Communication is becoming impossible!
Q. She asks "Would you like a biscuit" - I answer "yes please, just one" - "but you normally have two" - "yes but I'm not hungry, just one would be nice" - "You don't like my biscuits ?" - "yes but I'm not hungry" - "I've spent all this time cooking ...
A. 14 November 2014: You don't list your age, which makes things difficult, because the sometimes the back story for a young guy in his 20s will be vastly different to that of a guy in his 50s.
But never mind ... I'll do my best.
Either she is a crazy control fr... (read in full...)
My widowed mother is sleeping with a married man.
Q. I am a seventeen year old Indian girl. My father passed away in December 2013. Since February this year my father's best friend, Max, who is a married white man has been visiting us at least twice a week and sleeps over. He is a salesman for a large ...
A. 12 November 2014: It is none of your business if your mother is having sex, or who she is having sex with.
I should imagine if Max is spending whole weekends in your mother's bedroom your mother will have already assumed you are old enough to know they are not play... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than he does with me
Q. My boyfriend spends more time with his friends than me! I'm not saying that we should see each other everyday. Perhaps just once a week. He has made a lot of plans with them but whenever I bring up sth to do, he either says he is busy or already has ...
A. 11 November 2014: It sounds like your relationship with your boyfriend has run its course .... I don't think once a week would be too much to ask.
You are not his priority, what you do next is your choice, to be honest I doubt he will notice if you just stop con... (read in full...)
He said he was single, then she said he wasn't !
Q. Hello, There is a new guy in town we met and immediately got into dating. I gues we really like(d) eachother. When we met he told me that he was single. We have been seeing eachother for the past two weeks in public holding hands and stuff....
A. 11 November 2014: You have only been dating for two weeks, the other girl said the had been dating for a month.
Two weeks or one month is not long enough for people to know each other.
It is possible the other girl is jealous.
I think you can give your ... (read in full...)
I can't leave him until December. How do I stay strong until then?
Q. I am coming here because I need advice on how to stay strong. I feel like writing this all out may help as well as receiving advice from others. I have been with a guy for seven years and he is leaving me for the same woman he has left me for ...
A. 9 November 2014: Writing a list might help work out how to do things. Keep busy, November is already 1 quarter done, December, when you can leave, is getting closer every day.
Just because you both occupy the same living space doesnt mean you have to share wi... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married lover
Q. I've been in a relationship with an older married man for a year. In the last year, my feelings have grown for him, and I am in love. I know it's selfish, but I want more of his time to be spent with me. He insists that it will get better, but I'm ...
A. 9 November 2014: The best advise I can give you is, if you want more from this relationship, is to ask HIM what he manes when he insists that it will get better.
I think you will find he wont know what he means by it, he is simply enjoying having a nice young bo... (read in full...)
Why did he rent a room instead of taking me to his place?
Q. turkish men i was in turkey in july this year and met a really nice gye who told me i was beutiful and asked me what i was doing tommorw the next day after he met me in his shop i said nothing so he asked could i come meet him for lunch i sai...
A. 9 November 2014: The reason he didnt take you home could be for a number of reasons ....
maybe he shares with other family members, maybe he even shares a room with them
maybe he felt his house was too poor to take you to
maybe he is married (if those brothers and... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was holding ex and kissing her on the face. Did he cheat?
Q. I have been with my bf for about a month. He is my coworker and he left his live in gf of over a year to be with me. I found out that he talks with her either by text or call everyday still. And he still see's her once or twice a week. Works on her ...
A. 8 November 2014: If your boyfriend is telling another girl he loves her, and if he is kissing her, on the cheek and forehead and head, and seeing her a few times a week and in contact with her everyday then what the hell is he doing with you?
He sure is cheating... (read in full...)
Should I send my husband money? I think his family takes advantage of us!
Q. 3 years ago My husband sent alot of money to his family in a muslim country. His family said they were investing this money into a company where it would make profit. Some of this money was also mine. Now a month ago he has gone to see his famil...
A. 8 November 2014: If you feel you should not send money then don't! It is that simple.
Be aware if you do not send him money he may not be able to afford to stay in contact with you ... especially if it comes down to a choice of asking for money for food or for cred... (read in full...)
I found my wife cheated for 10 years, but I'm staying for the kids. Any advice?
Q. My wife and I dated 4 years and were married 10 years and 2 months when I found out she was having an affair with the same man the entire time. We have two daughters, now 4 and 7. Turns out the other guy was married and his wife found out. Tur...
A. 8 November 2014: Yes, cheated upon here.
If it has been two years and you are still not reconciled with your wife, if you still don't trust here and if there are still days you can't bear to look at her sometimes, I think you have to admit the marriage seems to... (read in full...)
My g/f was wearing a shirt from a guy she slept with. Should I be upset?
Q. My girlfriend was skyping me and I noticed her shirt. It was a verizon shirt, I work for verizon so I wondered where she got it from. I asked her and she replied from an old friend. After a little bit of digging turns out she slept with this person ...
A. 8 November 2014: I agree, from what you have said, its just a shirt. However, with regard to your comment about your girlfriends past lovers and partners ..... are the really finding a way into your present relationship or are you opening the door wide and saying ... (read in full...)
My husband is being secretive with his cell phone and is not affectionate any more
Q. I am a lady aged 41, my husband is 44,being together for5 years now,our relationship was perfect the past 3 yrs,but now he is secretive especially on his cellphone,he can't even put it down when he goes out or to bathroom, when he charges it, is ...
A. 26 October 2014: Listen to your gut feelings. If his changed behaviour (no kisses, hugs or communicating any more) started at around the same time as his changed behaviour with his phone I would be thinking something is going on that he doesn't want you to know ... (read in full...)
I'm a compulsive cheater and I suffer depressed. What help do I need to stop this cheating? I do love my older Bf
Q. I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed, loving relationship with a man who is nearly 50. I'm a compulsive cheater. I can't help myself and I hate myself so very much. I've had numerous one-night stands with various men. It is hard for anyone to ...
A. 26 October 2014: Seek professional help. Go to your GP for a referral.
Until you understand why you behave like this you will have no real reason to stop.
... (read in full...)
I was drunk and punched my boyfriend in front of his co-workers. Now he's telling me to come get my things!
Q. My boyfriend is a senior managering director in a company with 750 workers and met me at a social event that my company went to and i work in a factory making pies and at another event i got what you would say had far too many drinks and he did not ...
A. 25 October 2014: You need to go get your stuff and get out of his life. Being drunk is never an excuse for unsociable behaviour OR violence.
The damage you have done to this man goes way beyond punching him ... you need to get out of his life.
It would prob... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to try a position I don't and won't take no for an answer!
Q. *contains sexual content* hey there aunts and uncles, Ok so im in a happy loving relationship me andy partner are very sexually experimental .. outdoors .. toys .. role play ... dress up .. he has had 2 previous partners one at age 14 an...
A. 24 October 2014: A man who wants to hurt you for his own pleasure and has no respect for you like that is not good end material.
This situation would be a deal breaker for me.... (read in full...)
Dating a coworker that cheated on his gf, will we last????
Q. I just started dating a coworker, he is 8 years older then me. He was in a relationship with someone he lived with for over a year. He wasn't happy and we started talking and flirting and it lead to more. We got really close. Well one night out we ...
A. 24 October 2014: Let me double check I have it correct ....
He cheated on his girlfriend with you, I assume she found out, hence the big fight and she kicked him out to live with his mother, and now, one short week later he is part of a couple with you while stil... (read in full...)
If he cheats to be with you, does that mean he will 100 per cent cheat ON YOU?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been dating a married man for almost a year and a half. He does have genuine feelings for me and we have great sex and chemistry and a good friendship. He is comfortable with his wife and not leaving. I am not totally okay w...
A. 24 October 2014: you know, at least he hasn't signed a contract stating he will forsake all others and to be with you only until death does you part... so you have one up on the wife he DID sign that contract with ..... but on the other hand he still cheated on her ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my friend who is condescending towards me? Is this a toxic relationship?
Q. This is a friendship question. I have a potentially toxic friendship. This friend (known her for about 7 months) has often corrected me in a demeaning manner when I make mistakes, likes to talk to people about how "quiet" I am and "shy", doesn't ...
A. 12 October 2014: Can you make a joke when she talks for you .... say something like "just a moment while I get Mary's arm out from the back of my shirt (do a puppet hand here) so I can answer that for myself"
Or be upfront, (this will take practice and determin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends more time with his ex than he does with me!
Q. My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time with his ex girlfriend. This has been going on since they split up a year ago. I tried to be tolerant of the situation as I didn't want to control his life. I did however bring it up with him once an...
A. 7 October 2014: You cant change his behaviour, or hers, the only person whose behaviour you can change is yours.
In your shoes I would be feeling the same .... and I wouldn't like being second fiddle.
You need to decide if that is a position you are happy be... (read in full...)
My girlfriend breaks up with me, over and over and over again!
Q. okay I'm really confused on this one. I am 47 my girlfriend 45. Will be going out for 6 months and ever since day one she continually breaks up with me.I mean literally she can break up with me more than once in a week and then she comes running ...
A. 7 October 2014: I would find it very frustrating to be in a relationship where the other partner constantly broke up with me, frustrating and hurtful.
At age 45 I doubt your girlfriend will ever change, so you need to decide if this is really what you want, th... (read in full...)
My 17 year old niece was extremely rude to me
Q. Hi everyone, this might sound trivial but it is really upsetting me lately. My niece is 17 and throughout her teenage years she has been a typical sulky teen. However since her 17th birthday she has been downright rude to me. She lives in another ...
A. 4 October 2014: She is not a little child, her behavior is unacceptable, you can ignore her until she grows up .... so send no more emails, messages, birthday cards and certainly no more gifts.
When you next interact with her be friendly, open, greet her, ask... (read in full...)
He Lied About Dating Someone - Should I Not Be Friends With Him?
Q. Last summer, I fancied a male friend (used to flirt with him a bit but nothing more than that) whom I got on with quite well. I told him I liked him, and he turned me down, saying that he was already seeing someone. There was a mutual guy frien...
A. 25 September 2014: If he had just said no how would you have reacted? Would you have then wanted to know why, would you have then started to wonder what it was he didn't like about you, was it your looks, your hair colour, your weight, your personality?
By telling ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem interested in me or our new baby
Q. I would like to hear some of your perspectives on what I'm going through: I used to live in a foreign country (as an expat) and I met another guy (also an expat from a different country). We started seeing each other and in a short time I got...
A. 24 September 2014: He is a lost cause. I think you need to accept the baby, and you, are not priorities for him.
Your next step is to see if Sweden has any reciprocal arrangements with the country he is in for child support. A quick google search should give you... (read in full...)
My Gf has refused to see me for 7 months and despite the fact she is pregnant. What can I do?
Q. Hi! I haven't seen my girlfriend in over 7 months.. she has autism, bipolar and also cancer so she is pretty sick at most of the times, we also have a baby on the way and I love her but I don't know what to do as I'm always worried about he...
A. 22 September 2014: I have done some research since my first response.
Pregnancy in people with lung cancer is very rare, doctor's will usually recommend an abortion early or, once the baby has reached 29 weeks gestation will delivery the baby early so they can then... (read in full...)
My Gf has refused to see me for 7 months and despite the fact she is pregnant. What can I do?
Q. Hi! I haven't seen my girlfriend in over 7 months.. she has autism, bipolar and also cancer so she is pretty sick at most of the times, we also have a baby on the way and I love her but I don't know what to do as I'm always worried about he...
A. 21 September 2014: She's pregnant, you haven't seen her for seven months ..... she HAS cancer??? What sort of cancer? she cant be treated for most cancers and remain pregnant.
I think you need to very carefully consider the idea that maybe she is not being 100% tru... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me something is up!
Q. Ive been noticing some weird behavior from my fience. Hes always kept his phone with him but just recently he put a lock on it when I asked him he said his president (of his club) said he either needed to get a new number or put on lock on his ...
A. 16 September 2014: How interesting the president of his club is telling him to get a new number or to lock his phone ..... is it a club phone? Does the president pay the bills on the phone? Why did the president tell him that?
His behaviour does seem suspicio... (read in full...)
Can my mom and her new husband really change my name? I don't want them to!
Q. My dad die when i was ten, and for 2 years it was just me and mum. I still miss my dad. Mum made a new friend Dave, he is okay actually and i get along great with him. After a while we all started holidaying together and then Dave moved in with us. ...
A. 14 September 2014: As both your Mum and Dave seem okay about you choosing not to call him 'Dad" I would just continue calling him Dave, and if they question or ask, simply tell them you are not ready yet. I doubt they will push it, but if they do, tell a school ... (read in full...)
It's the best relationship I've had by far, but she's too controlling
Q. Ok..I admit I have been a bit of a naughty boy in the past, but to be fair some women are so stupid, I think we share the blame. I am 55 year old man. I am divorced and my partner asked me to leave her home. I admit I have (in the past) been unfai...
A. 13 September 2014: Hello Delboy,
your question appears to have been deliberately written to hit all the buttons required to set people off.
However, I will give you the benefit of the doubt, and advise you to leave, the last thing a man like you would need is al... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is acting not right!
Q. I'm a gay male dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I have introduced him as my BF, Other half, Husband. When it comes to his coworkers he introduces me as his roommate. This has been going on since we meet. He doesn't want me to touch him at work ...
A. 13 September 2014: I wonder if he cares as much for you as you do for him.
Maybe the relationship has run its course, if he wants you to be his room mate start treating him as one.
No more gifts, no more doing things for him, and no more sex ... when he enquires... (read in full...)
My girlfriend choked me in an argument and I'm extremely disturbed. What do I do?
Q. I got into a silly tussle/fight with my fiancé a few months ago. She had been moody and snappy with me and her parents all day. At the end of the night I got fed up with her horrible attitude and said I was leaving for the night. As I s...
A. 9 September 2014: I assume she is actually your ex fiancé and that you haven't seen her since this night.
If you are still suffering the physical effects of the attack you need to seek professional medical advise, take your photographs with you as they may assi... (read in full...)
I am shattered he didn't make an effort to keep his word to me!
Q. Hi everyone, I am one mad girlfriend this morning but I don't know if I can be bothered to fight. I just want some advice on the best way to handle this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and had arranged to spend this weeke...
A. 7 September 2014: To be honest your evening with your boyfriend was doomed to failure the moment he gave in to his friend's wishes.
It was unrealistic of your boyfriend to believe he would be able to do both, celebrate with his friend, and catch up with you late... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me but he is still married!
Q. the answer to the question why stay is because , part of me believed in him. Part is sooo scared to find out the truth. he is in the military and he lives separately from his wife because of the constant arguments. He left the city where he used to ...
A. 7 September 2014: Oh come on, that psychological advise is a load of old hooey, and if it isn't the psychologist needs to be wiped off the register.
Now, based on that, how much more of what he has told you do you think is a load of old hooey? I would say 99% ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's roommate is coming between us!
Q. My boyfriends roommate is coming between us! His roommate is nothing but a mooch. He eats my boyfriends food, takes his laundry supplies, doesn't help pay for heating in the winter time, and is the rudest human being I've ever met. Last winter his ...
A. 7 September 2014: Your boyfriend's room mate is not your problem. If you boyfriend is silly enough to pay for his room mate's heating bills, so that the room mate now owes him $500 that is your boyfriend's problem.
If your boyfriend's room mate is a dirty grotty i... (read in full...)
I've done everything to be romantic, so what's the problem?
Q. I am 53 my fiance is 38 we used to make love everyday and most days 5 to 6 and as many a 10 times we used to have oral at least 2 times a week and I would love to be oral with her every time her had to have a his to hysterectomy and a back injury 3 ...
A. 7 September 2014: You say you have done everything to be romantic. I say that’s a load of rubbish because everything you claim to have done has been with the expected pay off of sex, right down to buying medication to improve her sex drive over the internet.
Did y... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife and she won't forgive me
Q. Hello, everyone. This is my first time here. I would like some advice please. Ive been through hell for the past 2 weeks. I cheated on my wife. the worst mistake I could have ever make. My lovely beautiful loving wife, mother of my children. So ...
A. 2 September 2014: It took a long, long time for the level of trust she had in you to build.
You smashed that trust in an instant and on top of that you have betrayed her, your family and all that she thought she had. The woman is broken, she, and your marriage... (read in full...)
How does one deal with a one-sided relationship where there is one rule for her and a different rule for me?
Q. How should I deal with my girlfriend who states she can say whatever she feels like, whenever she feels like saying it, and however she feels likes? Then if I don't like it I can stop talking to her. Yet if I try same thing she gets mad and say...
A. 1 September 2014: I started out with a rather lengthy reply, but then I realised this woman is probably not going to change, and you will need to decide if you are okay with this, or if you need to leave her, and find a relationship that suit you better.
... (read in full...)
He said marriage was not about money.
Q. Why does he talk like this? Is marriage about money or not? So I had an arguement last night with bf. I asked him if he's ready for marriage and he said yes. But said no, cause he's been out of job for 8 months now and he's reluctant ab...
A. 31 August 2014: I commend people who are caring enough to support their families through the rough periods, to help them get over the road bumps that life throws at us from time to time, including temporary unemployment.
On the other hand I don't agree men have... (read in full...)
How do I make a text conversation fun?
Q. How do you make a conversation fun over text message. When I text my crush I feel like I can't continue the conversation with anything interesting. Whenever I would ask a question he would usually say yes or no and he'll put lol in every message. I ...
A. 31 August 2014: Some studies claim that up to 93% of communication is non verbal, and the non verbal components include body stance, hand movements, facial expression, and tone of voice.
Consider how much more you lose when you rely only on the written word, an... (read in full...)
Nothing happened while he was married but his sister considers me a "home-wrecker"
Q. I've been friends with Jeff for almost four years. . He was married for two years and one night while working he confused that they weren't getting along. I wouldn't so we were close friends, but friendly with each other if we ran into each other ...
A. 28 August 2014: you wrote these words: "Nothing physical ever happened but we did become extremely close. Going out to dinner, movies and just hanging out talking for hours. He would come over after work and we would watch movies in my bed and just talk".
I tak... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me ugly, should I be upset?
Q. I've been with my bf for about 3 years now. He's never called me ugly before (and I'm not too attractive) but recently I've made a new guy friend and I was texting him a lot today. My boyfriend was with me and he kept asking who i was texting. I ...
A. 27 August 2014: Why would you be with your boyfriend and texting some other guy so much you boyfriend felt the need to be so rude?
If you are with your boyfriend, then BE with him, not off in texty texty land. Maybe you and your boyfriend could come to an agree... (read in full...)
Jealousy is ruining my life!
Q. For as far back as I can remember, I have been a VERY jealous person. I was jealous of friends, girls in my class, and one day in primary school, my friends mum actually said to me that I was a very jealous little girl because I got so pissed off ...
A. 25 August 2014: If you have been the jealous type for as long as you can remember there is not much the volunteer agony aunts can do that will make a lasting difference.
I suggest you seek professional assistance, or counselling, to determine the root cause of... (read in full...)
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