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writes:Hello,So my husband and I are in a long distance relationship at the moment due to work related reasons. Usually we talk for at least an hour every day over Skype. A week ago we had an argument, he got upset and left in the middle of the conversation. I have not heard from him since. I've tried texting him, and calling him, and e-mailing him but he hasn't responded to anything. Sorry if this next part sounds creepish but, I also have the password to his e-mail (he knows about this) and I know he hasn't even checked it for a week.He sometimes falls into depression when we fight but I am not sure about what is going on this time, if he is just ignoring me and wants space or if he is actually depressed and not taking care of himself. (He will just spend days in bed not eating or drinking and make himself really sick hence why I'm worried if he's been doing this for a week.)What should I do? He has some family I could contact who live close by to him, should I contact them (the reason I don't quite want to contact them is because they don't know about his depression and he doesn't want them to) or should I keep waiting for him to contact me?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 August 2014):
 If it was me I would be up there looking for him.
He is your husband, he has not contacted you in a week, after a row.
Get your arse up there, stop with his family, let them know how worried you are because of his depression.
If it turns out he is being childish and punishing you with silence - then deal with that when you see him.
You cannot sit and do nothing
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 August 2014):
 If he is adamant about keeping his depression from his family the only other course of action available to you would be to contact the police in the area he is in ..... tell them he suffers depression and that you usually talk for an hour each day but that he has not responded to calls, texts or any other attempts to contact him for a week.
Ask them to contact him and get him to let you know he is okay. An alternative would be the Salvation Army if you have them in your town.
If he is okay it is very unfair of him to treat you like this.
Once contact has been re established, and if he is not indulging in behaviour which could damage your marriage I would stress he have his depression diagnosed, as there may be medication that could help.
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (3 August 2014):
 If it was me, I would certainly let his family know. I'm sorry if it comes as a shock to them but you need to make sure he's ok. The odds are is that he's fine but you don't know that. For your own peace of mind reach out to someone that can check on him. I hope everything is well.
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