, and freckle on her f...
A. 30 April 2014: I have come back to your question several times over the past two hours or so, considering whether to respond or not.
As you see, I have decided to respond.
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He is never there for me
Q. Dear Cupids, I have been in a relationship for three and a half years with a guy I met in high school. I am currently in my second year of college while he opted not to go to college. I have school and a part time job while he has been around u...
A. 28 April 2014: Maybe your relationship has run its course, you have both grown in different directions and want different things from life. Maybe you have both become a habit for each other.
Don't look at it a having been a waste of time, I am sure there ar... (read in full...)
Is this man a sleaze bucket or am I a prude?
Q. I recently went on a first date with a guy in the public services blue uniform high up who I met online. He tried to kiss me intimately outside a pub in the car park which I found embarrassing and then text me later that he was going to be doing ...
A. 28 April 2014: Sorry, but I laughed, this guy has no clue or finesse does he? How long has he been single, maybe he has been hanging out with just the blokes for too long, or maybe he really does and doesn't realise there are still people with some degree of ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for married people to have opposite sex friends?
Q. Simple question ; after you get married and settled down, is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex? Text them? Hang out with them? Strictly platonic that is....
A. 28 April 2014: My kids are married, and have friends of the opposite gender, mostly when they got together with their friends they took their girlfriends or boyfriends with them, the friends had a chance to get to know the new partner, and vice versa, so that by ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for married people to have opposite sex friends?
Q. Simple question ; after you get married and settled down, is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex? Text them? Hang out with them? Strictly platonic that is....
A. 28 April 2014: I believe if both partners know the friend, if the friendship is open in that nothing is hidden from the spouse, if the friend also includes the spouse in communications, and as long as the spouse has no need, real or imagined, to feel threatened by ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep asking me to be his friends with benefits?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if you could help me. Why does he keep asking me to be his friends with benefits? I have known him for almost two years though we got closer as friends at the beginning of last year. I fell in love with him but never showe...
A. 27 April 2014: He is not interested in being your friend, or having a relationship with you, he only wants to have sex. And he thinks that by keeping on at you about it he will wear down your defences.
This man is not your friend, stop interacting with him unle... (read in full...)
His focus is not on me anymore. Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship?
Q. I need to start by saying i feel like a stupid teenager for feeling the way i do bout the changes in my relationship. Like i'm being a whiney, clingy, insecure, jealous teeny-bopper. But, this is how I feel, so here goes. We've been together 10 ...
A. 27 April 2014: Three months of dating before you moved in wasn't really long enough for you to determine what sort of man he really was, you were still in the honeymoon stage and on your best behaviour.
It would appear the honeymoon is well and truly over for... (read in full...)
If I break up, I'll hurt! If I stay, I'll lack trust! What do I choose?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. Four months into our relationship I found out that he cheated on me with F. I confronted him, we fought, he begged for forgiveness and I stayed with him. A year later I found out that he cheated me on ...
A. 26 April 2014: Now that you appear to have made the decision there is no need to actually meet him, that will be difficult for you and not something he deserves. Phone him now, tell him you wont be meeting him at the designated time, nor will you be meeting him ... (read in full...)
If I break up, I'll hurt! If I stay, I'll lack trust! What do I choose?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. Four months into our relationship I found out that he cheated on me with F. I confronted him, we fought, he begged for forgiveness and I stayed with him. A year later I found out that he cheated me on ...
A. 25 April 2014: If you listen to his excuses, and his promises he will cheat again, because he has already cheated on you, what, 5 times, and each time you have a little cry and he says' believe me baby I only love you, and I wont do it again!"
How many times ha... (read in full...)
Thought I had a chance with my crush when his relationship failed, but now they're back together. Should I move on?
Q. Hi all, I need some advice. I've had this massive crush on a guy for the last 5 years. He's a year older than me and I met him in school. He's an amazing guy, extremely good looking, gentleman personality and has a great career ahead of him. I ...
A. 24 April 2014: 5 years? You've been obsessing over this guy since before he got with his girlfriend 4.5 years ago, and you are still in there, hoping for some sort of miricle to happen, and have been since you were aged between 15 and 17?
Time to accept this is ... (read in full...)
Is what I'm doing such a bad thing?
Q. I am in a long term relationship but I still speak to an ex without my partners knowledge. Is this really that wrong? I know having my cake and eating it will probably spring to mind but it's really not like that. My boyfriend is a great guy an...
A. 22 April 2014: Yes, it is wrong. You know its wrong, why else keep it secret from your current boyfriend.
You need to ask yourself which is more important to you, your 'little chats" with your ex, or an open and honest relationship with your current boyfrien... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 21 April 2014: All he ever wanted was your humility? Riiiiight! You have made the best decision possible in this situation.
You will probably remain angry for a while, with him for only wanting your ''humility'' and with yourself for not recognising you were bea... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 20 April 2014: hoo boy! Thank heavens you saw the light before you invested too much more time into this man!
Pop his movies into a post pack and mail them to him.
As for how to react if you see him around the neighbourhood, that is up to you, you could b... (read in full...)
I asked him to delete his ex's number ...
Q. I am seeing a guy for two months and i found out that he texted his ex last week saying how much he misses her and how she would feel if he got a new girlfriend. Ex said it'll be weird but nothing I cant get over and I'll be happy for you. He ...
A. 19 April 2014: You should listen to your intuition on this one, it is telling you he has no intention of unfriending her on facebook, or deleting her number.
I don't accept the excuse "I was drunk" its an excellent little excuse for getting people of the hook... (read in full...)
Does a girl have a right ask for a Bf stay in some Sundays instead of going out every week
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. My problem relates to my boyfriend of 4 years as we had a bit of a disagreement earlier today. Basically, he is good friends with my best friend's boyfriend. They have just moved in together, whereas me and my bf sti...
A. 15 April 2014: Of course your friend's boyfriend has the right to go out and get drunk and be inconsiderate, and his friend, your boyfriend, has the right to back him up.
Your girlfriend also has rights. She can tell her boyfriend she is not happy with his atti... (read in full...)
I left this woman to go back to my ex but I've never stopped thinking of her. Should I contact her?
Q. Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back ...
A. 14 April 2014: You Sir, are very unlikable!... (read in full...)
Which woman do I choose?
Q. Hey. I basically need a bit of help and guidance on which girl I should choose to have my future with. So the 1st girl I am in a relationship with, she is amazing. She is like the good wife, she is traditional and can love and look after her ...
A. 14 April 2014: What a tough decision to be faced with making on your own.
all both girls together, coffee or somewhere neutral would be best, and lay your predicament before them.
The one that tells you to blow it out your bum and walks away is the winner.
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What should my next move be with my crush?
Q. Hey guys, Basically, an exchange student joined my university course last year and over the course of the year I developed feelings for her. I thought I got signals but she turned me down after I asked her out - her excuse was she wasnt over her e...
A. 14 April 2014: okay .... you say this "I don't really want to let her go", but what you are failing to realise is that this is nothing to do with her, you don't have her, or hold her to be letting her go.
She is not interested in you, she turned you down, a ... (read in full...)
6 months pregnant and my dog has started waking me up every few hours! Why is she doing this?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but i would like some advice if anyone can give it to me. My problem is my dog....shes 3 years old so not a puppy and we have had her for almost 2 years..so she is very settled in the house. No routines have cha...
A. 12 April 2014: Check with a vet, and if there is nothing wrong with the dog, put her bed somewhere else at night, for the time being.... (read in full...)
I left this woman to go back to my ex but I've never stopped thinking of her. Should I contact her?
Q. Hello, well about two years ago i met someone, it lasted about three months, she treated me fantastic, but then my ex poped back into the picture, she treated me really bad , even hit me but I was in love with her, so i dumped the new one, went back ...
A. 12 April 2014: While texting her might make you feel better, I doubt it is going to make the lady in question feel better, besides, if she has any brains she will tell you where to put your little text .... you dumped her for somebody that wasn't worth being ... (read in full...)
The guy doesn't seem to know what he wants and I'm not into playing games. Should I just forget it?
Q. Hi , I need some honest advice . Dated a guy for three months ( he was waiting on his divorce to be finalised ) . He then sends by text the old line " It's not you , it's me ...I am not ready for any kind of relationship " . I felt annoyed ...
A. 12 April 2014: Phht! he is a time waster, but apart from that he gave you the tired old line via text and not face to face.
I wouldn't bother if it were me.... (read in full...)
I'm at a crossroads, do I work things out with my ex or stay with my new boyfriend?
Q. Hello! I am taking the time in advance for taking the time to read my agony and for any help you may provide. I also apologize for the lenghty paragraph. I am at a crossroads. I have an ex husband who I was with for 6 years and we have a...
A. 11 April 2014: If you are so conflicted do the smart thing and don't chose either of them.
Your ex is an ex for a reason, and after such a long period of time since you split you will never be able to go back to some idyllic moment in the past. Too much water ha... (read in full...)
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