My LDR boyfriend doesn't trust me
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend a little over a year. We met online, and eventually met in person. As of right now we're LDR (long distance relationship.) again, just for a few more months. Ever since day 1, he has had trust issues. MAJOR. At fir...
A. 15 February 2015: I think you are being very economical with the answers to our questions because you don't want to hear our responses.
I am concerned that you are not putting much thought into how you are going to live after you turn the magical 18, from your ans... (read in full...)
Is it OK to buy someone a birthday trip if we can't cover the full cost?
Q. Hi guys, I just want your opinion on a birthday gift. I'm hoping for a parents opinion if possible! I'm 21 and my sister is 19, our father will be 50 in march. My father has a good/well paid job and my mother also works. They have a large amount...
A. 15 February 2015: If your parents are financially able to pay for these tickets and associated costs and if he really, really, really wanted to watch Wales play in Italy, then he would.
Trust me on this, if my kids got together to pay part of me going somewher... (read in full...)
Being so close to Valentine's day, what is the best way to break-up a relationship around this time?
Q. hi everybody! happy Valentine's day! Need some advise on the best way to end or quit a relationship that you are just tired of after a year or more . Is it Ok to tell the other partner that 'I am tired of this relationship and I don't wish to cont...
A. 15 February 2015: The best way to break up is a clean break. And please, don't tell him you are tired of the relationship, that could come across as very hurtful.
Simply call, or meet up with him, and tell him, "this is not working for me".
Don't do the ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend doesn't trust me
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend a little over a year. We met online, and eventually met in person. As of right now we're LDR (long distance relationship.) again, just for a few more months. Ever since day 1, he has had trust issues. MAJOR. At fir...
A. 15 February 2015: Does graduating mean that you will be packing up your life and moving to where he is?... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend doesn't trust me
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend a little over a year. We met online, and eventually met in person. As of right now we're LDR (long distance relationship.) again, just for a few more months. Ever since day 1, he has had trust issues. MAJOR. At fir...
A. 14 February 2015: I am also a little perplexed, how old is your LDR boyfriend, and how was he able to visit for the whole of the summer? Or you visit him for the whole summer?
Any answer that could be give would depend very much on how old your boyfriend is.... (read in full...)
Why did he ignore the fact I saw his wife, I am confused!
Q. I am married and have a good male friend who is married. we email probably 3 times a week. I told him I visited with his wife today plus other info. and he totally ignored the fact I saw her, We're all friends so I just don't get that. ...
A. 14 February 2015: Maybe his wife already told him, maybe he glossed over that part of your email, maybe it didn't rank very highly on is list of things he must comment on, maybe he simply didn't think it required a response.
In the greater scheme of things does it ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend gets distracted when we are skyping!
Q. What do I do about my constantly distracted long distance boyfriend? I've mentioned to him before how I hate that often when we're Skyping or on the phone, he'll get distracted for significant amounts of time browsing the internet, chatting with ...
A. 14 February 2015: Why are you long distance?
How long are you going to be long distance?
How often do you meet in real life?
How long do you expect the relationship to remain long distance?
How concrete are your plans for the future?
It seems to me he is not as... (read in full...)
How do guys really feel about stretch marks?
Q. I've been reading on this website for the past couple of months and I've noticed a lot of posts concerning stretch marks lately. It's got me thinking a lot. I've always been pretty confident with my body but I do have tons of stretch marks. I...
A. 14 February 2015: I suppose there are men out there somewhere that would notice them, but they would be in the minority.
Take your boyfriend's word on this one, he speaks the truth.... (read in full...)
Do I reach out to my abusive ex because his dad died?
Q. I dated a guy for over a year when I was 17 and he turned out to be fairly abusive (nothing physical but verbal abuse and manipulation as well as cheating). After I broke up with him, things went majorly downhill: he told people horrible lies about ...
A. 14 February 2015: Your grief is understandable but if you reopen the lines of communication with your ex boyfriend it will be much more difficult to close them again.
Learning of the death of a relatively young person is always difficult, especially if it is someb... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish when I feel that he's too clingy when perhaps he is being concerned and serious about me?
Q. Hello everyone! I'm 21 and before I left to study abroad (6 month exchange program) I was seeing someone (let's call him B) exclusively for about a month. I did not get into an official relationship with him because I felt that it was difficult to ...
A. 13 February 2015: Declarations of love and intent to marry after only a month of dating are a red flag.
I hope you let him know what your plans are for the next two years and that at this stage marriage is definitely not one of them.
You say you are not in an of... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I should now plan Valentine's?
Q. I just got a new job, which is great but it does now mean I'll be working on the weekend. My boyfriend had asked me to keep Valentine's day free, I said I would, but I need this job and the money because of personal reasons. My boyfriend now sa...
A. 12 February 2015: Firstly CONGRATULATIONS ON GETTING THE JOB!
Its a shame it means you will be working on Valentines Day rather than celebrating the day of romance hanging out with your boyfriend at his house.
It is also a shame your boyfriend, rather than cong... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my girlfriend's married brother and I'm about to get married!
Q. I'm a guy who has feelings for my girlfriend's brother. He's married and I'm about to get married to. I purposed to my gf last month. I've had feelings for him before but since him and his wife moved out, it went away. However, it's starting to come ...
A. 10 February 2015: Put the brakes on your wedding plans immediately. You have not mentioned your girlfriend, or what your homosexual yearnings towards her brother would do to her. Your care level for her is ZERO!
Not good, not a good look at all, you obviousl... (read in full...)
I feel like his sex toy, not a girlfriend
Q. I have been dating someone but he keeps lying to me an making false promises to take me out but makes excuses as to why he cant keep promises an he only sees me on a night time but not through the day an he says he has to look after his son whos 11, ...
A. 10 February 2015: Relationships are supposed to be a balance of give and take. Its easy to see what he is getting out of this, but what are you getting out of it?
All you are to him is a handy hole for him to stick his old fella in........... he could use a knotho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that I have betrayed his trust because of a message on my social media
Q. I have been with my boyfriend over 3 years(I'm 29, he's 31) I work in health care and watch a client of mine at his house to make some extra cash. A man who lives at the house with the client and is around my age, we have developed a platonic ...
A. 10 February 2015: Your boyfriend is a prat. Has he never heard people refer to food as being the way to a man's heart, and the many, many variations on the theme.
Does your boyfriend understand the work you do, and the issues your clients may have? I am wonderin... (read in full...)
She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!
Q. my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...
A. 8 February 2015: It is possible to be friends with people you have dated in the past, and if you have a current partner, it would be normal for your current boyfriend/girlfriend to meet your friends, ex's and non ex's.
The fact is you KNEW she would be upset, s... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to travel to Kurdistan but I am too scared!
Q. My husband is from kurdistan, iraq. He is waiting to get his passport and then he was supposed to be meeting me in turkey as i I dont want to go to kurdistan. The travel advice advises no travel or only essential travel as the situation could ...
A. 8 February 2015: Where did you two meet?
Where did you get married?
When did you get married?
Did you have friends and family at the wedding?
Why does he need a thousand pounds?... (read in full...)
She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!
Q. my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...
A. 8 February 2015: You knew you were doing the wrong thing by your girlfriend by meeting up with and having a drink with your ex, which is why you kept it a secret .... and if her girlfriend hadn't seen you both ..... well what then. Would you still be sneaking around ... (read in full...)
They hate me but love his ex!
Q. I think my relationship could be coming to an end because of his parents! theyve made it crystal clear that they hate me, yet his ex, who treated him appallingly, they love and still have her round for dinner from time to time! His ex cheated ...
A. 8 February 2015: Your boyfriend could try writing them a letter, and sending it certified mail. He could outline the abortion and the fact his ex had been cheating on him because she didn't know who the father was, he could outline how she caused him to lose two ... (read in full...)
Husband wants oral sex 2-3 times a week but sex only once a month?
Q. I have been married for for 3 years together for 13. I've been haveing this issue with him for 2 1/2 years. He wants oral sex about 2-3x per week, but no sex. We have sex once every 6months only if I intiate it. I have spoken to him about it ...
A. 8 February 2015: Its been a week OP, since you asked your question, I hope things are starting to change between the pair f you.... (read in full...)
She needs to realise I wanted to help her, but she didn't want it!
Q. Hi Cupid I need a way to tell a friend off respectfully due to their certain contant behaviour to show that I have put my self respect down for her and I have been trying to help her, but, instead of even replying let alone appreciation, she's tr...
A. 8 February 2015: This girl may not want your help, have you thought of that, nobody in this world is under any obligation to accept help that they don't want and that they haven't asked for.
She may view your attempts to "help" as invasive or pushy, or, if she i... (read in full...)
How do I mention I am not happy with her work without ruining the friendship?
Q. I feel a bit awkward and need some advice please. I've been going to my beautician for the past 5 years, I go every month for waxing and facials and then 3-4 months for nails and other treatments and spend quite a bit of money there.I...
A. 8 February 2015: Is the friend who gave you the voucher and the owner of the business one and the same?
Either way its going to be awkward.
Ask her if she has changed her products because your waxes and nails don't seem to be as good as they used to be, tell... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to travel to Kurdistan but I am too scared!
Q. My husband is from kurdistan, iraq. He is waiting to get his passport and then he was supposed to be meeting me in turkey as i I dont want to go to kurdistan. The travel advice advises no travel or only essential travel as the situation could ...
A. 8 February 2015: Hello, there are a few points I don't understand, so if you could help clear them up I will be able to answer your question more fully.
If your husband is in Kurdistan, and is waiting to get his passport, where did you two meet, and where did you ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed that my husband, like other men in my past, prefers smaller breasts!
Q. I see a lot of women write in worried about their small breasts but I have the opposite problem. I have large breasts and every man who I have been with including my long term marriage has preferred smaller breasts and not been at all interested in ...
A. 8 February 2015: I have a different tale to tell, when I was in the dating scene men LOVED my big boobs ......... and I have only met a few in my lifetime who actually expressed a preference for smaller breasts.
It seems you are back in the dating scene, so any b... (read in full...)
In love with two men for 25 years...Help, what would you do?
Q. Just wanted to know if anyone else has been in love with two people for over 25 years and they both love you back? I am married to same man for over 20 years and love him greatly...dated in high school, got married, had family. However, during this ...
A. 7 February 2015: To be blunt you need to either poop or get off the pot. You have been unfaithful in thought or deed to your husband for the whole of your married life. How unfair has that been to them, instead of focussing fully on making sure your husband and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is too rough during cuddles
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend isn't violent at all and he loves me very much, but when we go on our bed to cuddle and stuff, he's really really rough. He always squeezes me, pulls on me, pinches me and stuff and it really hurts. I've told him to stop ...
A. 7 February 2015: Its a lack of respect, you have discussed it with him numerous times, he knows you don't like it, you've told him it hurts and what? He keeps doing it.
It wont stop, so, if he is the man you expect to live the rest of your life with, accept t... (read in full...)
Why does my ex want to hold on to me he has a woman?
Q. Dear cupid,my ex and I broke up years ago we talk from time to time now he has a woman but he wants to say in conversation with me I told him we have nothing to talk about.He told me he wants to to keep in contact just in case his relationship falls ...
A. 6 February 2015: Show him what sort of woman you are, block his number, block him on social networking sites, block his email and if he comes knocking on your door, tell him to go away or you will call the police because he is a harasser/stalker, and then call ... (read in full...)
Husband wants oral sex 2-3 times a week but sex only once a month?
Q. I have been married for for 3 years together for 13. I've been haveing this issue with him for 2 1/2 years. He wants oral sex about 2-3x per week, but no sex. We have sex once every 6months only if I intiate it. I have spoken to him about it ...
A. 30 January 2015: This seems like a lop sided arrangement, he gets a nice clean house, he gets home cooked meals, he gets his clothes laundered and ironed and h e has a wife who contributes to the household by working a full time job, he also gets headjobs two or ... (read in full...)
How do I assure my girlfriend that I'm not cheating?
Q. My girlfriend constantly accuse me of cheating. It started a year ago, when we split for a few months. I dated another girl and she and I hung out often. I genuinely liked her, but never planned on settling down with her. Fast forward, my gir...
A. 30 January 2015: This is not about your past fling unless she was one of the "ladies" you and your friend went out with.
Was she?
See that! I don't even know you and I don't trust you, imagine what it must be like for your girlfriend.
This is about you act... (read in full...)
Does he not appreciate my virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have very different sexual backgrounds: he has had many partners but I have never had sex with any of the people I have dated. I'm 23 and I have always wanted to have sex with "the one" aka the person who loves me to death and I ...
A. 27 January 2015: This really is a weird question, I've come back to it several times and it doesn't get any easier to understand where you are coming from.
Your virginity is not some golden prize or trophy ....... to be placed on a pedestal and admired by all and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't understand that clinginess turns me off!
Q. Hey, so, I've been having doubts about my current relationship. We met on a dating website 5 months ago, and started dating 3 days after we met... In all honesty, I only accepted going out with him because we had sex, and I then felt obligated to. ...
A. 26 January 2015: You do need to end it, and the sooner the better, as you will just get more and more miserable, while he gets more and more into the idea of marriage ..... as you said YIKES!
Its that old question isn't it, do you remove a bandaid slowly bit by b... (read in full...)
I want my grandparents story preserved, but I don't want to upset Nan!
Q. Soon, it will be 10 months since my grandad passed away. On and off, for about a year before that, I started to document (in story form) as much of their relationship as my nan could remember - my grandad had a memory block, so he couldn't have told ...
A. 26 January 2015: Okay, just let your Nan know that you still want to preserve their story, and that you need to start again.
Consider investing in a small recorder, you can get them now that all you need to do is plug it into your computer and it will transcri... (read in full...)
Is my friend too busy for me?
Q. I have a friend who I have known for approximately 5 years and every time we get together it's always a good time and we have a lot of laughs. We had drifted apart for about a year and it was mainly over her trying to talk to someone I was dating.. ...
A. 26 January 2015: I am having a quiet chuckle because you seem to think when your friend who has an infant child is at home 'doing nothing' that she is actually doing nothing.
Your friend is not going to get many chances to "do nothing' for the next 17 or so years... (read in full...)
His communication makes me wonder if it's worth carrying on
Q. Hi there, I have been seeing a guy for about 5months. We see eachother usually once every week and occasionally more. Things have been going extremely slowly but in a nice way. We hug and kiss and generally enjoy eachothers company, we exch...
A. 22 January 2015: Not everybody is comfortable communicating by text. Maybe he just doesn't know how to respond to the "I miss you" or "see you soon" texts, maybe, because they are not actually questions, he doesn't realise you are expecting a response, and you ... (read in full...)
He was in a FWB a few years ago with an older woman. How can I get over my disgust at what he did in the past?
Q. My 27-year-old boyfriend went through a really rough time in his life a few years ago, which led him to make a huge mistake. He let this woman (10-15 years older than him) to throw herself at him and spend money on him just so that she could have ...
A. 21 January 2015: He "let her throw herself at him and spend money on him" ..... I'm not quite sure which bit of this you find disgusting, the fact he let some woman buy him stuff or the fact he had sex with an older woman, who, if she was 10 to 15 years older, would ... (read in full...)
His best friend has told me very upsetting things about his sleeping with other women, including her! What do I do now?
Q. I always knew my boyfriend was hiding something from me regarding his best friend but I was never sure about what it was. I do have trust issues due to be hurt in the past but it was something different this time. It was like I could see it with my ...
A. 20 January 2015: My first thoughts was that his friend is a nasty, vindictive jealous sort who just wants to cause trouble.
So either she is telling whopping great fibs to break you up, or he is a cheater. The best way to find out would be to forward ALL those me... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ruining our relationship with video games. How do I get him to stop?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7months, and we are in a long distance relationship. We see each other for 2 weeks a month, so we get to see each other as much as we can. Things were going fine, but he is very addicted to video games, and he's 27 ...
A. 20 January 2015: Here is a suggestion, make a pact with yourself that you will not contact him, but will wait for him to contact you.
This will show you what comes first in his mind, you or his gaming, if you and he normally communicate throughout the day or even ... (read in full...)
Am I doing anything wrong? I like a married man and he likes me.
Q. please advise:- I like a married man, he likes me too. we share intimacy like few kisses/smooches /holding hands etc but not physically involved beyond that extent. we like each others company he is a top level guy in my office and I've been emp...
A. 20 January 2015: You need to ask yourself, "if I asked his wife if I was doing anything wrong, what would HER answer be?"
Do you think his wife would say "sure honey, go for it, I am only here to wash his dirty underwear and pick his wet towels up from the floo... (read in full...)
Help dealing with mentally ill manipulative abusive in-laws
Q. Dear cupid, I have been married for over 7 years to a wonderful man. Sadly his parents are mentally ill and won't get help. We have distanced ourselves from them by moving across the country. They are emotionally abusive and snarky smart mouths. ...
A. 20 January 2015: Your husband's parents will always be his parents, he has the right to have as much contact with him as he wishes or desires.
He does not have the right to force you to have more contact with them than you are prepared to have, and if they are... (read in full...)
How can I get my father to give him a second chance?
Q. Hello, I am a mature senior in high school who has experienced a lot at this point in my life. I dated a boy who was a couple years older than me for over two years. He was my high school sweetheart and we were madly in love. He was a part of my fa...
A. 20 January 2015: Your father accepted this young man into is home, where he was part of the family and was very close to your parents, and he repaid this by being a thief. Stealing from the man who had opened his house and family to him.
You call it a tragic m... (read in full...)
My girlfriend misses her friends and family but I don't want her to leave.
Q. I've been with my gf for four years and i love her alot. I'm 31 and she's 26 I met her when she came to my city to see her dad and she decided to stay to be with me which is what i wanted too. We have a difficult relationship - she misses her ...
A. 18 January 2015: In your second last sentence you say this: i have my family and friends here and i would never leave them under any circumstances
But this is what you have expected of your girlfriend, she has left her friends and hometown ..... and while yo... (read in full...)
Should I call his bluff and leave?
Q. So, when I met my partner (stanley) he worked as a builder for a bloke (trevor)for £100 cash a week (if he was lucky). I persuaded him to go out and get a full time job so we could move out together and everything was lovely, we were both so happy. ...
A. 16 January 2015: The problem with ultimatums, or threats, is that if you don;t follow through they will lose their impact and your words will mean nothing.
Before you leave make sure you have an exit plan, that you know you have somewhere to go, and that you and ... (read in full...)
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